Guy Curious but Uneasy about bj

[chromefreak]

I'm otherwise a straight guy in my 30s but have developed a strong fascination about the thought of sucking another guy's cock and having him cum in my mouth and/or my face. The feelings are quite strong and have started to lead me to seek out possible opporturites for doing his. But, on the the other hand, I'm incredibly nervous about this and have chickened out the couple of times I've got close to doing this. I'm worried about how I'll feel about myself afterward if I go through with it. Will the sense of awkwardness and perhaps even guilt outweight the short-lived buzz that I may get from the expierence? I also find myself worrying about what the other guy would think about me as I would be sucking him. Would he think I'm odd for wanting to do this? I tell myself that he wouldn't be there if he weren't into it. But, I still can't help worrying about this.

Does anybody else have mixed emotions like this? Have anybody got past them?

Understandable! I had those feeling for many years. Discussing it with a close friend of mine before I acted on them (She told me to find someone I was comfortable with and GO for it!) and careful selection of another nice, nervous yet 100% eager first timer and I have not looked back since. Made a great friend, have a reliable, safe booty-call received nothing but pleasure, no guilt, shame or strange feelings of emptiness here!

My advice...Wait until you're truly ready, find someone that you'd be comfortable with (Not too pushy, etc.) Enjoy every minute of it and don't look back or search your soul for regret. You're the same guy you were before and you're still in contol of how few or how many people understand your sexuality. Just think of it this way...Millions of people drive to work every morning. Millions of people order pizza to be delivered every year, and millions of people suck cock every day. None of this makes you any better or worse than anybody else. None of those factors should be used to judge your character.

 

[aplus35]

Newly 39 year old bi guy here. I used to have big guilt trips after masturbating to gay porn. They would last a day and be gone and I was at it again.

Now masturbation causes me no guilt whatsoever. It is just me and my PC, and sometimes another guy on cam lol. All I feel afterworlds is good!!

This July I had my first m2m experience, we chatted online and decided to meet. Talk about nervousLOL. He jacked me then took me to the bedroom and started sucking me. I told him to cum first cause I knew I'd lose interest if I came. I sucked him for awhile but he ended up shooting on my cock by jacking himself off. He finished me off with his mouth and then the urge to go was there. I felt guilty on the way home but about 4 hours later i was online and making my way back to his place. once again he jacked himself and sucked me. This happened a third time him coming to my house. I sucked him a little longer this time and was thrilled when he would squirt some pre on my tongue, but I came first and he jacked himself again. Now he doesn't seem to want to get together anymore. I cant blame him because I have never sucked to completion.

Now I want to suck to completion but don't have the chance. I sit at night at the PC and JO and write him emails but so far no luck. So my advice is screw the guilt it goes away. Have fun and remember a hard cock has no conscience

 

[erdave]

same sex and small town

I also live in a small town so the chances are slim but not totally remote that I may enjoy finding a male member to devour. It’s taken some time but I found a local MD who stated he was also looking for a guy to give him a BJ. His wife was beginning to slow down in bed and he wanted more.
He and I have met and I love the fact that I am making love and giving pleasure to his huge cock. I know his wife also and I love the moments where I can smile at her and I want to sooo bad tell her. “I tasted you this morning on your hubby’s cock when he met me at the office early.” But I don’t ……..I just smile.

im married but i love the feel of the pressure buliding in his hard cock and the sudden torrent of white liquid as it hits the back of my throat. i am also a panty wearing guy and sometimes love to pull my panties open and let him coat my toy with his load and leave his office with cum soaked panties......enjoy dave

 

[larrycando]

a bump in the night

was thinking this thread should not die.

 

[namron711]

3<======

was thinking this thread should not die.

Would love to join in the bumping...

 

[larrycando]

I'm otherwise a straight guy in my 30s but have developed a strong fascination about the thought of sucking another guy's cock and having him cum in my mouth and/or my face. The feelings are quite strong and have started to lead me to seek out possible opporturites for doing his. But, on the the other hand, I'm incredibly nervous about this and have chickened out the couple of times I've got close to doing this. I'm worried about how I'll feel about myself afterward if I go through with it. Will the sense of awkwardness and perhaps even guilt outweight the short-lived buzz that I may get from the expierence? I also find myself worrying about what the other guy would think about me as I would be sucking him. Would he think I'm odd for wanting to do this? I tell myself that he wouldn't be there if he weren't into it. But, I still can't help worrying about this.

Does anybody else have mixed emotions like this? Have anybody got past them?

I finally got this done by resonding to an ad from Craigslist.org. We had a good time and it could become a semi regular thing. I just don't need a steady diet of it.

 

[westwalesman]

i'm married also in my 40's and love to suck cock -not so many opportunities these days -the internet has destroyed many of the casual meeting places in the uk

 

[larrycando]

i'm married also in my 40's and love to suck cock -not so many opportunities these days -the internet has destroyed many of the casual meeting places in the uk

Do you mean that most men hooking up these days use the internet so they are not lurking around the old haunts?

I love cruising the Craigslist ads. One can just tell how horny the writer is.

 

[westwalesman]

yes -most of my mtom sex came thru cottaging (i.e toilets)most of it hurried and unsatisfactory -not many opportunities to talk or best of all get naked with a man

 

[larrycando]

yes -most of my mtom sex came thru cottaging (i.e toilets)most of it hurried and unsatisfactory -not many opportunities to talk or best of all get naked with a man

It sounds as though the internet has bettered the situation.

 

[westwalesman]

no -i get far less mtm sex than i used to

 

[CoastalTom]

Bump!!

Would love to join in the bumping...

I haven't checked in here much of late but didn't want this thread to vanish either.
And no, I still have yet to suck a cock - but I am closer than ever before...

 

[yorksguy]

Always wanted to suck a guys cock but the thought of a mouthfull of cum in my mouth seems to put me off.
Its no good saying tell him to take it out before he cums, what if he doesnt
and if it were me i would be that turned on id hae trouble holding it back
If you see what i mean

 

[CoastalTom]

Always wanted to suck a guys cock but the thought of a mouthfull of cum in my mouth seems to put me off.
Its no good saying tell him to take it out before he cums, what if he doesnt
and if it were me i would be that turned on id hae trouble holding it back
If you see what i mean

I agree to a point that it may just happen whether you want it to or not but maybe under the circumstances you will want it to happen.
If you read about first experiences, many women (and men) talk of their first blowjob as incredible and they couldn't wait for the guy to come. Its all part of the experience.

For me, I think I would love to feel his cock get thicker, his breath get heavier and heavier until I know I am seconds away from my fantasy coming true. Then, when it happens I can always just let it run out while still sucking his head and lube his shaft and suck slowly until he is small and soft. Or I will just start swallowing and sucking his dick for all my worth. Either way, I expect that he will love it and that my turn is next...

 

[westwalesman]

it's a great feeling -i've never been fucked so i don't know if that's better -but a cock is perfect fit for a mouth -it feels like nothing else youve ever done and gives you something that no woman can provide

 

[bi golly]

I had one sort of experience. I met him through CL and went to his place. He was gay and wanted a top. I was inexperienced and I don't think he liked the experience. I went down on him and he wanted me to fuck him.

I was hard for a while, but then I lost interest in fucking him. I just wasn't that in to him.

I would have sucked him off, but I think it would have taken a long time.

I would like to try it with a guy that I like.

 

[bcminslc]

also bi-curious

I've never had an opportunity but have been seriously thinking about it. Not sure where to go to meet GBTs in Utah, though.

 

[larrycando]

Thanks to everybody that replied to my note. I guess I am glad to hear that I am not alone in feeling the way I do. I still have not done it but the pressure is building to the point where I think that I'm going to have to try it just for once.

Bet you can't just have one!

 

[daniel64]

An Ass Is An Ass.

If they will let you fuck them or give you head, is it not all good.
I do not know, I am just asking. Is a womans ass different from a mans. I love fucking a womans ass.

 

[westwalesman]

If they will let you fuck them or give you head, is it not all good.
I do not know, I am just asking. Is a womans ass different from a mans. I love fucking a womans ass.
physically no -psychologically the difference is immense -plus men have a prostate which amkes a fuck in the arse much more stimulating for them than it is for a woman -ive fucked my woman up the arse and 2 men -sex with the men was more intimate and moe exciting both for me and for them

 

[FasrEddie]

I have always considered myself Straight, And Love Women...
But...
When I was 19 I worked for a 36 year old Guy that had a lot of "Rental Properties" and paid me to help him paint them.
We had finished for the day and started doing some Heavy Drinking.
As we sat on a couch talking... he kept touching my leg.
Before long he was rubbing my cock and I did nothing to stop him.
I just laid back and let him do what ever he wanted.
He gave me the most enjoyable Blow Job that I've ever had.

As time went on I became his "Secret Boy Toy" but didn't partisipate as much as I would if this all happened today. Mostly it would always be him sucking me off, Or maybe fingering my ass as he sucked me off.

I'm happy to say that on one Drunken Occaision I did get the nerve up to suck on his cock for a while ( But didn't get him to cum in my mouth )
and then fucked him up his ass. ( That was the Tightest Fuck I've EVER had! )



Now I am a Married Man, And still do NOT find Men attractive at all.
But the thought of Sucking his Nice Stiff Cock has been what I Masterbate about the most.

If I could go back and do it again...
I'd just LOVE to have him cum in my mouth... Maybe even my ass.

 

[ars_amatoria]

To the man who was wondering whether he should-- yes, you should. It's like other life experiences-- so long as it's relatively safe and won't otherwise damage you, then I think you should always opt for experience instead of wondering what it would be like but not doing it. This goes for sex, hang-gliding, joining a bowling league, traveling, or planting a garden.

A decade ago, I was in the position some of you guys are in, i.e., fantasizing about gay sex in general, in particular sucking his cock. I'll save you the narrative and get to the good stuff. My fuck buddy (totally gay) had to get over the notion that because I was married, I must be a top only (which is what he wanted me to be). Gradually, we learned to take turns pleasuring the other, although both of us confessed that in our heart of hearts, we were both bottoms.

But it's gone on for about 7 years now, and we've worked at evolving it. It's gone two ways. The easy way was that, oddly, we started to have romantic feelings for each other. First, it was just time we spent in afterglow-- pretty early on, I got over my need to jump up, get dressed, and get out of there. I found I liked lying naked with him, maybe intertwined, maybe not so much. I found I could talk to him easily about my most intimate things and he was a good, supportive listener. And I was concerned for him from early on-- he was deeply unhappy, had some destructive habits and a lot of negative self-talk, and it hurt me to hear this and made me want to at least comfort him, so I got over any fear I had of cudding him. Hell, we could make each other cum, why couldn't we hold each other? And even though neither of us was young even then, the proximity and warmth of each other's bodies would often stir us for round 2. And we both made a deliberate effort to get in touch with our inner tops, and it's cumming along quite nicely. We both have to exaggerate a little to do it-- it's not enough to simply let him suck me, I want to dominate him, make him get on his knees so I can fuck his mouth, hold his head and make him gag a little, and he's the same way. Not surprisingly, we find this kind of semi-coerced sex to be the most thrilling of all for both of us, even though it's not always comfortable for the bottom.

But I had the usual str8 guy's line that I wouldn't cross- I'd suck his cock but I wouldn't kiss him. Gradually, however, that just didn't seem quite right, so I surprised him one day and gave him a long, passionate kiss. One thing led to another and soon we found that making out was both a lot of fun (and quite arousing) in itself and was even better foreplay-- not that we especially needed it, because we are sexual catnip for each other.

I can't tell you why that is for sure. I still respond primarily--no, exclusively, to women's visual cues, not men's. I don't desire sex with just any man, but only with my male lover, or him and another man that he knows well. I need the safety and acceptance I find with him, I think. Also, I find arousing him more thrilling than arousing a female lover. For one thing, it's more obvious-- it's poking through the bottom of his shorts. For another, there's more than a bit of a threatening edge to arousing him-- he's going to want to put that cock somewhere, and it's thick and meaty and hard enough to take in my mouth, let alone my ass. And he seems to like being in touch with his inner top. Be careful what you wish for....

I have a female lover and a wife and I enjoy fucking them both, and of course giving them oral and manual pleasure. But if you made me choose one and only one sexual partner for the rest of my life, I might well choose him, although I'd be pissed off at having to choose. On th eother hand, my female lover also enjoys being "forced" to suck me off and being fucked in the ass, and we just started bringing a litle bondage into the sexplay, so I dunno, she does look really hot in handcuffs, and she says I do too.

He says so too.

 

[westwalesman]

great post ars amatoria

 

[Riley_James]

From a woman's pov

Okay guys, I'm going to chime in here and you can correct me on anything I'm wrong about.

First, in my opinion, anyone who is open to the idea of experiencing pleasure can cross the boundary of having bi-sex. Being bi-sexual myself, I've come to the conclusion that it's not just about attraction to another person physically, it's more about sharing part of yourself with someone who "gets you." Societal pressures are the biggest obstacle for bi guys, I know, but if you can just tell yourself that no one and nothing can MAKE you gay (as all of us in the glbti community know) than going after that first experience may not be so intimidating.

I've talked to dozens of bi guys on this board who told me things from..."I was completely straight until a few years ago", to ..."I've wanted to have a dick in my mouth since I was a teenager." I think that if we were more open as a culture, a lot more of these feelings would be out in the open, but because Americans, especially religious enties, demonize these natural occurances, the human mind tends to try to suppress them.

My advice to anyone who is desperate to feel the "high" of thier first same-sex experience is this. Go for it, but keep in mind that every person you share yourself with, on whatever level is a human being too. They have feelings, fears, joys and pains, the same as you and as long as you are respectful of that, I think you'll come out on the healthy end of the experience.

Best all,
Riley
p.s. Nothing hotter to me in the world, than watching two guys give up the stereotypes and kiss each other........mmmmmm

 

[justwantmore]

For some guys a little scrap may be an erotic pain. For others, it can diminish the enjoyment.

The time I sucked that black man off he had me sucking on and licking his balls while he jerked off.....then at one point he said "I'm gonna cum", moaned, grunted and I opened my mouth wide and he came in my mouth.

Would like to try that again