Reflections of a straight guy who recently bottomed

[jabberwockyjon]

I don't really understand what you mean with "doing talking with others". Without knowing what you are referring to, I don't really know what you mean by "this" in the second sentence. Gangbangs or doing talking?

Not trying to be a jerk, I genuinely don't understand.

 

[28straightguy]

I don't really understand what you mean with "doing talking with others". Without knowing what you are referring to, I don't really know what you mean by "this" in the second sentence. Gangbangs or doing talking?

Not trying to be a jerk, I genuinely don't understand.

They are talking to others about having sex with me and getting them interested in it.

 

[LauraWilling]

I just am dealing with these guys doing talking with others about this. Not sure how common a thing this is in the gay scene.

I am guessing you mean dealing with as in getting used to getting used to the idea of the guys talking to other people about having sex with you? I feel guys tend to do that (and a lot of women do too, maybe no as much) when it is something like you are about to do and not a committed relationship type of thing. It really isn't that big of a deal as long as it does not get back to people not in your circle of friends or could effect you work or others not in the life that know you.

Now that is just my opinion. I have been talked about a lot over the years and even was mentioned in a grocery store type tabloid a couple of times, but my work was in the adult field so it really did not matter to me. That said if it is talked about just in the circle you run in and/or the local gay community, I would not worry about it. But if you want to stop it just tell the four you trust if the talk keeps up you are not going to do it. I'd say the chance of them stopping the chatter is 98-100% chance it will stop.

 

[Misshotndeep]

I wish you well as you move forward in your exploration. And yeah, very very hot!

 

[jabberwockyjon]

They are talking to others about having sex with me and getting them interested in it.

Ok, thanks for clarifying. I imagine it to be pretty common. I'm a little surprised that they didn't already have two extra guys in mind already. I guess they just want to fuck you as much as they can to see if you'll start to like it more. I think there's a certain attraction of a mostly straight guy taking cocks.

I just wish it was happening to me! LOL

They're probably inviting extras because people tend to flake.

 

[james2346]

I've been wanting to try this again and haven't found the right guy.

 

[28straightguy]

Ok, thanks for clarifying. I imagine it to be pretty common. I'm a little surprised that they didn't already have two extra guys in mind already. I guess they just want to fuck you as much as they can to see if you'll start to like it more. I think there's a certain attraction of a mostly straight guy taking cocks.

I just wish it was happening to me! LOL

They're probably inviting extras because people tend to flake.

I just know in our circle of swingers that if its a woman meeting guys for a gangbang the proper etiquette is for the guys not to tell others . Is it just different in the gay lifestyle? Why should me being married and straight make a difference to them? A guy is a guy whether straight or not.
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[LauraWilling]

I don't know the answer as to why you being married and straight makes a difference for sure, but I feel Jabberwockyjon has a couple of good points there. Maybe there is something special among gay men about a straight married guy submitting to them for sex and they are excited and happy about you doing it for them. You know yourself when excited and happy about something it is hard not to say something to others you feel would like to do the same thing. In my own experience with swinging when I was going to be the "target" in a gangbang or a bukkake, the word got around, so it is not just when a straight guy is the "target" I don't feel. Maybe it is in your group, but not necessarily in all swing groups. What you are submitting to is kind of special for the guys I would think. You ar very brave and cool to do it for them, I believe.

Second point Jabberwockyjon made is people do tend to flake out in these situations. Even among straight guys when they have a girl to do something like this or other things such as a bukakke. It has happened to me a few times, so if say 6 are planned to join in only five actually show up. The number of guys doesn't make a difference, someone is likely not to show. Seriously now that you have agreed to this, don't over think it. Start thinking about how much fun it can be and the very fact you will have this experience to loo back on in the future and you will know what it is really like when conversations about seual things are talked about or you read about. Enjoy the experience and set aside your worries, since you do trust the majority of them. This is meant to be fun and pleasurable for all them and you, so just enjoy it. Good luck! HUGS!

 

[28straightguy]

I don't know the answer as to why you being married and straight makes a difference for sure, but I feel Jabberwockyjon has a couple of good points there. Maybe there is something special among gay men about a straight married guy submitting to them for sex and they are excited and happy about you doing it for them. You know yourself when excited and happy about something it is hard not to say something to others you feel would like to do the same thing. In my own experience with swinging when I was going to be the "target" in a gangbang or a bukkake, the word got around, so it is not just when a straight guy is the "target" I don't feel. Maybe it is in your group, but not necessarily in all swing groups. What you are submitting to is kind of special for the guys I would think. You ar very brave and cool to do it for them, I believe.

Second point Jabberwockyjon made is people do tend to flake out in these situations. Even among straight guys when they have a girl to do something like this or other things such as a bukakke. It has happened to me a few times, so if say 6 are planned to join in only five actually show up. The number of guys doesn't make a difference, someone is likely not to show. Seriously now that you have agreed to this, don't over think it. Start thinking about how much fun it can be and the very fact you will have this experience to loo back on in the future and you will know what it is really like when conversations about seual things are talked about or you read about. Enjoy the experience and set aside your worries, since you do trust the majority of them. This is meant to be fun and pleasurable for all them and you, so just enjoy it. Good luck! HUGS!

Thanks. I am sure there are things in the gay culture that are looked at as taboo that I just don't know about. I realize its not very common foe a married guy to do this or have a wife that is open minded enough not to let it bother her.

 

[LauraWilling]

Thanks. I am sure there are things in the gay culture that are looked at as taboo that I just don't know about. I realize its not very common foe a married guy to do this or have a wife that is open minded enough not to let it bother her.

So true! I am so glad you understand that. So many people have so many different ideas about sex and sexual matters. To some the subject itself is totally taboo, to others it is an enjoyable subject and everything in between those two extremes.

Maybe you will come to think as I do. Sex is enjoyable and giving pleasure to others is as enjoyable as receiving it, maybe more so. For me the more someone or others enjoy me they more pleasure I feel.

As for different sexual acts, I think of it like a menu in a restaurant with a very large choice of meals, all of them tasty to some people. Some you really enjoy, other things not so much, but the point is you have a large choice to experience. For me new things are just another choice that may bring pleasure on the menu. None are necessarily good or bad. It's just what you personally enjoy.

 

[luvemboth]

Fantastic thread! I confess to being envious (both of your experience, and of your wife's acceptance/encouragement of it). She sounds like an amazing woman, deserving of envy from most bi guys, I would imagine. I do agree with most of the replies: Trust with all involved is primary, unless the vulnerability aspect of being tied up adds to your enjoyment. I must admit, that thought is highly erotic to me, but, as the saying goes; "to each his own".

 

[Escierto]

"Become at one with the cock in me." You nailed it. That's exactly how I feel when a man fucks me. And I love it

Yes! Me too when my trans girlfriend fucks me in the ass. My entire consciousness is reduced to my asshole and her cock. It’s kind of a zen experience really. I suck her off too but being fucked is almost a religious experience.

 

[OlderBtm4U]

Yes! Me too when my trans girlfriend fucks me in the ass. My entire consciousness is reduced to my asshole and her cock. It’s kind of a zen experience.

I’ve had the same experience, but it was in the tub with a dildo suction-cupped to the bottom of it.

 

[fl_openminded]

Thanks. I am sure there are things in the gay culture that are looked at as taboo that I just don't know about. I realize its not very common foe a married guy to do this or have a wife that is open minded enough not to let it bother her.

loved reading the back & forth. I dont know if this applies but 90% of the guys that approach me are gays that want to break my cherry. Theres something about (trophy) breaking a straight guys anal cherry.

I think we are all worried about IT (whatever it is) getting out of the circle and becoming public

It being end of May what is the update?

 

[saintcero]

loved reading the back & forth. I dont know if this applies but 90% of the guys that approach me are gays that want to break my cherry. Theres something about (trophy) breaking a straight guys anal cherry.

I think we are all worried about IT (whatever it is) getting out of the circle and becoming public

It being end of May what is the update?

I agree with 'fl openminded' that there are many who only have an interest in claiming a virgin's cherry. There have been many on Silverdaddies that want to help me solve my virginity problem. Many of these were flaky but some seemed to be decent types.

 

[Curious_Brian]

They are talking to others about having sex with me and getting them interested in it.

So .... did you ever do it?

 

[SheDrivesMeCrazy]

I am 28, married 7 years. For the past year and a half my wife and I have been involved in the swing scene. We live in a mid size city that has a strong lgbt community and our swing group is open to all. I am straight but have developed friendships with several gay men. Two weekends ago there was a large swing party help that encompassed 3 houses. A few of my gay friends had made plans with this other guy to attend the party at one of the houses and bottom for them but this guy ended up being a no show. Partly out of curiosity but mostly out of friendship I ended up suggesting that I take this guys place. After discussing it with me to make sure I was serious about this 4 friends of mine ended up topping me for about 2 hours. I cant say that I really felt into it sexually but felt ok doing it more from a friendship perspective. I don't have any regrets for it or feel any less of a man from the experience. I do feel that I grew some just as a person. I am just wondering if anyone else have had any type of similar experience.

Good for you. when I was in my early twenties I was bottomed on two separate occasions by men that were older than me. Because of the type of young man I was back then I was easily lead, but they were married men and I was happy to be their play thing; I found their attraction to me quite exciting and it is very flattering to see an erection that is just for you.

 

[28straightguy]

So .... did you ever do it?

Our state is just relaxing some of its distancing rules. We have decided to so this on June 6, a Saturday. I am starting to have some second thoughts as guys are texting me that intent to be there.

 

[saintcero]

Our state is just relaxing some of its distancing rules. We have decided to so this on June 6, a Saturday. I am starting to have some second thoughts as guys are texting me that intent to be there.

Second thoughts? About which issues? Too many guys? Wrong kind of guys? Guys that are too eager? Not enough emotional support from your initial group of friends. Feel like you are getting pimped out? or maybe just the expectable cold feet that one could anticipate getting?

 

[28straightguy]

Second thoughts? About which issues? Too many guys? Wrong kind of guys? Guys that are too eager? Not enough emotional support from your initial group of friends. Feel like you are getting pimped out? or maybe just the expectable cold feet that one could anticipate getting?

Cold feet based on the number of guys texting me

 

[jabberwockyjon]

Cold feet based on the number of guys texting me

Well that sounds kind of unfortunate. I mean you agreed to 6, they shouldn't have been trying to get more-it doesn't sound like they are respecting your limits.

I'm glad it's easy to set up this kind of party where you live, though. If I were to do this, I'd really want someone there who isn't sexually involved and is only there for my safety.

 

[fl_openminded]

Cold feet based on the number of guys texting me

I'm glad you backed out when you didn't feel safe. There will be other times

 

[28straightguy]

I'm glad you backed out when you didn't feel safe. There will be other times

We are still discussing it.

 

[Dreamer110]

We are still discussing it.

Well if you promised them a good time.....

 

[saintcero]

We are still discussing it.

Hope it ends well for you no matter what you decide.