LdyHoneybee
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I'll add this: My view is that in fiction "realism" is not the goal. It is not important. The goal is verisimilitude, the "appearance of realism." It means just enough realistic touches to hook the reader and keep the reader from saying "What bullshit!" and clicking out of the story. Readers' needs vary greatly on this subject. As a reader, I'm fairly "easy" in this regard. If the story is artful and the prose is good, I don't care too much whether it's "realistic." Also, as some others have noted here, what seems "unrealistic" to some may seem totally normal to others. Like polyamory, or wife-sharing. To some, these lifestyles are unimaginable; to others, they're part of everyday life. I think if a person, talking about fiction, says "I can't imagine [fill in the blank]" it means they don't have a good imagination.
My view about women characters is that women, like men, are almost infinitely variable, so I'm not too concerned about whether some readers might think, "A woman would never do that!" I feel pretty confident that some women, actually, would, and I feel no obligation to write characters who conform to statistical norms. I focus more on making sure that my characters, male and female, have recognizable personalities and motivations and that their actions are consistent with their motivations. Most of my readers seem OK with the way I've done things, but I've had plenty of readers tell me, "This is stupid trash" or something like that. I'm OK with that, too.