I just turned 65 and like you I am getting more curious. I had one experience 4 years ago after my then wife passed away. The guy gave great head and I wanted to return it but he had a medical condition that wouldn’t allow him to get hard. I would like to try again. Really like the looks of a hard shaved cock.
Why do older men become bi-curious?
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I am sure that thread after a while not getting a reply, fall way to the bottom and hard to find and someone asks the same thing, figuring it wasnt mentioned and makes a new topic. The search engine on this isnt the greatest.
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In the end it is less a matter of becoming bi-curious as it is slowly recognizing the physical beauty of a cock and gradually developing a curiosity that eventually grows into a craving for it.
To help with my own desires, I have assembled a large collection of close up pictures of cocks and placed them into a gallery online. I've also acquired two 7 inch realistic dildos with balls. Both have suction cups on the bottom. One I have marked with a 'T' on the underside of the suction cup and the other with a 'B' in the same spot. One for my 'top' (mouth) and one for my 'bottom'...
Like many older couples, my wife and I sleep in separate bedrooms. A matter of a mutual snoring problem more than any other reason. So late on many nights I'll lock the bedroom door and retrieve one of my 'toys' for a little late night fun.
To help with my own desires, I have assembled a large collection of close up pictures of cocks and placed them into a gallery online. I've also acquired two 7 inch realistic dildos with balls. Both have suction cups on the bottom. One I have marked with a 'T' on the underside of the suction cup and the other with a 'B' in the same spot. One for my 'top' (mouth) and one for my 'bottom'...
Like many older couples, my wife and I sleep in separate bedrooms. A matter of a mutual snoring problem more than any other reason. So late on many nights I'll lock the bedroom door and retrieve one of my 'toys' for a little late night fun.
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Interesting thread. I’m 59 and I too have become fascinated with cock. One of the things that really turns me on is corresponding with a mature male who is a tad controlling but not into humiliation. I think maybe it’s the feeling of being seduced that turns me on so much. Anyway feel free to message me!
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At 59 you count as a younger man for me
I'm uncomfortable with the idea of humiliation but I'm interested in messaging to exchange views, photos, fantasies and whatever. I'm 71 and have just started to be obsessed with cocks: thinking about them, looking at them, imagining touching them. I'm as interested in being sucked as I am in sucking. It's all purely theoretical at this stage and might remain that way. If this interests you feel free to message me or email MrBierce@zoho.comMy $.02-worth on the subject
Originally Posted by secret_passion_1949 View Post
I think as we men mature we shed many of the inhibitions and ways of thinking that became ingrained in us when we were younger...
I believe this is one of the stronger motivations to investigate a side of ourselves we might not have had the strength or inclination to earlier in our lives. Many of us are at a place mentally, emotionally and chronologically in our lives where we feel we don't have to prove a damned thing to anyone else, nor do we owe any explanations to others, unless we choose to provide them. We've paid our dues, and earned the right to be and do as we please.
There's also an intellectual aspect to it as well, for many of us, which is/was a part of the process in deciding to pursue our curiosities. For me, this ultimately came down, after long consideration over time, to asking myself if there was finally any logical argument against it, and the answer of course was no. If I chose to explore sex and pleasure with another man ... then why not? If I did, and then didn't like it, well then I just wouldn't do that any more, just like trying anything else in life. My life was not then going to be changed forever.
It's interesting to note also, here in the fora, the number of married men whose wives have become asexual after menopause, leaving them with no outlet other than masturbation, who state that this eventually triggered their decision to explore sex with other men. Of even further interest is the number of them who state that they had actually been thinking and/or fantasizing about it for quite a long time, but just never acted on their visions.
Often too, men of our age, having been through any number of hetero relationships in our lives, quickly come to realize how much simpler and uncomplicated a physical act or relationship is with another guy. Possibly because we're apparently (and yes, this is a generalization) better able to compartmentalize sex and desire, and therefore have far less need to equate it with love and other emotion. That in itself is a very strong attraction, is it not?
So those are some of my own thoughts on the matter, and I'm always interested in hearing and thinking about everyone else's too. Well - almost.
Originally Posted by secret_passion_1949 View Post
I think as we men mature we shed many of the inhibitions and ways of thinking that became ingrained in us when we were younger...
I believe this is one of the stronger motivations to investigate a side of ourselves we might not have had the strength or inclination to earlier in our lives. Many of us are at a place mentally, emotionally and chronologically in our lives where we feel we don't have to prove a damned thing to anyone else, nor do we owe any explanations to others, unless we choose to provide them. We've paid our dues, and earned the right to be and do as we please.
There's also an intellectual aspect to it as well, for many of us, which is/was a part of the process in deciding to pursue our curiosities. For me, this ultimately came down, after long consideration over time, to asking myself if there was finally any logical argument against it, and the answer of course was no. If I chose to explore sex and pleasure with another man ... then why not? If I did, and then didn't like it, well then I just wouldn't do that any more, just like trying anything else in life. My life was not then going to be changed forever.
It's interesting to note also, here in the fora, the number of married men whose wives have become asexual after menopause, leaving them with no outlet other than masturbation, who state that this eventually triggered their decision to explore sex with other men. Of even further interest is the number of them who state that they had actually been thinking and/or fantasizing about it for quite a long time, but just never acted on their visions.
Often too, men of our age, having been through any number of hetero relationships in our lives, quickly come to realize how much simpler and uncomplicated a physical act or relationship is with another guy. Possibly because we're apparently (and yes, this is a generalization) better able to compartmentalize sex and desire, and therefore have far less need to equate it with love and other emotion. That in itself is a very strong attraction, is it not?
So those are some of my own thoughts on the matter, and I'm always interested in hearing and thinking about everyone else's too. Well - almost.
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Very good and thoughtful post.
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Personally...
I think with the current dating climate and other factors, the rise of bi-curious men will only become more popular.
I think with the current dating climate and other factors, the rise of bi-curious men will only become more popular.
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Perhaps that with the current openness, men are walking up to the fact that sexual shades of grey really do exist and always have.
Life experience simply now allows you to explore it.
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The first cock I sucked was my own 8" cut cock in my teens. It was 30 years before i have given into the desires again I don't regret waiting
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When I discovered my fascination with cock or my bisexual orientation as some would say it didn't scare me at all I was actually happy to admit I like cock . It's something that happens to older guys though as our inhibitions drop our sexual interest rises.
My wife loves to suck me off and always swallows. I also want to do that for a man if only I can find him.
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My wife swallowed from the first time she sucked me off which was before we got married. She kept this up each and every time. Naturally, I have done the same each and every time I have sucked a guy off. It is only proper to swallow
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(Sorry this is such a long response, but I really wanted to comment on this topic.)
I've personally thought about this question a lot myself as I've gotten older. I'm in my later 40's, happily married, and not attracted to men physically or emotionally.
...but I really want to suck cock.
One of my main theories is that of genetic competition. As we men get older, we become less competitive with younger, more virile males as far as spreading our genes to a breeding female. If we consume the other males' sperm and prevent it from fertilizing a woman of child-bearing age, we potentially become more competitive. Perhaps that might explain some mens' urges.
Mine is totally different.
I never thought about sucking cock until my early 30's or so. I've watched porn voraciously most of my life. My favorite scenes, like many men, is the money shot. There's something deliciously erotic about watching another man ejaculate. Seeing the women in porn enthusiastically consume the semen makes me almost... jealous.
My primary kink is that of submissiveness. I'm a closet submissive. In my real, day-to-day life one would see no sign of submissiveness in me. An ultimate fantasy for me would be to be told by a man to get down on my knees in front of him. I would resist - tell him to fuck off. He'd repeat the demand. I would again tell him to fuck off.
The third time he would tell me, I would readily submit. At that point, he would own me with my full cooperation.
The other reason my desires diverge from my theory is that I would want to submit to a much older man, anywhere from late 50's to mid 60's.
My desire to suck cock has been with me for almost 15 years. My desire to be submissive to an older man was awakened in the most unexpected manner. I wrote a story about it (Penetrating Realization in my stories submissions.)
To summarize, I had to undergo a prostate exam from my urologist for potential prostatitis. He's an older man, friendly, kind, not overtly dominant whatsoever. Such a routine procedure is not sexual in any way, but in my mind it was erotically intoxicating.
Why? As I stood by the examining table he sat on a stool. He proceeded to put on latex gloves and smear KY on his finger. He directed, in my mind authoritatively, to drop my pants and underwear and bend over the table.
With my pants and underwear around my ankles, I leaned over the table and placed my hands on it. He told me to bend over more, and I did, but not enough. His hand came up onto my upper back and he told me to go all the way down so that my chest rested on the table.
Then he told me to spread my ankles apart just a little more...
Something clicked in my head. I felt so vulnerable, so submissive. My anus was being smeared with lubricant and I was being touched where no man had ever touched me before. WIthout any hesitation, or any difficulty, his finger penetrated me and was inside me.
I thought about the fact that a man was penetrating me, and I was willingly allowing it.
He manipulated my prostate with that finger. No man had ever touched my sexual organ responsible for allowing me to ejaculate before. Afterward, he had me stand back up straight, he took my still flaccid penis in his hand and "milked" it to cause a drop of semen to emerge from the tip. He captured the drop onto a slide for examination.
This was, of course, all medically routine, but I was forever changed sexually. If instructed to do so by him I would gladly, willingly submit to that man sexually both orally and anally. The thought of bending over for him and being penetrated by him anally, be it his finger or his cock, is a huge turn-on for me. Honestly it never was before.
Now, be it sucking another man's cock or being penetrated anally, my fantasies that revolve around these activities involve me being totally submissive to the man.
Like most of you, my wife does not know about this aspect of my sexuality. She will never know about it. She just wouldn't understand.
I've personally thought about this question a lot myself as I've gotten older. I'm in my later 40's, happily married, and not attracted to men physically or emotionally.
...but I really want to suck cock.
One of my main theories is that of genetic competition. As we men get older, we become less competitive with younger, more virile males as far as spreading our genes to a breeding female. If we consume the other males' sperm and prevent it from fertilizing a woman of child-bearing age, we potentially become more competitive. Perhaps that might explain some mens' urges.
Mine is totally different.
I never thought about sucking cock until my early 30's or so. I've watched porn voraciously most of my life. My favorite scenes, like many men, is the money shot. There's something deliciously erotic about watching another man ejaculate. Seeing the women in porn enthusiastically consume the semen makes me almost... jealous.
My primary kink is that of submissiveness. I'm a closet submissive. In my real, day-to-day life one would see no sign of submissiveness in me. An ultimate fantasy for me would be to be told by a man to get down on my knees in front of him. I would resist - tell him to fuck off. He'd repeat the demand. I would again tell him to fuck off.
The third time he would tell me, I would readily submit. At that point, he would own me with my full cooperation.
The other reason my desires diverge from my theory is that I would want to submit to a much older man, anywhere from late 50's to mid 60's.
My desire to suck cock has been with me for almost 15 years. My desire to be submissive to an older man was awakened in the most unexpected manner. I wrote a story about it (Penetrating Realization in my stories submissions.)
To summarize, I had to undergo a prostate exam from my urologist for potential prostatitis. He's an older man, friendly, kind, not overtly dominant whatsoever. Such a routine procedure is not sexual in any way, but in my mind it was erotically intoxicating.
Why? As I stood by the examining table he sat on a stool. He proceeded to put on latex gloves and smear KY on his finger. He directed, in my mind authoritatively, to drop my pants and underwear and bend over the table.
With my pants and underwear around my ankles, I leaned over the table and placed my hands on it. He told me to bend over more, and I did, but not enough. His hand came up onto my upper back and he told me to go all the way down so that my chest rested on the table.
Then he told me to spread my ankles apart just a little more...
Something clicked in my head. I felt so vulnerable, so submissive. My anus was being smeared with lubricant and I was being touched where no man had ever touched me before. WIthout any hesitation, or any difficulty, his finger penetrated me and was inside me.
I thought about the fact that a man was penetrating me, and I was willingly allowing it.
He manipulated my prostate with that finger. No man had ever touched my sexual organ responsible for allowing me to ejaculate before. Afterward, he had me stand back up straight, he took my still flaccid penis in his hand and "milked" it to cause a drop of semen to emerge from the tip. He captured the drop onto a slide for examination.
This was, of course, all medically routine, but I was forever changed sexually. If instructed to do so by him I would gladly, willingly submit to that man sexually both orally and anally. The thought of bending over for him and being penetrated by him anally, be it his finger or his cock, is a huge turn-on for me. Honestly it never was before.
Now, be it sucking another man's cock or being penetrated anally, my fantasies that revolve around these activities involve me being totally submissive to the man.
Like most of you, my wife does not know about this aspect of my sexuality. She will never know about it. She just wouldn't understand.
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She never swallowed but would let me shoot in her mouth when we dated... after getting hitched it all tapered off and now no BJ at all she once said she would try again but did not want me to shoot in her mouth but nothing ever happened...
Totally unlike a guy! I missed my milky treat only once.
I'd gagged and took his cock out of my mouth, just for a moment, but it was just as he was coming. My Missus does swallow sometimes, but it's a rarity that she wants to give a full BJ nowadays. Foreplay, yes, but CIM, no.
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Yeppers....
Nothing like a wedding ring to end the blowjobs...
Totally unlike a guy! I missed my milky treat only once.
My Missus does swallow sometimes, but it's a rarity that she wants to give a full BJ nowadays. Foreplay, yes, but CIM, no.
Nothing like a wedding ring to end the blowjobs...
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Totally unlike a guy! I missed my milky treat only once.
My Missus does swallow sometimes, but it's a rarity that she wants to give a full BJ nowadays. Foreplay, yes, but CIM, no.
heck I do not even get a hand job let alone a foreplay bj ... full bj that goes back a good 15+ years
hey...
at least you have the memory of it, albeit--, probably a little fuzzy by now?
I ain't even got that.
at least you have the memory of it, albeit--, probably a little fuzzy by now?
I ain't even got that.
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Truth!
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