Ladies - When is a Woman Satisfied??

[Arden]

Re: Satisfaction

I hope your partner realises and appreciated your wonderfully uninhibited approach to life. I agree, it makes more sense to keep the toys in the bedroom and for the partners to play with them.

However, some male partners feel inferior/ashamed/let down if they cannot, of their own efforts, satisfy a woman to her level of need. But this unreal expectation is unfortunate because it leads to unnecessary frustration and tension within the relationship. Far better to understand that, on a particular evening, the lady was more lusty than her partner could satisfy, and wanted to reach the absolute heights of ecstasy which I suggest very few males understand, or are able to stimulate their partners to reach.

Inferior/ashamed/let down, hmmmmm.....

You're overlooking the Neanderthal type man, one who won't allow anything else (other than himself) to touch you. The guy who tells you that it's his 'right' to have his way with you any time he wants, because he's your husband. Toys are out of the question, because he truly believes that he's all that you need. I know what I'm talking about, I had the unfortunate experience of being married to one of these cavemen for close to seven years. Even the smartest of us are guilty of stupidity at times... Thank God I had the sense to finally extricate myself from that situation. My ex came from a loving family, so there is no clue where his warped sense of reality came from.

The gentleman that I share pleasure with today is everything that I could ever ask for, and then some. Well worth waiting many years to find. I had to take time out to rediscover who I was before I could become involved again. Love, and sharing your love can be so very sweet when you finally find the right one...

Two To Tango

share your nights
and your dreams
share your feelings
deep as they may seem
your words may disappear
if no one's there to hear

two to tango
two to move
all we've got to do
is see it through
as the day fades away

two to tango
when the evening comes
and the rain goes
with the midnight sun
if you find your place
leave behind the troubles that
you face

two to tango
two to move
and all we've got to do
is see it through
as the day fades away

in a twist of fate
time will rearrange
all your answers
then the questions change
there beyond you or I can see
all that is and all that has to be

two to tango
two to move
all we've got to do
is see it through
as the day fades away
as the day fades away...

- Vanessa Daou

 

[psyche]

Re: Re: Satisfaction

Inferior/ashamed/let down, hmmmmm.....

You're overlooking the Neanderthal type man, one who won't allow anything else (other than himself) to touch you. The guy who tells you that it's his 'right' to have his way with you any time he wants, because he's your husband. Toys are out of the question, because he truly believes that he's all that you need. I know what I'm talking about, I had the unfortunate experience of being married to one of these cavemen for close to seven years. Even the smartest of us are guilty of stupidity at times... Thank God I had the sense to finally extricate myself from that situation. My ex came from a loving family, so there is no clue where his warped sense of reality came from.

The gentleman that I share pleasure with today is everything that I could ever ask for, and then some. Well worth waiting many years to find. I had to take time out to rediscover who I was before I could become involved again. Love, and sharing your love can be so very sweet when you finally find the right one...

Hey Arden Sweetie,
How are you doing. Saw your great post and just popped in to say hi and to see how you are doing.

 

[Arden]

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Hey Arden Sweetie,
How are you doing. Saw your great post and just popped in to say hi and to see how you are doing.

Hi Psyche,

Doing very well...

I trust that you're enjoying life these days with your own special man... I'm really happy for you.

I just sent you a PM.

 

[Svenskaflicka]

Re: Re: Satisfaction

The gentleman that I share pleasure with today is everything that I could ever ask for, and then some. Well worth waiting many years to find. I had to take time out to rediscover who I was before I could become involved again. Love, and sharing your love can be so very sweet when you finally find the right one...

Some say that in order to really appreciate the good things, you first have to experience something/someone really bad...

I've had a similar experience to what you had, and now that I've found my soulmate, I can compare all my experiences, and that make me appreciate my Sweetheart even more.

There really IS someone out there for each one of us!!!

 

[Don K Dyck]

Satisfaction - 100th Reply Post

Thanks Kozza, Arden, Psyche, Svenskaflicka for dropping by and sharing your wisdom. And a special thanks to everybody who has taken the time to contribute to this thread, and the many more readers.

Well, Kozza, I think you have identified the physical markers at the completion of a sexual encounter, but does that mean that your lady is satisfied?? Does completion mean satisfaction?? Sometimes yes, sometimes no.

You never cease to amaze me, Arden. Again, you are correct, it does take two to tango. From your previous posts I had formed this image of an all-together with-it, complete person heading down her chosen road to the future. No doubt this is correct, I'm just amazed that a Neanderthal could find a place in your world. (Oops, value judgements, sorry.) Frequently, such cavemen have their own little version of hell that they are trying to live through, and other people are really irrelevant to the script. I hope this wasn't your experience.

Always nice to see you Psyche.

When it's special, it can be very special, Svenskaflicka, and you work to keep it that way. Seems that by working at the relationship, just as a gardener tends thier garden, the relationship blossoms into something special. The nice thing is that everybody is capable of doing this.

Thank you all for sharing, the search goes on.

Don

 

[Arden]

Re: Satisfaction - 100th Reply Post

You never cease to amaze me, Arden. Again, you are correct, it does take two to tango. From your previous posts I had formed this image of an all-together with-it, complete person heading down her chosen road to the future. No doubt this is correct, I'm just amazed that a Neanderthal could find a place in your world. (Oops, value judgements, sorry.) Frequently, such cavemen have their own little version of hell that they are trying to live through, and other people are really irrelevant to the script. I hope this wasn't your experience.

Many of us make unwise choices in our youth, such as getting married for the wrong reasons. I guarantee that I'm not the only one to have done this. But, to have learned something from the experience makes the difference. I feel for those that don't learn, for they are condemned to repeat their errors.

Life today is wonderful. I have been very lucky in that I have achieved many of my dreams. Striving towards your goals, and the ultimate realization of your dreams - that's another story in fufillment all by itself. Doing it all on your own makes it even more satisfying. The best years of my life have only just begun.

Don't worry about the value judgement. I can honestly look back at the caveman days today and have a good laugh. Live and learn...

 

[Svenskaflicka]

Ooga booga...

 

[Arden]

Re: Re: Re: Satisfaction

I've had a similar experience to what you had, and now that I've found my soulmate, I can compare all my experiences, and that make me appreciate my Sweetheart even more.

There really IS someone out there for each one of us!!!

Hello Svenskaflicka,

How right you are. What some people fail to realize is that our past experiences make us who we are today... strong women, who know exactly what we want in life, and stop at nothing to achieve our fufillment and desires.

When we find the person who shares and supports our dreams, and allows us feel what love is meant to be, the result is pure bliss. Heaven on earth. I'm so happy that you found your soulmate... and appreciate him for what he brings to your life.

From the other side of the pond,
Arden

PS. Love your kitty face!

 

[Don K Dyck]

Satisfaction

Thanks Arden, for dropping by and sharing your wisdom.

You're correct of course, Arden, when we are young we rush into things because of social pressures, or family pressures, or to run away from horrible situations, or any other reason not related to achieving what we want. Often we don't know what we want. And often those decisions are made for the very best of reasons at the time, and with little consideration of the longer term consequences - they seem so irrelevant at the time.

But when we have to live them, reality sets in with a crash and we often stay too long with our initial decisions when it is obvious that we are preserving the past rather than building the future.

How does that saying go - learn from yesterday it is past and unchangeable, plan for tomorrow because you are going to spend a long time there, and live life today because we only ever have the present.

I trust that your man realises just how lucky he is. You have defined your present satisfaction very well.

Thank you for sharing, the search goes on.

Don

 

[Svenskaflicka]

Strength

One of the things I love mostly about my man is that he's not afraid of strong women. On the contrary, he's encouraging me to get even stronger. He always compliments me on my talents, tells me how proud he is of me, and congratulates me on my success.

Some people have the idea that a relationship should be 100%, and that the man has to be stronger than the woman, say 60-70%, or he's not a man. If she's strong, it makes her the dominant one, which makes him the weak, "female" part of the relationship. And everyone knows that being feminine is a deadly sin for a man!!!

In my relationship with my man, we break the rules, and each of us strives to be 100%, which makes our relationship 200%!
Now THAT's something!!!

 

[Arden]

Re: Strength

One of the things I love mostly about my man is that he's not afraid of strong women. On the contrary, he's encouraging me to get even stronger. He always compliments me on my talents, tells me how proud he is of me, and congratulates me on my success.

LOL... Are you sure we aren't both involved with the same guy?

 

[Svenskaflicka]

Re: Re: Strength

LOL... Are you sure we aren't both involved with the same guy?

I sure hope not!!!

What's your Sweethearts skin color? Vanilla or chocolate?

 

[Arden]

Re: Re: Re: Strength

I sure hope not!!!

What's your Sweethearts skin color? Vanilla or chocolate?

Vanilla - the skin color, that is...

 

[Don K Dyck]

Satisfaction

Thank you Svenskaflicka and Arden for dropping by and sharing your wisdom.

What a great ideal for an exciting relationship, Svenskaflicka.

If both partners are striving to be the best they can in their own lives this must surely reflect in an increased satisfaction within the relationship. When we are happy with ourselves we are more likely to be happy with our partner and the world in general, and so a strong, wide base for satisfaction is established.

So, we can increase satisfaction WITHIN a relationship by striving to increase our satisfaction with life OUTSIDE the relationship, by taking control of as much of our lives as possible, by taking responsibility for our own actions and the subsequent consequences, by owning our lives and working to make them the way we want them.

Yes, so we take responsibility for our lives, state what we want and pursue those goals, mix and partner people who will assist us to achieve those goals, and in sharing the task, form satifying relationships that easily overflow the realms of the bedroom to form not only a solitary satisfying relationship but the greater, all encompassing satisfying life. When there are a number of people with similar ideals forming some sort of community, then a happy and progressive social community evolves or exists.

This philosophising seems a long way from sexual exhaustion - and yet it is simultaneously adjacent and integral when satisfaction is concerned.

Now Arden . . . you're letting that erotic imagination of yours loose in public again . . . I'm very pleased that there are at least three men around who enjoy sharing life success with exciting women who are successful in life in their own right.

Thank you for sharing, the search goes on.

Don

 

[Arden]

Re: Satisfaction

So, we can increase satisfaction WITHIN a relationship by striving to increase our satisfaction with life OUTSIDE the relationship, by taking control of as much of our lives as possible, by taking responsibility for our own actions and the subsequent consequences, by owning our lives and working to make them the way we want them.

Yes, so we take responsibility for our lives, state what we want and pursue those goals, mix and partner people who will assist us to achieve those goals, and in sharing the task, form satifying relationships that easily overflow the realms of the bedroom to form not only a solitary satisfying relationship but the greater, all encompassing satisfying life.

This philosophising seems a long way from sexual exhaustion - and yet it is simultaneously adjacent and integral when satisfaction is concerned.

Very well put, Don.

Now Arden . . . you're letting that erotic imagination of yours loose in public again . . . I'm very pleased that there are at least three men around who enjoy sharing life success with exciting women who are successful in life in their own right.

Aw, come on, Don. I will admit to having a very erotic imagination - but isn't Lit the best place to set it free? There are some places where it isn't appropriate to do so. Don't we all live vicariously through others here, learn, and share?

Admittedly, some do share more than others...

 

[Svenskaflicka]

Great place

I agree with Arden that Lit is a great place for sharing sexual fantasies, and Dons thread is one of the greatest as we all get to share our opinions here without anyone snapping at us.

I sure hope that other people than our little group read this thread to, and get inspired by all the openminded wisdom we share with our clever Don.

Hearing all of your views are so inspiring, and they make me very glad to read. Keep it up, everyone!

 

[Svenskaflicka]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Strength

Vanilla - the skin color, that is...

But, the addition of chocolate syrup* certainly has some appeal to it...

OK, that's settled then - the love of my life is a wonderful chocolate - goes very well with whipped cream. (Hmm, think I'm gonna stock up on that before next time I meet him...)

 

[Arden]

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OK, that's settled then - the love of my life is a wonderful chocolate - goes very well with whipped cream. (Hmm, think I'm gonna stock up on that before next time I meet him...)

 

[Svenskaflicka]

Color

I doubt chocolate would be visible on him.

 

[Arden]

Re: Color

I doubt chocolate would be visible on him.

Does that really matter?

 

[Svenskaflicka]

Recipe

For all of you out there who haven't yet played with whipped cream, here's an advise - DO NOT use the cream in a spray can! It taste like gunk! Go a bit Martha Stewart on this and whip fresh cream instead. Oh, I probably shouldn't have mentioned MS in association with sex - that's gross!

 

[Arden]

Re: Recipe

For all of you out there who haven't yet played with whipped cream, here's an advise - DO NOT use the cream in a spray can! It taste like gunk!

*Poof*

 

[Dragonette]

Here

Starting a relationship is always difficult and frightening.
But if it is the right one, oh, then fun as you learn!

I am still looking, mine seems to be hiding!
I wish he would hurry up as time is flying past!

I'll post the link to Mr G (Mr GGG) as I have been asked a few times
Because he changed his nickname, search has a problem finding him!

Try This & Report Back

Also Don, search seems to have a problem finding you now, it found you before, but not now, have you changed anything?

I read that thread, but didn't post, best to let it die, silly lady, guess she had nothing better to do!

Smiles and winks

 

[Arden]

Re: Here

Starting a relationship is always difficult and frightening.
But if it is the right one, oh, then fun as you learn!

I am still looking, mine seems to be hiding!
I wish he would hurry up as time is flying past!

Hi Dragonette,

Maybe a thread about being satisfied as a single is in order? I think a lot of us might enjoy a place to bounce posts off one another about getting to know each other as relationships progress, the quirks we encounter when in a new relationship, how to feel satisfied with ourselves as we are, single people...

I'm not very good at starting threads, but you might garner good response since so many people here know you.

Just a thought...

Arden

PS. Loved your story "The Shower." See, people do read your stories when you put a link in your signature line.

 

[Don K Dyck]

Satisfaction

Thank you Arden, Svenskaflicka and Dragonette for dropping by and sharing your wisdom.

Your man is very special, Arden, to understand that the model which society promotes for women generally has little merit in the modern world.

Thank you Svenskaflicka for your endorsement, but you do yourself an injustice. This thread works because people like yourself freely contribute their opinions. My understanding has increased because of your contributions.

There have been no known changes made Dragonette, so I don't understand why there is a problem.

The only problem is <wink> Arden's wildly erotic imagination getting away on her outside the Literotica Bar.

Thank you all for sharing, the search goes on.

Don