Just curious about how many married women turned sub during or after affair?

[Islander55]

Your observations on men sure ring true.

Just like women, no two men are the same. The labels are endless. Alpha, Beta, Sigma, etc.

In my experience I’ve found that confident assertive men seem to be attractive to women.

When I was younger, I used to work with a guy that was definitely that type. He was 5’6”, small frame, and definitely not Tom Cruise looks. Always polite and professional but, he was the type that didn’t waste time on losing projects either. The ladies loved him.

Down here I live much the same way and it’s a good way to be.

Maybe there’s a lesson here.

Just a thought.

For me it is a good excuse to have other partners. It is not about being better but just different. The first time I realized this is when I had a brief affair with my daughters soccer coach. How is that for a cliche. He was younger and very fit, lovely tush. Anyway the pace he used when fucking me was amazing. Like the energizer bunny and he rode me high so that every stroke was rubbing my clit. I had forgotten i could cum that hard.

 

[Yarglenurp]

For me it is a good excuse to have other partners. It is not about being better but just different. The first time I realized this is when I had a brief affair with my daughters soccer coach. How is that for a cliche. He was younger and very fit, lovely tush. Anyway the pace he used when fucking me was amazing. Like the energizer bunny and he rode me high so that every stroke was rubbing my clit. I had forgotten i could cum that hard.

I hate that this is so hot.

 

[Islander55]

I hate that this is so hot.

Well I remember that first time with him well. I got with him a few times after that and it was always good but that first time still sticks out. Perhaps part of it was that this was the first time I had sex with another man after getting married and I totally spaced out the idea of a condom until I felt his cock pulsing inside of me.

 

[Roughscrewu]

Well I remember that first time with him well. I got with him a few times after that and it was always good but that first time still sticks out. Perhaps part of it was that this was the first time I had sex with another man after getting married and I totally spaced out the idea of a condom until I felt his cock pulsing inside of me.

Filled up

 

[Takki]

Dear All,
I am curious about extra-marital affair and it's correlation with bringing out submissive side of woman. Recently I came across one more 'wife' who had similar kind of experience like me about being turned sub during extra-marital affair. And we both are not sub to our husbands. And we both are quite accomplished professionally.
I felt It is an interesting dynamic.
P.s. please comment about your profession too.

With love,
DocUkWife

I had an affair with a doctor. A very bdsm orientated one. We had been a couple as students and slightly kinky but the 30 something affair was all BDSM and she was the sub. Her husband was by all accounts was v undom.

It was glorious couple of years but did destroy 2 marriages.

Once single I spent years dating, trying to find the right sub. Had lots of great times but never fell in love.

All my lovers have tend to be very successful and most have been kinky or at least happy to experiment.

Weirdly my partner now is not very kinky. Physically he likes to be spanked. (it turns her on) mentally though she denies it does and she always says its just for me which is kind of a killer!

After many years of perversion i have 2 very unscientific opinions as to what makes a women enjoy a sub role.

First is being of celtic origin especially Welsh and Cornish!

Second is the ability to orgasm easily and repeatedly!

In reality however who the hell knows. I just miss like crazy the intense connection that BDSM offers between 2 people.

 

[Islander55]

Filled up

I realized that once he started cumming there was nothing to do about it. Plenty of sperm in that first spurt. A few more should not make much difference. Of course that was the same logic I used an hour later and again the next morning. I was just so buzzed from the intense orgasm and realizing how much fun, taking a new man could be.

 

[Yarglenurp]

I had an affair with a doctor. A very bdsm orientated one. We had been a couple as students and slightly kinky but the 30 something affair was all BDSM and she was the sub. Her husband was by all accounts was v undom.

It was glorious couple of years but did destroy 2 marriages.

Once single I spent years dating, trying to find the right sub. Had lots of great times but never fell in love.

All my lovers have tend to be very successful and most have been kinky or at least happy to experiment.

Weirdly my partner now is not very kinky. Physically he likes to be spanked. (it turns her on) mentally though she denies it does and she always says its just for me which is kind of a killer!

After many years of perversion i have 2 very unscientific opinions as to what makes a women enjoy a sub role.

First is being of celtic origin especially Welsh and Cornish!

Second is the ability to orgasm easily and repeatedly!

In reality however who the hell knows. I just miss like crazy the intense connection that BDSM offers between 2 people.

Hmmm… that’s kind of sad to hear, in its own way. You got intense connections from your BDSM lovers, but never felt in love with them? I don’t know if I could be the same way.

Do you feel like the affair you had was the “peak” of your highs in that regard?

 

[Takki]

Hmmm… that’s kind of sad to hear, in its own way. You got intense connections from your BDSM lovers, but never felt in love with them? I don’t know if I could be the same way.

Do you feel like the affair you had was the “peak” of your highs in that regard?

It is sad but life is beautiful and sad. In my life I fell in love with two kinky subs. (I am 54 so have had the time!) In both cases the timing was awful! So work, being a Dad (which despite or maybe because of the affair I take very seriously) their lovers ... life, living overseas... well it meant we just could not really get together as partners. My wife is kind of perfect in so many ways I dont regret it for a second though why she denies the fact her body is do turned on by bit of bdsm is a pain!

 

[Roughscrewu]

I realized that once he started cumming there was nothing to do about it. Plenty of sperm in that first spurt. A few more should not make much difference. Of course that was the same logic I used an hour later and again the next morning. I was just so buzzed from the intense orgasm and realizing how much fun, taking a new man could be.

Test Drives can be Fun

 

[Islander55]

Test Drives can be Fun

There is always something special about that first time.

 

[dkak001]

I highly doubt it would work on my husband.

I highly doubt it would work on my husband. Also, he thinks of me as someone who he needs to take care of, protect, love. It's difficult for him to summon that aggression towards me.

Do you think that is culture, or just his particular personality?

I don't tend to be overly aggressive. I also feel the need to take care of, love, and protect my wife. However, I see myself as a very masculine man. Some days I give her a good hard 'deep dicking' when she needs it. Other days, she is the aggressive one. So it really depends on mood, I guess.

 

[Roughscrewu]

There is always something special about that first time.

Kinda like when you rent a car when traveling. Nice to drive something New and Different!

 

[Islander55]

Kinda like when you rent a car when traveling. Nice to drive something New and Different!

I never considered comparing a new car to a new cock. For me a car is just transportation but a cock is or can be a mystic experience.

 

[tristantrotsky]

I think it is hard for some guys to be aggressive if that is not their nature. My husband tried but it just did not seem right and like you we gave up on it. Fortunately for me about 5 years ago we agreed to allowing other partners. I have been able to find several that do it just about the way I like it and it comes naturally to them.

Game-play can be a powerful inducement.
Acting out the roles we want to be, and what our partner's want us to be...

 

[Roughscrewu]

I never considered comparing a new car to a new cock. For me a car is just transportation but a cock is or can be a mystic experience.

I'm comparing a New car to New Married Pussy, both need some Control

 

[Islander55]

Game-play can be a powerful inducement.
Acting out the roles we want to be, and what our partner's want us to be...

I find it works best if it is natural to them. I am sure some can play a part well but many have trouble doing that.

 

[Islander55]

I'm comparing a New car to New Married Pussy, both need some Control

Is married pussy better than unmarried pussy?

 

[tristantrotsky]

Is married pussy better than unmarried pussy?

Pussy is to be enjoyed, regardless of marital complications.
Pussy has her own agenda which demands satisfaction.

 

[Roughscrewu]

Is married pussy better than unmarried pussy?

For me id say YES.
They are looking for some adventures if they are willing to stray.

 

[Islander55]

For me id say YES.
They are looking for some adventures if they are willing to stray.

That is probably true but is part of it that you are fucking another man's woman.

 

[Islander55]

Pussy is to be enjoyed, regardless of marital complications.
Pussy has her own agenda which demands satisfaction.

Perhaps a slightly different mental outlook between a free woman and forbidden fruit.

 

[Roughscrewu]

That is probably true but is part of it that you are fucking another man's woman.

Yes a Domination thing I'm sure

 

[Islander55]

Yes a Domination thing I'm sure

Are they dominating the woman or the husband or both?

 

[Roughscrewu]

Are they dominating the woman or the husband or both?

If the husband is unaware, its just the woman.
Difficult to find a Sub couple

 

[Yarglenurp]

If the husband is unaware, its just the woman.
Difficult to find a Sub couple

I imagine the difficulty is that a submissive bi guy is going to have a hard time keeping a submissive woman… outside of erotica, I can’t imagine a lot of submissive women wanting to see their husbands sucking dick.