Defining Love

[midwestyankee]

What promise?

So an offer to try is not a promise? OK, fair enough.


Still hope you'll forget the offer to try, though. I do enjoy it when you exquisate.

 

[Guest]

 

[midwestyankee]

Is this a more exquisite form of conversate?

Something like that.

 

[Guest]

 

[midwestyankee]

OK, thanks. I figured that but couldn't find it in any of my desk or online dictionary sources.

It's a yankism - coined right before your very eyes.

 

[GiveawayGirl]

Is this a more exquisite form of conversate?

By definition (mine of course), it's when Yank posts and I follow him around quoting his typos, arguing against his positions, and generally making a nuisance of myself in order to annoy him.

And I have to say, I'm pretty darn good at it!

 

[midwestyankee]

By definition (mine of course), it's when Yank posts and I follow him around quoting his typos, arguing against his positions, and generally making a nuisance of myself in order to annoy him.

And I have to say, I'm pretty darn good at it!

Need I say more?

 

[GiveawayGirl]

So an offer to try is not a promise? OK, fair enough.


Still hope you'll forget the offer to try, though. I do enjoy it when you exquisate.

I could promise, Yank, but you'd never know if I had my fingers crossed, would you?

 

[GiveawayGirl]

Need I say more?

No, but sooner or later you will!

Okay, let's keep this wonderful thread on course.


It has been said that there is a thin line between love and hate. If we consider this to be true, do you think it means I'm in love with you Yankster?

 

[midwestyankee]

I could promise, Yank, but you'd never know if I had my fingers crossed, would you?

Heck, with that hat I'd never know if your eyes were crossed either.

 

[GiveawayGirl]

Cathleen, my most sincere apology to you. I have no idea what causes me to get so uncontrollably annoying sometimes. I'm sorry that I had one of my "spells" in the middle of your very beautiful thread.

Please forgive me. (Yank made me do it, honest. It was all his fault)

 

[midwestyankee]

Cathleen, my most sincere apology to you. I have no idea what causes me to get so uncontrollably annoying sometimes. I'm sorry that I had one of my "spells" in the middle of your very beautiful thread.

Please forgive me. (Yank made me do it, honest. It was all his fault)

Scaly, this is an example of exquisating, as I'm quoting GG in order to preserve her typo for all time.

 

[GiveawayGirl]

Scaly, this is an example of exquisating, as I'm quoting GG in order to preserve her typo for all time.

Consider it a gift, Yankster. After all, you've been so generous with me of late.

 

[midwestyankee]

Consider it a gift, Yankster. After all, you've been so generous with me of late.

I could be generous of latté too, if circumstances ever permitted.

 

[GiveawayGirl]

I could be generous of latté too, if circumstances ever permitted.

This is a very sweet thing to say. Unfortunately, I've given up lattes recently. Besides, my mother always told me to never take latte from strangers!

 

[midwestyankee]

No, but sooner or later you will!

Okay, let's keep this wonderful thread on course.


It has been said that there is a thin line between love and hate. If we consider this to be true, do you think it means I'm in love with you Yankster?

Sorry, I missed this post in the flurry.

Interesting point, GG, though I don't think that it's true that love and hate are so close. They are powerful states, to be sure, and sometimes it seems as if someone moves from a state of hate to a state of love in a flash. More often, I think that what's going on in these situations is a bad case of denial being overwhelmed by the truth.

On a comedic level, this transition is the basis for many of the great screwball comedies. I think of the disdain with which Cary Grant's character held the Katherine Hepburn character in Bringing Up Baby or the slow winning over of Spencer Tracy that Katherine Hepburn managed in The Desk Set or State of the Union.

I know you had a question in here somewhere, but you know what happens when I have a chance to wax analytical.

 

[it_matters]

"Love" is something we try to define when we aren't busy being in it...

 

[midwestyankee]

This is a very sweet thing to say. Unfortunately, I've given up lattes recently. Besides, my mother always told me to never take latte from strangers!

I doubt if I'm any stranger than anyone else you know - well, as long as you discount my eating habits.

 

[midwestyankee]

"Love" is something we try to define when we aren't busy being in it...

With all due respect, i_m, I think it's common for some people to think about their conditions at all times. When in love, some people like to try to understand what it is they're going through. I know that has been the case for me - that while I am definitely in a state of love, I also enjoy trying to understand it better. That's what this thread is all about.

 

[it_matters]

Originally Posted by it_matters
"Love" is something we try to define when we aren't busy being in it...

With all due respect, i_m, I think it's common for some people to think about their conditions at all times. When in love, some people like to try to understand what it is they're going through. I know that has been the case for me - that while I am definitely in a state of love, I also enjoy trying to understand it better. That's what this thread is all about.

hey, yank - not to be taken too seriously. if you look down the thread, you'll see I have poured a few hundred words into The Definition as well... and will continue.

But then again: DO take it seriously! The idea has as much merit as my more verbose posts, does it not? When I am involved with someone, it is all the experience of loving, all the beauties, all of the fears, all being broken open, all retreating to put yourself back together again... all the meeting and parting?

I find myself able to consider it theoretically only from a safe vantage point - one I don't really enjoy at present

So let the water wash over the heart, and find what sinks. what swims, what floats, what drowns. What is love? Any words I wrap around it will be far smaller than what my experience of it is.

 

[wicked woman]

Bumping....seeing if there are any more thoughts about love.



Although love can be defined by our actions (I'll definitely believe your actions over your words if the two conflict), I think sometimes it can also be shown by what we don't do. You have to love someone an awful lot to let them go when you don't want to.

 

[Darkknight2010]

Although love can be defined by our actions (I'll definitely believe your actions over your words if the two conflict), I think sometimes it can also be shown by what we don't do. You have to love someone an awful lot to let them go when you don't want to.

Oy... that is a VERY hard thing to do.

Things didn't work out with someone very, very special and dear to me from college... it turned into a pretty big mess... letting go is VERY hard... but it's the only thing I could do...

 

[krazeekat]

There was an article here (local newspaper) where the writer, who is married for 18yrs wrote that "love is not a feeling, it is a decision". I'm not sure if I can agree with her. Staying commited is a decision. Staying faithful is also a decision. However staying in love? Can you call it a decision and if you do, decision of what? Continue to love? Can you dictate how your heart should feel and act?

 

[Darkknight2010]

There was an article here (local newspaper) where the writer, who is married for 18yrs wrote that "love is not a feeling, it is a decision". I'm not sure if I can agree with her. Staying commited is a decision. Staying faithful is also a decision. However staying in love? Can you call it a decision and if you do, decision of what? Continue to love? Can you dictate how your heart should feel and act?

HMmmmmmmmmmmmmmm... interesting idea... well, it goes back to what your definition of 'love' is, really. If it's a matter of actions, emotional attachment, being fond of someone, being able to tolerate someone, or the range of possibilities in between.

In many ways it's both. We CHOOSE to stick it out, we CHOOSE to look-past someone's qurks and stay with them. On the other hand the reason we stay is because of the FEELING we have when we're with them and that over-rides everything else.

 

[wicked woman]

Oy... that is a VERY hard thing to do.

Things didn't work out with someone very, very special and dear to me from college... it turned into a pretty big mess... letting go is VERY hard... but it's the only thing I could do...

sounds like you understand what I meant.