Ask the Demon

[VandalHeart]

Dear demon
Why do I keep chewing on pencils?

You have no idea how close I came to simply giving a smartass answer to this. Considering you came to me on an erotica site with this question, the first thing that sprang to mind was "oral fixation."

Problem is I don't have any evidence outside of the pencil chewing to suggest that and I'm not exactly a mental health professional...regardless of how many people treat me as one. Anyhow, I did some digging, and I found a few possibilities.

1. Simple habit. This doesn't explain how it started in the first place, but it does explain why you can't stop easilly. As many of former addicts (or recovered addicts, if you're a 12-stepper) will tell you, stopping any habit is not an impossible task. Meditation, simple force of will, or switching to pencils specifically designed to taste nasty (there are some out there, but my minimal research didn't yield any). You may have to become your own behavioral therapist no matter what you do, and this goes for all of these suggestions unless otherwise specified.

2. Stop thinking so much. Okay, that came out wrong. When I was a kid I used to give myself a ring of really wierdly placed pimples all the time. It took me a while to figure out that I cradled my face in my hands for so long that I was stopping up my pores with pressure and the oil from my hands when I refrained in my work to think on something. It's one of the primary reasons that I write with a typewriter or computer most of the time now. Dunno why, but I keep my hands off my face now because of it. Probably because I'm no longer stuck in an uncomfortable desk in a substandard school surrounded my muscle-bound morons and freakish social misfits who can't even shut their mouths long enough to keep every cock in the county out...I'm sorry, I need to stay on topic. I'm not sure you're in a position to switch to a different medium of getting your ideas or work down, or even if you want to, but it is an idea.

3. These next two I'm going to bring up at the same time, but they're not very likely, unless you lied while signing up for this site and aren't yet 18. Vitamin deficiencies and Sensory Integration Disorder. These two problems are both possibilities, although they're usually things that affect kids or are caught when a person is a kid. It's still worth checking out with a medical professional, though, just in case. SID is usually confused for ADD or ADHD, even Autism or simply bad manners, so it's worth looking into. A vitamin deficiency is a serious problem as well, but it likely would havebeen caught by now since it presents other problems as well, and unless you eat the whole damn pencil - eraser and metal and all - this probably is not your problem.

In any case, you may want to check into option three first, and then fall back on options one or two. Now, I'm assuming with this response that you actually have a problem with your pencil chewing, but keep in mind that if you just wanted an explanation, there's nothing to say that you have to try and change it. If pencil chewing offers you stress relief, consider yourself lumped in with smokers in my mind: fuck 'em if they have a problem with your stress controls. In the words of Bill Hicks in response to the issue of second-hand smoke, "If I don't smoke, there's going to be second-hand bullets coming your way."

Hope this helps.

 

[VandalHeart]

*Chin scratches*

You can be really fucking cute when you want to be.

New Question:

Why can't people bring back their movies on time?

As with most instances of rude behavior, this is usually just a form of neglect. People just don't fucking care enough. This is why the internet rental sites with no late fees are so popular with their no late fee gimmick.

However, you didn't ask about my thoughts on how the corporations are sucking the blood out of every local/small/mom 'n' pop store in the world, so I'll move right along.

Again, and I know I've been over this with you before, people don't have enough regard for each other or even the contracts that they enter into to do as they've said they would or to act in the interests of anyone but themselves. Plus, there's simple procrastination, which seems to be something most everyone has a problem with in one way or another. I've mused several times in my life that if I had three wishes, the last one would be to get an extra four hours every day that I could use any way I liked but that no-one else got to have. Hell, I could rule the world inside a month with that kind of power.

Anyhow, I hope this helps.

 

[Lady Reiha]

As with most instances of rude behavior, this is usually just a form of neglect. People just don't fucking care enough. This is why the internet rental sites with no late fees are so popular with their no late fee gimmick.

However, you didn't ask about my thoughts on how the corporations are sucking the blood out of every local/small/mom 'n' pop store in the world, so I'll move right along.

Again, and I know I've been over this with you before, people don't have enough regard for each other or even the contracts that they enter into to do as they've said they would or to act in the interests of anyone but themselves. Plus, there's simple procrastination, which seems to be something most everyone has a problem with in one way or another. I've mused several times in my life that if I had three wishes, the last one would be to get an extra four hours every day that I could use any way I liked but that no-one else got to have. Hell, I could rule the world inside a month with that kind of power.

Anyhow, I hope this helps.

It does- thanks!! =^.^=

now I know your itchin' for a bitchin' about major corporate movie stores.
You may proceed- and that shall be my next question to you <3

 

[VandalHeart]

It does- thanks!! =^.^=

now I know your itchin' for a bitchin' about major corporate movie stores.
You may proceed- and that shall be my next question to you <3

I know I've mentioned this before, but in America (sorry, I don't know the specifics of Canadian law), corporations are considered their own entities in courts of law. Now, I know this may sound innocent or obvious enough, but the problem comes in when you consider that people are considered entities in the same sense. There was a study done a few years ago by a team of economists and a psychiatrist. The findings of the study yielded a nasty conclusion: corporations are not only psychopathic mechanisms, but they are psychopaths that will be penalized if they act in the interest of anyone but themselves. Corporations are legally bound to remain self-interested, greedy bastards. They have to play fair, but they can't play nice.

I hope you weren't looking for a preachier post, but in a nutshell, this is what is wrong with the corporation. If you'd like to hear more about this study and contribute to the cause of disarming them, please visit www.thecorporation.com for more info and the special edition dvd of the documentary, most of the profits of which go to raising awareness and fighting the problem.

 

[BoomerP]

You have no idea how close I came to simply giving a smartass answer to this. Considering you came to me on an erotica site with this question, the first thing that sprang to mind was "oral fixation."

Problem is I don't have any evidence outside of the pencil chewing to suggest that and I'm not exactly a mental health professional...regardless of how many people treat me as one. Anyhow, I did some digging, and I found a few possibilities.

1. Simple habit. This doesn't explain how it started in the first place, but it does explain why you can't stop easilly. As many of former addicts (or recovered addicts, if you're a 12-stepper) will tell you, stopping any habit is not an impossible task. Meditation, simple force of will, or switching to pencils specifically designed to taste nasty (there are some out there, but my minimal research didn't yield any). You may have to become your own behavioral therapist no matter what you do, and this goes for all of these suggestions unless otherwise specified.

2. Stop thinking so much. Okay, that came out wrong. When I was a kid I used to give myself a ring of really wierdly placed pimples all the time. It took me a while to figure out that I cradled my face in my hands for so long that I was stopping up my pores with pressure and the oil from my hands when I refrained in my work to think on something. It's one of the primary reasons that I write with a typewriter or computer most of the time now. Dunno why, but I keep my hands off my face now because of it. Probably because I'm no longer stuck in an uncomfortable desk in a substandard school surrounded my muscle-bound morons and freakish social misfits who can't even shut their mouths long enough to keep every cock in the county out...I'm sorry, I need to stay on topic. I'm not sure you're in a position to switch to a different medium of getting your ideas or work down, or even if you want to, but it is an idea.

3. These next two I'm going to bring up at the same time, but they're not very likely, unless you lied while signing up for this site and aren't yet 18. Vitamin deficiencies and Sensory Integration Disorder. These two problems are both possibilities, although they're usually things that affect kids or are caught when a person is a kid. It's still worth checking out with a medical professional, though, just in case. SID is usually confused for ADD or ADHD, even Autism or simply bad manners, so it's worth looking into. A vitamin deficiency is a serious problem as well, but it likely would havebeen caught by now since it presents other problems as well, and unless you eat the whole damn pencil - eraser and metal and all - this probably is not your problem.

In any case, you may want to check into option three first, and then fall back on options one or two. Now, I'm assuming with this response that you actually have a problem with your pencil chewing, but keep in mind that if you just wanted an explanation, there's nothing to say that you have to try and change it. If pencil chewing offers you stress relief, consider yourself lumped in with smokers in my mind: fuck 'em if they have a problem with your stress controls. In the words of Bill Hicks in response to the issue of second-hand smoke, "If I don't smoke, there's going to be second-hand bullets coming your way."

Hope this helps.

Damn!

I was definatly expecting a smart ass answer

Think I'm going to check in with option number 3 about vitamin deficiancy and that.
It's like it's easier to think while I'm chewing on a pencil!
I'm sure it's just one of those mental things though..

But ++rep for you!!

 

[asian_princess]

*slips in and pulls Parpar and ReiRei into my lap, to listen to SmartHartFart and his wiseness*

Dear SHF,

Firstly, i do hope you've been well...eating properly and sleeping and those sorts of things.

Secondly, what's the line between "testing" merchandise before you buy it, and just plain stealing?

 

[HotFaerieMama]

hmm so Demon i basically should start writing random letters to prisoners ?

PS - for those wondering about how twisted i am.. i suggest you ask the Demon...

 

[Lady Reiha]

I know I've mentioned this before, but in America (sorry, I don't know the specifics of Canadian law), corporations are considered their own entities in courts of law. Now, I know this may sound innocent or obvious enough, but the problem comes in when you consider that people are considered entities in the same sense. There was a study done a few years ago by a team of economists and a psychiatrist. The findings of the study yielded a nasty conclusion: corporations are not only psychopathic mechanisms, but they are psychopaths that will be penalized if they act in the interest of anyone but themselves. Corporations are legally bound to remain self-interested, greedy bastards. They have to play fair, but they can't play nice.

I hope you weren't looking for a preachier post, but in a nutshell, this is what is wrong with the corporation. If you'd like to hear more about this study and contribute to the cause of disarming them, please visit www.thecorporation.com for more info and the special edition dvd of the documentary, most of the profits of which go to raising awareness and fighting the problem.

Interesting!

Thanks a bunch ^^

 

[Lady Reiha]

Oh and Just to letcha know..

I have a few more questions for you Vandy-san. Hope that's alright with you ^^


1. I was watching Waterworld at work the other day, and you remember the scene when buddy ( what'shisname?) uses his piss for water by using a filtering system that he created? Well, If you peed in a water filtration system ( say Brita), would it turn your pee into water again?


2. Why do goth's insist on wearing trench coats on hot, summer days?

3. Why did Courtney Love and Avril Lavinge make manga's of themselves?

4. Why is there Shakesphere Manga out now?

5. Did Jackie Estacado not make Sara Pezzini Pregnant?

 

[VandalHeart]

Damn!

I was definatly expecting a smart ass answer

Think I'm going to check in with option number 3 about vitamin deficiancy and that.
It's like it's easier to think while I'm chewing on a pencil!
I'm sure it's just one of those mental things though..

But ++rep for you!!

Glad I could help, darlin'.

 

[VandalHeart]

*slips in and pulls Parpar and ReiRei into my lap, to listen to SmartHartFart and his wiseness*

Dear SHF,

Firstly, i do hope you've been well...eating properly and sleeping and those sorts of things.

Secondly, what's the line between "testing" merchandise before you buy it, and just plain stealing?

Walking out the door with it. Also, if you have to break the packaging at all, that's the first half of the break it you buy it thing. So...don't do that.

 

[VandalHeart]

I have a few more questions for you Vandy-san. Hope that's alright with you ^^

1. I was watching Waterworld at work the other day, and you remember the scene when buddy ( what'shisname?) uses his piss for water by using a filtering system that he created? Well, If you peed in a water filtration system ( say Brita), would it turn your pee into water again?

2. Why do goth's insist on wearing trench coats on hot, summer days?

3. Why did Courtney Love and Avril Lavinge make manga's of themselves?

4. Why is there Shakesphere Manga out now?

5. Did Jackie Estacado not make Sara Pezzini Pregnant?

1. Well, in theory, anything is possible, and someone someday may come up with a filtration system that will be able to turn urine into water again. As it is, first off, you don't really need to filtrate water to make it potable, because it is technically sterile and viable as a hydration source. For a while. Urine is still chock full of secondary substances that can build up over time and cause - go figure - jaundice. Currently, however, there are no simple household filtration systems for urine.

2. Because beauty is pain. And in some ways, a trench coat is beautiful. Kinda.

3. Because there is no justice in this world.

4. I...did not know there was. THAT'S AWESOME!!!

5. Um...who? Um...I don't keep up with Wtichblade as much as I guess I could...but...yeah.

 

[shykittyme]

Dear Demon...

I can't even believe I'm doing this, but I think it's because I want the subscription to your thread...

Why is it that reading your reviews of movies I've never even heard of, much less have ever thought of watching, make me want to go out and find 'em all...?

And why do I want to have SOME kind of OCD twitch, just so I can ask you why I do that...?

Sincerely,

shykitty, confused...

 

[VandalHeart]

Dear Demon...

I can't even believe I'm doing this, but I think it's because I want the subscription to your thread...

Why is it that reading your reviews of movies I've never even heard of, much less have ever thought of watching, make me want to go out and find 'em all...?

And why do I want to have SOME kind of OCD twitch, just so I can ask you why I do that...?

Sincerely,

shykitty, confused...

Before I answer this question, I just want to state for the record...I have the best hobby ever.

The movie reviews I gave (with one stinky, horrible, terrifyingly deficient and shitty so-called "movie" on the list) were all good movies. Trust me, they're awesome. But to answer your question, I've been told I could make anything I say sound more important than if it came from the voice of a god. Now, to be fair, they said that's just because no-one's ever actually heard the voice of a god, it's mostly a theoretical importance.

As for the second question, it's because you want me. That's right, you crave the infernal power. It's too bad you're too close to perfect to have any problems to bring to me, but there's good news! You can bring me OTHER PEOPLE'S PROBLEMS!!! Or, even better, problems you have with other people!!! That way, you can still stay awesome while getting to do the whole basking in my presence and stuff.

Seriously, though, you can subscribe to a thread without posting on it, and even so, saying that you enjoy the thread is still awesome. Thank you for the props. And I apologize if that seemed overly harsh, I was watching Scrubs when I wrote that, and Dr. Cox was ripping JD a new one. I was inspired and it looked too good to wipe it, so, there you go.

 

[gesshoku]

Dear Vandal,

Why do I feel the compulsion to clean when I know someone is coming over? I know partially that its cause my mom did it, but would that be my only reason?


And.. why do I feel the intense need to hide my pens away from my co-workers? Why can't I share my pens with them?

 

[VandalHeart]

Dear Vandal,

Why do I feel the compulsion to clean when I know someone is coming over? I know partially that its cause my mom did it, but would that be my only reason?

And.. why do I feel the intense need to hide my pens away from my co-workers? Why can't I share my pens with them?

That would be good manners. Having recently gone throuh this problem, presenting an unclean house to a visitor, especially one you respect and/orwant to impress can be embarassing.

As for the pens...pens disappear all the time. Letting co-workers borrow pens is a good way to get them to disappear even more. People are inconsiderate and absent-minded. How many times have you signed a credit card slip and accidentally kept the pen? Maybe not incredibly often, but everyone's done it at least once.

 

[VandalHeart]

Ok, your "Ask the Demon" has intrigued me, so I thought I would get your thoughts on the following questions...

1 - What is the difference between Submissive and Slave?

2 - Your thoughts on what is a strong Submissive

3 - How does one, who perhaps wants to submit, actually find it in herself to do so???

Thanks in advance for Your insight.

Anonymous

Oh, you're welcome. Especially since this is one of my favorite subjects for me. BDSM is not a hobby to me, it's a lifestyle.

1. Some people like to think that the difference between a submissive and a slave is degree of submition. This is a fallacy. slaves (yes, I left that uncapitalized on purpose) are not only highly trained and specialized in their functions, but sometimes aren't even submissives at all. submissives and slaves share a few common traits, but the position of slave is directly linked to the concept of the Total Power Exchange. TPE is a simple concept, but like most simple concepts, execution is a whole different ball game. Personally, I have a bit of a problem with certain labels being claimed, and this subject is a perfect example. Claiming to be a submissive is one thing. Saying that you like to submit to someone is fine and dandy and may or may not be true. That's for a significant other to decide or not and no-one else's. Claiming to be a slave, on the other hand, is tantamount, in my mind, to claming to be a holy person. Possibly true, but not something that is easily forgiveable if you lie about it. Being a slave should require certification, in my opinion. One may want to be a slave, but unless they have proven that they can engage in a TPE agreement AND uphold it, that person is not a slave. submissive, maybe. slave, no. Let me say right now that on the whole, I'm not too fond of slaves. This is not to say I dislike them - some of my closest and dearest friends are proven slaves, and I'm going to be taking over ownership of one in September (note: YAAAAAAYYY!!!). What I mean is that slaves usually aren't my thing. submissives more often appeal to me as potential partners. kasumi, or gesshoku, as you know her here on Lit, is a strange case in that I love her to the core and she's a slave. And that's just wierd.

2. A strong submissive is someone who knows what he or she wants, and what he or she wants is to be controlled and/or abused in bed or other areas of their lives and will not settle for anything less than what they want. Weakness, in my eyes, is settling for what you don't want, no matter what the aspect of your life it pertains to. This is not to say that one should not bend or compromise on anything, but giving up one's dreams for any reason is either cowardice or low-self esteem, neither of which are hallmarks of a strong person, submissive or not.

As a side note, giving up one's dreams and changing them are two very different things. So all of you thinking that I'm a weak person for abandoning my dream of becoming a scientist that devises military grade lasers can just shut the hell up.

3. I cannot answer this question. The problem here is that people submit for the different reasons. Sometimes it's because of the dominance of the person they are with, other times it's as undefineable as sexual orientation's reasoning(s). Some people either are or aren't. Period. Others find submition in themselves because of an external influence. Like a reaction. At the very least, if you feel the urge to me a submissive, do it either for reasons that you can understand or because you just can't help yourself. If you feel the intense need to submit, then submit. Until then, don't do anything you don't want to do. Just don't let anyone control you for reasons other than your happiness.

 

[gesshoku]

Dear Vandal,

Why do I feel the need to run and hide when you say such sweet things about me?

 

[shykittyme]

Before I answer this question, I just want to state for the record...I have the best hobby ever.

The movie reviews I gave (with one stinky, horrible, terrifyingly deficient and shitty so-called "movie" on the list) were all good movies. Trust me, they're awesome. But to answer your question, I've been told I could make anything I say sound more important than if it came from the voice of a god. Now, to be fair, they said that's just because no-one's ever actually heard the voice of a god, it's mostly a theoretical importance.

As for the second question, it's because you want me. That's right, you crave the infernal power. It's too bad you're too close to perfect to have any problems to bring to me, but there's good news! You can bring me OTHER PEOPLE'S PROBLEMS!!! Or, even better, problems you have with other people!!! That way, you can still stay awesome while getting to do the whole basking in my presence and stuff.

Seriously, though, you can subscribe to a thread without posting on it, and even so, saying that you enjoy the thread is still awesome. Thank you for the props. And I apologize if that seemed overly harsh, I was watching Scrubs when I wrote that, and Dr. Cox was ripping JD a new one. I was inspired and it looked too good to wipe it, so, there you go.

Dear Demon,

Thank you for your thoughtful response... Just to be clear, I am very very far from perfect, and if I seem that way, it's because I have years of experience in hiding the real me...

I shall be thinking very hard about my problems and others too....can't pass up the opportunity to get your take on them...

And just so that you will know, I knew I could get your subscription without posting...but something just mysteriously pulled me in that direction, so posting was a helpless compulsion, I'm afraid...

 

[VandalHeart]

Dear Vandal,

Why do I feel the need to run and hide when you say such sweet things about me?

Because that's a habit of yours that you developed over the years. And please don't change that, because it's a certified level 10 cuteness attack.

 

[VandalHeart]

Dear Demon,

Thank you for your thoughtful response... Just to be clear, I am very very far from perfect, and if I seem that way, it's because I have years of experience in hiding the real me...

I shall be thinking very hard about my problems and others too....can't pass up the opportunity to get your take on them...

And just so that you will know, I knew I could get your subscription without posting...but something just mysteriously pulled me in that direction, so posting was a helpless compulsion, I'm afraid...

The whole perfectness thing is cool. First off, subterfuge is a VERY good life skill and second, I was being scathingly (ooooo, two big words, Vandal, we're so proud of you!) sarcastic when I wrote that, so it was meant to be a joke anyhow. Still, the fact that you posted at all is wicked cool, so you're working your way to perfect in my eyes quite nicely. (WHAT THE FUCK?!? Why am I posting like an arrogant prick when I respond to you?!?)

Yes! Bring the inefficiencies and inadequacies of others to me! I revel in such things!

As for that last section of your post...aaaaaaaawwww. You're so sweet.

 

[HotFaerieMama]

Dear Demon, why is it that others ( including lifestylers) tend to frown upon things i like such as rape, broken bones and being choked? i personally don't see a problem with those three things but that might just be due to the fact that i'm twisted..

 

[VandalHeart]

Dear Demon, why is it that others ( including lifestylers) tend to frown upon things i like such as rape, broken bones and being choked? i personally don't see a problem with those three things but that might just be due to the fact that i'm twisted..

Well, first off, on the surface, these three things being things that you like do cast a bit of a bad light on you. By themselves, these things are usually categorized as negatives. Being raped means that your will and consent have been violated without your consent through sexual contact. Sexual contact is a very personal and deeply psychological thing, and for something of that nature to be done to someone by means of what is basically an attack is a potentially mind-shattering endeavor. Broken bones require medical attention to keep them from becoming permanently debilitating wounds. Though I'm not speaking from personal experience, seeing as how I've never broken a bone before, I've heard that a broken bone is one of the most painful injuries one would have to endure, second only to burns and ripped flesh in long-term discomfort. The healing process for broken bones is also one of temporary disablement, which most people think of as painful and annoying in and of itself. Being choked is also not something most people associate with fun. Being strangled is a common nightmare for most people, especially those who toss about in their sleep and end up with their faces in the pillow, causing an interference with breathing. As a slow and incredibly personal method of murder, strangulation is something that causes a great deal of fear in the person being strangled. None of these things is traditionally enjoyable.

All that being said, I know you're a very strange person. You enjoy the violation, the pain, and the fear. It's even debatable as to whether or not you even perceive them the way that most people do. On second appraisal and considering the nature of the act, it's a good question as to whether or not you can even BE raped. I'm going to go with yes on that, though, because everyone has their limits, and even you wouldn't consent to sex with certain people. Fugly is fugly. Your limits of pain are likely skewed from that of most people up to and including not feeling it in the same fashion that most do. There are studies that would support the theory that some people feel pain in reverse, a sort of chemical or neurological masochism. Having spoken with you on the phone and heard you get hurt on accident, I know you don't feel pain as pleasure all the time, but I also know that you are on some level a masochist, since the concept of being beaten senseless and having thiings done to you that would require medical intervention turn you on. Lastly, and to round out the focus of this answer, breath play is not an uncommon fetish among lifestylers, but breath play, humiliation and a total apathy towards limits of personal health of safety are a rare find in any person, even self-proclaimed lifestylers. Sometimes people will get enjoyment from some pretty dangerous or repugnant activities, but to have so many of them in one person is incredibly rare, and as such it's kind of intimidating. That old saying about how people fear what they don't understand is true, so this may be why you're having trouble finding anyone that feels comfortable engaging in any kind of play with you. Either they don't know how to handle you, they don't think they'll be able to live up to your expectations, or you simply freak them out by presenting yourself as a total whackjob.

Try some subtlety, kiddo. Don't be so ready to present every aspect of yourself. If you get to know someone before presenting all of your fetishes to them, they might be a little more willing to indulge them. Get to know someone before you pull out your deeper wierdnesses. Sometimes it's good to keep the skeletons in the closet. Even if you do leave the door open.

 

[VandalHeart]

Thank You for Your answers....

Now I have a couple more questions

1 - What makes a Master? <You had to know this was coming...LOL> And is being a Master the same as being Dominant?

2 - TPE, can this really happen?

3 - Does a M/s or D/s have to involve pain? And what is the underlying point of that pain?

4 - Have You ever had an online only submissive and do You think that could actually work?

Thanks again in advance.

me

you're welcome for the answers, darlin'. Thank you for the questions.

1 - Just as many things can make a submissive or slave, many things can make a Master. That really just comes down to whether or not someone has submitted to that person. What it takes to be a good Master is a little more specific, but it's also opinion. I think being a good Master means being a good teacher. There is no resource more valuable than information, and a good Master must command and lead without having to force his/her sub/slave, so it follows that being a source of learning is the best way to keep someone in thrall. Every relationship is an exchange, and both resources must be things that the other person either cannot get by themselves or cannot get enough of by themselves. D/s encompasses relationships in which control is exchanged, and control over another person is something only that person can give. Because the Master must offer something of equal value (to keep from being abusive), being a teacher is something I think is an equal exchange. Again, though, this is only my opinion. As for what a Master is in relationship to being a Master or Mistress, it's really just a question of what the Dominant wishes to be called. Some prefer other titles, it's just a personal choice.

2 - Yes. And in most cases, it's a very bad thing, but a healthy TPE is possible. Not only because anything can happen, but because I've seen it with my own eyes.

3 - Not necessarily. To ensure discipline, punishment must be doled out from time to time, but psychological discomfort, inconvenience, and removing priveledges can work just as well - and sometimes even better - than the infliction of physical harm.

4 - I have been an online Guardian several times. Guardianship is something that is done by a Dominant for a submissive or slave with the intention to provide stability and control with the expectation that someone, someday, will take over complete, permanent, and in person control or ownership at a later date. As for being in an online only D/s relationship with someone, I think it could happen, but I would be unfulfilled. I need my D/s dynamic to include real life interaction. I personally don't see how anyone could be in an exclusively online D/s relationship, but I've heard about enough of them to consider it a possibility. It's just not for me.

Anyhow, I hope this helps, and I look forward to your next set of questions!

 

[BoomerP]

Vandalheart I've been feeling constantly tired for the past 3-4 days, can't get around to doing anything productive!

Why does this happen and how can I get out of it?