❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[Orchidea73]

07.18.22

Let's talk about kisses that took our breath away.

What are some of your favorite kisses from film or TV? Links please!

I really had to think about this because there are so many beautiful kiss scenes in films that is hard to decide. But kiss scene that took my breath away, and still does today, is Daniel Day Lewis kissing Michelle Pfeiffer's wrist in "The Age of Innocence".

They kiss on the lips too. But it's the kiss on her wrist that gets me every time. Ghaaa!
I can never forget this scene.

 

[Orchidea73]

I love the "Don't Make Love to Me" scene too.

What can I say? I love some good melodrama.
Now, I want to watch the movie again. lol

 

[Orchidea73]

Damn, you PLP. You sent me down the rabbit hole of nostalgia and fantasy.

 

[cheekygirl75]

07.18.22

Let's talk about kisses that took our breath away.

What are some of your favorite kisses from film or TV? Links please!


Inspired by this gif of a sexy af kiss (IMO). I have no idea what movie or show it was from, if you do let me know.

Their first (and only? can’t remember) kiss in the movie Atonement

https://tenor.com/X3qq.gif

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Oh man... this one

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

And this anticipation...

 

[AveryElle]

This one, that makes me realize how badly I want to kiss Paul Rudd - with tongue*

*minute 4.05.

 

[AveryElle]

And then this one, because the whole movie is perfect. The forehead kiss.

And this one, because of the, "oh yes they fucking do." I can do both in the same post because they're the same story.

 

[AveryElle]

Last one....cuz I love JGL and it's so fucked up I love it, you deserve more than one kiss from this movie.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

This one, that makes me realize how badly I want to kiss Paul Rudd - with tongue*

*minute 4.05.

I almost posted these too! Paul Rudd

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

07.25.22

Let's talk first impressions.

How much stock do you put in first impressions? Does this differ between in person and Lit? Does your first impression of someone usually turn out to be correct? Do you give second chances after a poor first impression? Do you think you make a good first impression?

 

[RDM97756]

07.25.22

Let's talk first impressions.

How much stock do you put in first impressions? Does this differ between in person and Lit? Does your first impression of someone usually turn out to be correct? Do you give second chances after a poor first impression? Do you think you make a good first impression?

I make extremely bad first impressions, I am confidentvin myself, who I am and my abilities, where Igo wrong is I never want to do something they dont like, so I come off as one who cannot decide for himself.


As far as stock, no I learn through time. I want to see your habits, not your words. Everything is a barrier until they let you in... i find myself knowing when and if I have been let in... i do tend to put a time limit on this though depending on what type of relationship is wanted.

 

[Orchidea73]

07.25.22

Let's talk first impressions.

How much stock do you put in first impressions?

Good question. I do not put too much stock in it. But I do keep that "a pelle" impression (as we say here, meaning "skin effect") into account until I know them personally. And if I don't, I try to keep in mind that I don't really know them, whatever my subjective impression might be.

Does this differ between in person and Lit?

Yes. Usually, in person is more accurate. For example, I do pay attention even how a person shakes your hand. The body language and voice tone can give you a lot of clues.

Does your first impression of someone usually turn out to be correct?

No. I would say 50/50 and I'm being generous. You don't really know until you come to know the person.

Do you give second chances after a poor first impression?

Yes. Unless, the person have passed a limit with me I'm not willing to pass.

Do you think you make a good first impression?

Another good question and very difficult to answer. I don't really know is the honest answer.
Usually, I do not have problems with people and I'm very easy to start a conversation, socializing. So, theoretically would suggest that it is good. But who really knows what's their real first impression of you?

 

[hotwords229_A]

07.25.22

Let's talk first impressions.

How much stock do you put in first impressions? Does this differ between in person and Lit? Does your first impression of someone usually turn out to be correct? Do you give second chances after a poor first impression? Do you think you make a good first impression?

I don’t put much stock in first impressions because most people aren’t their true selves when meeting someone new. Unless I get a “bad vibe” out of a person, I usually don’t count the first impression.

On Lit I’m looking for sexy, funny or interesting (sometimes all three). It is very different here than in person, but hard to explain why. Maybe the stakes aren’t that high?

My best friends in life are all people I didn’t like at first, for varying reasons. But I was very wrong about them, for varying reasons. Not the bad vibes, just sort of a “who is this douchebag?” kind of thing.

I don’t think of it as a second chance as much as a getting to know each other better situation. If I get a bad feeling from someone I do hone in on them and try to figure out why and I’m very often correct about them. Good instincts about bad people, terrible instincts about good people?

I don’t make a good first impression at all. I also don‘t make a bad impression. I seem not to make much of an impression at first. I play it cool and keep an eye on things when in a new situation. I’m not Mr. Personality until I get a better feel for people.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

07.25.22

Let's talk first impressions.

How much stock do you put in first impressions? Does this differ between in person and Lit? Does your first impression of someone usually turn out to be correct? Do you give second chances after a poor first impression? Do you think you make a good first impression?

I think there is a world of difference between first impressions and first instincts. I have a lot of grace for first impressions because I'm awkward and often make a fool out of myself. But my first instincts about someone never prove to be wrong. I can think of times where my first impression of someone was good but my gut feeling said something was off and I went off the good impression and somewhere down the line, my instincts proved correct.

I can also think of more than a few people who didn't make the greatest first impression but who I know to be stand up, wonderful people.

I do think impressions/instincts are harder to measure online in some ways but the way a person communicates is pretty telling actually. Do they speak only about themselves? Are they curious? Are they witty? Are they self-aware? It's pretty easy to get a read on that pretty quickly.

Do I make a good first impression? That is really hard to say. I must in some circumstances but I can also look back and think of times where I came off like a colossal weirdo or a distant bitch. like everyone, I'm a work in progress!

 

[base10]

I do think impressions/instincts are harder to measure online in some ways but the way a person communicates is pretty telling actually. Do they speak only about themselves? Are they curious? Are they witty? Are they self-aware? It's pretty easy to get a read on that pretty quickly.

I think it's much more difficult online, you lack all of the social cues and body language that you get when actually meeting someone face to face. When all you have is lines of text on a screen, there is so much about someone that is missing. And that's if what is being read actually comes off the way it's intended. That's so easy to get wrong, especially when the topic is sexual.

That is one of the reasons I like going back through someone's posts when I start interacting with them. Seeing a number of posts someone has made here in the past gives a better impression than just a first one or two.

As for you, you are lovely (and yes a dork) at first, second, and hundredth impression

 

[Dribble]

True story time. I was a "returning" student. Hard as fuck to get a departmental scholarship. My grades were way better than those that got them. Why the fuck wasn't I even getting the shit ones? So I went into my counselor...closed the door...and asked. He was quiet for a long time...then he said...your hair is too long. These people...right or wrong...care more about how you look to them than about your accomplishments or your need. They want to take your picture and hold it up to those around them and say...see what we do?

I was pissed off. Walked out. They could kiss my ass. Two weeks later...i wanted to prove to the son of a bitch it had nothing to do with my hair. So I cut it. From the middle of my back to short short. From that time on I paid no tuition ever again. It was always paid through stipends or scholarships.

Do I make good first impressions? Obviously not. But I can play the game better than anyone.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

07.27.22

Today I want to talk about personas. But first I want to define it for this conversation. I don't mean public person as in only allowing portions of your personality to show publicly. But more when people adopt a character stuck to one aspect of their personality. This can apply to lots of situations but I want to talk specifically about Lit.

How do you feel about people that adopt personas? Do you or have you ever done this? Do you enjoy interacting with a pure persona? Does it offer a clear expectation? Or do you prefer interacting with someone who presents as multi-faceted?

 

[AlpineFresco]

07.27.22

Today I want to talk about personas. But first I want to define it for this conversation. I don't mean public person as in only allowing portions of your personality to show publicly. But more when people adopt a character stuck to one aspect of their personality. This can apply to lots of situations but I want to talk specifically about Lit.

How do you feel about people that adopt personas? Do you or have you ever done this? Do you enjoy interacting with a pure persona? Does it offer a clear expectation? Or do you prefer interacting with someone who presents as multi-faceted?

Where's the fun in a single-sided personality? It's the full range of a person that makes them interesting, whether we're talking platonically or otherwise. If you're on the boards for long at all you'll interact with people on multiple topics and in multiple places.

I suppose if you're just swinging on through and looking to get off it might be different?

 

[AveryElle]

Where's the fun in a single-sided personality? It's the full range of a person that makes them interesting, whether we're talking platonically or otherwise. If you're on the boards for long at all you'll interact with people on multiple topics and in multiple places.

I suppose if you're just swinging on through and looking to get off it might be different?

but what if the person isn't self aware?

 

[AngelicaS1780]

but what if the person isn't self aware?

I think that there's a difference between using a persona and not being self aware. To me, a persona feels like a choice.

ETA: Although, I suppose that one could argue that not being self-aware is also a choice. But, for PLP's question, I took it to mean someone who chooses to play a character. But perhaps I am misinterpreting her question.

 

[AlpineFresco]

@AveryElle @AngelicaS1780 What exactly does it mean when you say 'self-aware'? Actually, I'll make that an open question!

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I think that there's a difference between using a persona and not being self aware. To me, a persona feels like a choice.

ETA: Although, I suppose that one could argue that not being self-aware is also a choice. But, for PLP's question, I took it to mean someone who chooses to play a character. But perhaps I am misinterpreting her question.

Maybe an example would help clarify since it is a weird question.

So there used to be a Litster who had the persona of a pirate. He was funny, he talked like a pirate and engaged in everything Lit through the subtle lens of a pirate. No judgement to him at all. That's what I mean.

 

[base10]

Maybe an example would help clarify since it is a weird question.

So there used to be a Litster who had the persona of a pirate. He was funny, he talked like a pirate and engaged in everything Lit through the subtle lens of a pirate. No judgement to him at all. That's what I mean.

Does that make it easier to act a certain way? Be more liberated than you otherwise would be if you're just acting as your regular self?

 

[AlpineFresco]

Pirates would mean everyone came here for the arrs. Or the booty. Whichever pirate joke you prefer.