The source of erotica absolutely matters to me. I think I get off on knowing what other people get off on. Sexiness put into the universe, created/curated/shared by women - especially women I like - is hotter to me than stuff put out by men. The actual content of the sexy stuff is almost immaterial (almost). Stuff created by a computer? No, thank you. There needs to be a human mind behind it. Preferably a mind I want to fuck.
Let me start with my general philosophy: you can never have too many friends. I used to hate the story of the prodigal son, but as I got older and lost touch with friends, and then regained it, I really empathize with the father now. When a friend "returns" I'm gonna kill the fatted calf and have a party.
I can go a long time without seeing or hearing from a friend and still feel the same bond with them the second I see them.
It depends on the person I'm chatting with! I talk to my best friends every day. Others is more sporadic and that's fine too! I've definitely felt the imbalance where I wanted to talk to someone more than they have wanted to talk to me. And I'm sure others have felt that from me as well. One thing I try to be careful of is not to let new friendships take away from my existing ones. There's only so many hours in the day and time and privacy are limited.
It's not a hard-set requirement that we talk for this long every single day or whatever. I think friendship is an over reaching sense of knowing that we're there for each other in the larger sense. We can hit each other up any time at all and know we're good. Constant contact isn't a requirement. I myself have a life and I'm not always the most available person ever but I definitely try to be. And I want my friends (and friends who can get it) to know that I'm always around if they need me.
It varies. I'm in touch with one friend pretty much every day, and they've become a lovely part of my daily routine. I have another good friend who I speak to less frequently, but when we talk, it's just... right.
I have phases I guess. There are days where I want to explore the meaning of life with everyone I know in great detail and days when a quick hi is about all I can manage.
This! Sometimes it sucks if you're the one wanting more, but matching energy is so important and helps keep me from feeling like I'm always giving more.
... every day? That seems a bit much. I'm not opposed to every day, but mostly the only people I talk to every day are my family.
It really depends on how busy I am. Online, I recognize there are lots of things that can impact how much I talk with people I like. Time zones being the biggest
but I don’t require a whole lot. I’m a low maintenance communicator and never reach out with the expectation I hear back in any given timeframe.Not at all. A friend is someone I laugh with, joke with, have deep conversations with, someone who I’ve gotten to know and they me. Regardless how often that happens. If we only cross paths every few days, weeks, months or even years (shout out to my pen pal from the 5th grade. One letter quarterly going on 20+ years
) a friend is a friend is a friend.Depends. I’m notoriously bad at keeping in touch via texting (I’m the type to call
) because offline life is really busy and exhausting. I’d say if a few weeks (5ish+) have gone by I’ll definitely do my version of a wellness check “hey, how are things? How are you doing? Are you well?” Etc. but I try to respect people’s time and communication styles.Sometimes. I like meeting people and I’m terrible at small talk, I like big concept conversations and bonus points if we don’t think the same but can keep grace and compassion for each other centered in our relationship. Even still, I sometimes want to have more conversation than someone else. And that’s okay. I’d rather hear from them when it’s convenient for them and enjoy that time together than force the issue. No one likes a nag
and honestly, I’m honored when folks share important things with me. If they had something awesome, or tragic, or confusing happen and they want to tell and talk to me about it? I mean…Wow. What a gift 
All three in in appropriate circumstances. I naturally lean towards talking about deep and nerdy things (but also get really self conscious when I nerd out over a subject I really enjoy
). Gentle chit chat is nice but can also be a bit exhausting. I feel a lot of *internal* pressure to respond even if the conversation is lackluster. And sexy explorations…well… whenever, whereverI’m very much the same in person as I am online. I’m boisterous and loud and *hopefully* warm and welcoming, love cracking jokes and can switch on a dime to big and deep conversations about the intricacies of politics, social issues, family dynamics, etc. I follow the other person’s/person(s) lead. I enjoy conversation so I’m only to happy to oblige and look forward to connecting
My journey has been rather long… but the most important elements have been the occasional stops along the way, and the company of my sexy fellow travellers. I’m happy on this journey, but there are still stops I really want to visit.
I almost feel like I'm back where I started. I used to stick to the word game and ABC type threads, and sneak in the occasional snarky comment here and there elsewhere. Got a little more adventurous a little while back. Got some bumps and bruises. And now I'm back to being mostly harmless with the occasional snark. There's no endpoint in mind. I'm not looking for a partner or a new bestie or anything. I just keep hanging around because I've made some good friends here (and lost a few too).
If I shoot an arrow in the sky...where it lands is my target. I look at Lit much the same.
Is there a journey? I guess I have weathered a bunch of stuff here. Good friendships. Great partnerships that have dissolved, some amicably, others not so much. Most have taught me something. Some have just been fun. Others have given me glimpses into things about myself that at times can be really uncomfortable.
Finding ourselves is the journey..and being lighthearted is not a bad place to find one’s self.I miss being lighthearted and fun. That’s where I’d like to go back to. Non-serious good time, which is how this started for me. It’s how I’d like it to end
