Dissection of The Slut

[ownedsubgal]

I like sluts and I don't need them to be my slut, but I do like to punish them for it. Sluttiness is all well and good and even to be encouraged, but it must not go unpunished.

being a slut is it's own punishment.

 

[DarkLadyOfDeath]

Being a slut is it's own punishment...

Quite true.

sexually I'm a voraciouse eater.

I get edgey and even aggresive if I've gone without for a day let alone a week without orgasm.

little shame in my sexual desires or how I get them fulfilled nowadays.

on the flip..

I'm exceedingly picky in my bed partners

my vibrator has more miles on it then my car does.

IN public I am "classy" and a "lady"


Maybe I'm a slut in the closet?..

And I've found there are more male sluts then female sluts out there. Or maybe it's just the wisconsin cheese getting to my head again?

 

[rosco rathbone]

being a slut is it's own punishment.

Maybe so but that never stopped me from heaping insult on top of injury.

"Dissection of the slut" sounds like a thread topic at jacktheripper.org

 

[catalina_francisco]

Maybe so but that never stopped me from heaping insult on top of injury.

"Dissection of the slut" sounds like a thread topic at jacktheripper.org

LOL, hadn't thought of it that way but then part of the allure is the aspect of which you speak, and possibly in darker moments the thought of further chilling consequences. If there was no punishment or payback, what would be the whole point of being a slut?

Catalina

 

[TaintedB]

If there was no punishment or payback, what would be the whole point of being a slut?

Catalina

Uh, to have a lot of sex?

(sorry, just had to play vanilla's advocate here.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Uh, to have a lot of sex?

(sorry, just had to play vanilla's advocate here.

LOL, well I have always enjoyed a lot of sex, vanilla and otherwise.

Catalina

 

[truecelt2]

Double standard

A lot of great posts here. Sure, different definitions, motivations, turn ons.

Society says it's OK to be a male slut but terrible to be a female slut.
To illustrate, here's a joke:

Guy to his buddies: "Hey I just heard about that new bar that just opened up --
It's awesome! You buy one or two drinks, then you drink free for the rest of the night -- AND get laid in the back room!"

His buddies are naturally skeptical and ask if he's been there or if this is hearsay.

He admits, "Well, no I haven't actually been there myself,
but my sister has and she told me all about it."

 

[catalina_francisco]

A lot of great posts here. Sure, different definitions, motivations, turn ons.

Society says it's OK to be a male slut but terrible to be a female slut.

Ain't this the truth? You would think things would have changed by now but it seems it is still alive and well in the minds of most people, at least on some level of judgement. And they say humans are the most intelligent life on earth?!!

Catalina

 

[TaintedB]

This thread title would make a great name for a gory B movie.

 

[catalina_francisco]

This thread title would make a great name for a gory B movie.

Damn, you've worked out how my mind works!!

Catalina

 

[TaintedB]

Damn, you've worked out how my mind works!!

Catalina

GMTA. :~p

 

[Private_Label]

"slut" is defined as a sexually promiscuous (one who has sex indiscriminate with multiple partners) woman, or a female prostitute.

older definitions for "slut" include female servant, a low-class "slovenly" woman, or a female dog.


i don't think enjoying sex has ever been part of the criteria for being an actual slut, but that isn't to say there haven't been those who think of any woman who enjoys sex as a slut.

I guess I fit the older definition: Female servant as I only am "promiscuous" for one - only crave sex from that one. He likes to call me slut.

 

[catalina_francisco]

So does anyone else have a penchant for a good male slut who just begs to be bad while trying not to be but realising the fight is futile?!!

Catalina

 

[truecelt2]

Catalina - Not sure I understand...

Not sure I understand what you mean here.
A delicious paradox for me is she enticing me to slutty behavior in a less than suitable setting (For whatever reasons: location, privacy, proximity to those who might frown on such behavior - lol- like the boss in the office)
And trying to fight the urge.
Talk about futile fights...

So does anyone else have a penchant for a good male slut who just begs to be bad while trying not to be but realising the fight is futile?!!

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

Not sure I understand what you mean here.
A delicious paradox for me is she enticing me to slutty behavior in a less than suitable setting (For whatever reasons: location, privacy, proximity to those who might frown on such behavior - lol- like the boss in the office)
And trying to fight the urge.
Talk about futile fights...

LOL, it covers a lot though I suspect I was thinking of the desire to hide the reality, but slowly and achingly at first, then eagerly, revealing all one's dirty little secret desires...and hoping they will be used against him for everyone's ultimate pleasure and fun...and then some. ..oh, and how the slut desire and behaviour totally contradicts their normal everyday facade.

Catalina

 

[truecelt2]

So! It's like that is it?

In my best John Cleese voice:
"It's people like you what cause unrest."
xo

 

[catalina_francisco]

In my best John Cleese voice:
"It's people like you what cause unrest."
xo

LOL, well as I am a good girl, I am doing my best to keep researching such sluts personally.....damn, but it is hard work.

Catalina

 

[truecelt2]

"good girl"??

I mean no offense - but did you just say "I am a good girl,"??
Isn't that curious - I could have sworn you were one of that most desirable of species - the bad girl.

As for "I am doing my best to keep researching such sluts personally.....damn, but it is hard work," I am sure you approach this as the labor of love it truly is. ;-)

All the best!
xo

 

[catalina_francisco]

I mean no offense - but did you just say "I am a good girl,"??
Isn't that curious - I could have sworn you were one of that most desirable of species - the bad girl.

As for "I am doing my best to keep researching such sluts personally.....damn, but it is hard work," I am sure you approach this as the labor of love it truly is. ;-)

All the best!
xo

LOL, but it is that constant battle to be good/bad which is most interesting. Wasn't it Mae West who said something to the effect 'When I'm good, I'm good.....when I'm bad, I'm even better'?

Catalina

 

[Alt]

For those who recognise the slut within themselves:

* What is your definition of a slut within the world of D/s and BDSM?
For me it is a freedom to set sexual side loose, somewhat a sensuous liberty from mainstream inhibitions. It is a way to become a modern day explorer/adventurer and pleaser at the same time.

* How deep does it go? Where are your limits?
I enjoy pushing the boundaries back further and further. Really, the limits are set by my Mistress.

* What is it which attracts you to the role?
It is a natural exhileration, almost what it may feel like to spread wings and fly.

* Do you feel comfortable admitting it, giving it free rein or offering the idea to a Dominant for guidance, exploration, play?
I enjoy being a male slut, be it direct or through innuendo.

* Does it thrill you, scare you, tempt you to turn fantasy into reality?
All of the above mixed into one tumultuous feeling.

* Is there a love/hate relationship with that side of you?
More like love-love!

 

[hoodooman]

oh...it's those cravings which grow stronger with neglect...cravings which grow more urgent...the ones which interrupt no matter where or when...the allure of a scene of debauchery playing out in my mind...

and then to have it come true...ah yes, that's what i want

 

[catalina_francisco]

This has not seen the light of day for awhile and thought is might be time for a bump so we can continue the exploration and dissection.

Catalina

 

[gingermango]

Thanks for bumping this thread - I saw it a long time ago and never responded, so here it is:

For those who recognise the slut within themselves:

* What is your definition of a slut within the world of D/s and BDSM?

Someone who is wanton in their sexuality, especially in the submissive role. Wantonly trying to attain pleasure, or wantonly serving to pleasure others. No shame, no fear, nothing but the urge for physical sensation, either my own or my partner's.

* How deep does it go? Where are your limits?

VERY deep. As a submissive slut, once Goddess has taken me down to that emotional level, I woud do nearly anything she commanded me to do in order to try to reach orgasm myself, or to please those she has directed me to please. I probably still wouldn't be excited by blood or scat or the few other deep-seated taboos I still possess, but I'd do what she told me to do, especially if she was there, playing up my slutty nature - telling me how much of a slut I am, reminding me how much I really enjoy what I'm doing and how embarrassed I would be if certain people could see me now, et cetera.

* What is it which attracts you to the role?

Good question, and a hard one to answer. I was very strait-laced growing up, very regimented in terms of schedules and likes and dislikes, and exceedingly picky about tastes, smells, textures, etc. The slut role, for me, is the antithesis of what I was like as a teenager and young adult. It's liberating to just BE, and it's exciting when a dominant fetishes the role by underscoring how opposite it is from what society "expects" of a 30-something year old man. Telling me how dirty I am, how much I ought to hate what I'm doing yet how much I love it, and so forth, deepens the emotional pull of being the slut, and also heightens the power that the scene has in my mind.

* Do you feel comfortable admitting it, giving it free rein or offering the idea to a Dominant for guidance, exploration, play?

Yes, I do now, though I certainly didn't when I was younger, when I was first learning what I am and how to express my needs and wants. I guess I'm more comfortable now because when I met my Goddess (who is also my wife), I knew I was meeting a woman who was at least "Domme-curious" and who wanted to explore taking that role in a r/l relationship, but I wasn't sure how far that would go, nor what particular kinks or fetishes she would have. As it turns out, turning a "normal" looking guy into a slut for her pleasure and amusement was always there, in the back of her mind, until she met me. So we have been able to explore this together. Consequently, we are both becoming much more comfortable with our needs and desires, including my need to be her slut.

* Does it thrill you, scare you, tempt you to turn fantasy into reality?

Yes, yes, and yes! We have turned my "sluttishness" into reality in the context of our private play, and to a very limited extent in our playing with others - we do not have an "open" relationship, but we do swing/swap with selected couples. It's hard to find kink-friendly couples who won't be turned off by the manner in which we play when we "play kinky". Ergo, only one other couple we've played with has seen that side of our relationship. Fortunately, HE is the slut of that relationship as well, so it worked out very well.

* Is there a love/hate relationship with that side of you?

Yes, I think so. I'm still the "victim of my upbringing" in some respects - I have certain deep-seated emotional taboos, out-dated notions about what I'm "supposed" to be like or how I'm "supposed" to act. Being the slut therefore manages to be both wrong, and o-so-perfectly right at the same time. That dichotomy is what fuels the lust and the desire to relive the role repeatedly for me.

Thanks for these questions, by the way. Answering them has been very interesting and it's made me think analytically about some things I hadn't really considered in a good long while.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Thanks for such a great post gingermango. I think some find it too analytical, but in part that is what I wanted, to get down to the nitty gritty so to speak and perhaps spark thought before wishing too hard for something that for some is best left as fantasy only. I have to agree with you that the dichotomy does feed that irresistable desire to go through the torture/pleasure of it all, repeatedly. The struggle within can be delicious while also very challenging and confronting.

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

My mind has been wandering again so thought I would bump this for those who might want to contribute to the discussion.

Catalina