Aussie's Self Pleasure Study Club

[HoneyMeadows]

I possess a withering stinkeye, so having pissed me off is pretty hard to miss.

I do what Fara said. Just pick back up like I hadn’t heard them.

But I’m ‘abrasive’…. So there’s that.

I have this too but it's "not conducive to a working environment"

If the person in charge is also a man, there‘s very little chance it will be addressed unless Honey addresses it.

This is the thing. I've also addressed it with the person directly before so now I take it personally. No matter, only 2 months left here but I want to start next endeavour off right.


To get back on topic: I am feeling quite so my instinct is to orgasm quickly for that rush of endorphins and to calm down. I'm hoping to stop relying on masturbating for this kind of thing and to learn better coping methods for stress so sex can be purely for fun for me again.

I'm also eyeing that Womaniser that Rainshine recommended

 

[KatieDoes]

I have this too but it's "not conducive to a working environment"

This is the thing. I've also addressed it with the person directly before so now I take it personally. No matter, only 2 months left here but I want to start next endeavour off right.


To get back on topic: I am feeling quite so my instinct is to orgasm quickly for that rush of endorphins and to calm down. I'm hoping to stop relying on masturbating for this kind of thing and to learn better coping methods for stress so sex can be purely for fun for me again.

I'm also eyeing that Womaniser that Rainshine recommended

Maybe a quick brisk walk/run in nature? A park if you’re in an urban setting…. Then a shower and some relaxed time alone in bed?

 

[KatieDoes]

I think cumming is a great coping mechanism.

It works for me, but I also prefer my sex to be rough, bordering on brutal. So angry masturbation isn’t really something I avoid I lean into it

 

[HoneyMeadows]

I think cumming is a great coping mechanism.

My clit would disagree on days like today

 

[KatieDoes]

WELL ACTUALLY...

Totally kidding! No, you're absolutely right. Communication is where it's at.

Ohhhh you scoundrel! That's it, we're friends now, because that made me laugh (the girl stealing, that is, I'm about to read the Forbes article).

Do you know where mansplainers get their facts?

From a well, actually.

 

[HoneyMeadows]

Dude. Don’t chafe!!!

A combination of very sensitive skin and an orgasm every 45mins isn't a great one. I'm hoping this new toy will help alleviate the chafing!

 

[HoneyMeadows]

I must say this, when you have sex with someone, who's in sync with you and has those special skills, no masturbation session can compare.

When the mutual masturbation is amazing then you can guarantee the physical will be even more amazing.

 

[HoneyMeadows]

General question or is this for the ladies specifically ????

General. The choice of "anyone" was deliberate.

 

[KatieDoes]

General question or is this for the ladies specifically ????

I can’t speak for Honey, but it’s definitely different for women. Both in how it occurs, and the ways that we are able to respond effectively.

 

[HoneyMeadows]

I can’t speak for Honey, but it’s definitely different for women. Both in how it occurs, and the ways that we are able to respond effectively.

I would love to know how from a guys perspective as maybe I could use some of it to be more effective...?

 

[SassySheDevil]

I was friends with females who claim they don't masturbate, some who claim they can only cum from penetration and others who claim they can only cum through clit stimulation. My thinking is, a woman can have sex whenever she wants, almost no man will turn her down, so I can see them not masturbating. I could be wrong in my assumptions, but this is what I think. It's not surprising to me. I've dated a woman, who didn't masturbate, but she was constantly in the mood for some .

I could get sex 3 times a day and still want my alone time. My orgasms I give myself are always different than anything I can get from sex. Plus they are an amazing calming thing. I typically enjoy right before bed. It calms my mind and helps me relax. Sex wakes me up.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Greedy lmao.


Just kidding

Duh.

 

[KatieDoes]

Yes, it can lead to a mental and physical build up, it can put 2 people in sync and knowing exactly what to do, if they're listening.

Thank you, I thought so, but wanted to confirm.

I've had it happen twice in my life, one was a unprofessional supervisor at KMart and another was during a roll call, when I worked at The Statue Of Liberty.

In KMart I had a female supervisor, very ghetto. She wanted me to stay past my time and busted stopped running soon. She was talking over me, so when she stopped, I told her I am not fucking staying and walked out lol. I got fired from that job, I started collecting unemployment, she tried to stop me from collecting and we went before a judge. I whipped the floor with her ass and let the Judge see her character, the Judge laid into her.


2nd incident was during a roll call, he was pretty much ripping us before our shift and
told us we have to have a more pleasant attitude at work. I told him, how do you expect us to be have a better attitude, after being berated. He started yelling and talking over me, I let him act out and stood my ground professionally, the head of our company came out and stopped him from his behavior.


If you don't mind, can you explain why, from your perspective.

Because men and women are held to different standards in the workplace. We are required to do our jobs in a way that makes men comfortable if we want to advance in our careers.
https://web.stanford.edu/dept/radio...ntent/uploads/2017/12/TheAbrasivenessTrap.pdf

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

I would love to know how from a guys perspective as maybe I could use some of it to be more effective...?

From a guy's perspective, then, I find the most effective technique to be to wait until the interrupter is done, and jump in with "As I was saying...' then pause and stare a moment for effect.
However, I'm not sure it works as well for women. I have seen meetings where the participants, mostly men, immediately start reponding to the interrupter and don't seem to have any recollection or awareness that the woman was speaking.

My observation is that "Can I finish what I was saying" may work better. This has the obvious drawback, on its face, of asking permission for something you ought to be able to do of right. But I think it is almost impossible for someone to say no to that.

 

[Joxlrg]

This is weird for an Aussie's self pleasure thread
Right???

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I would love to know how from a guys perspective as maybe I could use some of it to be more effective...?

Admittedly not a dude, but I am a female executive in a male dominated space...

1. Guys need to be aware that this happens and call this shit out. Doesn't happen often enough but when it does it's awesome.

2. I am direct. "You interrupted me. I wasn't done. There will be time for comments and questions when I'm done".

I don't get pissy or bent out of shape. I know my worth. I know I am allowed to take up as much space as others and I do so with grounded confidence.

It's not fair that women have to take on the additional labor of asserting ourselves where others are just accepted as default. And I'm hyper aware that those with less institutional power than me (BIPOC, LGBTQI+, disabled folk, etc) have a harder time than I do. I practice modeling inclusion and expect it from everyone in my teams.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

This is weird for an Aussie's self pleasure thread
Right???

Aussie says no

This is all actually a huge part of being a female trying to be sexual.

If you came here for slutty masturbation adventures of a woman willing to share, you're in the wrong place.

How I will be finding pleasure is dismantling the patriarchy.

 

[Joxlrg]

But on this subject I will say that I always interrupt the interruptor and say.. Excuse me.. She was talking

 

[KatieDoes]

Aussie says no

This is all actually a huge part of being a female trying to be sexual.

If you came here for slutty masturbation adventures of a woman willing to share, you're in the wrong place.

How I will be finding pleasure is dismantling the patriarchy.

Oh, baby…… that’s it….say it again…. right there……

 

[HoneyMeadows]

Aussie says no

This is all actually a huge part of being a female trying to be sexual.

If you came here for slutty masturbation adventures of a woman willing to share, you're in the wrong place.

How I will be finding pleasure is dismantling the patriarchy.

Thank you

I am always a bit worried about going off topic

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I think I may just go masturbate thinking about putting a man in his place

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Thank you

I am always a bit worried about going off topic

I'll happily steer things back.

These are all themes that play huge roles in our sexuality and for those willing to study, a great place to learn and reflect

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Also: there are some posts here I will respond to when I have more bandwidth. So many myths that need busting!

 

[Joxlrg]

I think I may just go masturbate thinking about putting a man in his place

Now that is truly Aussie self pleasure!!
Ill just be over here in my place

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Now that is truly Aussie self pleasure!!
Ill just be over here in my place

I didn't actually masturbate. I'm the mum of tiny humans. I don't have time for that shit

And it wasn't about you