guys, What would you do...

[ickle_stace]

If I were not married, did not live half way around the world, have a horrendous job, etc. etc., and lived in a perfect world, yes, I would like to have a relationship with you.

Not in a sexual sense mind you. A relationship can be a friend and it goes from there. No relationship can flourish without a good relationship. Yes, fuck buddies, one night stands and whatnot can be fun, but the thing is, in the end feels empty.

yeah, fuck buddies and one night stands are just probably meaningless sex, but I like cuddles and stuff too hehe

 

[pantyhose fun]

fuck-buddies are the only way to go.

from looking at all my married friends, they're miserable and undersexed.

just lust and passion - no rings!

 

[ickle_stace]

fuck-buddies are the only way to go.

from looking at all my married friends, they're miserable and undersexed.

just lust and passion - no rings!

no feeling wanted, no being made to feel special, no cuddles

I can't wait to find someone who treats me well enough for me to consider marrying, I'm gonna prove that u can be married and not have to be undersexed

 

[dr.bong]

so is there a reason you are asking, are you recruiting, if so sign me up!

 

[Papamike62]

Poll

I don't want you as a "fuck buddy" as I see a fuck buddy as someone about one step above a prostitute. I do not like the idea of a wam bam thank you maam relationship.

I would much rather find the way to begin with a holding of your hand as I kiss the back of it, then gently kiss your lips as my hand roam around your body squeezing you into a tight hug. Then as my tongue slides into your mouth begin to slowly undress you, moving my mouth to every uncovered inch of your soft body kissing a licking it.

Then would make love to you orally until you begged me to stop, making sure that you could not tell if you were having multiple orgazms or if it was one continuous. then I would turn over on my back allowing you to mount me, and as the same time I could pay homage to those wonderful nipples and manipulate your clit with my finger tip.

That mydear is the difference between having a fuck buddy, and making love that is remembered.

 

[ickle_stace]

I don't want you as a "fuck buddy" as I see a fuck buddy as someone about one step above a prostitute. I do not like the idea of a wam bam thank you maam relationship.

I would much rather find the way to begin with a holding of your hand as I kiss the back of it, then gently kiss your lips as my hand roam around your body squeezing you into a tight hug. Then as my tongue slides into your mouth begin to slowly undress you, moving my mouth to every uncovered inch of your soft body kissing a licking it.

Then would make love to you orally until you begged me to stop, making sure that you could not tell if you were having multiple orgazms or if it was one continuous. then I would turn over on my back allowing you to mount me, and as the same time I could pay homage to those wonderful nipples and manipulate your clit with my finger tip.

That mydear is the difference between having a fuck buddy, and making love that is remembered.

mmmmmm that sounds lovely

 

[zukethecuke]

Stace, I don't know you well enough from your thread or from the UK Directory to commit to a long-term relationship, even in a poll! And if I'm ever single again, I expect I'll stay that way, so I hope you don't mind that I voted for 'fuck-buddy'!

OK, 'Buddy?

 

[ickle_stace]

Stace, I don't know you well enough from your thread or from the UK Directory to commit to a long-term relationship, even in a poll! And if I'm ever single again, I expect I'll stay that way, so I hope you don't mind that I voted for 'fuck-buddy'!

OK, 'Buddy?

thats fine i just want everyone to be honest

 

[mark197205]

yeah, fuck buddies and one night stands are just probably meaningless sex, but I like cuddles and stuff too hehe

I have to disagree a little with you Stace, one night stands are more often than not just meaningless sex, but fuck buddies can be about more than that, quite often there is time for cuddles and stuff like that, it all depends on the relationship the two concerned decide they are after, some do just want sex and nothing else but some are almost as close as a "normal" married couple, just without the ties.

 

[ickle_stace]

I have to disagree a little with you Stace, one night stands are more often than not just meaningless sex, but fuck buddies can be about more than that, quite often there is time for cuddles and stuff like that, it all depends on the relationship the two concerned decide they are after, some do just want sex and nothing else but some are almost as close as a "normal" married couple, just without the ties.

yeah i can get that, but to me they feel meaningless, because i can't get the head around the fact that someone thinks im ok to sleep with but they don't want me enough to be in a relationship with me

 

[mark197205]

yeah i can get that, but to me they feel meaningless, because i can't get the head around the fact that someone thinks im ok to sleep with but they don't want me enough to be in a relationship with me

If you are looking for a proper relationship then yes they might feel meaningless, but if like somepeople cant be arsed with a full time thing they are the best way of satisfying the urges, a one night stand can be dangerous, the guy/ girl you pick up could be a complete psycho and you can end up in danger, while if it a regular thing with someone you know and get on with you are usually much safer....

 

[ickle_stace]

If you are looking for a proper relationship then yes they might feel meaningless, but if like somepeople cant be arsed with a full time thing they are the best way of satisfying the urges, a one night stand can be dangerous, the guy/ girl you pick up could be a complete psycho and you can end up in danger, while if it a regular thing with someone you know and get on with you are usually much safer....

i don't mind looking after myself until i find someone who wants a relationship, so i guess i just think differently to other people

 

[Solivagant]

i don't mind looking after myself until i find someone who wants a relationship, so i guess i just think differently to other people

I suspect many people feel as you do. Of course I am married and have no issues with lack of sex, but if unexpectedly single I would most likely find a friend with benefits. I enjoy the contact; I enjoy a man- things that I can't provide myself solo.

Since you want a relationship, then I doubt you'd be content with just touches, with sex and no ties. Relax, enjoy others company (in ways that do not invovle sex)...when you stop looking then it seems like something good finds you.

 

[ickle_stace]

I suspect many people feel as you do. Of course I am married and have no issues with lack of sex, but if unexpectedly single I would most likely find a friend with benefits. I enjoy the contact; I enjoy a man- things that I can't provide myself solo.

Since you want a relationship, then I doubt you'd be content with just touches, with sex and no ties. Relax, enjoy others company (in ways that do not invovle sex)...when you stop looking then it seems like something good finds you.

i only really miss the cuddles, the sex wasn't that good anyway, the only time i've done anything sexual and enjoyed it was when i met up with a friend a couple of times and we touched each other, but as for full sex, i've never been with a guy who has made sure i enjoyed it too, so i guess its a case of i can't miss what i've never had

 

[mark197205]

i don't mind looking after myself until i find someone who wants a relationship, so i guess i just think differently to other people

I dont think you are that different from a lot of other people, everyone is looking for different things in life, no-one's life is more right than anothers, its just what they want..

 

[ickle_stace]

I dont think you are that different from a lot of other people, everyone is looking for different things in life, no-one's life is more right than anothers, its just what they want..

i just grew up with the idea that sex was something you shared with someone you were in a relationship with thats all, sometimes I wish I hadn't, but it's hard to change it when you've thought that you're whole life

 

[Solivagant]

i just grew up with the idea that sex was something you shared with someone you were in a relationship with thats all, sometimes I wish I hadn't, but it's hard to change it when you've thought that you're whole life

There's nothing wrong with thinking that, and really no reason to change it. You've had some bad sexual experiences. There are men out there that care about their partner's wants and needs, whether they are in a meaningful long-term relationship or just a meaningful over-night relationship.

I think sometimes it's also what you make of it. Be agressive enough to get what you want out of the experience. You just have to wait until you encounter that person you want to be with and are comfortable with.

 

[ickle_stace]

There's nothing wrong with thinking that, and really no reason to change it. You've had some bad sexual experiences. There are men out there that care about their partner's wants and needs, whether they are in a meaningful long-term relationship or just a meaningful over-night relationship.

I think sometimes it's also what you make of it. Be agressive enough to get what you want out of the experience. You just have to wait until you encounter that person you want to be with and are comfortable with.

well people keep telling me that wen i find the right guy then he'll make sure i get what i want too

i just get scared that im gonna disappoint them too though because i probably won't be experienced as their past girlfriends will have been

 

[Solivagant]

well people keep telling me that wen i find the right guy then he'll make sure i get what i want too

i just get scared that im gonna disappoint them too though because i probably won't be experienced as their past girlfriends will have been

I like my partner inexperienced (this is negated with my husband, as we know each other well, and consigned to fantasy now). Yours will most likely enjoy the mutual discovery.

 

[swimmer60540]

My two cents

I am going to have to go with the relationship one on this; or at very least I would want to try for that. Not only based on what I have seen but from reading your other post. Besides, from what I have learned the really great sex comes when you learn your partner and what they like... that special spot to kiss, lick, or even just touch.

 

[ickle_stace]

I am going to have to go with the relationship one on this; or at very least I would want to try for that. Not only based on what I have seen but from reading your other post. Besides, from what I have learned the really great sex comes when you learn your partner and what they like... that special spot to kiss, lick, or even just touch.

i can't wait to find someone and learn what makes them tick

 

[WantonWitch]

I am going to have to go with the relationship one on this; or at very least I would want to try for that. Not only based on what I have seen but from reading your other post. Besides, from what I have learned the really great sex comes when you learn your partner and what they like... that special spot to kiss, lick, or even just touch.

Well said and very true.

 

[ickle_stace]

I like my partner inexperienced (this is negated with my husband, as we know each other well, and consigned to fantasy now). Yours will most likely enjoy the mutual discovery.

just hope i find a guy who feels like that, i'd hate to think my lack of sexual partners makes me look bad

 

[swimmer60540]

well people keep telling me that wen i find the right guy then he'll make sure i get what i want too

i just get scared that im gonna disappoint them too though because i probably won't be experienced as their past girlfriends will have been

You also should not worry about disappointing them because you are not as experienced as others... If someone does not want to be with you because you are not as "experienced" as other women then he is a moron and a asshole... both of which I am guessing you don't need. Being inexperienced is like a rose bud,he gets to watch you bloom!

 

[ickle_stace]

You also should not worry about disappointing them because you are not as experienced as others... If someone does not want to be with you because you are not as "experienced" as other women then he is a moron and a asshole... both of which I am guessing you don't need. Being inexperienced is like a rose bud,he gets to watch you bloom!

i don't need any more morons and assholes in my life lol there's been enough of them!