❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[PrettyLilPussy19]

08.14.23

Private Parts
I see lots of people sharing lots of super personal things publicly. I think it's to each their own but how much are you comfortable sharing publicly? Are you more comfortable sharing sexual details versus real life details? Where do you draw the line for yourself?
If you're a sharer - Do you worry at all about what people may think about the private things you share? Do you care that your pictures, words, or audios may be consumed be people who you never know? Is there a worry that people won't get to know you privately because of what you share publicly? Do you ever regret being so open?
If your a non-sharer - Do you worry that people won't notice you if you don't put a bit of yourself on display in some way? What are your concerns with being more open or public? Do you overthink what you do and don't share? Who and when do you choose to open up to?

Tell me about your choices around your personal privacy.

First of all, such interesting answers. I appreciate your insights! I do think it's interesting that more people went the picture and audio route vs the thoughts and feelings one. I like to see where everyone's mind goes with open ended questions.

I think I'm a mixture of open and closed with my personal things. I like to thing of myself as an iceberg. If you just want the tip, that's totally fine! You'll get a really broad idea of me but if we go deeper and deeper, you'll find out more. I don't want to put my every life experience, kink experience or thought out there for public consumption. It reduces there specialness to me.

I'm comfortable sharing most answers to specific questions. I think the worst question ever is "Tell me about yourself" (Ok not a questions but you know what I mean.) Tell you ... what? Do you want to know my bra size, how many dogs I have or if I believe in God. Like....

When I do share, I care less about what people think about me but I do about them sharing their opinions with me or their fantasies. I need to be in the right mental space to take in all the information and if I'm not, I won't share. I do often think of the hundreds of lurkers on at all times. This was super clear to me when I did the podcast here and I would get a few dozen comments and HUNDREDS of listens. Like... I know some people listened a few times but...

When I don't share, I know my "engagement" goes down. Like, on Lit, you definitely get what you give but I'm ok with being seen by a quieter minority most times. Like someone said, attention isn't bad and we all want it to some degree but I get overwhelmed by it when comes at me without clear direction (see above "tell me about you"). I think that's a definite effect of having been here for a long while - knowing where my energy is best spent.

And who? My thoughts on gossips and drama spoons are well documented.

Thanks again everyone for sharing!!

 

[Deleted member 6607120]

Are you more comfortable sharing sexual details versus real life details? Where do you draw the line for yourself?
If you're a sharer - Do you worry at all about what people may think about the private things you share?

Since this is Literotica I am comfortable sharing sexual details to a degree where it doesn't get too personal. I like hearing about others experiences and learning new things. I can't share my past experiences with those in my real life so this is my outlet to express this side of me. I don't worry about what others think about what I share as far as those details go because they are my experiences and if someone can learn from them or appreciate them that's fine with me.

Do you care that your pictures, words, or audios may be consumed be people who you never know? Is there a worry that people won't get to know you privately because of what you share publicly? Do you ever regret being so open?

I don't share personal pictures or audios here but have stories published that I am hopeful others read and consume! As far as posts, I don't care who sees them, it's a public domain. I'm never that open about my private life but share vague details sometimes. If someone wants to get to know me I will share more privately.

I used to be way more open when I was here before and I feel like I was way too vulnerable and naive then. Plus I like leaving more to be desired by not sharing as much now. Those that know me from before may remember my personal journey that I documented. I'm both proud of it but also feel a little... I don't know, embarrassed (?) that I was so blatantly open about things. I'm really interested in learning and trying new things though so documenting my journey was important to me to share with others at the time.

If your a non-sharer - Do you worry that people won't notice you if you don't put a bit of yourself on display in some way? What are your concerns with being more open or public? Do you overthink what you do and don't share? Who and when do you choose to open up to?

I used to be self-conscious that people wouldn't notice me but I don't care anymore. Part of my time away from Lit was learning to love myself and be comfortable in my own skin; I'm a work in progress.

Being more open in public leaves me feeling very exposed and vulnerable. While I'm not a hard shell of a person, I don't want to give away that vulnerability to everyone, only with those that I've built a solid foundation with. I overthink everything Sometimes I'll write out a post and leave the browser open for a while before posting just to make sure I want to post it lol. Sometimes I'll delete it, sometimes I'll say fuck it and post, it depends on my mood.

I choose to open up to people when I want to make connections and if there is a good vibe between us I'll let it form naturally. I have dear friends here and would love to make more, but sometimes I'm just not in the mood to start a new conversation or be open, and I'm happy with my small circle that I keep because those bonds are strong and very important to me.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

08.14.23

Private Parts
I see lots of people sharing lots of super personal things publicly. I think it's to each their own but how much are you comfortable sharing publicly? Are you more comfortable sharing sexual details versus real life details? Where do you draw the line for yourself?
If you're a sharer - Do you worry at all about what people may think about the private things you share? Do you care that your pictures, words, or audios may be consumed be people who you never know? Is there a worry that people won't get to know you privately because of what you share publicly? Do you ever regret being so open?
If your a non-sharer - Do you worry that people won't notice you if you don't put a bit of yourself on display in some way? What are your concerns with being more open or public? Do you overthink what you do and don't share? Who and when do you choose to open up to?

Tell me about your choices around your personal privacy.

So this is really an interesting question.
I share some stuff publicly, but I've posted a few pictures of myself mostly clothed (or things that would be deemed socially acceptable like in my front yard). I've never posted my face.
I will, generally, answer questions (like this or in the "ask me a question" type thread) relatively honestly, although often without details. And then there are some times where I just simply don't answer.
I am kind of a sharer, and I do sometimes worry about what people might think, although generally I've found Lit to be a very accepting place.

I think I strike a pretty good balance. Between sharing and not sharing. I think I am open enough to be an interesting enough person that people want to interact with me - at least some. But not so out there that I feel too vulnerable.

 

[OrdinaryPerson]

08.14.23

Private Parts
I see lots of people sharing lots of super personal things publicly. I think it's to each their own but how much are you comfortable sharing publicly? Are you more comfortable sharing sexual details versus real life details? Where do you draw the line for yourself?
If you're a sharer - Do you worry at all about what people may think about the private things you share? Do you care that your pictures, words, or audios may be consumed be people who you never know? Is there a worry that people won't get to know you privately because of what you share publicly? Do you ever regret being so open?
If your a non-sharer - Do you worry that people won't notice you if you don't put a bit of yourself on display in some way? What are your concerns with being more open or public? Do you overthink what you do and don't share? Who and when do you choose to open up to?

Tell me about your choices around your personal privacy.

Sometimes I share a lot and sometimes not at all. It depends on my mood. I have some defined parameters that I don't go outside of on threads and even some in private conversations. But other than those fairly simple rules Ive set for myself, I don't over think things too much.

I like that sex can be discussed openly here. I dont talk about personal real details much on threads both because I do value my privacy and also because I dont find it that interesting to talk about. I also oscillate between being sincere and saying ridiculous things to amuse myself so it takes a lot to actually get to know me. Which is fine. Sometimes I do get in the mood to overshare and I know and accept the risk of lurkers, picture savers etc. Risk is part of life. Sometimes its worth taking and sometimes its not.

I dont worry about what people think of me. If you like me, great. If you don't, I know I can be fairly annoying, keep scrolling. ‍♀

 

[PandemicReader8]

Are you more comfortable sharing sexual details versus real life details? Where do you draw the line for yourself?

I have dealt with a stalker situation, so I do try to limit anything that could directly lead to my "meat body", to borrow an old cyberpunk term. What I share within that stated limit depends on the who and why of it. But always, front and center, the idea of not feeding ill intentions.

Do you worry at all about what people may think about the private things you share? Do you care that your pictures, words, or audios may be consumed be people who you never know? Is there a worry that people won't get to know you privately because of what you share publicly? Do you ever regret being so open?

I'd love to tell you that I am well past caring what others think. While I don't care, truly I do not, for professional reasons, I have to keep some aspects of my life - experiences and proclivities - to myself. These flow into the words I share. I long all got used to the idea of people I will never know reading my words: reading them, judging them, loving them, hating them... With that comes the reality that there are things in my life that would make interesting stories, but which I just should not share. Not because I am embarrassed by them, but because they could to easily feed the bad in others.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Since this is Literotica I am comfortable sharing sexual details to a degree where it doesn't get too personal. I like hearing about others experiences and learning new things. I can't share my past experiences with those in my real life so this is my outlet to express this side of me. I don't worry about what others think about what I share as far as those details go because they are my experiences and if someone can learn from them or appreciate them that's fine with me.


I don't share personal pictures or audios here but have stories published that I am hopeful others read and consume! As far as posts, I don't care who sees them, it's a public domain. I'm never that open about my private life but share vague details sometimes. If someone wants to get to know me I will share more privately.

I used to be way more open when I was here before and I feel like I was way too vulnerable and naive then. Plus I like leaving more to be desired by not sharing as much now. Those that know me from before may remember my personal journey that I documented. I'm both proud of it but also feel a little... I don't know, embarrassed (?) that I was so blatantly open about things. I'm really interested in learning and trying new things though so documenting my journey was important to me to share with others at the time.

I used to be self-conscious that people wouldn't notice me but I don't care anymore. Part of my time away from Lit was learning to love myself and be comfortable in my own skin; I'm a work in progress.

Being more open in public leaves me feeling very exposed and vulnerable. While I'm not a hard shell of a person, I don't want to give away that vulnerability to everyone, only with those that I've built a solid foundation with. I overthink everything Sometimes I'll write out a post and leave the browser open for a while before posting just to make sure I want to post it lol. Sometimes I'll delete it, sometimes I'll say fuck it and post, it depends on my mood.

I choose to open up to people when I want to make connections and if there is a good vibe between us I'll let it form naturally. I have dear friends here and would love to make more, but sometimes I'm just not in the mood to start a new conversation or be open, and I'm happy with my small circle that I keep because those bonds are strong and very important to me.

I feel like you saw my brain and relayed it more eloquently.

 

[Deleted member 6607120]

I feel like you saw my brain and relayed it more eloquently.

Ooo I like the idea of seeing your brain .

 

[Guyblue82]

Ooo I like the idea of seeing your brain .

But not in a Hannibal Lecter sort of way….. I’m assuming

 

[PandemicReader8]

But not in a Hannibal Lecter sort of way….. I’m assuming

Ewwwwwwww

 

[Mei5ter]

But not in a Hannibal Lecter sort of way….. I’m assuming

You're confusing a Sparrow with a Starling, I think?

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Ooo I like the idea of seeing your brain .

It's a weird place!!

 

[Guyblue82]

You're confusing a Sparrow with a Starling, I think?

“I Do Wish We Could Chat Longer, But I'm Having An Old Friend For Dinner.”​

 

[PandemicReader8]

You're confusing a Sparrow with a Starling, I think?

Well played!

 

[Deleted member 6607120]

It's a weird place!!

The weirder the better, I promise not to snack on it.

 

[Dribble]

Nothing quite like the feeling of massaging a tense brain...

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

08.17.23

Let's talk about Echo Chambers

Do you tend to surround yourself with people who validate and agree with your opinions, thoughts and experiences? Or do you seek trusted people to challenge you? Are there things you are not willing to hear any feedback on? Are there areas you wish you had someone to challenge you more on?

When you see echo chambers existing, on Lit or in life, do is bother you? Are you happy to let a pod of people continue to orbit around each other or do you seek to disrupt it?

 

[lakesailer_mi]

08.17.23

Let's talk about Echo Chambers

Do you tend to surround yourself with people who validate and agree with your opinions, thoughts and experiences? Or do you seek trusted people to challenge you? Are there things you are not willing to hear any feedback on? Are there areas you wish you had someone to challenge you more on?

When you see echo chambers existing, on Lit or in life, do is bother you? Are you happy to let a pod of people continue to orbit around each other or do you seek to disrupt it?

Ohhhh...this is a good question.

Professionally there is no such thing as an echo chamber for me. My closest friends and colleagues are some of my toughest critics (for example a year ago my colleague and good friend said, during a major presentation of mine, "but you're asking completely the wrong questions here, you should be asking X" and he had a good point, and next week, I present on X).
We challenge each other. And I think, in many ways, I'm better at what I do because they never accept my opinion, even if they think I'm probably right. They challenge things.

I would say at this point, my facebook people are - mostly - people who either keep their mouths shut about politics (which is generally where I've gone on FB) or I generally (not always) agree with them. That's probably a place where I largely am in an echo chamber, but that's why I seldom talk politics there, because who cares?

My close friends vary in their political views and we do, at times, challenge each other. (note there are some political aspects to my career, so....that shows up).

I don't see myself, generally, as a disruptor. So, if I see an echo chamber I don't purposefully disrupt it, but if I find myself in a position to say, "you know, there's another way to look at this..." I will speak up. I try to do things in a way that is positive, not confrontational. I've learned over the years that often doesn't work. Confronting people leads to defensiveness. I'm developing ways to talk that are more supportive rather than challenging. I've spent a career in a profession that, when I entered, prided itself on almost brutal confrontation. I am, to be honest, good at it. But I'm working now to change that culture. To infuse more respect and collegiality into the discussions without throwing out the value of challenging each other.

So I'm trying to do that in places like Lit. As well as other places.

I have long stayed away from the political discussions of the General Board.

 

[MrsPassion]

Do you tend to surround yourself with people who validate and agree with your opinions, thoughts and experiences?

First—love these questions
I don’t do it on purpose, but I do tend to find myself more often than not surrounded by like minded people.

Or do you seek trusted people to challenge you?

I love when I meet someone who forces to look at an issue or belief I hold from a different perspective! As long as their intentions for challenging me are coming from a place of good intent I always welcome an exercise in growing my capacity for sympathy and understanding.

Are there things you are not willing to hear any feedback on?

Definitely. But that mostly comes down to basic human rights. I’d be hard pressed to be made to believe anyone is less than deserving of their full humanity.

Are there areas you wish you had someone to challenge you more on?

Not really. I guess it’s hard to look from outside myself to see where I could be challenged. Those opportunities usually happen organically and genuinely take me by surprise, it’s an “Oh, I’ve still got room left to grow here.” Kind of moment.

When you see echo chambers existing, on Lit or in life, do is bother you?

Depends entirely on the type of echo chamber. But generally no, all sorts of communities exist regardless of how I perceive them

Are you happy to let a pod of people continue to orbit around each other or do you seek to disrupt it?

I’m a live and let live type. Provided they aren’t hurting anyone.

 

[snexxer]

08.17.23

Let's talk about Echo Chambers

Do you tend to surround yourself with people who validate and agree with your opinions, thoughts and experiences? Or do you seek trusted people to challenge you?

Generally i dont tend to find many people who have similar opinions, thought or experiences. When I do I find I gravitate towards them.

Im always open to being challenged. If i dont reply straight away its cos im usually pondering on whats been said.

Are there things you are not willing to hear any feedback on?

Not really. I suppose my own health, you know your own body so how you feel cant be argued.

Are there areas you wish you had someone to challenge you more on?

Religion and ancient beliefs. Plus mysticism.

When you see echo chambers existing, on Lit or in life, do is bother you? Are you happy to let a pod of people continue to orbit around each other or do you seek to disrupt it?

Lol it only bothers me when I feel its harmful to those within and around.
I generally won't disrupt it, but some things I have very strong views on.

 

[Azuldrgon]

08.17.23

Let's talk about Echo Chambers

Do you tend to surround yourself with people who validate and agree with your opinions, thoughts and experiences? Or do you seek trusted people to challenge you? Are there things you are not willing to hear any feedback on? Are there areas you wish you had someone to challenge you more on?

When you see echo chambers existing, on Lit or in life, do is bother you? Are you happy to let a pod of people continue to orbit around each other or do you seek to disrupt it?

I work with who I work with. If we agree, great. If not, they have to persuade me they're right.
If I trust you, I expect you to tell me when I'm wrong.

Everyone else's chambers are their business honestly.

 

[Paul_Chance]

08.17.23

Let's talk about Echo Chambers

Do you tend to surround yourself with people who validate and agree with your opinions, thoughts and experiences? Or do you seek trusted people to challenge you? Are there things you are not willing to hear any feedback on? Are there areas you wish you had someone to challenge you more on?

When you see echo chambers existing, on Lit or in life, do is bother you? Are you happy to let a pod of people continue to orbit around each other or do you seek to disrupt it?

I always try and be conscious of echo chambers or information bubbles. My friends (close and extended) are a pretty diverse group of people, so widely varying experiences have led to some widely varying opinions. It works for us. I trust people to challenge me, to tell me when I'm wrong, or point out something I'm not considering. I am not a person who believes in black and white. When it comes to truth and meaning, I recognize them as being very complex and situational, for the most part. I'm willing to hear feedback on anything, just set your expectations at the right level - I might just completely reject it.

I did my best to avoid echo chambers and tunnel vision in my working life, and the best way to do that is question everything and seek diverse opinions.

I am sometimes tempted to throw the occassional rock into an echo chamber when I run into one, but I usually resist the temptation. (Not always, but usually.) Life is tough. Most of us are doing the best we can with it. Unless it's something that has a direct and immediate impact on me, I am fine letting people construct their own version of reality, if it works for them.

As far as Lit bubbles are concerned, live and let live. May all beings find happiness and be free from suffering.

 

[Deleted member 6592667]

08.17.23

Let's talk about Echo Chambers

Do you tend to surround yourself with people who validate and agree with your opinions, thoughts and experiences?

They don't necessarily have to agree with me in lockstep, but they do have to be coming from a place of empathy for others, logic, and truth if I'm going to take them seriously. If they come into my path with anything non-serious and stupidly small-minded, or think they can be bigoted or shit-headed around me they will learn quickly that they can't do that.

Or do you seek trusted people to challenge you?

Are there things you are not willing to hear any feedback on? Are there areas you wish you had someone to challenge you more on?

I honestly don't feel like I need to be challenged. My world view is relatively simple and comes from a place of being empathetic and informed. I AM opening to someone bringing new information to my attention though. I've even had interesting conversations with people that maybe didn't necessarily vote for who I voted for. I've also had family members meltdown at me, shun me, and call me names because I dare not swear fealty to the last guy that was president. I'm not obligated to hear anyone out.

When you see echo chambers existing, on Lit or in life, do is bother you? Are you happy to let a pod of people continue to orbit around each other or do you seek to disrupt it?

I actually think the echo chamber thing is kind of a myth. People are perfectly within their rights to not indulge smaller-minded people. Why is it on me to have to reach across the aisle after being the recieving end of verbal abuse? Fuck that.

 

[hotwords229_A]

08.17.23

Let's talk about Echo Chambers

Do you tend to surround yourself with people who validate and agree with your opinions, thoughts and experiences? Or do you seek trusted people to challenge you? Are there things you are not willing to hear any feedback on? Are there areas you wish you had someone to challenge you more on?

When you see echo chambers existing, on Lit or in life, do is bother you? Are you happy to let a pod of people continue to orbit around each other or do you seek to disrupt it?

I’ve always hated and distrusted echo chambers even before I knew what they were called.

I may be a total dick, but I tend to disagree with people who agree with me if only to make them prove that their (and my) opinion is even a little valid.

You have to pick a direction and outlook in life, but you can never assume you picked the right one.

I like to be challenged, not all the time on everything, sometimes we have to agree the sky is blue, or some facsimile of blue, or we aren’t going to get anywhere. But being closed minded is the doucheiest way to be. I also don’t like when people qualify their level of open mindedness. These are the children who make all the rules about how to play and when you start to beat them they get pissed.

Everything has to be discussed, considered, debated, argued and resolved (on some level) or society is fucked. Oh wait, that’s already happening.

 

[BongoGal]

People are perfectly within their rights to not indulge smaller-minded people.

Fortunately, it's easy to determine who is smaller-minded. They are the ones who disagree with you.

 

[hotwords229_A]

But if I don't join in, I won't be accepted into this wonderful new group of like-minded friends.

To me, this is the issue. People need to be accepted by others, but, like every mom should teach their kids, “if they don’t accept you for who you are, they aren’t really your friends”.

We need to be who we are, accept that others are who they are, enjoy our differences and possibly learn from them. If our feelings get hurt, we need to get tougher feelings—not try to control how everyone else thinks (which is the diabolical side to what an echo chamber truly is, I believe).