Good questions. This is going to be like a bragging festival. Can we brag, please?
How great a dad I am. It is the only thing in life I give a shit about. She is always the priority.
Liar.
I have complimented you on qualities that have nothing to do with finished or unfinished products.
Liar.
Oh man, I like being complimented on my laugh, and I also hate it. It doesn’t happen often, but when it does it catches me off guard a little bit. Who compliments a laugh? For the record, I’m talking the full surprised belly laugh. I always think it’s too loud.
My favorite compliments are on new purchased things.
Get enough compliments on something, it makes me want to buy one in every color so compliments that send me shopping are awesome. There are a few tops I have in every color or print that was sold just for this reason.
My favorite compliments are on new purchased things.
I actually find compliments difficult. My natural inclination, is like many people, to deflect. Reply with "thank you but", or thank you and make a joke. As compliments get "deeper", the rebuttal or joke feels wrong, but then you are stuck with that awkward silence after thank you. At this point, my brain says quick change the subject, then I just spew some random fact, so "you know, you're a really great mom, the way you yada yada" and I am "oh thank you. um um um Did you know Iceland is the only country without mosquitos?" Then we end up trying to make small talk about mosquitos. sigh. Those type of compliments are the type you remember and feel good about after, versus, the more shallow ones which are forgotten quickly, but during, they make me very uncomfortable. I suspect that will not change, I am 43 years old and still haven't figured it out, probably never will. lol.
I don't do well with compliments.
I'll be shallow here and say I enjoy compliments on how I look, because they're very very rare. Any compliments I get are almost certainly on my personality or skills, always have been.
I am happy to run accross your postings as well MM. You are always encouraging and beautiful inside and outI see a lot of self effacing here. It’s hard when we have thought our whole lives that we are unworthy in some way. I think that’s why I love Lit so much. Everyone is fantastic, just on their own merit. I have met so many genuinely amazing people here. Some I haven’t met, but read posts and think about what interesting lives they must lead that they absolutely don’t think are amazing.
PLP- thanks for your thought provoking threads. They keep it light with just the right touch of humanity to warm the heart.
Y’all are good people. I’m happy to know you.
Hmmm..what is a favorite thing to be complimented on...
I have enjoyed sex without a connection before so I'd say not much but definitely having a genuine and good connection does make sex better for me so I do prefer that. For the most part the amount of connection does correlate to the amount of enjoyment but it doesn't mean there will be sexual chemistry so it really does depend. I feel on the fence in whether lit has change anything for me in this area. If anything it's made me lean more towards a connection first.
Qualities or style. I do appreciate getting compliments on my looks but i find the other's more meaningful. Especially if is something that isn't obvious or surface level.
I agree with this whole heartedly. I've coached youth basketball and Little League for 25 years, and the greatest compliment I get is meeting someone on the streets who calls me "Coach."
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I'll always appreciate compliments on my parenting as it's the thing that matters above all else to me. Aside from that, I'm pretty terrible at taking a compliment and will often nit-pick it in my own mind (not to your face
). Having an AmPic thread back in the day changed how compliments about my appearance land with me. But I do love when someone sees something in me that others don't - that they have taken the time to truly look - and provide some form of admiration or appreciation for it.
I get compliments on my eyes and dimples. I also get told I look younger than I am. I sometimes get compliments on my body. I get the most out of the body compliments since it’s something that I’ve worked on. My eyes and dimples, I was born with. I also love getting compliments about my kids
My favorite thing to get complimented on is my hair. It is long, dark, and thick, and I am so proud of it.
I enjoy compliments on things I've done, either at work or in my personal life, as opposed to things I've bought or acquired, but it's just a preference. I graciously accept all compliments. In terms of frequency, I get most compliments on my overall attitude and demeanor (I'm a very calm, friendly person whose default attitude in any encounter is "compassion for all beings".).
