What is most essential?

[jeffy72]

Tolerance is most important. When most communication turns into an argument, when trust has been shattered by both sides, all you have left is tolerance. When there used to be trust, everything was revealed, and all the things that would have made another run away were tolerated by the one that stayed anyway. When you realize that the sharing was mostly one way, you tolerate the lost trust because of other things, thing that you have trouble putting your finger on, things that seem less and less important as the arguments and yelling become more frequent. You may still be together, not because of some childhood notion of romance, but because you realize that no one else in the world would tolerate either one of you, damaged goods huddling together against the more perfect world.

I think the ability to tolerate each other keeps more couples together than all the trust and communication in the world.

 

[echologue]

Tolerance is most important. When most communication turns into an argument, when trust has been shattered by both sides, all you have left is tolerance. When there used to be trust, everything was revealed, and all the things that would have made another run away were tolerated by the one that stayed anyway. When you realize that the sharing was mostly one way, you tolerate the lost trust because of other things, thing that you have trouble putting your finger on, things that seem less and less important as the arguments and yelling become more frequent. You may still be together, not because of some childhood notion of romance, but because you realize that no one else in the world would tolerate either one of you, damaged goods huddling together against the more perfect world.

I think the ability to tolerate each other keeps more couples together than all the trust and communication in the world.

Loving somebody with out reserve, saying I accept you for all of who you are, I think is he most powerful love of all.

 

[Blue_Eyed_Grl36]

I would agree that communication is key... being open to understand and learn about your new love yet not bury yourself in an effort to impress him/her... I also think that along with honest communication that I think the little things are essential. A relationship is always a work in progress... and if you give up on it because you "won" that person, then that is just taking a person for granted and expect them never to change as time passes

I agree with this.. but also you have to be humble enough to realize your own shortcomings, be willing to listen, to learn, make the time that's needed everyday, and be completely committed to growing your relationship.

Communication is so critical.. talking about your day, asking for help/support, and both of you being there for the other is really important. Basically connecting about everyday life and working on and through the big things as true partners. You have to do those little things for eachother everyday, keep things exciting, interesting, intimate, and sexy, and each of you being the the strength the other needs to hold them or yourself up when you can't do it yourself.. Being thoughtful and kind, and treat eachother, your relationship, and every day you have together as a precious gift.. Once either of you or both stop doing that, the relationship will start to fall apart. SAY I love and SHOW I love you.... everyday.

Just what's essential for me....

 

[OzoneRed]

After breakfast, sitting across the kitchen table from each other, each with a cup of coffee. Talking. And talking. And talking. About anything and everything.

 

[Blue_Eyed_Grl36]

After breakfast, sitting across the kitchen table from each other, each with a cup of coffee. Talking. And talking. And talking. About anything and everything.

I love this...

 

[reperbahn_man]

Tolerance is most important. When most communication turns into an argument, when trust has been shattered by both sides, all you have left is tolerance. When there used to be trust, everything was revealed, and all the things that would have made another run away were tolerated by the one that stayed anyway. When you realize that the sharing was mostly one way, you tolerate the lost trust because of other things, thing that you have trouble putting your finger on, things that seem less and less important as the arguments and yelling become more frequent. You may still be together, not because of some childhood notion of romance, but because you realize that no one else in the world would tolerate either one of you, damaged goods huddling together against the more perfect world.

I think the ability to tolerate each other keeps more couples together than all the trust and communication in the world.

Good point dude.
Trust and communication are the 2 big clichés. But tolerance is most important in a long-term relationship.

 

[pedicur8her]

Openness and honesty. Feeling that you have nothing to worry about and nothing to hide.

Complete trust ...

 

[Blue_Eyed_Grl36]

Tolerance is most important. When most communication turns into an argument, when trust has been shattered by both sides, all you have left is tolerance. When there used to be trust, everything was revealed, and all the things that would have made another run away were tolerated by the one that stayed anyway. When you realize that the sharing was mostly one way, you tolerate the lost trust because of other things, thing that you have trouble putting your finger on, things that seem less and less important as the arguments and yelling become more frequent. You may still be together, not because of some childhood notion of romance, but because you realize that no one else in the world would tolerate either one of you, damaged goods huddling together against the more perfect world.

I think the ability to tolerate each other keeps more couples together than all the trust and communication in the world.

Tolerance and patience is important..I'll agree w/ that, but there are limits as to how far a person can go w/ that.