how to get her to go smooth?

[xtinelauren1]

She isn't obligated to shave just because it "makes your skin crawl." I'll echo what others have said, it's your problem. Get over yourself, it's her body.

 

[GrrlFriday]

Okay so the title needs an explanation because it looks like a simple problem ,"just ask her". When me and my wife first started dating I tried oral fairly soon because I fucking hunger to taste a woman as soon as we are in bed. It was great, she was mostly shaved which is a plus for me, nothing is more of a turn off than a stray pube in my throat (shudder). Now I don't like her shaved all the time because it's her body and however she feels attractive makes me happy. Here's the problem I cant go down on her because even though she keeps it trimmed nothing makes me flacid faster than going down near pubic hair. I'm not sure how to get her as smooth as possible without stepping on a few toes but it's been years since I've had a chance to eat her out and it's seriously making me hunger for a taste super bad.

Just some extras, no I don't like oral done to me and have just started shaving.....err down there just in case she ever wants to give it to me. She keeps hinting at me giving her some but I don't know how to pose my problem so I can give it to her. Any help at all would be appreciated!

When she hints at wanting oral sex from you, what do you tell her?

 

[Somehowyou]

Nothing more disgusting than body hair. Yuk!!!

Have you brought this to her attention? This is always the first step. Find a tactful way to tell her that you prefer a bald muff.

For starters, start shaving yourself down there.

How about this? Send her for a spa day for facile, manicure, massage, and a Brazilian wax? Do this as a birthday or valentines (pick your favorite appropriate holiday) and buy her this package.

If she wants more sex she will get the message. I know I will go out of my way if my SO makes a request and the end result is that I get laid.

 

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[Somehowyou]

Yes, the guy doesn't like pubic hair when he is eating pussy. Nor do I. Instead of lecturing him that he should embrace the bush I gave him a few suggestions on how to convince her to go hairless.

 

[MeekMe]

Nothing more disgusting than body hair. Yuk!!!

Have you brought this to her attention? This is always the first step. Find a tactful way to tell her that you prefer a bald muff.

For starters, start shaving yourself down there.

How about this? Send her for a spa day for facile, manicure, massage, and a Brazilian wax? Do this as a birthday or valentines (pick your favorite appropriate holiday) and buy her this package.

If she wants more sex she will get the message. I know I will go out of my way if my SO makes a request and the end result is that I get laid.

Worst. Spa day. Ever.

Ya know? Because his wife doesn't like being hairless. And Brazilian waxing hurts like a mother fucker the first time.

 

[dustnox38]

"Look babe, I don't know why, but pubic hair squicks me out. I know this is my problem, and I promise, I'm working on it. In the meantime, please just have patience with me."

She may decide all on her own to go bare or partially bare, on occasion. But she can't make an informed decision until you give her all the facts. Just sayin.'

I agree with this person. Let her know you really want to satisfy her, but for the time being, it's really difficult while she has a lot of pubic hair. Ask her what minimum she'd be comfortable with and see what you can do with that.

I believe another poster suggested that she leave the hair on the pubic mons but not the labia. I think that is a brilliant compromise.

Don't forget to tell her how sexy she is. If she decides the experience is worth the price of being a little uncomfortable, she'll need your reassurance.

This about you both working through your hang ups as a couple. It's about give and take, how much either of you is willing to give for the other. If there is complete understanding between the two of you, you'll work it out.

 

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[Somehowyou]

Then keep your ugly, hairy, stinky bush. I wont eat a hairy pussy either just like the OP.

 

[silverwhisper]

yet again somehowyou fails entirely at reading the entire thread. surprise factor: 0.

ed

 

[GiggLeGasm]

yet again somehowyou fails entirely at reading the entire thread. surprise factor: 0.

ed

oh good.. I thought I was the only one in shock when the answer to "did you read the thread" was "yes"

this is like when I say to my children, "did you do your homework?"

 

[silverwhisper]

i'm kinda reminded of a fish called wanda...

otto: apes don't read philosophy!
wanda: yes they do, otto! they just don't understand it!

ed

 

[Bigspurt]

How Many Really?

Okay so the title needs an explanation because it looks like a simple problem ,"just ask her". When me and my wife first started dating I tried oral fairly soon because I fucking hunger to taste a woman as soon as we are in bed. It was great, she was mostly shaved which is a plus for me, nothing is more of a turn off than a stray pube in my throat (shudder). Now I don't like her shaved all the time because it's her body and however she feels attractive makes me happy. Here's the problem I cant go down on her because even though she keeps it trimmed nothing makes me flacid faster than going down near pubic hair. I'm not sure how to get her as smooth as possible without stepping on a few toes but it's been years since I've had a chance to eat her out and it's seriously making me hunger for a taste super bad.

Just some extras, no I don't like oral done to me and have just started shaving.....err down there just in case she ever wants to give it to me. She keeps hinting at me giving her some but I don't know how to pose my problem so I can give it to her. Any help at all would be appreciated!

How many women really shave. It must be a regular thing to do, every shower? Every other? The stubble must be annoying at best.

I saw an article in Cosmo which indicated that "everyone" does it.

 

[OnlyMeMyselfAndMeAgain]

How many women really shave. It must be a regular thing to do, every shower? Every other? The stubble must be annoying at best.

I saw an article in Cosmo which indicated that "everyone" does it.

If you shave and want to stay smooth, it is just as with a beard: a man shaves in the morning and, depending on how heavy his beard is, he has a five o'clock stubble around noon. Shave your mons and labia during your morning shower, and by the next morning the stubble will scratch against your nice undies. The stubble itches. The stubble is annoying. The skin of the labia and mons is a lot softer than the skin on your chin. It is also nearly always covered by textile. More sweaty. Which all favors razor burn.

Which irks me. I don't want to feel those bumps on myself. I don't want to see them in porn. I think those red, swollen bumps are disgusting. Much more disgusting than a few hairs.

Don't believe Cosmo.

 

[Somehowyou]

Oh hi Ed. I see your still here sucking up the old women that hand out on this thread and ostracize anyone with an opinion that does not conform to their own.

And yes, hair does pick-up and hold odors. We all know that.

I routinely have sex with women 18-28 years old. I haven't seen a bush since I was in China and I was not turned on by this. Marriage or any relationship is give and take. I would shave for my partner if she wanted it. It is no big deal. I already do and guys, take it from me, you will receive much better oral if you are clean shaven.

I happen to think body hair is ugly. It belongs on your head and maybe your eyebrows.

This is what I believe. That is my opinion.

 

[Somehowyou]

Let me come at it from another angle.

If you are some left over hippie from the 70's and smoke marijuana 3 times a day and perhaps you drive around in a multicolored VW bus. If this is you than years and $10,000 worth of psychoanalysis to overcome your dislike of pubic hair makes sense.
If not, than buy her a Bic razor and a can of Barbisol and ask her to try it for you. If she will not than maybe she needs the psychoanalysis.

Maybe you should go to Burning man and fast and take peyote and go on a vision quest to overcome your fear of hair?

 

[Harold_Hill]

Since this is the "How To" section, this thread brings up a good question. As one poster pointed out, when a woman shaves her pubic hair, it sometimes results in a red rash and bumps; however, not every woman has this problem. Questions for the ladies out there who shave their pubic hair regularly: How do you avoid rash and bumps? When a man with sensitive skin shaves his beard, he can use after shave, (with an alcohol base), to kill the bacteria that causes rash and redness, but how does a woman shave such a sensitive area, and avoid this problem?

 

[Touch_72]

Since this is the "How To" section, this thread brings up a good question. As one poster pointed out, when a woman shaves her pubic hair, it sometimes results in a red rash and bumps; however, not every woman has this problem. Questions for the ladies out there who shave their pubic hair regularly: How do you avoid rash and bumps? When a man with sensitive skin shaves his beard, he can use after shave, (with an alcohol base), to kill the bacteria that causes rash and redness, but how does a woman shave such a sensitive area, and avoid this problem?

I second this. I prefer to stay smooth down below, too, but sometimes let it grow some just because those little bumps OnlyMeMyselfAndMeAgain (there's a mouthful) are a pain.

 

[Aphro]

Since this is the "How To" section, this thread brings up a good question. As one poster pointed out, when a woman shaves her pubic hair, it sometimes results in a red rash and bumps; however, not every woman has this problem. Questions for the ladies out there who shave their pubic hair regularly: How do you avoid rash and bumps? When a man with sensitive skin shaves his beard, he can use after shave, (with an alcohol base), to kill the bacteria that causes rash and redness, but how does a woman shave such a sensitive area, and avoid this problem?

I shave pretty much every shower, and I don't have a red rash or bumps down there. I think your skin gets used to it, after a while. I always use a really, really sharp razor...I keep one that is just for my pubes, actually. It's one of those five blade jobbies, with the moisturizing strip. After I am done, I make sure I put a little moisturizer down there, and that seems to stop it getting irritated.

I do it because my husband prefers it bare, although if I stopped shaving, I don't think that would stop him wanting to go down on me either. I am not a hairy beast anyway, so it's not like even if I grew it out he'd need a machete to find his way through the undergrowth. I always kept it close trimmed, so this was just taking it a step further.

That being said, I do think the OP needs to re-evaluate his ideas a bit. If eating a pussy is truly something he wants to do, a bit of short, trimmed pubic hair wouldn't be a deal breaker. As for pussy hair being smelly, that's why they invented showers and soap. If your twat is still smelly after a shower or bath, the problem isn't your personal grooming choice.

 

[OnlyMeMyselfAndMeAgain]

Since this is the "How To" section, this thread brings up a good question. As one poster pointed out, when a woman shaves her pubic hair, it sometimes results in a red rash and bumps; however, not every woman has this problem. Questions for the ladies out there who shave their pubic hair regularly: How do you avoid rash and bumps? When a man with sensitive skin shaves his beard, he can use after shave, (with an alcohol base), to kill the bacteria that causes rash and redness, but how does a woman shave such a sensitive area, and avoid this problem?

With exfoliating before and after and applying after shave (it is mostly called something like: "after shave care for sensitive skin", and comes in bottles with a lot of pink on the label) after she dried herself. Which is only enjoyable if she has a strong masochistic inclination.

Even with that, bumps do occur, especially if she shaves often and in the groin where skin rubs against other skin and against clothing.

 

[OnlyMeMyselfAndMeAgain]

I second this. I prefer to stay smooth down below, too, but sometimes let it grow some just because those little bumps OnlyMeMyselfAndMeAgain (there's a mouthful) are a pain.

Warning: going off topic.

Well, I am a mouthful, so a long name seemed appropriate.

 

[Touch_72]

This is what I don't get, though, unless it's a "different things work for different people" thing...

I shave pretty much every shower, and I don't have a red rash or bumps down there. I think your skin gets used to it, after a while.

Even with that, bumps do occur, especially if she shaves often and in the groin where skin rubs against other skin and against clothing.

(bolding is mine for emphasis)

Aphroditiac finds frequency helps. I've heard that before from my wife, too. OMMAMA seems to say the opposite and I've found that shaving those sensitive areas regularly doesn't really lessen the bumps for me.

THIS is where I'm not confused...

That being said, I do think the OP needs to re-evaluate his ideas a bit. If eating a pussy is truly something he wants to do, a bit of short, trimmed pubic hair wouldn't be a deal breaker. As for pussy hair being smelly, that's why they invented showers and soap. If your twat is still smelly after a shower or bath, the problem isn't your personal grooming choice.

I do get that the OP has an intense dislike of the hair, but it's hard to put myself in those shoes, personally. I'll take it either way and have never run into bad odor in pussy hair. It does hold the scent and does add a little bit more of a musk to it, but it isn't unpleasant to me, just different. I'm sure if a woman is strong scented and doesn't keep up with washing, it can get a bit bad, but that's no different than general hygiene for both genders... if a guy's pits tend to be strong, it's a good habit to tend to that, right? No different.

 

[Aphro]

I can only speak for myself. I've been totally bare for probably three years now, consistently. The only time I get a rash or redness is if I use a less than sharp razor to shave with. That's why I only use the premium razors down there, and keep them just for my pubic area. If I am feeling like maybe I am getting sensitive, I will shave with unscented body lotion instead of soap. That makes things really nice and smooth!

I do give it a "break" once a month for four or five days when I have my period, because we don't have sex when I am bleeding. So I leave it be for those few days, and that seems to help as well. I have had the odd ingrown hair, which is a pain to deal with, but my mons and surrounding area certainly does not looked like a plucked chicken, even immediately after shaving.

I'd post a picture as proof, but...

I guess it all depends on your skin and your skin's tolerance to it. I keep thinking one day I will grow it enough to go have a Brazillian wax, but I am too chicken.

 

[MeekMe]

I happen to think body hair is ugly. It belongs on your head and maybe your eyebrows.

This is what I believe. That is my opinion.

You don't date many mammals, huh?

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As for shaving, everyone is different. Some people experience ingrown hair and bumps more than others. There are things that can help alleviate such things like exfoliation and something to use as aftershave. We've had a ton of threads on the HT dealing with the subject. I make a sugar scrub at home and pat on some witch hazel, that works pretty well for me.

Not everyone shaves. Honestly, people can choose what they want to do with their own body. I mentioned earlier a great way to compromise (or at least a starting point for thinking about it) and that was completely ignored. When that happens, I have very little faith that this will go well. I think OP should work on communication some more, if he's missing what's written he's probably not listening to what's being said.

 

[SunDevilGirl]

Since this is the "How To" section, this thread brings up a good question. As one poster pointed out, when a woman shaves her pubic hair, it sometimes results in a red rash and bumps; however, not every woman has this problem. Questions for the ladies out there who shave their pubic hair regularly: How do you avoid rash and bumps? When a man with sensitive skin shaves his beard, he can use after shave, (with an alcohol base), to kill the bacteria that causes rash and redness, but how does a woman shave such a sensitive area, and avoid this problem?

I don't get the bumps from shaving. I do it because it feels better for me but if my guy wanted me to I'd like for him to tell me how he feels.

If you've already told her and she still doesn't want to ..then let it go.