Guy Curious but Uneasy about bj

[rjp44]

No guilt for me....I wanna do it....but I'm afraid of the STD issue....

This is why I don't cruise or go to gay bars. I feel the guys I would meet there would be more promiscuous. There are a lot more diseases out there than AIDS and penicilin won't cure them all.

 

[KravMaga]

It is a recurring fantasy that I use to masturbate with. Have even had very vivid dreams about. After I finish, it goes away. As said before, some things are better left in fantasy. In my case I'm married, would not want to go there with the wife, and I'm not interestedd in anything on the side. I'm 40 and have had the same feelings for a long time. For me, the intesting thing is that the fantasy never has a face. I'm sure Freud would have a field day.
Good luck.

 

[snowday43]

Thanks to everybody that replied to my note. I guess I am glad to hear that I am not alone in feeling the way I do. I still have not done it but the pressure is building to the point where I think that I'm going to have to try it just for once.

 

[silkybiblue]

you're not alone snowday

No guilt for me....I wanna do it....but I'm afraid of the STD issue....

Same here, wanted it but won't risk losing everything, still have occasional fantasies that can be overpowering at times, but STD issue is scary. and yes the feelings intensify through late 30's into mid 40's, just turned 44 and feelings are still there, enjoy the fantasies.

 

[human_male]

I'm in the same boat there, and maybe I'd try if I met someone, but that's not likely so I doubt I ever will. I'm worried about how I'll feel about it after also. But I'm more worried about STDs. There's no way I'd do it without a condom (so that kinda rules out the cuming in the mouth bit, which is the main attraction) but I'd still be paranoid that it didn't work, or he pulled it off when he was behind me and I didn't realise... stupid stuff like that. I don't think I'd ever be comfortable doing it because of those fears.

Who knows though.

 

[NSWCOAST]

Never knew there were so many guys in the same boat

i lived the fantasy for many years and it took me another 2 to do it once i decided to try. To those of you who fantasise about it..guys you should try.
I love sucking another guys cock, admittedly i havent swallowed but given the right surroundings and guy i probably would. The thing is i have only done it with other married guys, you can be relatively sure they are clean

 

[namron711]

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I pretty much have the same feelings as you.
My only concern is whether or not this is considered cheating on my wife.

I'm otherwise a straight guy in my 30s but have developed a strong fascination about the thought of sucking another guy's cock and having him cum in my mouth and/or my face. The feelings are quite strong and have started to lead me to seek out possible opporturites for doing his. But, on the the other hand, I'm incredibly nervous about this and have chickened out the couple of times I've got close to doing this. I'm worried about how I'll feel about myself afterward if I go through with it. Will the sense of awkwardness and perhaps even guilt outweight the short-lived buzz that I may get from the expierence? I also find myself worrying about what the other guy would think about me as I would be sucking him. Would he think I'm odd for wanting to do this? I tell myself that he wouldn't be there if he weren't into it. But, I still can't help worrying about this.

Does anybody else have mixed emotions like this? Have anybody got past them?

 

[namron711]

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Can I ask people's age here on this topic? The reason I ask is it seems that as guys get older...and some not all, of their wives start slowing down in the bedroom, from what I can see, tend to become interested in trying this.

So I'm wondering, I'm in my mid 30's now, am I going to crave it even more 10-20 years from now?

YES YOU WILL!!!

 

[namron711]

I must admit, these feelings have been burning in me too for a few months.
Last time I sucked off a guy I was a young teenager and I was "experimenting" with a friend.

Living in a small town is the toughest part for me... it's hard to find a guy that I'm comfortable enough with to try this again.

That's the #1 obstacle. Finding someone you're comfortable with to do this. My suggestion is to wait until you find that someone. You'll know it when you do. That is when all inhibitions go out the window.

Don't you ever feel like tasting your own cum? and then once you jacked off and the cum is in your hand, you decide that you can't follow through? Finding the right person to do explore with will get rid of those doubts after you've cum

Don't you ever feel like tasting your own cum? and then once you jacked off and the cum is in your hand, you decide that you can't follow through?

Yes and yes

 

[bronntanas]

There are ways to make the condom bj better for both parties. I haven't been the bj giver yet (more's the pity!) but here's some tips one of my gay friends gave me.

1. Shoot a little lube inside the condom before you put it on the penis in question. Wet friction usually feels better than dry friction. (I've tried this one, it works/feels really good!)

2. When you put a shot of lube inside the condom, it slightly increases the chances of tears, so double 'em up.

3. If you are not with a lady, or not too concerned about your partner's HIV/STD status, skip the lubed condoms that have nonoxyl-9 because it tastes nasty and some users have reported a slight numbing sensation in the lips and tongue. Use "dry" condoms instead with a flavored lube of choice.
(Studies have shown that nonoxyl-9 has some anti-microbial properties and may reduce the transmission of some STDs.) Or use the doubled condom trick, with the bottom one being treated and the top being lubed or flavored with the blower's choice.

Oh yeah, and I am 22, and have thought about lovely cocks for as long as I can remember being interested in sex.

 

[FurryFury]

I pretty much have the same feelings as you.
My only concern is whether or not this is considered cheating on my wife.

LOL.

Of course it is.

Fury

 

[bronntanas]

I love sucking another guys cock, admittedly i havent swallowed but given the right surroundings and guy i probably would. The thing is i have only done it with other married guys, you can be relatively sure they are clean

Oh please don't rely on marital statust to protect you from STDs. Let's go right to the big bad guy, HIV.

Relative to population size, New South Wales has had by far the highest rate of HIV diagnoses: 209.2 per 100,000 people. Victoria has had the second highest rate of 107.0 and Capital Territory is not far behind at 87.6. Rates have been similar across Queensland (71.7), Northern Territory (70.5), Western Australia (67.0) and South Australia (63.3). Tasmania has had the lowest rate of 21.2 HIV diagnoses per 100,000 population.

During 2005, the rates of AIDS diagnoses per million population were highest in New South Wales (12.7) and Victoria (11.5).

What if your married guy is doing the same thing you're doing? That is, having unprotected sex with a strange man. With stats like those above, I wouldn't take any chances. Australia's infection rate still seems to be primarily through homosexual content, (info here ) but enough people are infected through heterosexual contact that the I'd be really really careful.

 

[larrycando]

try in seattle

I would like to try this in seattle.

larryinseattle@yahoo.com

 

[bipedal]

I have been thinking about this a lot recently also. Almost obsessing over it. I'm 37 and divorced.

 

[larrycando]

I have been thinking about this a lot recently also. Almost obsessing over it. I'm 37 and divorced.

Go for it!!

 

[MyFriend27]

yeah i got through it and i did it and loved it just the cock sucking that is

 

[MichaelMike]

I guess I'm the other end, I'm married and fantasize about having a guy suck me off. I would love to meet another married guy in a hotel room and have his first blowjob experience sucking my cock.

About the post-cum blues: yes, I get those, too. I have only eaten my own a few times, and eaten my wife's creampie once. It was great! But you have to get over the blues to do it.

Once she snowballed me, I loved it! But it's hard to get the impetus yourself.

 

[pace_purr]

Enjoy

I like you wondered what it would be like to suck a guys cock, mind you I also liked watching my wife suck another guys cock. One day I did it and it felt great so I figured if it felt great why should I have a guilt trip. So go on and try it and enjoy

 

[larrycando]

bump

bump this thread

 

[ozz133]

Where to start???

I'm in the same boat as many of you. Have had some previous fun in school & the odd experience years ago & have been busting a nut to go for it again, this time without the inhibitions & self fears of the past but don't even know where to start. I play a fair bit of sport with other guys but can't even see the slightest inclinations with any of the guys & I definately don't want to go paying for it or anything. I also would prefer to be able to play with someone thats not outwardly "gay"(not that theres anything wrong with that...lol) You know what I mean? I'm a normal blokey bloke & would want the same, just a sexual friendship, not holding hands & kissing relationship stuff...infact i'm not even sure I could kiss another guy but I sure could suck his cock till his eyes popped.
So where do you start? How do you go about finding someone to have fun with & share a similar experience?
Am also hanging to be a part on MFM fun too but the same applies...how to find someone to play with?
Damn it's frustrating.

 

[pantybeard]

I struggled with it for years, and finally decided to try and meet someone. I did, andd although I was nervous, we had a lot of fun. I was safe and honest. I walked away from a few people before it finally happened, but when I felt comfortable with the person I met, we had a blast. Would love to do it again, and again, but it is not easy with my schedule, and the fact that I like panties freaks some potential buddies. If you feel strongly about it, make it clear to the person that you are serious about safe sex, and when you find someone comfortable with your needs, try it. You will not be sorry.

 

[bob69carter]

First BJ

I'm 40 and had always fantasised about a 3some with a couple. Two months ago I had the opportunity. The couple were in their 30s, attractive and very tactile. I was playing with the woman, fingering her puss and sucking her boobs when i felt him sucking on my cock. I really lved the sensation. A little while later we were all in the spa together and the woman was sucking on him. She offered his cock to me and I sucked it, then we started passing it backwards and forwards between each other. It was great giving head because I like receiving it and i could give it the way I like to be sucked. Anyway he was ready to explode but i wasn't ready for a facial so he creamed over the woman's breasts. It was a great intro to another guy and I want to explore much more like this. I have joined a group where the guys all sit in a circle and masturbate the guys on either side as we watch porn. I'm sure that will lead somewhere.

 

[eagle4660]

late bloomer

was going thru chat rooms found one bi curious got to chatting an watching guys on cam meet a guy in chat we talk for 3weeks an he asked was i really interested in trying i said yes glad i did im 59 now and cant seem to find anyone close to explore my bi side married an wife dont know and want it to stay that way any other late bloomers out there if so let me know

 

[CoastalTom]

I'm 40 and had always fantasised about a 3some with a couple. Two months ago I had the opportunity. The couple were in their 30s, attractive and very tactile. I was playing with the woman, fingering her puss and sucking her boobs when i felt him sucking on my cock. I really lved the sensation. A little while later we were all in the spa together and the woman was sucking on him. She offered his cock to me and I sucked it, then we started passing it backwards and forwards between each other. It was great giving head because I like receiving it and i could give it the way I like to be sucked. Anyway he was ready to explode but i wasn't ready for a facial so he creamed over the woman's breasts. It was a great intro to another guy and I want to explore much more like this. I have joined a group where the guys all sit in a circle and masturbate the guys on either side as we watch porn. I'm sure that will lead somewhere.

Great story - thanks for sharing. This is exactly the scenario I am looking for here on the west coast. I would love to be a part of a coupe who would be patient and take their time with me as I get used to sucking a cock, other than my own, for the first time. Time will tell but I know it will happen someday soon.

 

[bhg08054]

I guess I was very lucky, having found a great couple on my first try.

There was very little doubt, and when I first held his cock in my hands I knew it was right. When I first took him in my mouth, well that was indescribable.

The only specific advice I can offer is to become friends and not just sex partners. My friends and I spent a lot of time talking with each other before ever meeting, and actually spent a few days together before having sex. After that, the sex just seemed so natural.

Good Luck to all of you still yearning for you first man!