Why do older men become bi-curious?

[BritPup]

at least you have the memory of it, albeit--, probably a little fuzzy by now?
I ain't even got that.

Actually, the only BJ I can remember (the details and feeling and not just that I got one) was from a guy. All the BJs from the prettiest/loveliest female partners have more or less disappeared into haze.

This guy was totally gay, whereas I was still curious/experimenting. As he was blowing me, he knew exactly what was happening with my excitement levels and kept me right on the edge for ages. It was almost unbearable. I was just about to go crazy and grab his head so he couldn't take his mouth away... when he finally let me cum.

Best ever? Easily. I can remember everything about that encounter, and it was years ago. I remember that he didn't swallow, but my orgasm was so intense that I really didn't care.

 

[sweettalk4u]

Exactly.

Until then, learn all you can as you continue to socialize and sensual use your way down the path of your newfound sexuality

 

[CuriousTxGuy]

Nothing like a wedding ring to end the blowjobs...

But then they seem to start again, although a bi differently!

https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph55ceea8bac7cf

 

[fitandfresh]

at least you have the memory of it, albeit--, probably a little fuzzy by now?
I ain't even got that.

You and me both.....the exam by Whispor is as close and enjoyable as I have had lol

 

[LanaBehave]

(Sorry this is such a long response, but I really wanted to comment on this topic.)

I've personally thought about this question a lot myself as I've gotten older. I'm in my later 40's, happily married, and not attracted to men physically or emotionally.

...but I really want to suck cock.

One of my main theories is that of genetic competition. As we men get older, we become less competitive with younger, more virile males as far as spreading our genes to a breeding female. If we consume the other males' sperm and prevent it from fertilizing a woman of child-bearing age, we potentially become more competitive. Perhaps that might explain some mens' urges.

Mine is totally different.

I never thought about sucking cock until my early 30's or so. I've watched porn voraciously most of my life. My favorite scenes, like many men, is the money shot. There's something deliciously erotic about watching another man ejaculate. Seeing the women in porn enthusiastically consume the semen makes me almost... jealous.

My primary kink is that of submissiveness. I'm a closet submissive. In my real, day-to-day life one would see no sign of submissiveness in me. An ultimate fantasy for me would be to be told by a man to get down on my knees in front of him. I would resist - tell him to fuck off. He'd repeat the demand. I would again tell him to fuck off.

The third time he would tell me, I would readily submit. At that point, he would own me with my full cooperation.

The other reason my desires diverge from my theory is that I would want to submit to a much older man, anywhere from late 50's to mid 60's.

My desire to suck cock has been with me for almost 15 years. My desire to be submissive to an older man was awakened in the most unexpected manner. I wrote a story about it (Penetrating Realization in my stories submissions.)

To summarize, I had to undergo a prostate exam from my urologist for potential prostatitis. He's an older man, friendly, kind, not overtly dominant whatsoever. Such a routine procedure is not sexual in any way, but in my mind it was erotically intoxicating.

Why? As I stood by the examining table he sat on a stool. He proceeded to put on latex gloves and smear KY on his finger. He directed, in my mind authoritatively, to drop my pants and underwear and bend over the table.

With my pants and underwear around my ankles, I leaned over the table and placed my hands on it. He told me to bend over more, and I did, but not enough. His hand came up onto my upper back and he told me to go all the way down so that my chest rested on the table.

Then he told me to spread my ankles apart just a little more...

Something clicked in my head. I felt so vulnerable, so submissive. My anus was being smeared with lubricant and I was being touched where no man had ever touched me before. WIthout any hesitation, or any difficulty, his finger penetrated me and was inside me.

I thought about the fact that a man was penetrating me, and I was willingly allowing it.

He manipulated my prostate with that finger. No man had ever touched my sexual organ responsible for allowing me to ejaculate before. Afterward, he had me stand back up straight, he took my still flaccid penis in his hand and "milked" it to cause a drop of semen to emerge from the tip. He captured the drop onto a slide for examination.

This was, of course, all medically routine, but I was forever changed sexually. If instructed to do so by him I would gladly, willingly submit to that man sexually both orally and anally. The thought of bending over for him and being penetrated by him anally, be it his finger or his cock, is a huge turn-on for me. Honestly it never was before.

Now, be it sucking another man's cock or being penetrated anally, my fantasies that revolve around these activities involve me being totally submissive to the man.

Like most of you, my wife does not know about this aspect of my sexuality. She will never know about it. She just wouldn't understand.

Such a fulsome response. I know what you mean, when the finger probes, and the doctor (or nurse) says something like "I'm sorry I know this isn't pleasant..." and you don't dare contradict her, and yet...

Whispor, your forum participation is appreciated, but please post more of your stories on the other side! You've got the knack...

 

[jonjonz68]

But then they seem to start again, although a bi differently!

https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph55ceea8bac7cf

Sorry I'm so late to this discussion. I don't really have anything to add, except to say about these two vids: YUM!

 

[TinaAndy76]

(Sorry this is such a long response, but I really wanted to comment on this topic.)

I've personally thought about this question a lot myself as I've gotten older. I'm in my later 40's, happily married, and not attracted to men physically or emotionally.

...but I really want to suck cock.

One of my main theories is that of genetic competition. As we men get older, we become less competitive with younger, more virile males as far as spreading our genes to a breeding female. If we consume the other males' sperm and prevent it from fertilizing a woman of child-bearing age, we potentially become more competitive. Perhaps that might explain some mens' urges.

I never thought about sucking cock until my early 30's or so. I've watched porn voraciously most of my life. My favorite scenes, like many men, is the money shot. There's something deliciously erotic about watching another man ejaculate. Seeing the women in porn enthusiastically consume the semen makes me almost... jealous.

This!!

 

[CuriousGuyVa]

The older you get the more wide open to things you become...

 

[PleasePeesMe]

That's right.

Feeling you're running out of time is a hell of an incentive.

 

[tmmmbrrr]

.....

 

[UK_Dreamer]

Could it be that we (guys) are just innately horny and, given the choice, would fuck anything that moves? Sex to us is not exclusive to love, it's about getting our rocks off. However, society has conditioned us to say that this should only happen in a loving marriage.

We are base animals and we have needs and desires, we just need to pro create and we don't care how, even if the possibility of a new life isn't there.

Sex to us is sex... Yes, if you are lucky, sometimes it will be with someone that you share a strong emotional bond with, but other times it's just about blowing your load. As we grow older and our partners grow weary of our desires I think our base instinct kicks in again - if you think back you were the same in your teens - and it is just about blowing your load and, as a man, you realise that there are other men who feel the same.

I love to have sex with a man but I'll be fucked if you will see me walking hand in hand down the street with one or going out for a candle lit dinner, that would be saved for the lady in my life.

Sexual feelings do not equate to love, they are two totally separate things and as we get older we recognise this.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Could it be that we (guys) are just innately horny and, given the choice, would fuck anything that moves? Sex to us is not exclusive to love, it's about getting our rocks off. However, society has conditioned us to say that this should only happen in a loving marriage.

We are base animals and we have needs and desires, we just need to pro create and we don't care how, even if the possibility of a new life isn't there.

Sex to us is sex... Yes, if you are lucky, sometimes it will be with someone that you share a strong emotional bond with, but other times it's just about blowing your load. As we grow older and our partners grow weary of our desires I think our base instinct kicks in again - if you think back you were the same in your teens - and it is just about blowing your load and, as a man, you realise that there are other men who feel the same.

I love to have sex with a man but I'll be fucked if you will see me walking hand in hand down the street with one or going out for a candle lit dinner, that would be saved for the lady in my life.

Sexual feelings do not equate to love, they are two totally separate things and as we get older we recognise this.

I think you've nailed it.

 

[nakedworld]

The older you get the more wide open to things you become...

That's very true.

 

[Dreamer110]

That's very true.

That is part of it but I'm not sure.

 

[Astroman72]

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I love to have sex with a man but I'll be fucked if you will see me walking hand in hand down the street with one or going out for a candle lit dinner, that would be saved for the lady in my life.

Sexual feelings do not equate to love, they are two totally separate things and as we get older we recognise this.

Same for me, although I had pretty much already come to this conclusion by my late teens. As I became sexually aware, I knew I loved cocks just as much as pussies, but I was not at all attracted to men in the same way that I was to women. And my desires have been pretty much exactly the same between then and now, at age 50.

As I've said before on this forum, the way I'm wired I see gay sex as like a super-pleasurable form of masturbation--something I love and crave and want to do all the time. But also like masturbation, it wouldn't really satisfy my emotional or romantic desires.

 

[BisonTN]

I am in the same boat. I have had sane sex encounters as a teenager with a friend which truth be told was pretty funny. We both had no clue about sex at all and ended up fondling each other for a while every day. We thought blowjobs meant blowing air on each other’s penis so we were like what’s the big deal with that... hands are much better.

Now that I am about to turn 49 i feel like I am fantasizing more about sucking cock than I am about anything else. I’m going to go for it soon... I’m nervous and excited at the same time.

 

[dacoach44]

Go for it...

I am in the same boat. I have had sane sex encounters as a teenager with a friend which truth be told was pretty funny. We both had no clue about sex at all and ended up fondling each other for a while every day. We thought blowjobs meant blowing air on each other’s penis so we were like what’s the big deal with that... hands are much better.

Now that I am about to turn 49 i feel like I am fantasizing more about sucking cock than I am about anything else. I’m going to go for it soon... I’m nervous and excited at the same time.

Its only a cock. I started fucking sissies 5 yrs ago, and now would love to be one.

 

[Vitriolhack]

I am in the same boat. I have had sane sex encounters as a teenager with a friend which truth be told was pretty funny. We both had no clue about sex at all and ended up fondling each other for a while every day. We thought blowjobs meant blowing air on each other’s penis so we were like what’s the big deal with that... hands are much better.

Now that I am about to turn 49 i feel like I am fantasizing more about sucking cock than I am about anything else. I’m going to go for it soon... I’m nervous and excited at the same time.

All I can say is that, no matter what your age is, we really never stop exploring.

 

[lustatopia]

I am a 64 y/o mwm and, over the last few years, I have become more and more bi-curious. In email exchanges with other men around my age, I have found that well over half of them are experiencing the same thinh. Is this a common phenomenon?

It might be because everyone is born essentially capable of bisexuality, but we are usually quickly socialized to see certain kinds of sexual encounters as taboo.

As we become older and more self-actualized and more certain of our personal identity it becomes easier to dismiss social and peer group pressures to conform and strike out on our own paths towards, not just sexual fulfillment, but also personal fulfillment, holistically.

This might mean for many men, as well as women, a desire to explore sexual experiences they couldn't have pursued when younger because they embedded themselves so deeply in the conventional social fabric of family, career, and friends, all of whom were depending on your identity remaining the same as when formed when you were younger and far more innocent, as well as much less experienced and self-assured.

I'm sure another factor is the shifting attitudes of sexuality in society. I doubt our father's generation experienced a blossoming of bisexual experimentation when the so-called "greatest generation" all started to turn 60 something in the 1970's and 80's. (Although a few did, as I know from first hand experience.) Today the social penalty for coming out is much less as well as the opportunities to experiment sexually are much, much greater.

 

[Jaime1493]

Women Become Disinterested

As we age our wives lose any interest in sex, we are still horny as are most guys. So we turn to other guys for quality sex. I have been bi since my teens, been married twice. Last one has lasted over 30 years, but no sex for at least the past 10 years. I am looking for one close by MWM for a monogamous FWB.

 

[muycurioso]

well, just like women can be bi

hell, women are expected to be bi. No one cares, but if a guy is bi, then he is gay. Society's attitudes are loosening up. And as men get older they care less what others think. That is my opinion

 

[prof39]

I'm stuck, like many others, in an otherwise happy marriage that menopause hit very hard. I continued non-painful oral sex for a while but now that's gone too. I'm horny and need relief but don't want to flash her with a throbbing hard-on so try and be discrete - but every now and again get 'caught' hot and hard.
Do you guys in similar situations hide as you spill your cum load?
Say what the hell and jack off whenever you need to - whether she's there or not?
Curious and would like to compare notes with other older horny males....

 

[OldFred65]

As we age our wives lose any interest in sex, we are still horny as are most guys. So we turn to other guys for quality sex. I have been bi since my teens, been married twice. Last one has lasted over 30 years, but no sex for at least the past 10 years. I am looking for one close by MWM for a monogamous FWB.

My wife, now 70, hasn't ever lost interest in sex like a lot of women seem to, but she did encourage me to start sucking cock and getting fucked in my mid 40's, and I wish she had done it sooner. We have met a lot of guys in our age group who have started hooking up with other guys because their wives lost interest, or in one case passed away. We both help them out.

 

[bookworm69]

As we age our wives lose any interest in sex, we are still horny as are most guys. So we turn to other guys for quality sex. I have been bi since my teens, been married twice. Last one has lasted over 30 years, but no sex for at least the past 10 years. I am looking for one close by MWM for a monogamous FWB.

totally agree on ALL your points. plus, finding that quality sex with another guy, drama free, is just a great, soul-satisfying outlet.

 

[bikurinpa]

As we age our wives lose any interest in sex, we are still horny as are most guys. So we turn to other guys for quality sex. I have been bi since my teens, been married twice. Last one has lasted over 30 years, but no sex for at least the past 10 years. I am looking for one close by MWM for a monogamous FWB.

I was married 28 yrs when she passed away, live alone, and been trying to find a bi male who is discreet and wants friendship as well is totally impossible to find around here!