JKL123
Justa Guy Havin Fun
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Well thought out and stated.Firstly, thank you all for your answers! I’ve found them so interesting and validating.
I think the actual feeling of chemistry is so hard to define. It’s a “know it when you see it” thing and it feels a little different with everyone. A lot of people have said it’s a certain ease or a desire or need. It can feel like all that for me but just like the name implies - chemistry feels like science, like lightning. And once you’re struck by it, it’s very difficult to settle for anything less.
I think it’s just a meeting of the minds. There are people with whom I’ve disagreed about very fundamental things but there is a chemistry there. It’s intoxicating and addictive - platonically or sexually. I almost think finding friendship chemistry is more exciting for me.
Chemistry isn’t always reciprocal and that’s a bit how this topic started - with a discussion of one person seemingly feeling a lot of chemistry and the other just not feeling it. Trying to force it always feels awful. The only thing worse is feeling an initial spark only to pursue it and find that a spark was all it was.
Chemistry is important to long lasting relationships. That “I can’t get enough of you” feeling is a building block of a long lasting connection