Fuck It: Refux

[Bbl87]

S/m is something I want to look into but I’m a little worried about where to start, especially being that any relationship I chose to pursue is online only. I would think the anticipation, the vulnerability, the level of the sensation itself would be layered to create this intense rush of emotion and feeling unlike anything experienced previously. I know I’m not into physically damaging my body (enough damage here lol), so medical play is out but I have always thought that spanking, hair pulling, wax, whips… looked fun

I'm kind of in the same boat... to me s/m seems like it would be difficult for me to get into online. But that may just be a personal thing. I also have a hard time getting into D/s completely online but it works for plenty of people. Different strokes for different folks.

 

[MrsPassion]

to me s/m seems like it would be difficult for me to get into online.

Running the risk of tmi- the way I make this work is by equal parts photos, videos, and audio recordings.

An example; I may have mouthed off a bit and earned myself a spanking with a hard studded paddle. So I recorded said spanking so each swat could be heard clearly, and sent photos of the welts/markings as confirmation. Dom was pleased, I was pleased I carried out my punishment well, and my bum stung . There’s ways to do it online. You just have to get creative.

 

[Lindi37]

Running the risk of tmi- the way I make this work is by equal parts photos, videos, and audio recordings.

An example; I may have mouthed off a bit and earned myself a spanking with a hard studded paddle. So I recorded said spanking so each swat could be heard clearly, and sent photos of the welts/markings as confirmation. Dom was pleased, I was pleased I carried out my punishment well, and my bum stung . There’s ways to do it online. You just have to get creative.

Would someone not see the welts/marks on your skin? While I’m not physically intimate with hubs often, I am naked around him a lot (could be my problem ahahaha).
Plus I don’t get punished very often. He threatened once to cease all forms of communication for a set amount of time and I’ve never forgotten it , so I just get the look and a word and I’m back in line

 

[MrsPassion]

Would someone not see the welts/marks on your skin? While I’m not physically intimate with hubs often, I am naked around him a lot (could be my problem ahahaha).

Depends on what/where you did said thing. For me, because my skin is darker it takes a lot for noticeable changes. But yeah, I’d imagine if it’s something like spanking you’re gonna have red marks and depending on how hard bruising for sometime after. But things like nipple play/punishments wouldn’t necessarily be outwardly noticeable. Not would spankings on more private areas (insides of thighs for example). My example is based off what I like and how I document share that experience.

I…am the type of brat that regularly earns punishment. Because I don’t care and also because it’s fun. Maybe you could teach me how to watch my mouth might improve my odds in the future

 

[barefootgirl69]

I'm not going to kink shame ginger, but I do want to share something.

Dicing jalapeños prior to masturbation isn't my kink. Did I learn my lesson the first time? No. When He calls I'm dropping everything.

 

[MrsPassion]

I'm not going to kink shame ginger, but I do want to share something.

Dicing jalapeños prior to masturbation isn't my kink. Did I learn my lesson the first time? No. When He calls I'm dropping everything.

Genuinely curious was it enjoyable though? The tingly/burny sensation? Or was it more like…”welp..spicy fingers it is then”

 

[Lindi37]

Ok just one more thing, I'm not sure if I could be a sub because if someone ceases communication, it really screws my mind...
As I have found out over the years, this would be very very high up on my punishment scale, perhaps I need to be the dom

Hmmm, I don’t think one can necessarily chose that . But if you had a good open communication with your Domme you’d put that as something that you couldn’t handle.

 

[StillRain]

When you leave to make way for the feet and come back to a seven page progression and suddenly it’s all too hard.

 

[SiFi]

When you leave to make way for the feet and come back to a seven page progression and suddenly it’s all too hard.

But hard is good

 

[StillRain]

But hard is good

 

[Saltfountain]

When you leave to make way for the feet and come back to a seven page progression and suddenly it’s all too hard.

I did say not to leave

 

[Saltfountain]

Hmmm, I don’t think one can necessarily chose that . But if you had a good open communication with your Domme you’d put that as something that you couldn’t handle.

I'm making some assumptions here...

1) @Lindi37 is a brat and you're very much not
2) brats thrive off attention so withdrawing communication is an effective sanction for them
3) it wouldn't have been long term
4) seems like it was effective as the mere threat of it is enough to keep her in line (what is the look he gives you, and how does he do that online?)
5) her dom has spent time with her and cares about her from what she's said, he wouldn't do anything to hurt her

 

[Lindi37]

I'm making some assumptions here...

1) @Lindi37 is a brat and you're very much not
2) brats thrive off attention so withdrawing communication is an effective sanction for them
3) it wouldn't have been long term
4) seems like it was effective as the mere threat of it is enough to keep her in line (what is the look he gives you, and how does he do that online?)
5) her dom has spent time with her and cares about her from what she's said, do wouldn't do anything to hurt her

Pfft
1) I’m not a brat
2) I thrive with alone time
3) Probably not but who would sing me to sleep?!
4) It was, dammit
5) He does care for me

 

[Saltfountain]

4) It was, dammit

What look does he give you, and how? Or are you not allowed to share that?

 

[Saltfountain]

This thread is answering a lot of questions I have about Dom/subs, before I came on Lit (bad choice of words ) I only had a very skewed view of it due to my only experience from stories I read and porn a lot of which gave out the wrong impression and put it in a bad light. I am understanding a lot more now, still have a way to go but I like to learn.
Sounds like I read the wrong stories
But you lot are putting me right

We are giving you different and personal views of D/s
I think the thing is, it's different and unique to every D/s

 

[Saltfountain]

I bet that look is similar to the one I get off wifey just before I have to deploy 'anti argument tactics'

I bet her Dom doesn't pick up the breasknife and have a look of murder in his eyes

 

[Lindi37]

What look does he give you, and how? Or are you not allowed to share that?

If we’re chatting it’s

If he has to give me the eyebrow again he also writes ‘babygirl’
I’ve heard him and seen him say it enough to know how he sounds and looks.
I dare not misbehave, I won’t win

And I don’t want to

 

[Saltfountain]

If we’re chatting it’s

If he has to give me the eyebrow again he also writes ‘babygirl’
I’ve heard him and seen him say it enough to know how he sounds and looks.
I dare not misbehave, I won’t win

And I don’t want to

Thank you for that

And just using that emoji has you instantly submissive? Does it work if you see other people use it innocently in chats too?

 

[Lindi37]

Thank you for that

And just using that emoji has you instantly submissive? Does it work if you see other people use it innocently in chats too?

It does, completely subby
And no , if that was the case I won’t have shared can you imagine the PMs
It might as well be a completely different emoji.

 

[Saltfountain]

It does, completely subby
And no , if that was the case I won’t have shared can you imagine the PMs
It might as well be a completely different emoji.

I love how the same picture can be used by different people but totally affect you differently

 

[Lindi37]

So if someone else used it and you suddenly unexpectedly felt subby, that would be an 'Oh Shit' moment.

Not possible because I haven’t submitted to them and I haven’t built up that dynamic x

 

[Saltfountain]

Not possible because I haven’t submitted to them and I haven’t built up that dynamic x

I find that's one of the things a lot of so called doms don't understand. You have to submit. They don't have claims on you till you choose to do that

 

[MrsPassion]

(I feel like I neglected to say that pain isn’t just relegated to punishment/funishment. Pain is also very pleasurable during more erotic acts and can heighten awareness and sensation overall)

 

[Saltfountain]

(I feel like I neglected to say that pain isn’t just relegated to punishment/funishment. Pain is also very pleasurable during more erotic acts and can heighten awareness and sensation overall)

Pain can be an exploration in itself, heightening senses, intensifying the experience

And also the act of pushing boundaries and testing limits can be very rewarding

 

[WriterLust94]

(I feel like I neglected to say that pain isn’t just relegated to punishment/funishment. Pain is also very pleasurable during more erotic acts and can heighten awareness and sensation overall)

Most pain I indulge in is hair tugs/pull, spanks and biting but less about how hard I'm doing these and more just the sensual stimulation.

I also find, being an auralist, that I enjoy growls, moans and other sounds. Giving and receiving