❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[OrdinaryPerson]

Some cunt is gonna mention Star Wars day now in retaliation...

May the 4th be with me.

 

[Saltfountain]

May the 4th be with me.

That's not how you say the date though...

 

[StillRain]

Oh man. You guys gave me a giggle. You could be talking filthy threesomes but you’re talking dating protocols. .

This is why I can’t leave Lit. You just never know what it is going to be. Jerry Springer? Jeopardy? Sex Education? Porn? Mean Girls? Love Boat? Just wait and see…

 

[StillRain]

Do you think you have what it takes to be a unicorn? No, not the mythical beast but could you be a third for another couple?
Not anymore. I feel like I am past the unicorn days of my life. I’ve been involved in threesomes where I suppose I was the unicorn and did not recognise at the time that’s what I was.

Do threesomes interest you? Not particularly. At one time in my younger life, I was quite into MFM and that obviously needs a third, but that can also become almost ‘competitive’ if the people are not the right fit and that is not a good outcome for the F. The people fit in the threesome is really the most important thing, I found. If that works it’s a moment. If they are not the right combination… it’s really just kind of .

Would you find it difficult to keep emotions out of it? I think now, at this stage in my life in certain loving relationships I probably would struggle keeping emotion out. I have little interest in sharing my love/lover but also I am open minded that situations change and if that changed for either of us it would be a discussion.

What parts would you find most appealing? Two dicks of course. LOL

Least appealing? When it’s just devolving into pieces and parts and the people aren’t inclusive and/or it becomes two with a watcher.

 

[Dribble]

I find it puzzling how many women list a threesome as something they want to try in the fuck-it list and audio thread...yet...they don't. I know that my 2nd wife always said this...and yet every time I would bring it up there was always a reason no. Finally, she just said it is a better fantasy than reality. She had a lot of FMF threesomes...but not a MFM. Or maybe she just lied like she did about everything else?

Just so many questions...

 

[BongoGal]

I do think the group/unicorn thing runs the risk of being transactional ("its a ONE TIME thing/its JUST sex/you exist only to be part of MY experience blahblahblah"), which is not what I want at all out of sex. I'm not asking for commitment, just don't toss me a towel and tell me to leave after.

It's interesting how something like this can vary from person to person. I can readily understand how someone would feel that way, but my failed attempt at being the added F in a MFF wouldn't have even been considered if I thought that it was anything other than a quickie tangle. There were no hopes at all that there would be a round two or anything like that. Future throuple? Yikes. The 'you exist only to be part of MY experience' thing was as crucial for me as I assumed it was for the M and F.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

I find it puzzling how many women list a threesome as something they want to try in the fuck-it list and audio thread...yet...they don't. I know that my 2nd wife always said this...and yet every time I would bring it up there was always a reason no. Finally, she just said it is a better fantasy than reality. She had a lot of FMF threesomes...but not a MFM. Or maybe she just lied like she did about everything else?

Just so many questions...

Maybe it is a fantasy is better than reality thing but experience tells me it isn't always that easy. A much smaller percentage of men are into it than you'd think. Yes, so many talk a good game but when actually with someone whom they know would, they don't talk anymore. I've spent 20 years trying to talk my husband into it, and I've only gotten as far as open relationships and partner swaps. His answer has stood fast all these years at "I can barely handle one of you, why the fuck would I want two" The 2 chicks one is the easier one to pull off, and really that isn't easy. I would say at most 20% of men would actually consider it outside of fantasy, so that is several men you have to go through before you get a "yes". Many of these women are married without the option to line up 2 participants. Logistics may play a real part.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

05.03.23

Let's have a sexier question!

Ooh let's!!

Do you think you have what it takes to be a unicorn?

I know I do. Though I don't think that's my preferred position in a threesome.

No, not the mythical beast but could you be a third for another couple?

I could. For the right couple with the right chemistry. I think they would have to be solid as a rock though bc I have no interest in starting troubles.

Do threesomes interest you?

Oh boy, do they. Lol. I preferred a MFF dynamic personally. My brief experience with a MFM was heavy on awkward and light on fun. Threesomes are tricky because all three elements have to vibe as a group and individuals and that's hard. Any two components can have great chemistry but if one part doesn't the whole thing won't work.

Would you find it difficult to keep emotions out of it?

As the unicorn? Nope. My main emotion is trying to do a good job and make everyone have a great time.

What parts would you find most appealing?

I like the watching and observing and the taking turns. The idea that everyone has to be doing everything at all times sounds exhausting. It's a play where the main character is constantly shifting.

Least appealing?

Just getting there. I like communication (a lot). I don't like negotiation and finding out someone your partner likes isn't for you or vice versa. The journey can be fun but it can also be shit.

Feel free to share all your threesome experiences below

Oh if only I had time.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Maybe it is a fantasy is better than reality thing but experience tells me it isn't always that easy. A much smaller percentage of men are into it than you'd think. Yes, so many talk a good game but when actually with someone whom they know would, they don't talk anymore. I've spent 20 years trying to talk my husband into it, and I've only gotten as far as open relationships and partner swaps. His answer has stood fast all these years at "I can barely handle one of you, why the fuck would I want two" The 2 chicks one is the easier one to pull off, and really that isn't easy. I would say at most 20% of men would actually consider it outside of fantasy, so that is several men you have to go through before you get a "yes". Many of these women are married without the option to line up 2 participants. Logistics may play a real part.

This all straight fact. Plus finding a girl who you want to go their with.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

Oh if only I had time.

We have time. Spill.

 

[hotoldrguy]

Maybe it is a fantasy is better than reality thing but experience tells me it isn't always that easy. A much smaller percentage of men are into it than you'd think. Yes, so many talk a good game but when actually with someone whom they know would, they don't talk anymore. I've spent 20 years trying to talk my husband into it, and I've only gotten as far as open relationships and partner swaps. His answer has stood fast all these years at "I can barely handle one of you, why the fuck would I want two" The 2 chicks one is the easier one to pull off, and really that isn't easy. I would say at most 20% of men would actually consider it outside of fantasy, so that is several men you have to go through before you get a "yes". Many of these women are married without the option to line up 2 participants. Logistics may play a real part.

I would love to do a threesome with 2 women. But only if they were both Bi and we were all "into" each other.

 

[Deleted member 6592667]

It's interesting how something like this can vary from person to person. I can readily understand how someone would feel that way, but my failed attempt at being the added F in a MFF wouldn't have even been considered if I thought that it was anything other than a quickie tangle. There were no hopes at all that there would be a round two or anything like that. Future throuple? Yikes. The 'you exist only to be part of MY experience' thing was as crucial for me as I assumed it was for the M and F.

I think really for me I think about how I'd treat someone who came over for sex. I'd want them to feel welcome and wanted even if exclusivity is off the table. And if it's really good and we both O our brains out? I'd happily keep the door open for future adventures. But no obligation, of course. You're just welcome to stay for breakfast.

I could. For the right couple with the right chemistry. I think they would have to be solid as a rock though bc I have no interest in starting trouble.

Oh yeah, this for sure. EVERYONE involved has to be vibing or it's gonna be a bad time. That's where my own group experience kinda went wrong. Lol

Maybe it is a fantasy is better than reality thing but experience tells me it isn't always that easy. A much smaller percentage of men are into it than you'd think. Yes, so many talk a good game but when actually with someone whom they know would, they don't talk anymore.

Oh yeah, I've often dated people and early on threeways and exploring would be on the table. Then as time goes on, and maybe it gets more serious, they're like "I could never share you" or "I used to be into wild sex but I'm gonna put on pajamas and marathon Real Housewives."

 

[Mei5ter]

Logistics may play a real part.

Fuck. I love it when you talk dirty.

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Fuck. I love it when you talk dirty.

Aw thanks. And you haven't even heard my acceptable sampling plan or activity-based costing discourse yet.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

05.03.23

Let's have a sexier question!

One of my favorite kinds!

Do you think you have what it takes to be a unicorn? No, not the mythical beast but could you be a third for another couple?

Yes, no hesitation. The real question is more how likely is it to find a couple where I’m interested in fucking both of them.

Do threesomes interest you?

Yes, if the dynamic is right. It’s not something I need, but I think the hot potential when it is right is off the chart.

Would you find it difficult to keep emotions out of it?

As the third, I don’t think that would be too much of a problem. My ideal scenario would be a solid couple where I had good connections with both people and who weren’t monogamous. Those aren’t hard requirements, but I enjoy sex infinitely more when I am invested to some extent. I also want them to love every minute as well, so if this isn’t the first non-monogamous experience they’ve had I think that would make things a lot less likely to get awkward.

What parts would you find most appealing?

Pretty much all of them I love exploring and trying new things, new dynamics. Helping fulfill a fantasy or just a kink that doesn’t get to be indulged in often are incredibly fun and sexy to me. Plus I have strong exhibitionist and voyeuristic tendencies which play into this scenario very well.

I’ve also realized that some kinks that aren’t generally my thing take on a different appeal in a group dynamic. There are more options on how they play out which fascinates me. Human sexuality is pretty fucking interesting.

Least appealing?

Probably only getting involved in a situation that isn’t what it seems. If the couple is on rocky ground or one of them isn’t stable. I’m cool with adventurous sex and lots of communication, but hard pass on any drama.

Feel free to share all your threesome experiences below

 

[Paul_Chance]

Do you think you have what it takes to be a unicorn? No, not the mythical beast but could you be a third for another couple?

Based on past experiences, yes, I have been in threesomes where I was the third - the person invited to join the couples. (I wouldn't refer to myself or another person as a unicorn. I'm just a human being.)

Do threesomes interest you?

I've enjoyed them and they still hold interest for me, however I don't specifically seek them out.

Would you find it difficult to keep emotions out of it?

No. I'm good at bottling up my emotions and setting them aside in exchance for a solid transactional romp in the bed. (I would have a much harder time with a throuple, where emotions are part of the equation. It's much easier when it's just sex.)


What parts would you find most appealing? Least appealing?

Okay, now we unpack the emotional baggage! LOL. As several others has said, threesomes are tricky things and can end up in all sorts of constellations.

The most appealing part, as the third, is focusing on the pleasure of the couple that invited you. There are layers to all threesomes and there is a whole bunch of stage directions needed, but when a threesome works it can just be an incredible sexual experience, largely because, with three people, it never really stops and can consume the whole night in the flow of it. That is just great when it works.

On the least appealing part, I think there is a danger when you're going into a threesome, unless it's with an experienced couple and that is you're walking into a whole emotional/psychological minefield and it's hovering on hair triggers. For some people the idea of it is great and they might be all into it - in theory. Get into bed (or even start getting into bed) and it can become messy real quick.

I'll share two quick stories from each end of the spectrum.

On the bad side, I was invited to join a couple in a hotel bar one night. Both of them were drinking/drunk. There was heavy flirtation from her and agreement from him while we were in the bar. We get up to their room and they're both saying encouraging things but their body language made it apparent that neither of them had really thought it through. It was apparent to me pretty quickly that they were both trying to have this threesome because they thought the other person wanted it. But, when the undressing and heavy fondling started it was obvious to me they were both having troubles with it. As the third, I think they would have gone through with it - but it would not have been good. Not wanting the drama, I politely bowed out and you could see the relief in both of them, though the said otherwise, their body language immediately changed once they realized it wasn't going to happen.

On the good side, I had a coworker with whom I had a good rapport and we were frequent quests at each others houses and knew each other fairly well. I also knew her husband and had a good rapport with him, just that easy comfort you get with some people. The lead in was straight forward and well communicated. I was asked to stay and help clean up after a BBQ, and after we cleaned up, we had another beer while I got ready to call a cab and they both sat down and said "Why don't you stay the night, we've been wanting to have a threesome and we both think you'd be a great third." I said "Sure, I'll be glad too, what type of threesome did you have in mind?" It was all very natural, well-communicated, sober(ish), the body langauge matched the spoken language. We spent the weekend just hanging out and having a wide variety of sex. From then, for about two years, maybe once every two or three months we'd get together for a weekend, which lasted until he got transferred to another city. It was probably the most friendly threesomes I was ever involved in. We were friends. Periodically we had great sex.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

May the 11th, the Year of Our Lord Two Thousand and Twenty Three

Strings

Do you or have you ever preferred No Strings Attached play? How would you define those strings? Is it connection? Obligation? How do you negotiate that? Have you ever had a fun play only to find that one person wanted to include some strings and the other did not? Can NSA be empowering to you?

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

May the 11th, the Year of Our Lord Two Thousand and Twenty Three

Strings

Do you or have you ever preferred No Strings Attached play?

I prefer no strings attached partners.

How would you define those strings? Is it connection? Obligation?

To me, strings are obligation and commitment. No strings, you do what you want, you put yourself first. Strings, you are prioritizing their feelings, their wants, committing to be there in good and bad.

How do you negotiate that?

I’ve just gone for direct with I am not looking for strings, commitment, obligation. This isn’t going to be a thing. I just want to be there when I want, and not feel like I should when I don’t. Sometimes brutally direct with those who have a twisty sense of humor. Like so yeah, my plan is to totally just use you for my own entertainment. Oh hush, that’s your plan too.

Have you ever had a fun play only to find that one person wanted to include some strings and the other did not?

Sometimes things went sideways after a few months. They may just decide to want definitions, commitments, plans. Most times that is where I’d cut and run. Sometimes I tried relationships though. One of the most ironic was a man whom I was great friends with benefits with. Eventually we’d be laying there, and decide we should try a relationship. It would crash and burn in a month. What happened was we’d start putting what we think the other person wanted first. We’d follow relationships customs. We’d end up with 2 people going out, neither wanting to be there, but are there because of some sense of expectation or obligation. Three times we did this, but we only worked when we both thought of ourselves first. Yes, sometimes with friends with benefits, what they want would start being more the focus, conflicting with what you want, but then it is easy to say no thanks, and move on drama free.

Can NSA be empowering to you?

You are asking if it is empowering to put yourself first, not change your plans for someone else, not consider what they think or feel about your actions or words? Yes, Damn straight.

 

[Dribble]

Lol...kids these days.

We called it a one-night stand. It is late. The bar is getting empty. Everyone starts looking hot. You are having fun and don't want it to stop. No names required.

But what is fun...is seeing her a couple weeks later at the geocery storevand the look of panic cause now there is a dude with her and magically she is wearing a wedding ring.

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

May the 11th, the Year of Our Lord Two Thousand and Twenty Three

Strings

Do you or have you ever preferred No Strings Attached play? How would you define those strings? Is it connection? Obligation? How do you negotiate that? Have you ever had a fun play only to find that one person wanted to include some strings and the other did not? Can NSA be empowering to you?

After "been there, done it" with online relationships and seeing the damage done to my heart and my marriage as a result, I much prefer a no strings attached approach. While I see some couples thrive on here, and am even envious of such things at times, I know it's no good for me. I see no strings attached as having a few flirty friends where boundaries are sometimes crossed. Connection is a necessity still, as someone might need to send me 3000 messages before anything remotely sexy takes place. I don't like the idea of having to censor myself or be careful how I interact in threads...I just want to have fun and make friends.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

May the 11th, the Year of Our Lord Two Thousand and Twenty Three

Strings

Do you or have you ever preferred No Strings Attached play? How would you define those strings? Is it connection? Obligation? How do you negotiate that? Have you ever had a fun play only to find that one person wanted to include some strings and the other did not? Can NSA be empowering to you?

Where I am right now, I only really want NSA. That's not to say I don't want a connection and chemistry but I don't want to be overly committed and I don't expect that in return. I try to make that clear when I'm talking to someone. I've had mixed success with getting that through to people. The obligation problem is when we've played once and you think every time your dick gets hard you need to let me know. Well, it's 9am on a Tuesday and that seems like a you problem. I don't mean to be rude by that but I am no responsible for anyone's genitals but mine and his.

And I totally love what @Justadesperatewifeandmom said here. I strive to be this clear headed.

You are asking if it is empowering to put yourself first, not change your plans for someone else, not consider what they think or feel about your actions or words? Yes, Damn straight.

 

[Dribble]

After "been there, done it" with online relationships and seeing the damage done to my heart and my marriage as a result, I much prefer a no strings attached approach. While I see some couples thrive on here, and am even envious of such things at times, I know it's no good for me. I see no strings attached as having a few flirty friends where boundaries are sometimes crossed. Connection is a necessity still, as someone might need to send me 3000 messages before anything remotely sexy takes place. I don't like the idea of having to censor myself or be careful how I interact in threads...I just want to have fun and make friends.

Fuck....I have only sent 998. I got a long way to go.

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

Fuck....I have only sent 998. I got a long way to go.

Check your inbox!

 

[Whiskeyjack]

Where I am right now, I only really want NSA. That's not to say I don't want a connection and chemistry but I don't want to be overly committed and I don't expect that in return. I try to make that clear when I'm talking to someone. I've had mixed success with getting that through to people. The obligation problem is when we've played once and you think every time your dick gets hard you need to let me know. Well, it's 9am on a Tuesday and that seems like a you problem. I don't mean to be rude by that but I am no responsible for anyone's genitals but mine and his.

And I totally love what @Justadesperatewifeandmom said here. I strive to be this clear headed.

What if our dick gets hard and we just feel like telling you to make conversation? Without any obligation or expectation for you to do something about it?
"Weather's a bit humid here today." "That's too bad. It's dry here - we could use some rain. And my dick is hard." "That's too bad. I hope you get some rain soon."

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Where I am right now, I only really want NSA. That's not to say I don't want a connection and chemistry but I don't want to be overly committed and I don't expect that in return. I try to make that clear when I'm talking to someone. I've had mixed success with getting that through to people. The obligation problem is when we've played once and you think every time your dick gets hard you need to let me know. Well, it's 9am on a Tuesday and that seems like a you problem. I don't mean to be rude by that but I am no responsible for anyone's genitals but mine and his.

And I totally love what @Justadesperatewifeandmom said here. I strive to be this clear headed.

haha, yes that can sometimes be a problem. Way more on lit than in real life. At least I find in real life, they try to pretend they aren't making a booty call. Lit, you often get an erection and jacking off before a good morning. However, that is the joy about NSA, if it is no longer fun, if you aren't in the mood, if you aren't really getting anything out of it, you have no reason to feel obligated to keep trying. NSA is permission to not try and just let the drift happen.