Let's Discuss Deal Breakers

[lakesailer_mi]

Friendship deal breaker.

#8. You and your significant other have a nasty break-up. Your longtime friend decides that they still want to be friends with you and your now ex.

Sounds like a three-way with bonus hate sex.

Sorry, what's the problem?

LMAO!!!!

OK, I think this is not a deal breaker provided.
(1) S/he doesn't ask us to do things together (sorry Honey...no 3 ways with the X)
(2) S/he doesn't tell me "news" about her (I mean shit, if I want to know, I'll stalk her on facebook!)
(3) He doesn't fuck her for at least 6 months, and he doesn't tell me about it, or ask "what does she like in bed". If my friend is a she, then...OK...I might wanna hear about it...

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

...If my friend is a she, then...OK...I might wanna hear about it...

I totally saw this coming.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

I totally saw this coming.

can you tell me about it? (saw this cumming?)

 

[BlackCashmere]

Friendship deal breaker.

#8. You and your significant other have a nasty break-up. Your longtime friend decides that they still want to be friends with you and your now ex.

As it should be...the friend loves both...the issue is with the couple...and the couple should respect that and not try to influence the friend against the other...

I know thats not easy...I have been That friend many times...but boundaries need to be set...no tolerance to trash talking about the other

 

[Trekka]

Friendship deal breaker.

#8. You and your significant other have a nasty break-up. Your longtime friend decides that they still want to be friends with you and your now ex.

And welcome to my life. According to FB my ex hubs and I have 92 friends in common.

I lot many friends in the post-divorce social fall out. It was like a nuclear winter of friendship. No one was ever asked to take sides... they just naturally took them.

So no, not a friendship deal breaker for me. But for the friends... it seems it often is.

I've been on both sides of this equation. I think it's hard to remain friendly with both parties. Not impossible, but exceedingly difficult.

 

[ViciousTease]

Friendship deal breaker.

#8. You and your significant other have a nasty break-up. Your longtime friend decides that they still want to be friends with you and your now ex.

I've remained friendly with all of my past exes, so shared friends has never been a problem. The hubs and I don't share any friends really, so when he finally goes things will not change much. *shrugs*

 

[IhateClowns]

Is it a relationship deal breaker if:

#9. They're always checking themselves out in most mirrors and reflective surfaces that they pass.

 

[curvyangel1969]

Is it a relationship deal breaker if:

#9. They're always checking themselves out in most mirrors and reflective surfaces that they pass.

I will need more information before answering this one.

 

[Eva_Star]

Is it a relationship deal breaker if:

#9. They're always checking themselves out in most mirrors and reflective surfaces that they pass.

Are they just nervous because we are newly dating and want to make sure they look ok or are they conceited?

If they are just nervous....fine. They will relax in time but if conceited... no. I can't deal with people like that.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

I will need more information before answering this one.

I mean that's right, I would need to know if she's that attractive. I mean, I can respect someone who is drop dead gorgeous wanting to ogle themselves all the time. I mean hell, we're all ogling them, why should they miss out on all the fun!



This is probably a turn off for me, but not "deal breaker" if other things are pretty good. And NO I don't mean, "if she has big tits" I mean the rest of the personality and intellect...and ass...I'm an ass man, tits are just icing on the cake!

 

[beachbaby179]

Is it a relationship deal breaker if:

#9. They're always checking themselves out in most mirrors and reflective surfaces that they pass.

The key word here is ALWAYS. That would probably be a deal breaker. But for instance, I just had breakfast with a friend. A veggie omelet. And I spent the rest of our time together worrying about whether I had spinach in my teeth. A quick look in the mirror would have been good.

 

[lakesailer_mi]

The key word here is ALWAYS. That would probably be a deal breaker. But for instance, I just had breakfast with a friend. A veggie omelet. And I spent the rest of our time together worrying about whether I had spinach in my teeth. A quick look in the mirror would have been good.

And a true friend will let you know if you have spinach in your teeth.

 

[Icy1]

Is it a relationship deal breaker if:

#9. They're always checking themselves out in most mirrors and reflective surfaces that they pass.

Definite deal breaker.
How am I supposed to check myself out if they're hogging every reflective surface and mirror?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Is it a relationship deal breaker if:

#9. They're always checking themselves out in most mirrors and reflective surfaces that they pass.

I'd be so single if that was a legit deal breaker for some

 

[curvyangel1969]

I mean that's right, I would need to know if she's that attractive. I mean, I can respect someone who is drop dead gorgeous wanting to ogle themselves all the time. I mean hell, we're all ogling them, why should they miss out on all the fun!



This is probably a turn off for me, but not "deal breaker" if other things are pretty good. And NO I don't mean, "if she has big tits" I mean the rest of the personality and intellect...and ass...I'm an ass man, tits are just icing on the cake!

See you totally get me!

 

[lakesailer_mi]

See you totally get me!

So, you have a nice ass then????

 

[curvyangel1969]

So, you have a nice ass then????

Why yes, yes I do!

 

[lakesailer_mi]

Why yes, yes I do!

AWESOME!!!! You seem smart and a reasonable person too, but really, it's just about the booty!

 

[IhateClowns]

#10. You get invited over to their house for a home cooked meal. You like them and it's time to close the deal. The dinner is delicious and you bring your plate into the kitchen to put it in the sink. You compliment them on a great home cooked meal and they say thank you. As you go to throw something away you open the lid to the trash and see take out boxes that your dinner clearly came from. Do you say anything? Is it a deal breaker?

 

[curvyangel1969]

#10. You get invited over to their house for a home cooked meal. You like them and it's time to close the deal. The dinner is delicious and you bring your plate into the kitchen to put it in the sink. You compliment them on a great home cooked meal and they say thank you. As you go to throw something away you open the lid to the trash and see take out boxes that your dinner clearly came from. Do you say anything? Is it a deal breaker?

I would laugh hysterically and compliment them on their taste in restaurants. Not a deal breaker. I would think it was funny and something to tease them endlessly about in the years to come (assuming it went somewhere)

 

[sogrl90]

#10. You get invited over to their house for a home cooked meal. You like them and it's time to close the deal. The dinner is delicious and you bring your plate into the kitchen to put it in the sink. You compliment them on a great home cooked meal and they say thank you. As you go to throw something away you open the lid to the trash and see take out boxes that your dinner clearly came from. Do you say anything? Is it a deal breaker?

Not a deal breaker. I would just laugh and tease him about it.

 

[justashygirl]

I would laugh hysterically and compliment them on their taste in restaurants. Not a deal breaker. I would think it was funny and something to tease them endlessly about in the years to come (assuming it went somewhere)

This. lol

 

[TransPunkPrincess]

Final one for today.

#3. You're waiting for your date outside of a restaurant. It's a first date. You see them pull up and get out of their car. They walk over to a fountain, take some change out of it and feed their parking meter with them.

Hey, it's hard times out there. Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.

 

[Trekka]

#9: always checking themselves out in mirrors? i dunno. it would depend on the ratio of instances of checking themselves out to checking me out. i like to make goo-goo eyes. lack of goo-goo eyes ==> train to nowhere, fast.

then again? if he's hella hot and we're in one night stand territory... i might shove him up against the wall while he's ogling himself and start nibbling up and down his neck so he can watch the action

#10: pawning off take-out as a home cooked meal? man. that's like... potential moral turpitude. it makes my spidey senses tingle. i'm calling it a deal breaker!

Hey, it's hard times out there. Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.

^and that's the best username I've seen in a while

 

[lakesailer_mi]

#10. You get invited over to their house for a home cooked meal. You like them and it's time to close the deal. The dinner is delicious and you bring your plate into the kitchen to put it in the sink. You compliment them on a great home cooked meal and they say thank you. As you go to throw something away you open the lid to the trash and see take out boxes that your dinner clearly came from. Do you say anything? Is it a deal breaker?

No. I think there is huge pressure on women in particular to be "good cooks." Even in this day and age. And most are not. I would be a little disappointed that they didn't trust me enough to say, "hey, I'm not a good cook"/"don't have time to cook"/"don't like to cook" or "I tried something new and it totally bombed so I called for takeout."

I enjoy cooking and eating. So this is something that I think is important, but not a deal breaker. And...I'd call em' on it. If they laughed and came clean and told the story, I'd be fine!