Kim's poly/kink thread reinvented ...

[KimGordon67]

First date! First date!

It’ll make for a memorable first date story one way of another.

LOL ... I'm not entirely sure I trust this answer.

 

[Paul_Chance]

LOL ... I'm not entirely sure I trust this answer.

That’s because you are wise

Here’s a better progression:

1. First Date: appropriate hair pulling
2. Second Date: well timed nipple pinching
3. Third Date: introductory butt slapping
4: Fourth Date: Chains, whips, chips and dips

 

[KimGordon67]

That’s because you are wise

Here’s a better progression:

1. First Date: appropriate hair pulling
2. Second Date: well timed nipple pinching
3. Third Date: introductory butt slapping
4: Fourth Date: Chains, whips, chips and dips

That would seem like a reasonable sequence. I'm not actually sure if, even if we do click, we'll end up in bed on the first date ... I kind of enjoy having the anticipation last a bit longer.

 

[Paul_Chance]

That would seem like a reasonable sequence. I'm not actually sure if, even if we do click, we'll end up in bed on the first date ... I kind of enjoy having the anticipation last a bit longer.

There’s a lot to be said for chemistry and anticipation. And you only one shot at first lover anticipation.

 

[KimGordon67]

There’s a lot to be said for chemistry and anticipation. And you only one shot at first lover anticipation.

Precisely. He's talked a bit about the importance of kissing, which is a good sign, I think ... something that can never be under-estimated. (Although I'm never sure how to answer when someone says 'Are you a good kisser?' ... how can one really respond to that without sounding like a wanker?)

 

[Paul_Chance]

Precisely. He's talked a bit about the importance of kissing, which is a good sign, I think ... something that can never be under-estimated. (Although I'm never sure how to answer when someone says 'Are you a good kisser?' ... how can one really respond to that without sounding like a wanker?)

Say “oh hell yeah, I do this thing with my tongue that violates the laws of god, man, and physics”.

Yeah that’s one of those tough questions.

And I suppose “your mom thought so” might be a bit cheeky

 

[KimGordon67]

Say “oh hell yeah, I do this thing with my tongue that violates the laws of god, man, and physics”.

Yeah that’s one of those tough questions.

And I suppose “your mom thought so” might be a bit cheeky

I tend to respond to things like that with 'Obviously I can't comment myself, but reviews have been favourable.'

 

[Paul_Chance]

I tend to respond to things like that with 'Obviously I can't comment myself, but reviews have been favourable.'

“Here, check my Yelp rating.”

Or

“Here, call the Uber driver who just dropped me off.”

 

[KimGordon67]

“Here, check my Yelp rating.”

Or

“Here, call the Uber driver who just dropped me off.”

I really do think people should come with references from their exes.

 

[Paul_Chance]

I really do think people should come with references from their exes.

Or they should periodically be rated by an independent auditor to keep their dating certificate current. Maybe a Likert Scale.

 

[KimGordon67]

Or they should periodically be rated by an independent auditor to keep their dating certificate current. Maybe a Likert Scale.

So like an ongoing evaluation process? (But allowing for the introduction of new variables every now and then.)
Now I'm wondering what I'd be scored low on.

 

[Paul_Chance]

So like an ongoing evaluation process? (But allowing for the introduction of new variables every now and then.)
Now I'm wondering what I'd be scored low on.

I’m sure I’d get low scores in a few areas. That’s just being human.

 

[KimGordon67]

Unbelievable ... around 3pm think I'll have a nice relaxing bath - I missed a shower this morning because the ex's house, where I'm staying, is full, but I knew I'd have time for a bath later in preparation for Big Date ... but there's a freaking burst water main up the road and hence NO water. For HOURS. Nice guy from the water fixing people gives me two flagons of bottled water, once of which has just been used for a bucket bath. This is NOT how you want to be getting ready.
Date Guy did offer to pick me up so I could shower at his place ... but also not the ideal first date scenario.

 

[Fermina_Daza]

I really do think people should come with references from their exes.

I always felt it would be nice if you were just given a brief informational pamphlet- kind of like the quick start guides when purchasing electronics.

I can only think of two exes who would give me shitty references - and I really don’t know if the first would since that was 20 years ago.

 

[cookiecat]

Unbelievable ... around 3pm think I'll have a nice relaxing bath - I missed a shower this morning because the ex's house, where I'm staying, is full, but I knew I'd have time for a bath later in preparation for Big Date ... but there's a freaking burst water main up the road and hence NO water. For HOURS. Nice guy from the water fixing people gives me two flagons of bottled water, once of which has just been used for a bucket bath. This is NOT how you want to be getting ready.
Date Guy did offer to pick me up so I could shower at his place ... but also not the ideal first date scenario.

This made me chuckle. It's always something!!! How'd it go?!

 

[KimGordon67]

I always felt it would be nice if you were just given a brief informational pamphlet- kind of like the quick start guides when purchasing electronics.

I can only think of two exes who would give me shitty references - and I really don’t know if the first would since that was 20 years ago.

This would be perfect - with a few crucial things like food allergies, music hates/loves, whether they're ticklish or not, as well as some succinct references.

 

[KimGordon67]

This made me chuckle. It's always something!!! How'd it go?!

Very well ... we drank a LOT, had a lot of fun, and ended up in bed at his place. I actually think he might have been a bit more nervous than me - or maybe he's just a slightly nervy guy. He had literally bought a house hours before we met, for what seemed to me to an unfathomable sum of money, which probably added the nervy thing. Turns out once you've had about half a dozen vodkas and a tequila shot, you don't care so much about how fat your belly is. However, it did mean I probably wasn't quite on my game once we got to bed ... I made up for that with enthusiasm, but I'm looking forward to have a second shot a bit more sober and paying a bit more attention. It was great to have so much fun though - it's just not the sort of night I'd have with the BF, and I kind of miss roaming around bars and laughing a lot. So if everything works out, I might find a good balance in there somewhere. Fingers crossed.
My head hurts. Actually lots of me hurts.

 

[MrRetro]

Very well ... we drank a LOT, had a lot of fun, and ended up in bed at his place. I actually think he might have been a bit more nervous than me - or maybe he's just a slightly nervy guy. He had literally bought a house hours before we met, for what seemed to me to an unfathomable sum of money, which probably added the nervy thing. Turns out once you've had about half a dozen vodkas and a tequila shot, you don't care so much about how fat your belly is. However, it did mean I probably wasn't quite on my game once we got to bed ... I made up for that with enthusiasm, but I'm looking forward to have a second shot a bit more sober and paying a bit more attention. It was great to have so much fun though - it's just not the sort of night I'd have with the BF, and I kind of miss roaming around bars and laughing a lot. So if everything works out, I might find a good balance in there somewhere. Fingers crossed.
My head hurts. Actually lots of me hurts.

Great to hear you had a fun night Kim..! By your soreness comment, it sounds like one of you was on their game..! Glad to hear you overcame your issue with your belly, it isn’t something us blokes are concerned about in the slightest, if anything the curves are appealing..

 

[Moochienanu]

Very well ... we drank a LOT, had a lot of fun, and ended up in bed at his place. I actually think he might have been a bit more nervous than me - or maybe he's just a slightly nervy guy. He had literally bought a house hours before we met, for what seemed to me to an unfathomable sum of money, which probably added the nervy thing. Turns out once you've had about half a dozen vodkas and a tequila shot, you don't care so much about how fat your belly is. However, it did mean I probably wasn't quite on my game once we got to bed ... I made up for that with enthusiasm, but I'm looking forward to have a second shot a bit more sober and paying a bit more attention. It was great to have so much fun though - it's just not the sort of night I'd have with the BF, and I kind of miss roaming around bars and laughing a lot. So if everything works out, I might find a good balance in there somewhere. Fingers crossed.
My head hurts. Actually lots of me hurts.

Well, sounds like a pretty fun first date overall. Are your impressions of Date Guy different now that you’ve met in person? Does he seem the impulsive type? I only ask because buying an expensive house right before a first date seems to be. I have a personal rule to not drink on a first date because of the possible game-factor.

Oh! And my fingers are crossed for your balance.

 

[KimGordon67]

Well, sounds like a pretty fun first date overall. Are your impressions of Date Guy different now that you’ve met in person? Does he seem the impulsive type? I only ask because buying an expensive house right before a first date seems to be. I have a personal rule to not drink on a first date because of the possible game-factor.

Oh! And my fingers are crossed for your balance.

Ha - no the house-buying/date thing was just timing - it was a place he'd been looking at for a while.
That's a good rule, although I didn't really know whether we'd end up in bed, and mostly I was needing to have a bit of fun. We ended up in a funny little bar that he knows quite well, having hilarious conversations with the clientele and the bar guy. Hence the tequila.
It was funny, because he'd told me a couple of weeks back that he has a bit of a thing about people he doesn't know touching him, so I was really careful about not doing that. (Which is difficult for me - I hadn't realised what a touchy person I am.) But the good thing about that is that when we were walking between one place and another and he put his arm around me, I knew for sure that things were going well.

 

[cascadiabound]

Ha - no the house-buying/date thing was just timing - it was a place he'd been looking at for a while.
That's a good rule, although I didn't really know whether we'd end up in bed, and mostly I was needing to have a bit of fun. We ended up in a funny little bar that he knows quite well, having hilarious conversations with the clientele and the bar guy. Hence the tequila.
It was funny, because he'd told me a couple of weeks back that he has a bit of a thing about people he doesn't know touching him, so I was really careful about not doing that. (Which is difficult for me - I hadn't realised what a touchy person I am.) But the good thing about that is that when we were walking between one place and another and he put his arm around me, I knew for sure that things were going well.

this makes me smile.
so glad things went well for you Kim.

 

[KimGordon67]

this makes me smile.
so glad things went well for you Kim.

I actually think a 'no touch unless you're into the other person' guideline on dates might be a good idea - gives everyone a way of assessing things without have to actually say 'how do you feel this is going?', which can be a bit awkward.

 

[ReaperW]

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[Dreamliner]

Congrats Kim, you might be easing that scratch soon then.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Hope the hangovers faded. Sounds like a good first date.

I always joke I want to give dates three cards like soccer refs.

Green - good job, keep going.
Yellow - you screwed up a little, but you’re still in the game
Red - foul! You’re out!

Make it simple.