What Are You Thinking? Continued 14

[barefootgirl69]

Yes. Tacos are always needed

I made a big batch earlier in the week thinking I'd have leftovers for breakfast. Not a chance! They cleaned out the entire pan.

 

[Photog1rl]

Landraumats are my least favorite place on earth. Too much generalized childhood trauma related to having to wait, wait, waaaaaiiiiiiiiiittt for the laundry to finish.

My first adulting purchase was a washer and dryer. My a second was a pop-a-shot.

We had a washer and dryer at home but it broke and I took my kids to the laundromat to do all the laubdry(five people produce a lot of laundry) they thought it was sooooo fun. I have a video of them watching the washer was the clothes. They were enthralled. I am laughing in the background because I definitely don’t find laundry as amusing.

 

[CuriousRick]

Thinking …. Why am I so restless and down all of a sudden

 

[Kitty_so_frisky]

Is it about you?

It’s about him as much or more than it’s about you. He has friends who were hurt or driven away by this issue. You’re here to show support for PG in the conversation. The thing is though, she is giving every impression of not being affected by recent revelations. Which is fine, and great for her. We don’t get a say over how others feel though.

White knighting is about screaming it over and over again. It is used to explain the privilage and space that men, who already occupy most of our spaces, take up under the guise of supporting others.

Not saying that never happens, but sometimes the right thing to do is just the right thing to do. Some people have clearly expressed in private that they are uncomfortable with the situation but do not particularly want to publicly engage about it, for good reason. Personally, I don’t mind them adding their voices to this. Silencing someone because of their gender would feel just as hypocritical, IMO.

I do not remember asking for your permission but again you feel justified in inserting yourself and giving me permission to feel a certain way where you have no right to do so. Thank you for illuminating my point that you feel others need to hear or see your comments without taking into account their own feelings.

Have you considered the possibility that your comments are doing the same thing? People were hurt by SF’s actions, but also your comments about them. Can you just give them space to let them feel their feelings?

I’ve never had a problem with you before, but I don’t understand why this is the hill you’ve decided to take a stand on. Telling people they have no right to have a problem with something does nothing to solve the problem.

 

[CuriousRick]

I made a big batch earlier in the week thinking I'd have leftovers for breakfast. Not a chance! They cleaned out the entire pan.

Was thinking of making a big pan of enchiladas or taco casserole tomorrow so I can have left overs for a few days.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Was thinking of making a big pan of enchiladas or taco casserole tomorrow so I can have left overs for a few days.

That's the way to do it! Cook once, eat for a few days.

 

[CuriousRick]

That's the way to do it! Cook once, eat for a few days.

Sunday is my day to cook something to last for a few days. Taco casserole would be easier. But I am trying to watch my diabetes and using a bag of chips isn’t good. lol. Enchiladas are more work but I can at least use the lower carb tortillas

 

[Sexy_Singer]

Big Mac or Whopper

 

[Photog1rl]

It’s about him as much or more than it’s about you. He has friends who were hurt or driven away by this issue. You’re here to show support for PG in the conversation. The thing is though, she is giving every impression of not being affected by recent revelations. Which is fine, and great for her. We don’t get a say over how others feel though.

it is awful and yucky to download photos without consent (I think this is the forth time I’ve said this) If someone has friends that were hurt then support them 100% but how is commenting, repeatedly, that consent is required helping his friends? How is that not just performative?
Again, I do not think downloading photos is the way to go. I don’t do it and don’t entourage others to do it but I know it happens and it is a risk I have taken by choosing to share in this public forum. Me owning that is not victim blaming-as I have been accused of.

Not saying that never happens, but sometimes the right thing to do is just the right thing to do. Some people have clearly expressed in private that they are uncomfortable with the situation but do not particularly want to publicly engage about it, for good reason.

And that is

Personally, I don’t mind them adding their voices to this. Silencing someone because of their gender would feel just as hypocritical, IMO.


Have you considered the possibility that your comments are doing the same thing? People were hurt by SF’s actions, but also your comments about them. Can you just give them space to let them feel their feelings?

I’ve never had a problem with you before, but I don’t understand why this is the hill you’ve decided to take a stand on. Telling people they have no right to have a problem with something does nothing to solve the problem.

Kitty I have no problem with you either and I still don’t. I have found you thoughtful and kind in your responses. This isn’t the hill I’ve chosen to die on but it is, to me, a hypocrisy that deserves to be called out.
What makes it super tough is that it folks think I am defending SP. I am not. I haven’t ever. If anything I am trying to challenge folks to think critically and accept that they are active participants in what is happening. No one broke into a private collection of images and shared them publicly. We have chosen to share publicly and by doing so gave away our right to control. That can suck to realize. But I reallly believe it is different than victim blaming

 

[Biggalute]

It’s about him as much or more than it’s about you. He has friends who were hurt or driven away by this issue. You’re here to show support for PG in the conversation. The thing is though, she is giving every impression of not being affected by recent revelations. Which is fine, and great for her. We don’t get a say over how others feel though.

I'm here because I've been following the conversation and have my own views and opinions.
PG, having been accused of supporting/defending shit behavior, which she never did, defends herself and calls out pretentious and obnoxious white knighting.
I support that.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Sunday is my day to cook something to last for a few days. Taco casserole would be easier. But I am trying to watch my diabetes and using a bag of chips isn’t good. lol. Enchiladas are more work but I can at least use the lower carb tortillas

You can even roll them and freeze them prior to the enchilada sauce, otherwise they get soggy.

 

[EnigmaSquared]

I don't know why anyone would want to put a dick in their mouth, but I really appreciate that there are women who do. There ought to be a 'thank you' card just for that.

 

[JustAnotherFlower]

I don't know why anyone would want to put a dick in their mouth, but I really appreciate that there are women who do. There ought to be a 'thank you' card just for that.

You're welcome.

 

[CuriousRick]

You can even roll them and freeze them prior to the enchilada sauce, otherwise they get soggy.

They don’t last long enough to get soggy!! Lol

 

[cheekygirl75]

Big Mac or Whopper

Whopper but McDonald’s fries

 

[Kitty_so_frisky]

it is awful and yucky to download photos without consent (I think this is the forth time I’ve said this) If someone has friends that were hurt then support them 100% but how is commenting, repeatedly, that consent is required helping his friends? How is that not just performative?
Again, I do not think downloading photos is the way to go. I don’t do it and don’t entourage others to do it but I know it happens and it is a risk I have taken by choosing to share in this public forum. Me owning that is not victim blaming-as I have been accused of.

And that is

Kitty I have no problem with you either and I still don’t. I have found you thoughtful and kind in your responses. This isn’t the hill I’ve chosen to die on but it is, to me, a hypocrisy that deserves to be called out.
What makes it super tough is that it folks think I am defending SP. I am not. I haven’t ever. If anything I am trying to challenge folks to think critically and accept that they are active participants in what is happening. No one broke into a private collection of images and shared them publicly. We have chosen to share publicly and by doing so gave away our right to control. That can suck to realize. But I reallly believe it is different than victim blaming

I haven’t personally said you’re victim blaming. What I am saying is that people were hurt and preaching personal responsibility after the fact is the opposite of helpful. Granted, you’re not the only one who has said something to that effect, but continue to be the most vocal…to what end, I do not know.

 

[Noor]

Yep. Discovered him a couple of months ago when Spotify threw Violets Tale into one of my mixes.
He's so brilliantly talented. I've been very much enjoying him lately.

REN rocks and he is a zebra too

 

[Noor]

Why do I match with people miles away? It's not going to work - people won't put the effort in.

Better than continents away

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Big Mac or Whopper

Whopper

 

[peekingone]

That pizza was very good that I just had.

 

[Photog1rl]

Big Mac or Whopper

Can I be controversial

Chicken sandwich

 

[Noor]

I’m confused. I ask for consent for pretty much everything.

 

[Photog1rl]

I haven’t personally said you’re victim blaming. What I am saying is that people were hurt and preaching personal responsibility after the fact is the opposite of helpful.

I can see this. It was not my intention but I did hop into the conversation after it had been going on for a bit. My personal approach is that we, ultimately, can only control what we do in a situation. I have definitely been hurt and shared about that hurt on Lit. I’m not trying to say there is a right or a wrong way to do it. I just feel that part of the way to move on is to realize what aspects we control and take action there.

Granted, you’re not the only one who has said something to that effect, but continue to be the most vocal…to what end, I do not know.

I commented initially and then replied to posts that felt passive aggressive in a thread I don’t often go in. There have been many comments by Monkey that I have ignored even though they seemed excessive to me but today to see it brought back up again and turn into a tag team was over the top. I commented in this thread because it was what I was thinking. Maybe this will make sense to you and maybe it won’t. Either way I wish no one ill will.

 

[Biggalute]

Big Mac or Whopper

Strangely, as a self confessed glutton, I find neither very satisfactory. A 6oz, freshly minced and cooked burger from my local restaurant (for about the same price) is so much better. And proper chips (big, fat and greasy) none of that fries shit

 

[cheekygirl75]

Strangely, as a self confessed glutton, I find neither very satisfactory. A 6oz, freshly minced and cooked burger from my local restaurant (for about the same price) is so much better. And proper chips (big, fat and greasy) none of that fries shit

Well, that just goes without saying!