Words you hate in a sex story

[TadOverdon]

Not sure why anatomical terms are so challenging.

 

[Djmac1031]

I get peeved when authors use the word vagina when they mean vulva.

I hear ya.

If she's grinding on you, she's using her vulva, and / or labia.

If you're inserting something inside her, it's her vagina.

It shouldn't be so difficult lol.

Pussy I can take to be all encompassing and include multiple parts of the female anatomy.

 

[RichardWark]

So I guess the lesson here is "never say never." Any of these terms are usable in a particular context, although I certainly wish there was a greater variety.

Regarding "vulva." When I use it I am making sure I use it correctly, but I am always fearful that the reader will assume, because it is an oft-misused word, that I am using it mistakenly, so I feel I have to add a phrase or two to prove that I know what I'm saying.

The best use of "cunt" is when things are most intense - one example (not always perfect) is that you've been stroking her pussy all along and now you are going to explode in her cunt.
Just for the hell of it, I should call it a "beaver" once, just to make people retch.

Richard Wark
wark2002

https://www.literotica.com/stories/memberpage.php?uid=5430653&page=submissions

 

[Djmac1031]

The best use of "cunt" is when things are most intense - one example (not always perfect) is that you've been stroking her pussy all along and now you are going to explode in her cunt.
Just for the hell of it, I should call it a "beaver" once, just to make people retch.

Richard Wark
wark2002

https://www.literotica.com/stories/memberpage.php?uid=5430653&page=submissions

Agreed. You delicately lick her sensitive pussy lovingly.

Then you pound her wet cunt to orgasm.

The only "beaver" referenced in a story better be building a dam.

 

[KeithD]

The only "beaver" referenced in a story better be building a dam.

Or be spoken by a character you, as the writer, are trying to give a specific personality to, right?

Such terms exist because there are people who do use them, and if you're going to be a writer, you may need a character in a story someday who would use such terms and you'd like to have a quick way to differentiate and depict such characters to the reader.

 

[NotWise]

Not sure why anatomical terms are so challenging.

If your mother used the word, then it can't be erotic ... right?

 

[Djmac1031]

Or be spoken by a character you, as the writer, are trying to give a specific personality to, right?

Such terms exist because there are people who do use them, and if you're going to be a writer, you may need a character in a story someday who would use such terms and you'd like to have a quick way to differentiate and depict such characters to the reader.

Don't take anything I say TOO seriously. as others have pointed out, there's a time and place for everything.

I'm poking a little fun at some words, and yeah certain terms do genuinely bug me.

But I'm not trying to seriously tell anyone what they should or shouldn't write.

Hell I've probably broken my own rules and used several terms I've complained about and just forgot lol

 

[Bramblethorn]

I get peeved when authors use the word vagina when they mean vulva.

I was delighted by a moment of pedantry in this extremely cheesy porn video, starting at about 3:00:

"Whoa, whoa, whoa. You're getting super close."
"Close?"
"To my vagina."
"Come on. If you want me to get into your hip flexors and your abductors, I need to get in there."
"I understand."
"Are you embarrassed about your vagina? It's very beautiful, you shouldn't be embarrassed at all. It's a very nice vagina, and I've seen quite a few, so I should know. Yeah, it's very nice. Oh yes, very nice vagina... I mean, technically it's your vulva, but whatever."

 

[mynameisben]

My guess would be "retard"/"retarded".

"Whenever I walk through pools of molasses I feel retarded."

That's taboo, huh?


Ben

 

[Bramblethorn]

"Whenever I walk through pools of molasses I feel retarded."

That's taboo, huh?


Ben

Are you being deliberately facetious here, or have you genuinely not noticed that for the last couple of decades "retarded" in general English has been almost exclusively used as an insult/slur?

Take a look through search results for 'retarded' on the Literotica boards. See if you can find even one example where it's not being used as an insult.

Yes, once upon a time it was just a posh way of saying "slowed"/"delayed", and that meaning still survives in some niches of technical English, but outside those niches it became a slur long ago.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

"Whenever I walk through pools of molasses I feel retarded."

That's taboo, huh?


Ben

molasses would retard forward motion.

unless you're walking backwards.



no?

 

[mynameisben]

Are you being deliberately facetious here

Yes, I am.

But I believe it illustrates a very important point. There IS a perfectly innocent and acceptable use for the word "retard" and "retarded" that is not a disparaging epithet aimed at the mentally less fortunate. The niche DOES survive. And as long as it does, I will cling to the word as just another arrow in my quiver of words I use to express myself with the precision the word delivers. Of course, I will use it with caution. But if and when the context demands its use, I would not hesitate to use it if it is the precise word I am looking for.

Carefully chosen words wield great power, and it pisses me off to no end that the lexicon is ever shrinking because so many people leap at the chance to draw their pitchforks in outrage at anyone who uses a word, innocently, that makes them jump at their own shadow. "Snigger" is a perfectly fine word for a half-suppressed laugh. It is a very precise and elegant word. But it has been forever stricken from the language, not because it's offensive in itself, but because it "sounds like" the dreaded N-word by the hoards that jump at their own shadow. That is ridiculous. That is blind, runaway censorship, and it chafes me to the core.

There's the N-word, the C-word, the A-word, the EFG-word, and now the R-word. People are speaking in code because they are too damned scared to say what the hell it is they're scared about. When the alphabet gets exhausted, what then? Ten years from now will we be speaking in code about the Omega-word? Brick by brick, the richness of the English language is being torn down by the scared, the outraged, the ignorant, and the litigious. And like the good Nazis they are, they are ravening at the chance to burn all of Mark Twain's books, too, because they are riddled with the dreaded N-word.

This is a porn site, dammit. You would THINK runaway censorship would be frowned upon here. But people are so damned hair-trigger programmed to take offense at virtually anything under the sun, it prevails here too. And so my vocabulary is muted. And so is yours. It saddens me. And I really think that is a damn shame.

Ben

 

[Bramblethorn]

Yes, I am.

But I believe it illustrates a very important point. There IS a perfectly innocent and acceptable use for the word "retard" and "retarded" that is not a disparaging epithet aimed at the mentally less fortunate. The niche DOES survive. And as long as it does, I will cling to the word as just another arrow in my quiver of words I use to express myself with the precision the word delivers. Of course, I will use it with caution. But if and when the context demands its use, I would not hesitate to use it if it is the precise word I am looking for.

"AINDERBY QUERNHOW (n.) One who continually bemoans the 'loss' of the word 'gay' to the English language, even though they had never used the word in any context at all until they started complaining that they couldn't use it any more." - Douglas Adams and John Lloyd, "The Meaning of Liff".

You've been on Literotica since 2003. In that time you've racked up 45,720 posts on the site forums.

According to the site search function, in all those posts you've used "retarded" just three times:
- Twice today, in this thread, bemoaning the loss of "retarded" to the English language and arguing that it's not just a disparaging epithet
- Once back in 2010 where you were playing on its use as a disparaging epithet.

You've used "retard" four times:
- Once today, in the course of arguing why it's so important for you to be able to use this word, which definitely isn't just a disparaging epithet.
- Twice in word chains games, where the meaning is irrelevant (and where there were many other words that would have done equally well)
- Once back in 2011 where you mention how you used it in a story as a disparaging epithet.

I did find one time where you could have used it in the non-disparaging sense, but that time you opted for "slowed" instead.

All in all, seems like you're being a wee tad disingenuous here.

 

[geronimo_appleby]

"AINDERBY QUERNHOW (n.) One who continually bemoans the 'loss' of the word 'gay' to the English language, even though they had never used the word in any context at all until they started complaining that they couldn't use it any more." - Douglas Adams and John Lloyd, "The Meaning of Liff".

You've been on Literotica since 2003. In that time you've racked up 45,720 posts on the site forums.

According to the site search function, in all those posts you've used "retarded" just three times:
- Twice today, in this thread, bemoaning the loss of "retarded" to the English language and arguing that it's not just a disparaging epithet
- Once back in 2010 where you were playing on its use as a disparaging epithet.

You've used "retard" four times:
- Once today, in the course of arguing why it's so important for you to be able to use this word, which definitely isn't just a disparaging epithet.
- Twice in word chains games, where the meaning is irrelevant (and where there were many other words that would have done equally well)
- Once back in 2011 where you mention how you used it in a story as a disparaging epithet.

I did find one time where you could have used it in the non-disparaging sense, but that time you opted for "slowed" instead.

All in all, seems like you're being a wee tad disingenuous here.

you have waaaaaay too much time on your hands…

 

[rescatooor]

If someone spouts non-PC language in the forest and no one is around to hear it, does anyone really care?

 

[geronimo_appleby]

Some people spend time on things they consider important. What do you spend your time on?

important things.

i mix it up with a balance of [occasional] work, house- and dog-sitting, scripts, smut, and travel - when plagues allow.

Then there’s immediate family - very limited numbers there.

i like a beer, too … with friends, of whom there are but a few.

kinda it.

 

[Jackie.Hikaru]

The word 'clam' comes to mind.

 

[rescatooor]

The word 'clam' comes to mind.

Nothing worse than a clamjam.

 

[rescatooor]

Maybe this doesn't belong in here but are there women out there who actually like being called "baby"? And i don't mean that they're not just ok with it but that they're a little bit into it?My partner sometimes uses endearments like it just to annoy me. I was under the impression that not all that many women like it.

 

[ScrappyPaperDoodler]

Maybe this doesn't belong in here but are there women out there who actually like being called "baby"? And i don't mean that they're not just ok with it but that they're a little bit into it?My partner sometimes uses endearments like it just to annoy me. I was under the impression that not all that many women like it.

I guess it depends on the relationship. Speaking from a dude's perspective, my ex really liked pet names (including baby) and I kind of found it weird/silly. Then again, it was a weird/silly relationship, so it worked for us.

On the other hand, a girl once called me 'daddy' and I got so uncomfortable I left. But, other people love that — in erotica it works and I use it.

 

[TadOverdon]

My partner likes being called by pet names. I like to hear my own name.


If you stick to pet names and terms of endearment, of course, you never have to worry about accidentally yelling the wrong one.

 

[Djmac1031]

Maybe this doesn't belong in here but are there women out there who actually like being called "baby"? And i don't mean that they're not just ok with it but that they're a little bit into it?My partner sometimes uses endearments like it just to annoy me. I was under the impression that not all that many women like it.

It's funny that you bring this up. I'm currently writing the next chapter in my Jenna series, and they're getting truly intimate for the first time. At one point my male character calls her "baby," and she specifically asks him not to.

I stopped writing at that point, wondering where exactly it came from, because I've never personally had a woman say that to me.

But I don't really use "baby" in real life. "Babe" sometimes, but not on a regular basis.

But yeah, thinking about it, "baby" can sound demeaning, coming from a guy. Even if it's not meant that way.

Although it's interesting that it feels more acceptable if the woman calls her man "baby."

No right or wrong or judgement on it from me here, just expressing how I see it.

 

[mynameisben]

You've used "retard" four times:
- Once today, in the course of arguing why it's so important for you to be able to use this word, which definitely isn't just a disparaging epithet.

You have a marvelous capacity to state the obvious.

- Twice in word chains games, where the meaning is irrelevant (and where there were many other words that would have done equally well)

A toweringly petty point that proves absolutely nothing beyond the fact that you will stop at nothing to pursue a personal, ill-supported witch hunt.

- Once back in 2010 where you were playing on its use as a disparaging epithet.

And if you had taken the time to actually READ that post, it would have been obvious, even to you, that I was making the exact same point I am making today.

- Once back in 2011 where you mention how you used it in a story as a disparaging epithet.

That usage was said within a character's quotation, and used only as a means to flesh out how the character thinks, not how I think.

I did find one time where you could have used it in the non-disparaging sense, but that time you opted for "slowed" instead.

Opted to use the non-disparaging sense for good reason. I am not an idiot.

All in all, seems like you're being a wee tad disingenuous here.

In a pig's eye.

Somebody else mentioned that you have way too much time on your hands. How true that surely is. If anyone is "a wee tad disingenuous here" you need only look to yourself.


Ben

 

[geronimo_appleby]

I've only used pet names once, I called him "love" he called me "flower" it was sweet, but I think the appeal was more in how he said it than what he said. I much prefer to hear my own name than what is likely a pet name recycled from one partner to the next.

I do, however, like it when friends refer to me using my screen name even when they know my real name, lol. (Not this sn, another)

i have friends [which may surprise some], a married couple, who call each other 'wanker'.

as a term of endearment, i hasten to add.

'morning, wanker!'

or: 'more tea, wanker?'

 

[Trionyx]

Babe and Baby, Cock and Pussy

The whole issue of not liking the terms ‘baby’ or ‘babe’ was one issue that helped trigger a breakup in my story ‘Fourteen Days of Valentines.’ I never liked the use as a nickname or pet name for a lover and wove that idea into the story.

https://www.literotica.com/s/fourteen-days-of-valentines

There are literally hundreds of terms for female and male anatomy beyond ‘pussy’ and ‘cock’ that can be used in stories. A lot depends on the context, however. Various slang terms for vulva should be used depending upon the speaker or the circumstances. ‘Gash’ might be used by a crude male, ‘the promised land’ by a horny, younger (?virginal) male and ‘coochie’ might be used by the woman herself. ‘Cunny’ is an older term primarily used in England though one can still see it used by women to describe their own vulvas when they prefer not to use ‘pussy’ or ‘cunt.’