Aussie's Adventures in Life, Love, and the Universe

[Apisto42]

You and me both!

That’s going to be my next career. Librarian.

But like the movie version where I’m like Indiana Jones.

 

[Endless_Night]

But like the movie version where I’m like Indiana Jones.

I was so disappointed when I hit grad school and met some of the guys working on archeological PhDs.

They in no way resembled Indiana.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Mine's a historian/archaeologist/archivist

 

[Apisto42]

I bet he digs deep to search out all the important finds.

 

[Endless_Night]

I bet he digs deep to search out all the important finds.

Oh, my . . . .

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Hey pervs,

Today I ended things with The Professor.

I didn’t go into the day intending to do it, but I got hit with a very clear wave of knowing- about the transitions in my life, about what I have capacity for, about what feels aligned- and once it landed, it felt important to name it. Not dramatically. Not impulsively. Just truthfully.

Part of what brought me here is something simple and unglamorous: I’ve become unavailable. Life has shifted. My bandwidth changed. And we haven’t been able to find time with each other. It’s been this long stretch of “soon” and “when things settle” and “after this week,” and at some point I had to admit that the shape of it had changed.

He responded with dignity and grace.
No defensiveness. No bargaining. No making it heavier than it already was. Just respect, and warmth, and an acceptance that felt… deeply human. I’m grateful for that. I care about him, and I’m very aware of what it means to end something with someone who has been good to me.

And I also want to say this plainly: I’m okay.

I’m sad in a clean way, but I’m okay. It feels like a solemn closing. Like putting something down gently, instead of dragging it behind me because I don’t want to hurt anyone.

I value his friendship. I really do. And I hope, in time, we can find our way there. I may need a little space first - not as punishment, not as a dramatic “no contact,” just as a kind way to let the feelings settle and let the new reality become real.

That’s all I’ve got today.

Wrist healing. Heart steady. A small ending, handled with care.

 

[Wand3rlust]

Take care of yourself .

 

[dkak001]

Many things in life will not last forever. Even if these things we love or enjoy may be transient, it doesn't make them less valuable. Cherish them for what they are, and enjoy them while you have the opportunity. Then remember them that way going foreword.

 

[Apisto42]

Hey pervs,

Today I ended things with The Professor.

I didn’t go into the day intending to do it, but I got hit with a very clear wave of knowing- about the transitions in my life, about what I have capacity for, about what feels aligned- and once it landed, it felt important to name it. Not dramatically. Not impulsively. Just truthfully.

Part of what brought me here is something simple and unglamorous: I’ve become unavailable. Life has shifted. My bandwidth changed. And we haven’t been able to find time with each other. It’s been this long stretch of “soon” and “when things settle” and “after this week,” and at some point I had to admit that the shape of it had changed.

He responded with dignity and grace.
No defensiveness. No bargaining. No making it heavier than it already was. Just respect, and warmth, and an acceptance that felt… deeply human. I’m grateful for that. I care about him, and I’m very aware of what it means to end something with someone who has been good to me.

And I also want to say this plainly: I’m okay.

I’m sad in a clean way, but I’m okay. It feels like a solemn closing. Like putting something down gently, instead of dragging it behind me because I don’t want to hurt anyone.

I value his friendship. I really do. And I hope, in time, we can find our way there. I may need a little space first - not as punishment, not as a dramatic “no contact,” just as a kind way to let the feelings settle and let the new reality become real.

That’s all I’ve got today.

Wrist healing. Heart steady. A small ending, handled with care.

Check your pm.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Check your pm.

Try hitting "Send"

 

[Endless_Night]

Hey pervs,

Today I ended things with The Professor.

I like the Professor even more now than I did before. Such a rarity to see someone act with grace and generosity under fire.

You too. To be straight forward and honest. No excuses. No prevarication.

- what it means to end something with someone who has been good to me.

This. What has been good deserves a good ending. That can be tough to manage.