Daddy's Little Girl - Fourth Edition

[Booboobear84]

I have a language quibble here. Hugs are not a "transfer" of energy, which implies that someone gives and someone takes. Hugs are addition of energy to both people.

 

[Strixaluco]

I have a language quibble here. Hugs are not a "transfer" of energy, which implies that someone gives and someone takes. Hugs are addition of energy to both people.

If they are mutual.

 

[Booboobear84]

If they are mutual.

True. I can't imagine another kind (and more to the point I don't want to, shudder), but they may well exist. I can be naive at times.

 

[Strixaluco]

True. I can't imagine another kind (and more to the point I don't want to, shudder), but they may well exist. I can be naive at times.

I couldn't imagine them either before I experienced them. Repeatedly, for years. Shudders

 

[IARainman]

I have a language quibble here. Hugs are not a "transfer" of energy, which implies that someone gives and someone takes. Hugs are addition of energy to both people.

Where does the energy originate?

 

[JerseyJade]

I love this!

 

[Strixaluco]

Where does the energy originate?

I guess it must be like a heat pump - using a little energy to transfer a lot of energy. If both hug, then both get more than they use!

(Engineer here )

 

[ARoseSoSweet]

True. I can't imagine another kind (and more to the point I don't want to, shudder), but they may well exist. I can be naive at times.

We used to have a guy who came out to munches that would hug people without consent. He was quickly taught better and everyone was happy. I will admit that I sometimes consented to hugs because I felt it was easier (silly of me)

 

[Booboobear84]

We used to have a guy who came out to munches that would hug people without consent. He was quickly taught better and everyone was happy. I will admit that I sometimes consented to hugs because I felt it was easier (silly of me)

Ugh. That seems unpleasant. I guess I can only imagining hugging someone who clearly needs and wants it.

 

[ARoseSoSweet]

Ugh. That seems unpleasant. I guess I can only imagining hugging someone who clearly needs and wants it.

I think you can look like you need a hug but not want people to physically touch you. I'm beyond needing a hug but I am typically picky about who can touch me (that has changed over time)

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I never initiate a hug, unless I see a friend who's upset. I don't mind hugging.. it's just not my thing...

 

[Azuldrgon]

I've learned to seek consent prior to hugging.
Lot less cringing and such.

 

[Booboobear84]

I think you can look like you need a hug but not want people to physically touch you. I'm beyond needing a hug but I am typically picky about who can touch me (that has changed over time)

I always ask do you need (or want) a hug. It prevents cringyness, but if I don't see someone in need, I won't ask (less cringing all around).

 

[barefootgirl69]

I am a hugger, but I'm picky about who hugs me. Trauma from an earlier time in life, let's say.

Being hugged as a child wasn't something I received from my mom. It's not that she didn't care or was unfeeling. She showed me in other ways that she cared, but I NEEDED HUGS. So at 17, I caught her in the hall one day and hugged her (she just stood there). I did it every day and told her I loved her. Eventually, her arms would come and rest at my side, then she started to hug me back. After a while, she said I love you back.

But, I still have to be careful of my friends. Not all of them like hugs and I want to respect that.

 

[hairball18]

I am a hugger. I am selective in who I hug to eliminate causing any discomfort to someone who is not a hugger.

 

[Girly_girl]

I’m a hugger also(big surprise, huh)but I do have a few friends who don’t, so I give them their space to cause any discomfort.

 

[13Fantasies]

Hugs have always been my specialty. I do it less now than when I was younger because I don't want anyone forced into an uncomfortable situation.

Good thing my kids are still small enough to love hugging me.

 

[SherlockianMan]

Confession time. I used to be really creeped out by this dynamic. I misinterpreted it as some weird incest fetish, since I had no experience with it. A few years back, someone I'm close to confessef that they call their partner "Daddy" and explained the dynamic and its significance. Since then, I've often thought of how nice it would be to be someone's Daddy. I'm a gentle, romantic type who always seems to end up in relationships that don't satisfy my urge to be a caring and giving lover. It would be lovely to one day experience this type of relationship, if even just virtual.

 

[Strixaluco]

Oh dear. I just ran across Book Nook miniature worlds... Yikes, not good for my budget or organisation of my bookshelves!

 

[Booboobear84]

Confession time. I used to be really creeped out by this dynamic. I misinterpreted it as some weird incest fetish, since I had no experience with it. A few years back, someone I'm close to confessef that they call their partner "Daddy" and explained the dynamic and its significance. Since then, I've often thought of how nice it would be to be someone's Daddy. I'm a gentle, romantic type who always seems to end up in relationships that don't satisfy my urge to be a caring and giving lover. It would be lovely to one day experience this type of relationship, if even just virtual.

Yup, been there. In my case it was this thread that 1) explained it to me and 2) gave me a name for what I was feeling but couldn't articulate. Be careful of needy ladies looking for daddy, they can be confused themselves (and we won't even talk about guys who think they are daddies but don't actually get it). It's clear you have grabbed the essence which is love and respect (for me it's caring mentoring and protecting, but you can see how that comes under love and respect).

 

[cascadiabound]

Oh dear. I just ran across Book Nook miniature worlds... Yikes, not good for my budget or organisation of my bookshelves!

They are SO cool! I think fortunately for me, my shelves are already quite full! So I'll just drool a little over the ads

 

[cascadiabound]

Confession time. I used to be really creeped out by this dynamic. I misinterpreted it as some weird incest fetish, since I had no experience with it. A few years back, someone I'm close to confessef that they call their partner "Daddy" and explained the dynamic and its significance. Since then, I've often thought of how nice it would be to be someone's Daddy. I'm a gentle, romantic type who always seems to end up in relationships that don't satisfy my urge to be a caring and giving lover. It would be lovely to one day experience this type of relationship, if even just virtual.

Well said. I couldn't agree more. I have limited experience but look forward to hopefully experiencing this more in the future.

Welcome to this special thread.
Many of us didn't understand this dynamic when we first ran across it and/or had a negative reaction thinking about a sexual partner somehow getting confused with a biological father or parental father.
I know I learned a lot reading other people's thoughts and slowly recognizing that my needs fall within this spectrum.

May I recommend you read back thru this thread and it's two prior incarnations- lots of great content. And folks are here to have thoughtful supportive conversations. You've probably already gotten the message that one thing this thread isn't, is a quick pick up/match making thread.

And from the discussion on this page about hugging, we are thoughtful about consent with everything, including non sexual touch/hugging. (And I am definitely a hugger by nature)

 

[TomTeacher19]

I love hugging and always have. And I hug everyone. A lot. I don't do it unless it's wanted but everyone who knows me knows I'm always up for a hug or two.

 

[Strixaluco]

Sighs contentedly

What doesn't Daddy make better!

 

[BiBunny]

I generally find hugs awkward. I'll allow them if you're someone I'm friends with, but I can never quite get past the awkwardness I feel when someone hugs me. Except for Daddy. His hugs are full-body hugs, so you feel like you can sort of melt into them, rather than worrying about if you're too close or not close enough or whatever.

(Yes, I am autistic. Why do you ask? )