Chastity

[9to5]

I have a few different cages and each fits a little different, my best is the cb6000s but sometimes I enjoy one of my metal ones. for the weight and it lets me get a little hard but not fully. love the feel my cock pushing at the tip.
so give it another try or maybe a different style

 

[saintcero]

Love wearing my cage but I find that I am much more comfortable in summer than in winter. Clothing is less constricting and my sack is likely looser for summer. Does anyone else have an easier time with being caged in hot weather?

 

[pumperguy191]

As far as sizing of the ring goes, there are a couple of sites that sell sizing rings. You buy the set, figure out your size and order appropriately

 

[Goldenfinger]

Originally, I gave an answer that was flippant and dismissive, but I decided to come back and give a real one instead.

I have always believed that submission isn’t doing only things you want to do anyway. I do a lot of things for my wife that I want to do. Those things are service.

Occasionally she requires something I would rather not do. Those things are submission.

So if you hadn’t wanted to be “caged” but you allowed it to happen - submission. At least in that moment.

But once it’s on, it seems to me that the opportunities for submission and obedience are gone because the choice to masturbate is taken away.

If I ask you not to use my chainsaw, and then lock it away where you cannot get it, you can’t really honor my request because I’ve removed the option not to.

I see where you’re coming from. Using your words one could say submission is service. You want to submit which is a service to the task.

A cage wasn’t my idea, but I was willing to try it. It’s not about masturbating all the time or cheating. It’s about control, it’s about responsibility. It has intertwined us in another way.

 

[artslut86]

If you have a digital Domme, and you r wife aint involved....how does that work, if the male has the key anyway..cant he ust unlock and have at it? Or is teh honour system alive and well?....Assuming that 50% + of all action here is digital or e based. IRL would be a totally different story. Owning some ones key is a big responsibility.

 

[emme8]

There's ways to keep a key safe even online.
There are number plastic locks that can be used,.
Ordering him to keep his key frozen in a block of ice.
Keeping it wrapped up and securely taped in the front page of the newspaper, would a cheap way of checking the date of last access.

Ultimately I wouldn't waste my time with someone I really couldn't trust. I do think that being a keyholder is a huge responsibility.

I get asked often by guys if I would be theirs. My answer is always NO. If you are so desperate that you would let a stranger control you, Don't even bother asking me.

Now let's see how many losers can't even read.

 

[Goldenfinger]

There's ways to keep a key safe even online.
There are number plastic locks that can be used,.
Ordering him to keep his key frozen in a block of ice.
Keeping it wrapped up and securely taped in the front page of the newspaper, would a cheap way of checking the date of last access.

Ultimately I wouldn't waste my time with someone I really couldn't trust. I do think that being a keyholder is a huge responsibility.

I get asked often by guys if I would be theirs. My answer is always NO. If you are so desperate that you would let a stranger control you, Don't even bother asking me.

Now let's see how many losers can't even read.

Having a partner be your key holder is sooo much better. There is so much more to it than click. Some see it as a gift, and to a point it is but it’s also a responsibility for the key holder. My wife’s is my key holder. We don’t use it for chastity it’s more for control. I submitted control of my penis to her. Every erection I get is for her allowed by her. But like I said it’s not just click and go. There is maintenance and she is the maintenance woman. So it’s something we do together. Kinda like pamper time. We soak in the tub, I rub her feet. It’s a whole thing for us.

 

[PaxNurgle]

As much as I understand and appreciate the idea of chastity and keyholding, I do NOT understand the appeal of it being used in a strictly online or distance relationship.

Part of the whole point is the power the keyholder has over the locked partner, and the trust the submissive places in his dominant partner. But if there is no daily face to face interaction, and it isn't part of an established, personal, and intimate relationship, then what is the point? I would never surrender the key to my "Device" to some online domme who I may or may not ever meet in person; there's just no point.

 

[emme8]

I think I get your feelings about online relationships. Unfortunately for some people that just the reality they have to live with right now.

I have found a sweet guy overseas that I enjoy chatting with. I don't have the ability to give him the attention I believe a key holder should give, but I could see that developing under different circumstances.
But we would have been friends first, and things would develop slowly.

 

[traill]

There's ways to keep a key safe even online.
There are number plastic locks that can be used,.
Ordering him to keep his key frozen in a block of ice.
Keeping it wrapped up and securely taped in the front page of the newspaper, would a cheap way of checking the date of last access.

Ultimately I wouldn't waste my time with someone I really couldn't trust. I do think that being a keyholder is a huge responsibility.

I get asked often by guys if I would be theirs. My answer is always NO. If you are so desperate that you would let a stranger control you, Don't even bother asking me.

Now let's see how many losers can't even read.

There's also something called the PiVault for those that still feel the want/need to have something physical. It's basically a keyholder than can be opened/closed online. It's an interesting idea although not needed for me personally.

 

[emme8]

Just thinking. If I ever get serious about locking Bob, and I am doing a lot of traveling like I was previously, or if I'm ever doing a long distance thing. I just thought of a little game. Keep him safe and play long distance.
I get several copies of the key.
Then I seal each key in a colored envelope with a task.
Obviously a RED that ends the game. He's out of the cage immediately, no task needed, but he's not going back into a cage. Maybe ever.

Maybe give him a couple of orange envelopes, he has a key to unlock .maybe minimal tasks to complete before he locks back up.

Then a few yellow envelopes with harder tasks , maybe things like wearing a big plug in his ass for the same number of hours the cage was off. not too painful stuff, or too humiliating stuff.
And a few green envelopes that have the key inside but also a gamble of extreme tasks. Maybe you can get out and cum IF you can while using icy hot as your lube.

That was he could say hmm. I need to go to the doctor use a orange, hmm I want to go to the river with that friend that doesn't know about this chance a yellow. I'm bored and need something spicy... green.

Let's see how long you can go with this.

 

[sweettalk4u]

I think I get your feelings about online relationships. Unfortunately for some people that just the reality they have to live with right now.

I have found a sweet guy overseas that I enjoy chatting with. I don't have the ability to give him the attention I believe a key holder should give, but I could see that developing under different circumstances.
But we would have been friends first, and things would develop slowly.

Good for you! Online can be very good. What you get out of any relationship depends on what you put in.

 

[pumperguy191]

I have a feeling that I will soon be caged again, for how long, unknown. Until then, masturbation abounds and maybe even a huge pleasuring session for my keyholder. ED issues may prevent penetration, unless I use the strapon on her. Updates soon

 

[9to5]

I have a huge interest of being inn chastity

 

[Goldenfinger]

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[PaxNurgle]

I have a huge interest in male chastity and maybe being a keyholder for a man. Any like minded guys, get at me about this fetish.

I would love to surrender the keys to the right person in the right circumstance. For me, though, it would have to be a part of a personal, intimate, and face to face relationship. I wouldn't really be into a "long-distance keyholder" type of arrangement.

 

[pumperguy191]

My wife actually said that she would put the cage on me, first time ever

 

[Minicoop]

I think they're almost exclusively used in porn. I've seen many things - but never a chastity device. But I know a girl at a .. store. I can ask her how many she sells.

I don’t have hard data, but I’ve chatted and talked exchanged pics with hundreds of males who are caged. I meet them on Tumblr, MeWe, BDSMLR and such sites. Literally hundreds of different cafe designs are available commercially — I’ve personally owned a dozen This one is a Holy Trainer with internal cylinder lock I also have ones made of stainless steel and clear polycarbonate

 

[shemyezza]

I wouldn't be dressed with out a cage ,not that my wife gave me the choice

 

[Replicant2018]

I wouldn't be dressed with out a cage ,not that my wife gave me the choice

So sexy in red and black cage!

 

[Downfor]

I don’t have hard data, but I’ve chatted and talked exchanged pics with hundreds of males who are caged. I meet them on Tumblr, MeWe, BDSMLR and such sites. Literally hundreds of different cafe designs are available commercially — I’ve personally owned a dozen This one is a Holy Trainer with internal cylinder lock I also have ones made of stainless steel and clear polycarbonateView attachment 2208289

I love my stainless holy trainer but it's the nub version!

 

[Goldenfinger]

I love my stainless holy trainer but it's the nub version!

I like metal better. Not so clamy. I also like thicker base rings that are not round. Cylinder lock and a Urethral tube.

 

[bps]

I think they're almost exclusively used in porn. I've seen many things - but never a chastity device. But I know a girl at a .. store. I can ask her how many she sells.

I don’t know. I think a lot more people are into it than you might think. That’s not to say it’s necessarily the centerpiece of their intimacy. But it might be a part of it on occasion. I know we’re definitely not in porn…

 

[pumperguy191]

I think they're almost exclusively used in porn. I've seen many things - but never a chastity device. But I know a girl at a .. store. I can ask her how many she sells.

Oh they're used in everyday life for sure.

 

[Downfor]

Oh they're used in everyday life for sure.

They most definitely are used and I'm one using one.