Submissive "Thought of the Day" Calendar 2005

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Thanks Catalina. So, can anyone put anyone in this thread? (and the PYL one) or do we PM you mods or something to suggest something we've seen that looks appropriate?

YW. Anyone can put a quote in as long as it is a quote from this forum by a pyl, and for the PYL one, naturally a quote by a PYL. The quotes can also be those of switches though speaking about the respective role of the calendar. LOL, I have no problem with people adding quotes, especially as we have quite a few weeks to catch up on!! Post away.

Catalina

 

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March 4th - words of Desdemona

"You were in the hospital due to what he did? That goes a bit farther than most people I know. We generally use a safeword or stop before going there. I don't have a problem with broken skin or bruises, but at some point, you have to stop or risk damaging your body. Once you are injured, you can't play anymore until you heal. Therefore, it makes sense to me to stop before you get injured. That's the safe and sane part of it all. Does that make sense to you?"

I Am So Curious

 

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March 5th - words of Arden

"If I were given the directive to choose between a tattoo or an 'etched' design, I'd probably take the etching. They are attractive in a subtle way when fully healed.

Some prople prefer to make their own marks as a symbol of ownership, and there's nothing wrong with that as long as the wound is taken care of properly. Any cut that breaks the skin is a wound, and is vulnerable to infection no matter how you look at it. Whether you received the cutting in BDSM play or for body modification purposes is immaterial.

If you are a diabetic, you may want to think twice before undergoing any type of scarification or tattooing procedure where prolonged healing times are the norm. Better yet, talk to your doctor first."

Can You Tell Me About Cutting?

 

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March 6th - words of Etoile

"Meanwhile, I can tell you that you're not alone in wanting someone to pee on you! This is usually referred to as watersports or golden showers. I've experienced it a handful of times myself, including drinking piss. There are library threads about that too, I bet!"

Peeing in your panties

C

 

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March 7th - words of ownedsubgal

"have sucked cock in pouring rain before, on a roadside...my knees were sinking in mud and being sliced from gravel, couldn't open my eyes, clothes soaked through totally...it was lovely...i felt like quite a whore. *sigh"

The Great Outdoors

C

 

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March 8th - words of s'lara

"In answer to your question, golden showers can create a bevvy of emotions for the giver and receiver. It's an intimate act that can induce a feeling of closeness or a feeling of extreme degradation. Either way, sexualizing the act is the more popular mode of thought, although there seems to be a growing interest in the debasement side."

Peeing in your panties

C

 

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March 9th - words of dolf

"i dunno...i've always admitted that a lot of my subbiness comes from being screwed up. lately i've actually barely missed it at all. my fantasies are less brutal rape and more kinky candle wax...perhaps in healing some parts of myself i'm removing the urge for certain acts.
lately the thought of spanking, biting, being pinned down for rough, passionate sex is much more of a turn on than being slapped about and fucked till i bleed.

your thoughts and questions are helping though...giving me something to think on"

dominant but not a Dom...

C

 

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March 10th - words of A Desert Rose

"You cannot be someone you're not. (Oh those dreaded double negatives keep following me around.) You can't be someone else. You have to be you... whatever that you is. And either she loves you for that or she does not. You will be roleplaying if you try to behave in a fashion she wants and that does not feel natural to you.

Life will become very hard if you start out with each other (in a marriage) as people you are not. It's dishonest to everyone."

Making a relationship work with a "Top" personality and a "sub"

C

 

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March 11th - words of Yinand Yang

"I have felt this way before, but it didn't happen during a scene. I was just lazing in the bath and i sort of felt like I was a million miles away, like I didn't belong where I was. Its kind of hard to describe, a huge detachment of sorts. I didn't really like the feeling as I began to feel a bit panicky and insecure in my surroundings. When it happens I need to go get a cup of tea to snap out of it and come back to reality.
I'm not sure if I could descibe 'subspace' though, I think it must be a personal feeling associated with what ever the person is doing at the time. When my master uses a crop (the worst kind of pain for me), I find the feelings are intense at first, and I struggle not to use my safe word, but then as he carries on the feelings kind of merge together and become pleasant. I always know I get to this point. I feel a kind of release, (like how you would feel if you are totally stressed and beat a pillow up lol). Its like the letting go of everything, along with the 'aahh' factor. I suppose for me that is 'subspace'.
The detached feeling I described above, for me I have always looked on this as a spiritual thing, I regulary have OBE's and meditate alot so i normally put it down to that."

transporting and scary...subspace?

C

 

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March 12th - words of bronntanas

"A natural nurting Dom appears to be one trolling for subbie babes. He's a natural Dom, a true Dom, a Dom who doesn't have to work at it, as it all comes naturally to him. He's never had a whit of training with any implements of destruction as he is a natural Dom.

How do I know this, you ask breathlessly? I can hear you all now, "wow! is bronn a genius or what!?" Sadly, I know all this because he sent me a PM.

First off, my name is not "little one" or any of the variations thereof and you can't make my pussy wet. While I'm not opposed to Male Doms, I am opposed to natural nurting Doms that talk down to a "lil one". Now then, if you ever want a 6 foot 3 male sub with rugby scars and slightly crooked nose from getting it broken doing the knut in shining armour thing, come find me and talk to me like an adult."

The making of a DOM

C

 

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March 13th - words of shy slave

"Done the retail therapy, ate chocolate (lots of it ), dolf is queen of the boots so i will settle for new handbags.

Ok I am ready to Master - bait on Lit again!!!

I know its bad but its sooooooooo much fun.

Your right babiesmile I won't let a man affect my self esteem - punish me, humilate me and make beg beg, maybe I will allow that.... but affect 'me' as a person - NEVER lol"

Going into hibernation

C

 

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March 14th - words of lonelysub

"Ummmm, Okay I will try to end the confusion here. I do know that some folks consider "subservience" to be part of their D/s lifestyle. Cool. I will try to relate these words as my Hubby considers them.

To him, subservience means that one partner :IE, me, the wife: would be Less important in the relationship. Not equal to respect, dignity, or love.

Service: adoring to help others in any way possible.. being happy when any act no matter how small can help to make the other happy, fulfilled or helped. IE: volunteerism, soothing a child, cheering up a friend, asking Hubby "How did your day go?" would be examples to him of "servicce"

Basically, I am attempting to show him that if I am submissive to him, it does NOT make me any less of a person. That, I, as his spouse, would ADORE to serve him, help him, and if ANY of this is done in a sensual way for it to be praisworthy, appreciated, tittilating, etc.

He considers SUBservience to mean, that I would be demeaned in some way by this. Yes, our marriage is an equal partnership of love. He does not realize though, how Erotic and Loving, my Service to him could be. I really think, that if I could show him, or open his eyes with words, that it can only enhance the love between us.

So, I am asking for the thoughts or quotes to help me in this. So far, I have e-mailed him some sentences from the Claudia Varrin Erotic Surrender. I just need some help with this. I really do hope that this helps clear up the confusion. We really could be soooooo much happier if he realized that my submission to him would be GOOD and not demeaning in a love sort of way."

Subservience or Service?

C

 

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March 15th - words of Etoile

"I have hit Daddy on more than one occasion. It was part of an argument and I was decidedly "out of role" - that is, I got too big for my britches and became somebody I didn't want to become. But after the most recent time I did it (it's happened maybe three times in five years) I figured out why I lashed out physically. It's because when I get out of control like that - when I'm standing up taller than I really am, when I'm faking how sure of myself I am - I want to be physically brought back down. I hit or slapped Daddy specifically so I would be caught and held in some wrestling move that didn't let me get away until I calmed down. It didn't work, of course - Daddy didn't know that was what I wanted, not being a mind reader after all! So instead I just got in trouble for it, which is to say I made Daddy mad. I beat myself up more over this than anybody else ever would...and I still don't feel that physical reassertion of control that I need to succumb to. I'm hoping it won't happen again, and if it does I hope I can stop short and realize why I did it and ask for help."

When The Dom Belongs In The Doghouse

 

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March 16th - words of D's mariposa

"Talk to him and tell him exactly what you told us and negotiate from there. If it helps any, D once told me that while I may be lent out to others there are certain things that will be his alone to do with or to me. One thing you may want to ask for is this: don't leave me alone with them. While I've not been lent out yet, I put that in when we first started seeing each other, and he agreed. That gives you an additional protection."

One girl with five guys

 

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March 17th - words of YinandYang

"I call myself yin and yang because I need and crave the dominance, control, pain and punishment, all of those things take me physically and spiritually higher, not just sexually but almost in a quiet guarded way in every day life. The rush I get from having my partner cause me pain, pain that he knows brings me closer to him is in huge contrast to the love and support I need after. The thought of 'playing' then having him roll over and fall asleep leaves me quite cold. Maybe part of the excitement (if thats the right word!) is when he says the words 'good girl' or 'well done'...its then I feel the immense pride.

So...was wondering how important this aspect of BDSM is to you? The falling asleep together afterwards, the other persons words of encouragement, the feeling of being safe and secure? A complete contrast to the lashings recieved by the crop for example...but an important part?"

How important is this to you?

 

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March 18th - words of shy slave

"I am only begining to discover the dark side of D/s where punishment means punishment.
My new Master has used punishement twice in the past couple of weeks and it hurt beyond anything I have experienced before.
Not a physical pain but mental torture.
In the past i have 'topped from the bottom,' and recieved a physical punishment as a result. It did not stop me trying to top him at another time.

I have learnt the hard way the difference between real punishment and play punishment ~ at least I hope I have.

I have seen pyl's who tease their PYL's and are then told they will be punished.
To me this is topping from the bottom. If a pyl desires a disipline session then by 'being bad' the pyls has their needs met; irrespective if the PYL had planned to do this.
The pyl has learnt that in order to have their own needs met they can manipulate their PYL. "

Self Control Games and BDSM

 

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March 19th - words of eroticspank

"I travel all over the world and many times it is very hard to find a Domme in the places I visit.

However, I can find Pro Dommes very easily by going to www.maxfisch.com and other sites. I do spend lots of time looking to the Pro Domme that I connect with which usually involves talking on the phone and email before I will consider having a session with her.

The Pro Dommes I have seen are VERY experienced and have been in the scene for years. They truly LOVE what they do. They make sure they are up on all the newest, kinky devices and how to use them. This is what I pay them for their expertease and their Dungeon and equipment.

As far as the sex goes, I know what I am getting into and understand there is no sex but I feel it is still very fun to session with a good Pro! I have had some very very intense sessions with Pros and sometimes I orgasmed three or four times! The key is to find someone you really connect with mentally, develop trust, and the sky is the limit. The session is just fun and I don't mind giving her money at all!

The closest thing to sex for me is strapon sessions. Most of the Dommes I have seen are into strapon sex and some even get off on it. It is really fun, she fucks me with the strapon we both cum and we never exchanged any bodily fluids! Pretty Safe actually!"

Pro Dommes and....Pro Doms?