Can you fall in love with someone online?

[Texas_Mom]

You can. I know I have done it. Did not work out but there were no hard feelings.

 

[rc_in33]

I would say yes!

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

I think its possible.



its also possible to never be loved.

 

[blackhillsbbw]

You can. I know I have done it. Did not work out but there were no hard feelings.

Yes, It sometimes just happens and sometimes not.

It happened to me. I lost her 2 years ago to Lupus complications, but it was the best 6 years of my life. Not on this site for posts like this, but I couldn't resist. There is love out there for everyone.

Oh Wow…that is difficult. Thx for sharing that.

 

[blackhillsbbw]

I would say yes!

I would say GREAT!!

 

[blackhillsbbw]

I think its possible.



its also possible to never be loved.

Yes, in life or online. Sometimes it just doesn't happen and can be very disheartening too.

 

[Xeres_4000]

It is very possible with the right person.

 

[SweetSam42]

Thanks, Dani, for helping the thread along.

I do think we can get glimpses of people they either don't or only rarely show in real life. It certainly creates an intimacy and a connection/bond. But I still say it's only part of the puzzle for me to feel "in love" with someone.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

It's entirely possible.

I met my wife by answering a newspaper ad, long before online dating existed. Without her ad, we'd never have met.

 

[Lovely2222]

I met my wife by answering a newspaper ad, long before online dating existed. Without her ad, we'd never have met.

I certainly agree. People have fallen in love exchanging letters, phone calls, etc. Why would it be any different for the internet? The internet is just a different social medium. it facilitates communication. Communication between two people can lead to love.

 

[midwestyankee]

It's absolutely possible, in my experience.

I think that one factor that facilitates this is the speed with which we can communicate online. It only takes a couple dozen PMs here or emails to learn a great deal about each other. And, since paying close attention to someone else while the two of you reveal ever more intimate details is a prerequisite to falling in love, that speed of communication makes it even easier to become very close very quickly.

I also think that the field is wider when you meet people online, especially through a discussion board like Lit, because you won't automatically eliminate some people from discovery. If you restrict yourself to meeting people at your local watering holes or through activities outside of work, you're limited to people who do the same things as you at the same time. Here, I've met people whose daily lives would never have intersected mine even if we lived in the same community.

 

[hugebear]

Am I going to be the only naysayer? I have received a few PMs from people who agree you can fall in love online, but wished to remain anonymous for obvious reasons.

I personally just think that there's too much you don't know about someone you only see in a way they choose to present themselves via chat/email/cam even. I think you only ever see snippets of someone's life, and only the snippets they want to show you. To fall in love with a man, I want to see how he interacts with the world - with friends, with family, I want to see all of him.

Now, I do think attachments certainly happen, and lust, and crushes, and infatuations, and gushy mushy feelings and butterflies, and on and on.

Just my 2 cents. I just don't think I ever could.

I'm going to agree with you now then go back and read the rest of the replies.

 

[emma_the_librarian]

I wonder if half of the person you fall in love with is yourself?
(i.e., do we fill in all the gaps from our wish/want/hope pile inside our own heads?)

 

[hugebear]

I wonder if half of the person you fall in love with is yourself?
(i.e., do we fill in all the gaps from our wish/want/hope pile inside our own heads?)

Yup, or at least I did.

 

[Paul_Chance]

I wonder if half of the person you fall in love with is yourself?
(i.e., do we fill in all the gaps from our wish/want/hope pile inside our own heads?)

Yes, though I think that is true online or off.

 

[Xeres_4000]

Yes, I did.

 

[simplegirl]

I wonder if half of the person you fall in love with is yourself?
(i.e., do we fill in all the gaps from our wish/want/hope pile inside our own heads?)

I think is many cases, this is the outcome. You can fall in love, but you're falling in love with an ideal. People can present themselves as pretty much anything on line and in letters. I think it's easier to hide our warts. And it's easier for our minds to fill in the blanks with what we hope/want. After all, it's not by accident that death row prisoners manage to make countless women fall in love with them and marry while in prison, or that countless people get defrauded of their savings on dating sites.

 

[blackhillsbbw]

Thanks, Dani, for helping the thread along.

I do think we can get glimpses of people they either don't or only rarely show in real life. It certainly creates an intimacy and a connection/bond. But I still say it's only part of the puzzle for me to feel "in love" with someone.

You are welcome! I try to do my part!!

I certainly agree. People have fallen in love exchanging letters, phone calls, etc. Why would it be any different for the internet? The internet is just a different social medium. it facilitates communication. Communication between two people can lead to love.

I totally agree …no different. And yes, opening ourselves up to others …can lead to all kinds of wonderful things!

 

[blackhillsbbw]

It's absolutely possible, in my experience.

I think that one factor that facilitates this is the speed with which we can communicate online. It only takes a couple dozen PMs here or emails to learn a great deal about each other. And, since paying close attention to someone else while the two of you reveal ever more intimate details is a prerequisite to falling in love, that speed of communication makes it even easier to become very close very quickly.

I also think that the field is wider when you meet people online, especially through a discussion board like Lit, because you won't automatically eliminate some people from discovery. If you restrict yourself to meeting people at your local watering holes or through activities outside of work, you're limited to people who do the same things as you at the same time. Here, I've met people whose daily lives would never have intersected mine even if we lived in the same community.

Well said! I concur!! The speed of communication is really a good point and if we are totally honest and paying close attention we do learn a great deal about the other.

 

[Cutekitten6789]

It is most definitely possible!

 

[blackhillsbbw]

It's a No brainer...

I think we come at this from all angles and directions….in other words our personalities can get in the way too as well as hearts and minds.

I have fallen in love here…No question. I have discovered there are so many men out there with different personalities that I can love. I'm starting to question Monogamy in marriage for a life time. But I also know that there are so many variables and factors in love and falling into it; that each case is its' own.

 

[JudasIscariot]

Not for me.

I think falling in love with someone online is perhaps more falling in love with the 'idea' of such persons.

Falling for somebody's mannerisms, humour and personality pales in comparison to falling in love with someone on a physical level as-well as those characteristics.

Online or none physical the power of words is too heavily relied on. Besides, words can be meaningless and false. However, you can often fall in love and express that love by a simple look, kiss or touch without words.

For me online love is not real love, it's an artificial love.

 

[sogrl90]

^^This^^

 

[vibes]

Not for me.

I think falling in love with someone online is perhaps more falling in love with the 'idea' of such persons.

Falling for somebody's mannerisms, humour and personality pales in comparison to falling in love with someone on a physical level as-well as those characteristics.

Online or none physical the power of words is too heavily relied on. Besides, words can be meaningless and false. However, you can often fall in love and express that love by a simple look, kiss or touch without words.

For me online love is not real love, it's an artificial love.

All true ... until you fall for it

 

[JudasIscariot]

All true ... until you fall for it

Look on the bright side, you've learnt a lesson.