What Are You Nosey About Today?? 🦝

[Lonelywife1205]

I don't see what y'all see. Maybe it's because I saw the original pic.

It could also use a little vajazzling, right Amber?

 

[FranklyFrank]

Never met a boob you didn’t like.

I definitely can get caught up in a pissing match if I feel strongly enough about it… ie Springsteen.

I don’t compare my physicality but I do sometimes get stuck in a trap of wishing I could do Lit like I perceive other people to do Lit. I’m getting better at recognising that voice and the moments that I tend to hear it though, and perhaps that my perception of things is not always accurate.

I've been here for over a year and I still don't know how to do Lit correctly....

 

[ydahecnot]

I’m nosey about comparisons. This has come up a couple of times lately in various ways… (i.e rate your sexy had everyone comparing themselves to others, a conversation about nudes etc.)

I want to know how you go with comparisons. Do you do well with comparing yourself only to yourself? Do you know your value proposition? If you DO find yourself comparing yourself to others how do you manage that voice? Or don’t you? If you do go down the comparisons path what is it that you actually compare? Do you compare others to others or do you reserve these measures for yourself?

Come on freaky babies, go deep with me.

Sometimes I do compare what level of response I get to my posts where I try to make a serious point, like on this thread, with the level of response others get, and it’s usually less. Maybe a point from somebody with more cachet makes a point and mine gets lost, or heck, maybe my point just sucks. Or maybe I reaped what I sowed. I truly feel fine about myself and I have good friends here, but I accept I am not a regular on NAL or Litster You Appreciate, stuff like that. I talked with someone about this, and we agreed that in going on a message board, you want to put something out there and want to get reaction. So in the main, I try to be the best me, but I can admit it is at times tempting to compare

 

[Xerxes82]

I’m nosey about comparisons. This has come up a couple of times lately in various ways… (i.e rate your sexy had everyone comparing themselves to others, a conversation about nudes etc.)

I want to know how you go with comparisons. Do you do well with comparing yourself only to yourself? Do you know your value proposition? If you DO find yourself comparing yourself to others how do you manage that voice? Or don’t you? If you do go down the comparisons path what is it that you actually compare? Do you compare others to others or do you reserve these measures for yourself?

Come on freaky babies, go deep with me.

I generally don't compare other people with other people. You're all too different and unique and freaky for that.

As for myself, this is a flaw I suffer in spades. I'm getting better at not doing it as I get older. But far too often I find myself comparing myself to others. And not even to actual others, but to some ridiculous idealized concept of others. It's brutal and it holds me back in a lot of ways. All it really accomplishes is to give my insecurities and anxieties a voice they don't deserve. More than anything in my life it's this that I work to shrug off and move past. Work in progress.

As for dealing with it, I try to listen to other people when they tell me good things about myself. Or even when they give meaningful, constructive criticism that I can work with. It's so difficult, but others always seem to be more objective in their view of me than I can ever be.

 

[Azuldrgon]

I’m nosey about comparisons. This has come up a couple of times lately in various ways… (i.e rate your sexy had everyone comparing themselves to others, a conversation about nudes etc.)

I want to know how you go with comparisons. Do you do well with comparing yourself only to yourself? Do you know your value proposition? If you DO find yourself comparing yourself to others how do you manage that voice? Or don’t you? If you do go down the comparisons path what is it that you actually compare? Do you compare others to others or do you reserve these measures for yourself?

Come on freaky babies, go deep with me.

I'm gonna be honest. I am the hardest on myself. Growing up, I always strived to do better to get my father's attention. It seemed like I was always trying to be the best to be approved. Even when I was almost ready to gout into the world, I sought that level. Then life happened and it started showing me that I don't have to be perfect.

But I also know I am not perfect. Rather, I try to be the best person I can be. Just what I do.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I’m nosey about comparisons. This has come up a couple of times lately in various ways… (i.e rate your sexy had everyone comparing themselves to others, a conversation about nudes etc.)

I want to know how you go with comparisons. Do you do well with comparing yourself only to yourself? Do you know your value proposition? If you DO find yourself comparing yourself to others how do you manage that voice? Or don’t you? If you do go down the comparisons path what is it that you actually compare? Do you compare others to others or do you reserve these measures for yourself?

Come on freaky babies, go deep with me.

I love all these questions. But I feel like I'm often the only one who looks like an idiot.
I know the correct answer though.
I shouldn't compare myself to others, or anything.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

How many of y'all have heard of the Kyle Goodman yawn?

What is it

 

[Xerxes82]

It’s hard to see yourself through another’s lens. But if you wanna look though mine any old time….

*Looks through Rain's lens*

Why am I blurry?

 

[Azuldrgon]

Perfectionists are always their own worst enemies. I’m brutal on myself with work and with a lot of things - like my parenting. All forgiving of everyone else but would punish myself for the smallest of sins until the end of time if I really allowed myself to go there.

*hugs*

 

[AmberLGreen]

I’m nosey about comparisons. This has come up a couple of times lately in various ways… (i.e rate your sexy had everyone comparing themselves to others, a conversation about nudes etc.)

I want to know how you go with comparisons. Do you do well with comparing yourself only to yourself? Do you know your value proposition? If you DO find yourself comparing yourself to others how do you manage that voice? Or don’t you? If you do go down the comparisons path what is it that you actually compare? Do you compare others to others or do you reserve these measures for yourself?

Come on freaky babies, go deep with me.

I love your deep questions.

I don’t compare myself to others. I am who I am. I will compare my actions today with my actions of yesterday but I see that as part of my own growth.

The world is full of so many different characters who have strengths and weaknesses. How do you compare yourself to all of that? It would be a very tiring task to do so. I find people that compare themselves, more often than not, compare what they consider they are weaker in. Why is that? Is it arrogant to compare where you are stronger? I am far from perfect but that measure is against what I know I can be capable of and not against what other people are. I think that if I started to compare myself to others, it would change me and that would lead to me not knowing who I am.

 

[Azuldrgon]

I love all these questions. But I feel like I'm often the only one who looks like an idiot.
I know the correct answer though.
I shouldn't compare myself to others, or anything.

*hugs*

I love your deep questions.

I don’t compare myself to others. I am who I am. I will compare my actions today with my actions of yesterday but I see that as part of my own growth.

The world is full of so many different characters who have strengths and weaknesses. How do you compare yourself to all of that? It would be a very tiring task to do so. I find people that compare themselves, more often than not, compare what they consider they are weaker in. Why is that? Is it arrogant to compare where you are stronger? I am far from perfect but that measure is against what I know I can be capable of and not against what other people are. I think that if I started to compare myself to others, it would change me and that would lead to me not knowing who I am.

*hugs*

 

[Whiskeyjack]

I’m nosey about comparisons. This has come up a couple of times lately in various ways… (i.e rate your sexy had everyone comparing themselves to others, a conversation about nudes etc.)

I want to know how you go with comparisons. Do you do well with comparing yourself only to yourself? Do you know your value proposition? If you DO find yourself comparing yourself to others how do you manage that voice? Or don’t you? If you do go down the comparisons path what is it that you actually compare? Do you compare others to others or do you reserve these measures for yourself?

Come on freaky babies, go deep with me.

I'm constantly comparing myself to others. And in my own head, it rarely goes well. I measure myself against my colleagues' professional successes (and my relative lack thereof). I measure myself against my parents' expectations (which they've pared back quite a bit over the years). I measure myself against my own expectations from when I was younger (I can't help but to think that 10-year-old me would be a little disappointed with some of my life choices). Socially, I compare myself to people who are smarter, fitter, funnier, cooler than me. And it's a bit neurotic because I know I'm doing well and have things much better than a lot of people.

Really, the only times I'm happy are when I can let go of the comparisons and just be. There aren't a lot of times I get to do that. But I'm working on it.

 

[saustin5432]

As an aside everyone I type Lit it autocorrects to slit. There has to be something in that.

Yo yo, this night is going to be slit.

 

[saustin5432]

I’m nosey about comparisons. This has come up a couple of times lately in various ways… (i.e rate your sexy had everyone comparing themselves to others, a conversation about nudes etc.)

I want to know how you go with comparisons. Do you do well with comparing yourself only to yourself? Do you know your value proposition? If you DO find yourself comparing yourself to others how do you manage that voice? Or don’t you? If you do go down the comparisons path what is it that you actually compare? Do you compare others to others or do you reserve these measures for yourself?

Come on freaky babies, go deep with me.

I'm guilty of measuring up at every turn. My firm has put all the leadership through an executive coaching program and interestingly, this is something that they identified as fundamental to my personality type. I'm driven to be best at my job, best at X, and the only way to say you're even in the ballpark is to look at your peers.

That being said, I don't get bogged down so much in a I'm not good enough mentality as much as what can I do to achieve X. Thankfully my analytical mind also is very capable of determining that path and decided if the investment is worth the return.

Gosh...I sound like such a corporate dick.

 

[PleasedToRead]

Too nosey tonight! You ever wonder if they know you know they're ignoring you?

 

[saustin5432]

Wow. You sound so agile. I bet you’re really on the customer journey. Let’s deep dive while we unpack your core competencies and see if we can touch on any pain points.

I'm trying to think outside the box. If I'm going to move the needle I need more leverage or we're not going to hit our KPIs. Perhaps if we shift the paradigm.

Honestly...I'm just trying to bloativate myself to go to the gym. Fuck my engagement metrics.

 

[Mei5ter]

I'm nosey about multiple orgasms.

What exactly are they?

 

[AmberLGreen]

I'm nosey about multiple orgasms.

What exactly are they?

You have been keeping the wrong company. Pop round and I will give you a full explanation

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I'm nosey about multiple orgasms.

What exactly are they?

According to WebMD they are orgasms that are had close together.

If I’m having sex with my husband, it’s rare to even have one. I’ve had 2 within 10 minutes with an online partner. That’s because I was able to completely relax and we had a deep emotional connection. He could fuck my mind better than anyone.

As a general rule though, I’m not multi orgasmic. I’m lucky to have one. I have a long refractory period and I get very sensitive after. One and done.

 

[Mei5ter]

You have been keeping the wrong company. Pop round and I will give you a full explanation

That's very kind of you...but actually I've been keeping precisely the right company. Which is why the question...er...came up

 

[Dribble]

I'm nosey about multiple orgasms.

What exactly are they?

And if those experiencing them tend to be able give into moment better? Or are more comfortable in their skin? My ex would say enough....that she didn't like feeling vulnerable.

 

[Dribble]

According to WebMD they are orgasms that are had close together.

If I’m having sex with my husband, it’s rare to even have one. I’ve had 2 within 10 minutes with an online partner. That’s because I was able to completely relax and we had a deep emotional connection. He could fuck my mind better than anyone.

As a general rule though, I’m not multi orgasmic. I’m lucky to have one. I have a long refractory period and I get very sensitive after. One and done.

To me...10 minutes between is far too long to be called "multiple". I am thinking more along the line of a minute or less.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

To me...10 minutes between is far too long to be called "multiple". I am thinking more along the line of a minute or less.

Oh well…I’m out then.
No multi-orgasm club badge for this girl.

 

[BadAmy]

I'm nosey about multiple orgasms.

What exactly are they?

Personally, depending on the situation, it's almost like a rolling cascade of orgasms. Like the first, pops the cork. And if the stimulation is just right, meaning brain and body, the intensity doesn't fade, but catapults me into another one. This happens more with vaginal orgasms. Now clitoral? That would have to be forced. And we like that.

 

[Orchidea73]

nevermind