Fuck It: Refux

[Lindi37]

Most pain I indulge in is hair tugs/pull, spanks and biting but less about how hard I'm doing these and more just the sensual stimulation.

I also find, being an auralist, that I enjoy growls, moans and other sounds. Giving and receiving

Mhmm. Sound is

 

[WriterLust94]

Mhmm. Sound is

One thing I'm quite proud of, I did an erotic audio and I had my shower running in the background for extra effect/stimulation

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Maybe you don't have to pick a side @SiFi if both appeal to you. I don't have any kind of dominant leanings. I'm completely submissive and being able to put a word to how I've always felt has been very freeing.
Take your time and explore what feels comfortable to you.
Also "mental mind fuck" is a good description. I love being dominated through my mind. It shows that there is a great understanding of who I am and what I need

 

[Saltfountain]

So as I am understanding more, the online Dom/sub to me it appears to be a big part is the ( how do I describe this?) mental mind fuck, in the best way.
I have realised this is appealing to me even more so than e-boning. Still not sure which side I am leaning on.

Not necessarily

It's what you decide between you. I have been Dom to girls where I've been brutal, and made them bleed. I've Dommed girls where it's been hardly sexual, but controlling their lives and lifestyles

It's what is right between you

 

[RosewoodTulip]

I have a lot to catch up on but I'm a big fan of the discussion topic
I haven't explored pain in any real way. My head says I wouldn't enjoy it but I wonder about that. I'm a big fan of sensations. How I react to certain stimuli. Perhaps this is something I should try and see how it would make me feel. If I don’t like it then at least I'll know.
Audio is wonderful. A voice and my imagination does so much more for me than pictures or porn. Although that does change when I know the person I'm looking at

 

[Lindi37]

I couldn't do the pain thing, I have a very high physical pain threshold ( I almost lost a finger !) So if I was to get to a pain for stimulation it would be at a dangerous level. Mental pain my threshold is much lower (fairly obvious from the last few days ) so the 'mental mind fuck' is where I'm at.

I’m much the same

 

[Saltfountain]

I’m much the same

Hope your Dom didn't read that

 

[Saltfountain]

I couldn't do the pain thing, I have a very high physical pain threshold ( I almost lost a finger !) So if I was to get to a pain for stimulation it would be at a dangerous level. Mental pain my threshold is much lower (fairly obvious from the last few days ) so the 'mental mind fuck' is where I'm at.

You'd be surprised

 

[Lindi37]

Hope your Dom didn't read that

I’m okay with it, if he also sees…

Mhmm. Sound is

This

 

[hopeful_wife]

Posting a pic of fully soft dick is low down on my list of what I would show, (he's definitely a grower )

Gentlemen, I'm a firm believer (pun intended) that this mindset should change. Allowing me to see your cock before you're hard means that I get to see the effect I have on you. Imagine how beautiful and powerful and sexy I feel when I watch your lust for me literally grow.

I get that the social norm is to pretend that you're all walking around rock hard all the time and to never let anyone see you pre-erection or more than a few seconds post-ejaculation, but I think there's a lot of sexy to be found in sharing those things with your online partners. I know I have absolutely LOVED the moments when someone has felt safe enough to share them with me.

erotic audio and I had my shower running

This is a sound that often accompanies my voice memos, just because it's a place I can (sometimes) be alone.

Still not sure which side I am leaning on.

I'm submissive. Completely. But if my partner needs me to take charge, I can. It's still an act of submission, for me-- I'm meeting his need-- but I sound bossy during.

 

[Saltfountain]

I get that the social norm is to pretend that you're all walking around rock hard all the time and to never let anyone see you pre-erection or more than a few seconds post-ejaculation

Nothing to do with social norms

I think my cock is embarrassingly pathetic when it's properly soft. When I'm in any way thinking i might be about to play in real life or online, I'm normally at least semi. I'll share that with certain people, but my fully soft cock is really ugly and slug like. So I'm sorry. I'm that's my failing. We'll add it to the list

 

[hopeful_wife]

I think my cock is embarrassingly pathetic when it's properly soft... my fully soft cock is really ugly and slug like.

To quote Lindi's Dom: .

 

[Saltfountain]

To quote Lindi's Dom: .

I doubt he'd like it either

 

[Bbl87]

Running the risk of tmi- the way I make this work is by equal parts photos, videos, and audio recordings.

An example; I may have mouthed off a bit and earned myself a spanking with a hard studded paddle. So I recorded said spanking so each swat could be heard clearly, and sent photos of the welts/markings as confirmation. Dom was pleased, I was pleased I carried out my punishment well, and my bum stung . There’s ways to do it online. You just have to get creative.

Pretty much nothing could ever be TMI on here as far as I'm concerned, haha.

I appreciate the insight! I can see how it would work, I just think I'd have a hard time getting myself immersed in it enough to make it worth it and enjoyable for a sub (or domme, I'd give it a shot!). Didn't mean to sound like I was passing judgment on those who do/can or anything so hope it wasn't taken that way! Just meant I'm not sure I could do it myself. I'd probably be willing to try if someone really wanted, but probably not something I'd actively seek out right now.

Gentlemen, I'm a firm believer (pun intended) that this mindset should change. Allowing me to see your cock before you're hard means that I get to see the effect I have on you. Imagine how beautiful and powerful and sexy I feel when I watch your lust for me literally grow.

I get that the social norm is to pretend that you're all walking around rock hard all the time and to never let anyone see you pre-erection or more than a few seconds post-ejaculation, but I think there's a lot of sexy to be found in sharing those things with your online partners. I know I have absolutely LOVED the moments when someone has felt safe enough to share them with me.

I mean, I am walking around hard a fair bit of the time.

I will echo @Saltfountain's sentiment though, me soft is something I'm usually not very inclined to share. I mean, my wife sees it by default, but other than that, ya. I'm very much a grower, and some can attest to.

 

[Saltfountain]

I did post a pretty soft cock in artistic. But it doesn't feel like it's a cock in that pic, so I'm ok with it.

I know that probably makes zero sense, but

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Oh I won't show my face here. If anyone does get to see it that means I have a huge amount of trust in that person.

Also I'm not the most confident of people. You're all shocked I know haha. I once showed my face to someone here I thought I'd made a good connection with and he ghosted me immediately which made me feel awful for a long time. So now I'm extremely cautious

 

[Saltfountain]

Oh I won't show my face here. If anyone does get to see it that means I have a huge amount of trust in that person.

Also I'm not the most confident of people. You're all shocked I know haha. I once showed my face to someone here I thought I'd made a good connection with and he ghosted me immediately which made me feel awful for a long time. So now I'm extremely cautious

That needs a hug reaction

 

[tolyk]

Oh I won't show my face here. If anyone does get to see it that means I have a huge amount of trust in that person.

Also I'm not the most confident of people. You're all shocked I know haha. I once showed my face to someone here I thought I'd made a good connection with and he ghosted me immediately which made me feel awful for a long time. So now I'm extremely cautious

Dick move by the ghoster.

I agree with what you were saying about showing soft cock. I've never had the issue though, I've no shame in sharing pics when I'm flaccid, or not fully erect. Some of the best pics I've taken of myself I'm semi-hard or completely soft.

 

[SiFi]

Oh I won't show my face here. If anyone does get to see it that means I have a huge amount of trust in that person.

Also I'm not the most confident of people. You're all shocked I know haha. I once showed my face to someone here I thought I'd made a good connection with and he ghosted me immediately which made me feel awful for a long time. So now I'm extremely cautious

I'm putting it down to the ghoster not being able to cope with the beauty. ❤

 

[RosewoodTulip]

I'm putting down to the ghoster not being able to cope with the beauty. ❤

That must be it!
Thanks Si

 

[Bbl87]

Oh I won't show my face here. If anyone does get to see it that means I have a huge amount of trust in that person.

Also I'm not the most confident of people. You're all shocked I know haha. I once showed my face to someone here I thought I'd made a good connection with and he ghosted me immediately which made me feel awful for a long time. So now I'm extremely cautious

I won't show it publicly, but I don't mind sharing once I've gotten to know someone a bit and get a trustworthy vibe. Same with dick pics, haha. Perhaps ironically, I'm much more hesitant to share pictures of the rest of my body. Just self conscious about my weight and build I suppose.

 

[Deleted member 6592667]

I won't show it publicly, but I don't mind sharing once I've gotten to know someone a bit and get a trustworthy vibe. Same with dick pics, haha. Perhaps ironically, I'm much more hesitant to share pictures of the rest of my body. Just self conscious about my weight and build I suppose.

I'm the same way. My dick and face are fantastic. The rest of me looks like I'm in my 40s. Lol

 

[RosewoodTulip]

I won't show it publicly, but I don't mind sharing once I've gotten to know someone a bit and get a trustworthy vibe. Same with dick pics, haha. Perhaps ironically, I'm much more hesitant to share pictures of the rest of my body. Just self conscious about my weight and build I suppose.

I get that too.
I have enjoyed the rush of sharing pics but I get very insecure about taking them and trying to get a reasonably decent angle because I'm a bigger woman and I've always hidden myself away.
The more of myself I show the more vulnerable I feel. I do very much like the rush of showing myself and the reactions I've had have all been very positive so far. It has helped massively with my self confidence too

 

[tolyk]

I'm the same way. My dick and face are fantastic. The rest of me looks like I'm in my 40s. Lol

Because you are...


I figure, what's the point in not showing myself, anyone I sleep with sees me naked, and still sleeps with me. I'm not trying to sleep with people by sharing in my am pics thread, that's for me. For the exhibitionist thrill.

I show my face quite often too.

 

[Bbl87]

I get that too.
I have enjoyed the rush of sharing pics but I get very insecure about taking them and trying to get a reasonably decent angle because I'm a bigger woman and I've always hidden myself away.
The more of myself I show the more vulnerable I feel. I do very much like the rush of showing myself and the reactions I've had have all been very positive so far. It has helped massively with my self confidence too

I think you'll find a much more body positive community here than most places. Hell, peruse my gifs in the what kind of sex thread, I tend to like women that are more voluptuous. I'll be honest, I'd never sent a dick pic before coming to Lit. It's quite a rush for me as well now that I've done it. But, as I always say, solicited only.