Yeah here going to sauna with the whole family is normal. Yes I've seen several uncles and aunts naked too, nothing sexual in it. Nudity is only prohibited when it's "disturbing", so being naked on your balcony is ok, wanking of visibly is not. (Not that many utilise even their right to be naked!)
Same, northern Europeans are just very relaxed with nudity. We went to nudist beaches on vacation as a family, everyone is naked in saunas and spa pools, I respectfully go naked in the sea even if it's not a nudist beach, people just turn around and you take a towel as soon as coming out. So, nakedness is just nothing special for me.
I know how everyone in my family looks naked.
Going to nudist vacations isn't exactly a majority thing here. Doing it with a family, it's a small minority. On a popular beach it's allowed, but happens relatively seldom. It's more common outside of publicly maintained beaches.
I have so many aunts, uncles and cousins that there simply hasn't been a situation to see all of them naked. Just some. Literally a few dozens of cousins.I know how everyone in my family looks naked.
In Germany normal pools are with swim suits, spa pools in the sauna area naked.
Here even spas function more like swimming halls in that sense.
I can swim at any beach naked as long as I'm discreet about it. I hate the feeling of wet swim wear on my body.
Hmm.... Just less exciting as it's so natural. It's definitely intimate in the sense that I wouldn't be naked in private with anyone else.
I think, it actually does. It would not be a problem for me to open the door naked, in fact I did that a few times ago in the past for friends when I was in the bathtub and then went back into the tub. So, I would do it to entertain a partner but it is not something exciting or thrilling for me.
A good friend I met on lit introduced me to the erotic potential of pantyhose and encouraged me to try in an offline setting without anything beneath it, it was quite the experience for me. I don't have cuffs, but other restraints.
Ankle and wrist cuffs. And leather collar too. All locked. But that's just during sessions and other selected times, not every time we meet.
I guess, everyone is different.
Each to their own. But 3½ years ago I was thinking the same as you... And then it just became a natural part after all. In a bdsm party it even felt safer to have the collar and leash - because I knew he was in the other end of the leash. That I wasn't alone, that there was this physical connection when going in the crowd. It has become to mean that I don't have to worry about a thing when I'm collared and cuffed. I can have worries and power, or collar and cuffs, not all of it at the same time. There's a lot of symbolism involved, it doesn't come from outside but from what happens between us. Also, we like bondage but not with ropes, so leather cuffs are very much practical.
You seem like a very smart and decisive woman, who knows exactly what she wants, so I would never say never as an absolute when you say that it can change. I also don't see myself going to leather bdsm parties with lots of strangers, but as you said, things may change.
I have no idea what is a "leather bdsm party" - it was a generic bdsm party, with minimum level of clothes obligatory as it was held in a bar. Surprisingly little leather to be seen, in fact. (Though more than latex.) There were also some very obviously little outfits (tiny teddy bears tied to shoes etc). Now, I wouldn't have gone alone, I'm not a party person in general (and this was another city so we really didn't know people) and that hasn't changed, but he wanted it and together it was ok. Because he was with me, and the leash was short so he indeed wasn't far. No need to worry he'd disappear for a loong time, forgetting me (like my late husband could do in an ordinary party).
I think, I get it. Some of my friends have been to parties here and told me about lots of leather and other stuff, I wouldn't feel comfortable with. Maybe local. I was in no way judging. If you had a great time, I'm glad.
This is so true. The two times we have explored my exhibitionism, I was collared and leashed for exactly this reason. I knew he was there, just a step or two behind me, and I felt comfortable and powerful. I would not have experimented otherwise.
Nearly anything can be a collar, even a simple chain necklace, if the two of you agree on it. That is how I maintained my link to him at my old job. No one but me knew the symbolism. Though I do have one of those fancy Infinity collars that I wear now that I've changed jobs, the expense really doesn't change the feeling. It's just a symbol.
She IS indeed a very smart and decisive woman. I consider her my first mentor in this space. Early on, there were many times when this little bunny would snuggle under the wings of the wise owl and just listen.
I didn't think that there is one right way, I said not for me and that everyone is different.
I agree. We just want it to be one that can be locked. And for daily use in long term, it should be gold as it doesn't tarnish like e.g. silver.
Agree. Submissive does not mean weak
