Happily Married But Sexless-- Anyone Else

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[R69runner]

Happily married but sexless

I too am in the same situation though it's not my wife's fault. It's a medical issue through no fault of her own. She has encouraged me to find another lover. I had a fun friend with benefits (FWB) but unfortunately she had to move last fall. I recently was diagnosed with Parkinson's disease which makes it difficult to find another FWB which has prompted me to start writing tales of our 20+ years in the Lifestyle. At a couple of ladies requests, I've started dabbling in works of fantasy. My wife was my best friend before we became lovers and I will stand by her for better or for worse, in sickness and in health. We have over 38 wonderful years together. Before we became lovers, I spent 13 years of hell with a cheating slut and will post stories of her when I get time. She cheated on me almost from the time we got married.

Have a most wonderful day,
R69runner.

 

[talkeasy5813]

And how is it working out for you? Both personally and your relationship with your husband.

Since I started meeting other men for sex my relationship with my husband has less strain on it. He and I argue less now. I have had 4 satisfying sexual encounters and I hope to have more.

 

[Pawleys16]

Since I started meeting other men for sex my relationship with my husband has less strain on it. He and I argue less now. I have had 4 satisfying sexual encounters and I hope to have more.

Lucky guys!

 

[Mscott9004]

I’m a very successful woman who broke up with my ex a couple of years ago. I am happy on my own right now, but I really miss the sex. As I was reading about all of the poor deprived married men I started fantasizing about what it would be like to have each of you take turns spending the night with me. I could give you what you are missing and I would enjoy the attention. It’s a win - win.

I like your way of thinking! Count me in!

 

[Spenser41]

Hi. My husband and I have been together for 17 years, married for 13 years, and sexless for 10 years. His libido and energy level are low but my levels have increased over time. He was disappointed but relieved when I told him that I planned on getting my needs met elsewhere.

I’m glad he is ok with you doing this. My wife would never ok that. But at the same time we’ve not had sex in 10 years.

 

[Spenser41]

Since I started meeting other men for sex my relationship with my husband has less strain on it. He and I argue less now. I have had 4 satisfying sexual encounters and I hope to have more.

Very lucky guys.

 

[Mikethick57]

I wrote a long message here describing my plight in this area but I went to post it and literotica kicked me off in the mean time. Long story short, been married 36 years, loved my wife and no sex in the past 20+ years...done therapy. We’re still affectionate with each other but it all ends at the bedroom door. She does not have any physical desire for me or anyone else where I miss that intimacy. I won’t divorce. I’ll stay on Lit and live vicariously through others.

 

[Diemcarpe]

Time out

I wrote a long message here describing my plight in this area but I went to post it and literotica kicked me off in the mean time. Long story short, been married 36 years, loved my wife and no sex in the past 20+ years...done therapy. We’re still affectionate with each other but it all ends at the bedroom door. She does not have any physical desire for me or anyone else where I miss that intimacy. I won’t divorce. I’ll stay on Lit and live vicariously through others.

That has happened to me too and very frustrating. Both losing the typed message and the wife losing desire. Love her so much and not wanting to leave so here I am too.

 

[Mikethick57]

Today is my anniversary....I couldn’t be more depressed

 

[Diemcarpe]

Bummer

Today is my anniversary....I couldn’t be more depressed

It should be a day to be excited and happy. Hell, go out yourself if needed and enjoy the evening at a bar or someplace social.

 

[Mikethick57]

Thanks for the suggestion...

 

[cbrowneye]

I'm curious to know why not just leave the marriage instead of doing what you've done?

 

[cbrowneye]

I am very surprised you did not mention this so I guess I must ask...have you discussed exactly what you told us with HIM? Can't believe I had to ask lol

 

[cbrowneye]

Seek professional help!

 

[sunshinestate100]

Having been with my wife for over 20 years, love and adore her in every way except the affection side, as she has never wanted to hug, kiss have sex etc unless I instigate it (after all these years I have got bored of being the asking for any kind of physical contact). We have just returned from a vacation where one evening after a couple of drinks I flirted (nothing more) with a woman who worked at the hotel. My wife saw this and went into overdrive on how I didn't care about her etc and we had a big argument. Frankly after all these years this brief flirty conversation made me feel alive.

Any female out there that can give me there perspective on what my wife may be feeling would be welcome as I am at a loss. She doesn't want to give me affection but yet wont let me have a conversation with another woman.

 

[olderpussy]

Since I started meeting other men for sex my relationship with my husband has less strain on it. He and I argue less now. I have had 4 satisfying sexual encounters and I hope to have more.

I'm a woman with a healthy sex drive and love my husband very much but health issues have sidelined him for the past 10 years. Fortunately the two of us had always communicated openly about sex and sexuality and when I got to the place where I just couldn't bear the lack of physical intimacy he could no longer muster, we agreed that I would be free to develop friendships that included sex outside of the marriage.

For the last three years I have been in a relationship with a lovely man who has enhanced every aspect of my life...including my husband's. The sexual tension is gone and the joyful bits in our life have returned ten-fold. He is the epitome of a partner who is my ultimate wing-man.

It's hard to initiate honest sexual discussion in a relationship that hasn't always included the really tough stuff in your day to day communications but it is worth it to try. This is someone you love and value and have shared the wars of life with. They are worth it and so are you. I am surprised every day by the unorthodox nature of my life but I'm so grateful to find myself with two lovely men to share different aspects of my life with.

 

[driv2u2]

Nothing

Nothing for 5 years , was getting it 8 times a year , but at my age I thought Christ my parents probably doing it more than me. So took decision to stop , stopped asks no begging for sex, see ow long it would take for her to notice , 4 months lol , so in she trots in stockings suspenders, I say don't worry about it , she tried again 5 months later , hasn't tried since that was 5 years ago , so if any female or couple in bexhill area message me

 

[pumperguy191]

Since I started meeting other men for sex my relationship with my husband has less strain on it. He and I argue less now. I have had 4 satisfying sexual encounters and I hope to have more.

hmmmm, lucky #5 ? lucky guy

 

[Mikethick57]

Been married a long time, we’ve done the the professional help, we’ve talked about this issue and her unfulfilled promises to change. I’ve given up. At this stage of my life...it’s “cheaper to keep her”. Unless that big lottery win comes along, I’ll suffer and look for that partner on the side.

 

[Jakevillines]

Since I started meeting other men for sex my relationship with my husband has less strain on it. He and I argue less now. I have had 4 satisfying sexual encounters and I hope to have more.

I have wondered if that would help some people. It seems it does.

 

[Doctor Joe]

Bumping so I can return

 

[wifewatcher1997]

Wife has experienced some changes this past year and has lost most of her desire...with me or with lovers. When she is seeing lovers, our experiences are amazing. The love and compassion is as solid as ever, but her sexual desire is just gone 95% of the time. So yeah, the sexless aspect has brought me back here to chat with others about experiences, etc.

 

[IvarHakuse]

Seems from reading all these posts that life deals us all sad unfulfilled dreams. Sex is our way of offering the deepest part of ourselves, our being, for pleasure to the other. We are also giving our trust in our partners. I can relate to many posts. My first marriage for 21 years was sexless from the onset. My second partner having survived an abusive relationship would in her turn accuse me of all the things her ex had done to her! I'm 56 and feel I have a lot to give and share. I often feel I need to fuck so desperately but cant bring my self to go hunting or play the Game. If any female is interested or even a couple, I'd be so elated. Thank you I'm a 56 yr old male!

 

[Hippie798]

Wow

Hi. My husband and I have been together for 17 years, married for 13 years, and sexless for 10 years. His libido and energy level are low but my levels have increased over time. He was disappointed but relieved when I told him that I planned on getting my needs met elsewhere.

Older mature mwm se of dallas im in a like deal as the rest of these Men .Theres really a lot but if you care to chat IM anytime Ty