Let's Discuss Deal Breakers

[Trekka]

Oh my.

3-Jacking change from the fountain: Wish Thief! *gasps*

4-No cell phone? Can he build a fire from coconut husks and rocks? Can he hunt? Build a shelter from river reeds? Is it the apocalypse? Are we wearing nothing but pelts? I could get into this fantasy.

5-No license? See #4.

6-Ridiculous self-induced haircut: Lets get back to basics here. As Honey previously inquired, "How big is his wang?"

 

[ViciousTease]

#6. You're on your 3rd date and things are going great. When they show up, you see they got a hair cut. It is much shorter and a bit unevenly done. You can't help but stare and finally say something about noticing they got a haircut. They say yeah I cut my hair last night. You ask where and they say they cut their own hair. When you ask why they say it's because hair cuts are too expensive and they save money by cutting it themselves. You offer to pay for the next one but they refuse. You really like this person, but their hair looks ridiculous.

I cut my own hair.

I also give haircuts to most of the men in my life. This isn't a big deal for me, I'd just add him to the line-up.

 

[Lunation]

#6. You're on your 3rd date and things are going great. When they show up, you see they got a hair cut. It is much shorter and a bit unevenly done. You can't help but stare and finally say something about noticing they got a haircut. They say yeah I cut my hair last night. You ask where and they say they cut their own hair. When you ask why they say it's because hair cuts are too expensive and they save money by cutting it themselves. You offer to pay for the next one but they refuse. You really like this person, but their hair looks ridiculous.

I know this is a cop-out, but this would just never happen.

I wouldn't notice her hair. And on the off chance I did I wouldn't say anything about it being uneven. And on the further off chance that happened, I definitely wouldn't offer to pay for a haircut...woman wants to cut her hair, she can.

So I guess not a deal breaker?


Also, since when have fountains been used for charity? I've never heard of that.

 

[IhateClowns]

#7 You find out on the first date that they are a vegetarian and they ask you not to eat meat around them.

 

[curvyangel1969]

#7 You find out on the first date that they are a vegetarian and they ask you not to eat meat around them.

There are plenty of delicious vegetarian dishes out there. I don't mind at all. I have one stipulation. They must do all the major cooking since it's their lifestyle choice. (this is actually a win for me )

 

[ydahecnot]

In a successful relationship, one should not have to lose oneself. I am an unapologetic carnivore. I respect your eats, you respect mine. If not...deal breaker

 

[KarenB59]

I won't tell you where to cut your hair if you won't tell me what I can eat​.
The home grown haircut wouldn't be a deal breaker. Unless it looks like Moe.
Telling me what to eat. Out the door

 

[ViciousTease]

#7 You find out on the first date that they are a vegetarian and they ask you not to eat meat around them.

I don't have a problem with dating a vegetarian. If the relationship progressed, I would probably decide to give up meat to make things simpler.

Here's the thing, if you're asking me to stop eating meat around you on our first date you clearly consider your own comfort above all others. If we get serious, will you expect my entire family to eliminate meat from holiday menus and birthday dinners? Yeah, that's not going to happen.

If you're not expecting everyone to put down their steak knives and the question is just a test to see if there's any point in moving forward, well I'm going to fail because your timing makes this a deal breaker for me.

 

[Trekka]

#7 You find out on the first date that they are a vegetarian and they ask you not to eat meat around them.

Clowns, you've located a deal breaker for me!

That's too controlling. I can't handle being controlled like that.

Unless I'm naked.

 

[Eva_Star]

#7 You find out on the first date that they are a vegetarian and they ask you not to eat meat around them.

Nah. No one tells me what to eat or what not to eat. Next!

 

[PapaRomantic]

#7 You find out on the first date that they are a vegetarian and they ask you not to eat meat around them.

Unilateral decisions make for a miserable relationship.

All you meat eaters - I'm smoking meat this weekend, come on over, and we'll have a good time!

 

[Lunation]

#7 You find out on the first date that they are a vegetarian and they ask you not to eat meat around them.

They must be vegetarian for moral reasons if they don't want me eating meat.

I engage her in philosophical debate, and see if I can successfully twist her to a nihilistic world view.

You think meat is murder? You killed billions of bacteria when you brushed your teeth this morning. True, they didn't feel it. But then is it ok to murder someone so long as they're asleep? In a coma? Death is fine so long as its painless?

The bacteria aren't intelligent you say. So intelligence is the standard by which beings should be judged worthy to live? Should it be legal to murder stupid people?

Face it, lady. Life, by its very nature consumes other life. To even have room to exist on this planet you are extinguishing the lives of others. The cheap goods that allow us to exist in comfort are born on the blood and sweat of children in other countries. To survive we must consume. We must kill. We must destroy. And when our brief, hungry existence is done, man and all his works will fade to dust under the light of a doomed star. NOW WIPE YOUR TEARS AND ORDER A FUCKING STEAK

 

[Endless_Night]

Soooooo. That's^^^ a no?



Edited: If I'm going to post I should probably answer. Hmmm. I'm thinking it would depend on how they asked. If it was a demand, I'd suddenly develop a headache. For that night, and every following night.

A nice, respectful request. Meh. I'm open to discussion.

 

[justashygirl]

#7 You find out on the first date that they are a vegetarian and they ask you not to eat meat around them.

I'm not sure there would even be a first date.

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[aussiegeekygal]

I'm ok dating a vegetarian, but asking me to not consume meat in their presence is a little too much. I eat a primarily plant based diet, not out of moral objections to killing creatures, but from a sustainability standpoint. We don't need nearly as much meat as we consume, and I use meat to enhance the flavor of my meals, and not as the main attraction. The energy we put in to producing livestock gives us a very inefficient return on that investment. I grow most of my own food, so I live on that.

I don't eat cheese, and if I asked a date to not eat it in front of me, I'd half expect to never hear from them again.

 

[Lunation]

Soooooo. That's^^^ a no?

Oh, no.

If she broke down and ordered a steak she would be fun.

And if she got pissed that I ordered a steak, she would be fun.


The real question is, is me refusing to adhere a deal breaker for her? And follow up, how much does she enjoy angry sex?

 

[lakesailer_mi]

Fuck it. It is my thread. Let us try one more for the evening.

#4. You're on your first date and they tell you that they do not own a cell phone.

Well, it would depend. If she was my age (50's), I could actually see that. If she was 24? I'd know she was lying. But, I'd give her chance. It sounds, potentially, like a way for her to gracefully "bow out" and sometimes you need to give someone that room.

Ok so #4 was a pretty easy answer for everyone. Let's try this one.

#5 They are your age and they have never had a driver license because they never learned how to drive.

If they were from a large city like NY, London, maybe Chicago with decent public transportation, I can see that. Again, I'd wait and see. This just could be circumstances. Besides, I like driving.

#6. You're on your 3rd date and things are going great. When they show up, you see they got a hair cut. It is much shorter and a bit unevenly done. You can't help but stare and finally say something about noticing they got a haircut. They say yeah I cut my hair last night. You ask where and they say they cut their own hair. When you ask why they say it's because hair cuts are too expensive and they save money by cutting it themselves. You offer to pay for the next one but they refuse. You really like this person, but their hair looks ridiculous.

I think this would be a "nope." Maybe not like some of my others, but this has, "I'm totally fucking outside the pale" written all over it. If it's a woman, who cares that little about her hair, she's really odd. There would have to be a lot of other really positive stuff. Like...she was a fucking genius. Had a great sense of humor, and a gorgeous ass.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

#7 You find out on the first date that they are a vegetarian and they ask you not to eat meat around them.

That's a NOPE! Nopity nope nope!!!!
To be honest, while I like some vegetarian meals and could do some like that, this would just not work. I love lamb. I love veal. I'm very fond of filet mignon. Plus, frankly, I even love chicken. So, there is no way I'm going meatless.

 

[Suz_anne]

#4. You're on your first date and they tell you that they do not own a cell phone.

No big deal to me. I hate my cell phone and admire those who resist the technology.

#5 They are your age and they have never had a driver license because they never learned how to drive.

A little weird and could get annoying. But as others have said...if they have other compensating "personal" qualities - I could deal.

#6. You're on your 3rd date and things are going great. When they show up, you see they got a hair cut. It is much shorter and a bit unevenly done. You can't help but stare and finally say something about noticing they got a haircut. They say yeah I cut my hair last night. You ask where and they say they cut their own hair. When you ask why they say it's because hair cuts are too expensive and they save money by cutting it themselves. You offer to pay for the next one but they refuse. You really like this person, but their hair looks ridiculous.

If I really liked Lloyd Christmas, I'd learn to cut his ridiculous hair and fix it.

#7 You find out on the first date that they are a vegetarian and they ask you not to eat meat around them.

I don't care if he's a vegetarian, but if he tries to come between me and some baby back ribs - I'll cut a motherfucker.

As an aside, every vegetarian man I've met IRL has been incredibly unsexy. So this seems like a purely hypothetical question to me.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

I don't care if he's a vegetarian, but if he tries to come between me and some baby back ribs - I'll cut a motherfucker

As an aside, every vegetarian man I've met IRL has been incredibly unsexy. So this seems like a purely hypothetical question to me.

Slow clap.

Oh, and I'll buy, I know this great little BBQ place, it's kind of out in the country, but they have awesome ribs.

 

[Ask For More]

Clowns, you've located a deal breaker for me!

That's too controlling. I can't handle being controlled like that.

Unless I'm naked.

So you'll only be vegetarian around him if you're naked?


As for my answer to the question, that kind of behaviour is way too controlling. I also have a lot of allergies that prevents me from eating many types of vegetarian food. I'd rather not die, so I'd be waving them goodbye.

 

[Suz_anne]

Slow clap.

Oh, and I'll buy, I know this great little BBQ place, it's kind of out in the country, but they have awesome ribs.

The siren song of bbq...you flirt, you!

 

[lakesailer_mi]

The siren song of bbq...you flirt, you!

I know how to say the things a woman wants to hear...

 

[IhateClowns]

Friendship deal breaker.

#8. You and your significant other have a nasty break-up. Your longtime friend decides that they still want to be friends with you and your now ex.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Friendship deal breaker.

#8. You and your significant other have a nasty break-up. Your longtime friend decides that they still want to be friends with you and your now ex.

Sounds like a three-way with bonus hate sex.

Sorry, what's the problem?