What's your take?

[aussiegeekygal]

I also have an irrational fear of overflowing toilets. I'll flush as quickly as I can and move away. I don't get it at home, normally just toilets I haven't learnt to trust yet.

 

[IhateClowns]

Fear is a very natural and normal psychological and physiological phenomenon. It's an evolutionary byproduct from the days when we'd be eaten if we didn't stand up for ourselves. There's definitely a (very) fine line between what constitutes a healthy fear, and what errs on the side of irrational.

Phobias are complete cognitive distortions that completely affect one's life in a debilitating fashion. I'd say it is a very small portion of the population that suffers from a phobia, most of us do, however have irrational fears.

(Sorry to go all clinical on you)

No worries. You put it LITERALLY into context for me.

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

Irrational fears...I have a lot of the most common ones. Heights. I get sweaty hands climbing too high on a step ladder. Spiders....I HAVE TO KILL THEM when I see them. I will scream like a berserker and pound a tiny little spider to good with anything I can grab. I've been known to spontaneously throw a knife across a room.

Clowns...just something about them is...the painted on smile hides evil. I also read and watched the movie version of IT at a young age.

The weirdest one is little girls in pink dresses with pink bows in their hair. I used to have this recurring dream when I was a kid and it lasted for years...this little girl dressed just like that, starts ripping people apart, blood spraying all over and as she does, her skin stretches and she grows until this four armed, red-eyed demon emerges from her form. It took place in some kind of tunnel in france during WW2.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

No worries. You put it LITERALLY into context for me.

You know me too well

Edit: PS- 11% of the population has a phobia.

 

[Misshotndeep]

I got spiders and being alone at night. Oh and abandonment issues. Hence the second one.

 

[missmaddy]

I must have a fear of commitment. I've been told that more than once.

 

[Misshotndeep]

I must have a fear of commitment. I've been told that more than once.

I have to ask.. what ass? That looks like a washboard. Maybe it's because I'm black and have back? No insult meant. Just very confused.

 

[lovetopleasewomen]

Online Dating

I am married so luckily I don't have to date. The idea scares me to be honest. As many yahoos that are on here, there are plenty more in the real world. My friends who are single think online dating is a hook-up site. It's essential a glorified playground. I haven't really ever done it so I can't really give much of an opinion on it.

Lit is about as close as I'll ever get to online dating. Having to babysit my dad doesn't give me much opportunity to pursue any women, and once my business with him is finished, I don't plan on sitting around long enough to worry about it.

 

[Misshotndeep]

and again...

 

[lacandy]

Irrational fears...I have a lot of the most common ones. Heights. I get sweaty hands climbing too high on a step ladder. Spiders....I HAVE TO KILL THEM when I see them. I will scream like a berserker and pound a tiny little spider to good with anything I can grab. I've been known to spontaneously throw a knife across a room.

Clowns...just something about them is...the painted on smile hides evil. I also read and watched the movie version of IT at a young age.

The weirdest one is little girls in pink dresses with pink bows in their hair. I used to have this recurring dream when I was a kid and it lasted for years...this little girl dressed just like that, starts ripping people apart, blood spraying all over and as she does, her skin stretches and she grows until this four armed, red-eyed demon emerges from her form. It took place in some kind of tunnel in france during WW2.

Well, now I have a fear of little girls dressed in pink with a pink bow!!

 

[BlackCashmere]

Well, now I have a fear of little girls dressed in pink with a pink bow!!

...lol...thanks, now I am thinking about Cindy Brady...

 

[IhateClowns]

Once again thanks for the enlightening responses. We get so caught up in one word or sentence posts that it is nice to expound on our thoughts a bit.

With that being said.

What's your take on:

Oral Sex

It seems like every guy and every girl on this site loves to either eat pussy or suck cock and they are the greatest ever at it. I am more than happy to say I don't overly enjoy licking pussy. It's not that I won't, because I do. It's not that I am bad at it, because when I do she cums often. I would much rather being doing something else.

It is inevitable that whether she is wearing a turtle neck sweater down there or is shaved smooth, I will be hacking up a hair 20 minutes later. Ok who am I kidding, 7 minutes later. It's not that the smell or taste is off putting either. I mean don't get me wrong, if your pussy smells like the inside of my boots, I am not even going to put a finger down there much less my tongue. Your pussy could taste like beer and soft pretzels and I still wouldn't be jumping up and down to do it.

Like I said though, that doesn't mean I won't do it. It's all part of the sexual experience and I won't deny any woman the ability to enjoy whatever she wishes. I just don't get those that feel the need to make the claim "I love to eat pussy!!!" No you don't. You say that to get her attention and then hope she returns the favor. Claiming you're the best sets you up for epic failure. Just shut your mouth and do it.

As for women and some fellas I just don't understand how you can put our dicks in your mouths. You see how we miss the toilets when we piss. How we scratch and pull on our dicks in public. How our cock and balls sit in a cesspool pouch in 100 degree heat all day. So don't tell me you love to suck cock. That's silly. Maybe you love the power of controlling the situation because you are sucking his cock, but don't lie if you would rather it be his chin you could be sucking on instead of his dangly piece. If you could control him and the situation by sucking on his chin or maybe a finger instead of our dicks you would trade that in a heartbeat.

I love a good blowjob but I have only cum twice from one. It isn't that it doesn't feel good, it's just that I would rather be inside you instead.

 

[Misshotndeep]

While I enjoy giving oral to men. I don't enjoy receiving. Much for the reasons you posted. I rather be doing something else.
I enjoy giving more as a power trip. I love to make a man melt and make him scream and squirm. Hearing my name screamed is a huge turn on for me. I work hard to that end. Now don't get me wrong I do actually enjoy the giving I have an oral fixation like no one’s business.
Now the receiving. I have never and I do mean never had a man do it right. It may get my attention but then inevitably they decide that they want to do something else. It's normally a totally half assed attempt. Done just to say they did it so I will suck them I guess. It's so frustrating to the point that I refuse it when ever offered at this point.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Oral sex for me is more like foreplay. I have never come from it, but at times, it moistens me up for the big event.

I loathe giving head, for a lot the reasons IHC mentions. I have a terrible gag reflex (it's psychological, as it's only when I have a dick in my mouth), and I sheepishly suvk with the overwhelming fear of a cum/vomit explosion. I've only had cum in my mouth once, and I'll take the effort to keep it that way.

Fucking, though. That's where it's at!!

Thinking about it, it was my mum who kinda set me on this trajectory. During our sex talks, she emphasised that I should get something out of any encounter, and not just him. My (younger ) sister added if I was going to give head, I should be careful to not throw up. I pretty much gave up on the idea right then and there.

 

[IhateClowns]

While I enjoy giving oral to men. I don't enjoy receiving. Much for the reasons you posted. I rather be doing something else.
I enjoy giving more as a power trip. I love to make a man melt and make him scream and squirm. Hearing my name screamed is a huge turn on for me. I work hard to that end. Now don't get me wrong I do actually enjoy the giving I have an oral fixation like no one’s business.
Now the receiving. I have never and I do mean never had a man do it right. It may get my attention but then inevitably they decide that they want to do something else. It's normally a totally half assed attempt. Done just to say they did it so I will suck them I guess. It's so frustrating to the point that I refuse it when ever offered at this point.

There are 150,000 guys who do it with perfection and they all post in the PG. Hell there is a guy named Cliteatingman that apparently will eat your clit if you want. I personally like Eclipse gum to chew on, but whatever. Start a thread asking for anyone who eats pussy well and you won't be able to manage the responses you receive.

 

[IhateClowns]

Oral sex for me is more like foreplay. I have never come from it, but at times, it moistens me up for the big event.

I loathe giving head, for a lot the reasons IHC mentions. I have a terrible gag reflex (it's psychological, as it's only when I have a dick in my mouth), and I sheepishly suvk with the overwhelming fear of a cum/vomit explosion. I've only had cum in my mouth once, and I'll take the effort to keep it that way.

Fucking, though. That's where it's at!!

Thinking about it, it was my mum who kinda set me on this trajectory. During our sex talks, she emphasised that I should get something out of any encounter, and not just him. My (younger ) sister added if I was going to give head, I should be careful to not throw up. I pretty much gave up on the idea right then and there.

Thank goodness I have a small penis and swallow my dip. Ok only one of those statements are true.

 

[Misshotndeep]

There are 150,000 guys who do it with perfection and they all post in the PG. Hell there is a guy named Cliteatingman that apparently will eat your clit if you want. I personally like Eclipse gum to chew on, but whatever. Start a thread asking for anyone who eats pussy well and you won't be able to manage the responses you receive.

No thanx. I have better thing to do then weed out the liars, misdirected and delusional from the real deal. Like watch paint dry.

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

It has been a really long time, but for me...it's not about cumming. When receiving I can almost fall asleep, cock throbbing and waving in the air...sooooo relaxed...I like it long and sesual and by a woman who enjoys having my thick warmth in her mouth.

When I cum it is in a pulsing burst after burst of liquid heat and light.

Now when giving (also been really long) I just revel in the sense. The smell, the taste, the feeling of her on my face and cheeks...my tongue and fingers and lips devouring, delving, slipping down to her asshole to cause that sinful and shocked gasp of joy...up over the stiff little clit...flickflickerflicker...such a small thing to cause such a wonderfully powerful reaction...

Sorry. I got carried away, I know that wasn't the sort of response you were looking for, especially from me. But I miss it.

I think that if you expect your partner to go down, you have to be willing to go down too. That's my opinion.

 

[RoyceConnors]

I love oral sex more than fucking at times. I've never had a problem making my lover cum and usually more than once. I love the intimacy of doing it and enjoy my 'rewards' even more. Just have to love pussy enough to want to be good at it amd of course a desire to please your lover well.
I love when a woman enjoys going down on me and wants to please me that way. I can cum easily if I know she's in to it, but won't if it's just going through the motions. I like giving myself over to her to be pleasured under her control and let her enjoy my cock how she wants to.

 

[IhateClowns]

No thanx. I have better thing to do then weed out the liars, misdirected and delusional from the real deal. Like watch paint dry.

You must have had really bad experiences to prefer paint drying over twat tongueing.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

It has been a really long time, but for me...it's not about cumming. When receiving I can almost fall asleep, cock throbbing and waving in the air...sooooo relaxed...I like it long and sesual and by a woman who enjoys having my thick warmth in her mouth.

When I cum it is in a pulsing burst after burst of liquid heat and light.

Now when giving (also been really long) I just revel in the sense. The smell, the taste, the feeling of her on my face and cheeks...my tongue and fingers and lips devouring, delving, slipping down to her asshole to cause that sinful and shocked gasp of joy...up over the stiff little clit...flickflickerflicker...such a small thing to cause such a wonderfully powerful reaction...

Sorry. I got carried away, I know that wasn't the sort of response you were looking for, especially from me. But I miss it.

I think that if you expect your partner to go down, you have to be willing to go down too. That's my opinion.

That's why I don't expect it.

The other part to this is grooming expectations. There's nothing worse than a guy who drops the sly "I love to lick a slick pussy". If that's the case, the Chinese hairless cats may suffice. I like pubes. I own mine, proudly. I spent 15 years willing the fuckers into existence. I'm certainly not going remove them, just because you like to motorboat ugly cats.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Thank goodness I have a small penis and swallow my dip. Ok only one of those statements are true.

Oh, please tell me you clean up after yourself...

 

[IhateClowns]

Oh, please tell me you clean up after yourself...

I shower if that's what you mean. Also in response to the above post. I don't mind vagina hair as long as it's not shaped into a food truck or something. What I will ask is that if you have a reverse happy trail that leads to your lower back you do your best to trim that up. Last thing I want is a woman bent over in front of me and it look like she has an already used wax strip leading from her tramp stamp to her honey hole.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I shower if that's what you mean. Also in response to the above post. I don't mind vagina hair as long as it's not shaped into a food truck or something. What I will ask is that if you have a reverse happy trail that leads to your lower back you do your best to trim that up. Last thing I want is a woman bent over in front of me and it look like she has an already used wax strip leading from her tramp stamp to her honey hole.

I dye it. Does that count?

 

[IhateClowns]

I dye it. Does that count?

As long as it isn't camouflage. I have trouble finding the clit as it is