Do you hide your sexual needs from your significant other?

[Vitriolhack]

My husband and I are totally open about everything with eachother, which allows us to live a sexually fulfilling and exciting lifestyle.

You are a very lucky couple. More power to the both of you.

 

[Vitriolhack]

The past few years she hasnt fulfilled them at all.

Oh dear, are you ok?

 

[LeftToRight]

I once opened up to him and he laughed, thought I was joking. I laughed back to cover and just left it at that.

He wouldn't be into it.

That just plain sucks. Sorry that was your experience. :-/

 

[Vitriolhack]

I once opened up to him and he laughed, thought I was joking. I laughed back to cover and just left it at that.

He wouldn't be into it.

Oh Anna, what a terrible experience.

I hope that this experience has not left you too bitter towards him. The last thing you want is acrimonious feelings towards him.

Free hugs (((Anna)))

 

[CuMex1]

So has a really high libido and she also has a slightly whorish mouth, shes not really shy about voicing her sexual needs for the most part lol. I guess there are certain things I'd like to share but I dont really. Unsure how she'd take it.

 

[Vitriolhack]

So has a really high libido and she also has a slightly whorish mouth, shes not really shy about voicing her sexual needs for the most part lol. I guess there are certain things I'd like to share but I dont really. Unsure how she'd take it.

What’s whorish to some is a simple voicing of one’s like to others.

How frustrating is it for you not to share the things you want to? Are you simply afraid of her reaction? Or how you think she will perceive you?

 

[Optiman888]

I have always been driven by the wifesharing/cuckold lifestyle and I have always raised the subject eventually with any partner. Mostly it has been discussed and we skip down that road to debauchery together, but occasionally she just can't understand my desires/fantasies, so I don't go on about it.

 

[Vitriolhack]

I have always been driven by the wifesharing/cuckold lifestyle and I have always raised the subject eventually with any partner. Mostly it has been discussed and we skip down that road to debauchery together, but occasionally she just can't understand my desires/fantasies, so I don't go on about it.

Do you yourself understand why you want to see your partner with another person?
Obviously it’s exciting to you, but what about it makes it exciting?
Can you explain it to yourself? Then maybe you can explain them to someone else and, if you are lucky, they will like it also!

 

[DDBustyBrit]

Totally I’d scare him to death

 

[Vitriolhack]

Totally I’d scare him to death

Yeah, not a lot of people do!

Sadly! But, at least, we have literotica!

 

[chame1eon]

No we're both pretty open minded.

 

[Vitriolhack]

No we're both pretty open minded.

How great that the two of you found each other.

 

[Optiman888]

Do you yourself understand why you want to see your partner with another person?
Obviously it’s exciting to you, but what about it makes it exciting?
Can you explain it to yourself? Then maybe you can explain them to someone else and, if you are lucky, they will like it also!

Yes Vitriolhack, I do understand my somewhat kinky desires. Over the years, I have always felt this way about my wives/partners, and my thinking has become thoroughly conditioned to sharing them with other men, often total strangers. It seems to be a classic Madonna/slut scenario with me. I admire and respect women who lead a faithful and monogamous life, but I am only able to enjoy a fully satisfying sexlife with my wife/partner if she is taking cock from other men and living a slutwife life. I guess it boils down to my need for sex with a partner who enjoys a lot of cocks, and while I am not bi, I love the feel and taste of a well used wife.

 

[MaBelle3120]

My relationship with my SO is a kink relationship, so we are open about our wants and needs.

However, while I have been open about the things that I enjoyed in the past, some of those are things that I know he does not like and would not be open to trying with me, so I refrained from expressing to him 'how' much I actually really really enjoy those things. I figure it's something I can live without.

 

[Vitriolhack]

My relationship with my SO is a kink relationship, so we are open about our wants and needs.

However, while I have been open about the things that I enjoyed in the past, some of those are things that I know he does not like and would not be open to trying with me, so I refrained from expressing to him 'how' much I actually really really enjoy those things. I figure it's something I can live without.

Have you written a story about it? This sure as hell sound like fun!

 

[QuasiSemiDemiEsqueIsh]

I will admit that I have had more meaningful conversations on the lit chat with virtual strangers that with my wife.

Having tried to talk to her about it, I know how she would react and judge me.

I am not unhappy about the choices I have made, but, I am curious to know if others here in the same boat I am in?

I don’t hide my sexual needs from either of my partners. Even if they’re not into something (which does happen), they still know that I am. They just know that I’m not asking them to do anything they’re not interested in doing.

I think being BDSM/poly really helps me with that, because my partners know that I’m not relying on them to meet needs they can’t—I can just find an additional partner who can—, so conflicting needs aren’t inherently threatening to the relationship. Plus, a BDSM relationship is so dependent on honest, open communication that I think most kinksters learn pretty quickly how to listen without judging.

 

[GuessImJamie]

Definitely, I also refuse to tell cab drivers where I am going and make waiters guess what I would like for dinner. I find it makes life much more interesting.

aka Jamie

 

[sterculius]

Although I did admit to my wife that as a teenager I used to enjoy giving blowjobs to my best friend Larry and was his willing and enthusiastic personal cocksucker all through high school, I omitted telling her that I still love sucking cock and routinely meet with men to give them blowjobs.

 

[QuasiSemiDemiEsqueIsh]

Definitely, I also refuse to tell cab drivers where I am going and make waiters guess what I would like for dinner. I find it makes life much more interesting.

aka Jamie

I lol’d.

 

[LizVegas79]

I pretend not to but ....

 

[Que]

I pretend not to but ....

We've not interacted as far as I remember, but I'm an Amavid reader of your posts. I've enjoyed following Along on your adventures in have read between the lines on a couple of things which are probably not accurate but since this is my fantasy about your fantasy life it will do.

It sounds like you're actually fairly open-minded about letting him know what it is that you are interested in but you have tried that and found that he's not as open as you would prefer.

I also get the sense and I think that at times you about right stated that it's kind of fun to have this naughty space to someone publicly discuss your fantasies in ways that are secret from him. Identify with the thrill of having Secrets but my history was a little tortured in the sense that my ex was actually more than open-minded enough it's just something about having my own little secret space was important to me.

 

[Vitriolhack]

Although I did admit to my wife that as a teenager I used to enjoy giving blowjobs to my best friend Larry and was his willing and enthusiastic personal cocksucker all through high school, I omitted telling her that I still love sucking cock and routinely meet with men to give them blowjobs.

Do you think she wonders about it? What was her reaction when you told her?

 

[Vitriolhack]

Ya my wife is very vanilla. Not will to try things or talk about. Seems to get mad when we talk about sex. For a long time she would come only once and I got feed up and mad and said let loose you might enjoy it so she did now it’s 3-4 times she orgasms same thing with ass play I love my ass messed with she knows that so I have to get mad for her to do it it very frustrating and I have so much more I want to do with her fucklicking cream pie eating. mmf. I keep telling her you only live once.

Try not to get angry, anger has a nasty tendency of reopening old wounds. Don’t fall in them again.

 

[sterculius]

Do you think she wonders about it? What was her reaction when you told her?

I initially admitted to her that I used to enjoy not only sucking but particularly being savagely deep throat fucked by my best friend Larry's VERY big cock because I wanted her to know I could relate to the intense pleasure a woman must experience from having her body penetrated by a big cock. She was quite surprised by my revelation but ultimately attributed it to adolescent sexual experimentation which, in fact, it was. I neglected to add that I never really stopped "experimenting"! A number of times I have attempted to revisit this conversation with her, in the hope that I might be honest with her regarding my ongoing activities and convince her to accept my oral obsession, but she quickly changes the subject, the last time becoming quite annoyed at my persistence. I think she might suspect that I'm still a Cocksucker but would prefer not to know for sure.

 

[Bellagreen]

So this is actually what drew me into the forums. It's so liberating to know I'm not alone in what I want in the bedroom! Reading others posts is actually what led me to tell my husband what I want. The only thing it changed is that he FINALLY started going down on me. Which, yes, that's nice. But..he has the ability to make me feel smaller for what I want. To him, the reason I want him to take complete control during sex is because of who I am as a person. Now every argument comes back to 'This is why you're interested in this stuff. It makes so much sense now!' Which just makes me feel weak and even more insecure for opening up to him. Most of what I've suggested has yet to happen. And though I keep trying, I feel it's very one sided