When do men stop cheating? (story research)

[LadyJeanne]

I really don't think one needs to bring up Redemption or Trauma here. People are learning animals. We're not leopards.

I agree with Yui - often we seek in others what can only be found within ourselves. That's why I don't think he needs to find Jesus either. He needs to see things from a different perspective, maybe, in order to see himself from a different perspective. Then, if there's a will, there's a way. They both have choices; they're not doomed to repeat past mistakes.

 

[LadyJeanne]

To put it quite simply, if you cheat you're cheating for a reason - there's obviously something missing in your relationship.

Now, the upright thing to do would be to either fix what's missing or end the relationship or start up a 3way relationship - whatever.

But, we humans haven't really learnt to walk upright yet, so ...

*shrug*

In college, some of my girfriends were into 'blending boyfriends'. They didn't see it as cheating or as behavior that needed to change. I think that's the key - if you don't think you're doing anything wrong, you see no reason to stop doing it.

 

[BlackSnake]

When they are dead. In the hospital bed, he is checking out the shape of the nurse's boobs and wondering what they look and feel like.

 

[Joesephus]

I think that around 40...

Men stop suffering from testosterone poisoning. Since I'm 24 I'm still in the grip of it. However it's a topic I've discussed with several older men. My mother, bless her heart, seems to enjoy divorcing as much as she enjoys marriage. She's well past 40, but I don't see any reduction in her desire to cheat. I have noticed that men do tend to change about the time they have their 'mid-life crisis.'

I believe that to really change you have to a powerful stimuli. For a drug dependant person, they might have to hit bottom. For a cheater, they might have to get caught, find God, or perhaps just grow up.