Let's talk about sex baby...

[NorthRockJohnson]

Thanks to everyone who participated in the last question. It was a lot of fun reading those funny stories.

#17. What's your take on anal sex?

The majority of the girls I've dated weren't at all into it. I've tried it before and wasn't that into it, so that's okay with me. I mean you're literally a couple inches away from the best place ever anyway, so it's not required. I've had my ass fingered and I generally liked it at the time, so I get the appeal overall. I guess I'm just more of a vagina guy. Lol

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

anal...

I enjoy anal sex, and like everyone before has stated, size does matter, lube is very important, getting to that state of arousal is key...etc.

The last man I was with, though, was very well endowed, did not seem to give a fig that he was literally ripping me open, and I did not enjoy what amounted to little more than anal rape. Not that it was non consensual, but communication definitely failed in this instance.

Men: don't get so carried away that you lose your senses

Women: Learn how to flip a man from that belly down position.

 

[Azuldrgon]

it wasn't the bed, it was you....spray some WD-40 on your junk to get rid of those rusty nuts

Damn....lol

 

[DarkSimian]

anal...

I enjoy anal sex, and like everyone before has stated, size does matter, lube is very important, getting to that state of arousal is key...etc.

The last man I was with, though, was very well endowed, did not seem to give a fig that he was literally ripping me open, and I did not enjoy what amounted to little more than anal rape. Not that it was non consensual, but communication definitely failed in this instance.

Men: don't get so carried away that you lose your senses

Women: Learn how to flip a man from that belly down position.

note to self: listen to RA

 

[Mr_Jon_Thon]

The clench and roll is an evil maneuver.

 

[numeniusa]

This 'size' business.

My man is a good 7 inches erect, with an excellent girth. And in a cock-ring, fuck, he's kind of enormous for ages, which I love.

And to begin with, that was ... challenging ... anally. But I've mastered it now, and I think that came just from practice at the relaxing, not tensing. At the beginning I found the entry of the widest part of his head a little difficult, but now, properly prepared, it's just about my favourite part

He has to be careful, and to be guided by me, as far as the thrusting goes, but I'm not sure it isn't as much about size, as about preparation and practice.

If you'd told me a year ago that I'd feel this way about anal, I'd have been hugely surprised...

 

[Trekka]

I've done it in the past a few times. It's not something that I crave or anything. I like the taboo part of it, but that's really about it. I've asked my wife quite a few times, but more as a joke. Then I recently went Down on her, and slid my thumb up her ass. She had an extremely large orgasm from it. That's when she said we should revisit me fucking her in the ass.

^that^ and ^that^

the anal orgasm is real. it's a totally different kind of orgasm. it's kinda awesome to discover yet another way to cum.

so, it's on the sexual buffet at my house. just one of the many offerings available...

And IHC, this addition to your sexual repertoire would totally fix that prob youve got with period sex...

 

[cascadiabound]

^^^^ pretty much ditto for me.

What numeniusa said...
And trekka too.

 

[Trekka]

^^^^ pretty much ditto for me.

What numeniusa said...
And trekka too.

*high fives*

 

[Amalgamation]

^that^ and ^that^

the anal orgasm is real. it's a totally different kind of orgasm. it's kinda awesome to discover yet another way to cum.

so, it's on the sexual buffet at my house. just one of the many offerings available...

And IHC, this addition to your sexual repertoire would totally fix that prob youve got with period sex...

Damn, you dinner time must be the best in the area then!

 

[Lord Pmann]

Ouch. Special occasions only.

My friend got married today. Does that count? For me, I mean.

 

[Lord Pmann]

And to answer the question, anal is my favourite orifice. Yes yes yes- I realize I am but a small distance away from a nice, lubed hole waiting for me. But like everyone else, I want something better. What's better than a pussy? A lubed arsehole, IMO. It's a glorious place. It's a different grip. However, it's not something I go for all the time. The preparation is longer. Here is my analogy:

We all have our favourite outfits or favourite article of clothing. Something comfortable and delightful that we go to most often. Maybe pair of shoes that fit like a glove. Or a pair of pants. Easy to put on and easy to remove. Those do well for most occasions.

But we also have a nice pair of dress shoes. Leather bottoms. With a suit. It takes a lot more preparation to wear that. HOWEVER. When you do wear it, you look class and it's for a nice night or something.

The arsehole is similar. You don't want it to be a loosey goosey pair of shoes you can slide in an out of like a pair of worn Sperrys. No. You want it to be that slightly stiff, tight leather bottomed winged tip that is used a few times a year.

#ArseholesAreLikeWingTips

 

[Aphro]

And to answer the question, anal is my favourite orifice. Yes yes yes- I realize I am but a small distance away from a nice, lubed hole waiting for me. But like everyone else, I want something better. What's better than a pussy? A lubed arsehole, IMO. It's a glorious place. It's a different grip. However, it's not something I go for all the time. The preparation is longer. Here is my analogy:

We all have our favourite outfits or favourite article of clothing. Something comfortable and delightful that we go to most often. Maybe pair of shoes that fit like a glove. Or a pair of pants. Easy to put on and easy to remove. Those do well for most occasions.

But we also have a nice pair of dress shoes. Leather bottoms. With a suit. It takes a lot more preparation to wear that. HOWEVER. When you do wear it, you look class and it's for a nice night or something.

The arsehole is similar. You don't want it to be a loosey goosey pair of shoes you can slide in an out of like a pair of worn Sperrys. No. You want it to be that slightly stiff, tight leather bottomed winged tip that is used a few times a year.

#ArseholesAreLikeWingTips

Keep your wing tips out of my arsehole. Pointy little fuckers.

Tried it about four or five times. It has ranged from mildly pleasant to tolerable to get the fuck away frim me. I'm not certain why certain attempts went well, and others were a disaster.

 

[Trekka]

Why does Pmann always say arsehole?! Do you think he whispers that into his woman's ear? "Baby, I want that tight little.... Arsehole!" *giggles*

 

[cascadiabound]

Why does Pmann always say arsehole?! Do you think he whispers that into his woman's ear? "Baby, I want that tight little.... Arsehole!" *giggles*

I think it's a Brit/ Aussie/ Canadian thing.
And yes...he probably does... And she probably loves it. Lol

 

[numeniusa]

I think it's a Brit/ Aussie/ Canadian thing.
And yes...he probably does... And she probably loves it. Lol

Yep, to us an 'ass' is a donkey-type animal. So an 'asshole'...

 

[Suz_anne]

Why does Pmann always say arsehole?! Do you think he whispers that into his woman's ear? "Baby, I want that tight little.... Arsehole!" *giggles*

I think it's a Brit/ Aussie/ Canadian thing.

He's none of those things, so he does it because he thinks he's being "classy". A classy arsehole.

 

[suckonsimon]

He's none of those things, so he does it because he thinks he's being "classy". A classy arsehole.

I just checked his recent posts for any British spelling. None. And he wrote "restroom" - He's American alright!

 

[suckonsimon]

I feel that our excellent fellow IHC would allow a new question now. A double one:

#18a What is the 'added value' when sex is within a loving committed relationship?

#18b What is the 'added value' when sex is part of a no strings attached liaison?

Answer one or the other or both as you choose.

 

[suckonsimon]

OK I seem to have killed the thread with my questions! Help! Sorry! I'll attempt resuscitation:

As a man in a loving committed relationship, I value how our sex can be totally vanilla on occasion and that's OK. Such as when I need release cuz I'm pent up about something and won't get to sleep unless I fuck. Or her heart is full of the care of other people's problems and she wants consoling - "I need to be filled."

The freedom to have that kind of sex sometimes and spectacular joys other times is 'added value' I feel.

Perhaps people with a 'fuck buddy' or those who can make a booty call have that too? I'm asking because I don't know how those situations pan out.

 

[cascadiabound]

So we all like to brag about how good we are in bed. No one likes to talk a lot the mishaps and flubs, but we have all had them. So tell us:

#16. Tell us a funny or embarrassing sexual experience you have had.

I know I'm late to the party on this one... and this was a very long time ago. But I recollect having a one night hook up when I was in college with this guy who was studying to be an opera singer. I don't even recall how we hooked up now.
Anyway, we were in my room, twin bed lime all college students have, we're going at it pretty good and then we're 69 with me on top. I can tell he's pretty close and he farts...not a huge fart, but, distinct. I'm not particularly bothered by this, it certainly isn't going to stop me from finishing him off.

So afterwards we're kinda cuddling and he's like totally amazed that his fart didn't totally freak me out and screw up the whole finish. I can tell he's kinda mortified. Again...I'm unphased. He starts talking about how amazing our little tryst had been and how we're going to hook up forever after when he tours to a city near where I live in his professional singing career.
Uh. No.
Not that good for me. Totally not memorable except for the fart now. Lol.

I feel that our excellent fellow IHC would allow a new question now. A double one:

#18a What is the 'added value' when sex is within a loving committed relationship?
This is the only question I can answer of the two you've asked Simon.
Added value is how comfortable you are. How easy it is. How you know just how to take care of each other and can read each other's signals.


#18b What is the 'added value' when sex is part of a no strings attached liaison?

Answer one or the other or both as you choose.

 

[Lunation]

I feel that our excellent fellow IHC would allow a new question now. A double one:


#18b What is the 'added value' when sex is part of a no strings attached liaison?

Answer one or the other or both as you choose.

About 200/hour.

...or so I've been told.

 

[numeniusa]

I feel that our excellent fellow IHC would allow a new question now. A double one:

#18a What is the 'added value' when sex is within a loving committed relationship?

#18b What is the 'added value' when sex is part of a no strings attached liaison?

Answer one or the other or both as you choose.

#18a: I think the trust, understanding and communication certainly add value to it. I know I can ask him to do something new or different without worrying that it'll freak him out. There's also a familiarity with each other's bodies and responses that mean there's no fumbling or uncertainty in the touch. The sex feeds the relationship too, it's definitely a bonding experience even after all these years And with no risk of disease or pregnancy, there's no need for condoms or other safety procedures, which is nice.

#18b: I can only answer this one in the light of my participation in a MFF threesome last year. It was certainly fun to have a new body to play with, for him and for me. And the novelty of that certainly added a frisson.

 

[janeyl]

Thanks to everyone who participated in the last question. It was a lot of fun reading those funny stories.

#17. What's your take on anal sex?

I love it...my first experience 30 or so years ago was extremely unpleasant and I will still never be convinced that the unfortunate "misplacement" incident which made me almost pass out with shock and pain was entirely accidental...fast forward 20 odd years and I had a man who convinced me that it could and would feel wonderful. This was mainly because, being bisexual, he had been on the receiving end many times...some of them from me...

The intense build up that first time with him slowly and gently opening me up with his tongue and fingers and the slow, slow intimate process made the skin along my spine come alive...every nerve fibre firing off, every hair on the back of my neck rise as my body rose to meet his slow, long and increasingly deep thrusts...the trust and eroticism added to the whole experience and the feeling, for me is like no other, sexually...it feels like my whole body is being fucked...and it feels that way every time we have subsequently done it...I have to be in the mood for it, but if I am...fuck me, it feels good...

...and you can't have DP without a little anal...but I don't trust anyone else but my beloved to take my arse in that situation...

Giving is an incredibly involving and erotic experience also...I've fucked both men and women anally and have been someone's first, which has been an incredible privilege...

 

[UrbanBohemian]

I love it...my first experience 30 or so years ago was extremely unpleasant and I will still never be convinced that the unfortunate "misplacement" incident which made me almost pass out with shock and pain was entirely accidental...fast forward 20 odd years and I had a man who convinced me that it could and would feel wonderful. This was mainly because, being bisexual, he had been on the receiving end many times...some of them from me...

The intense build up that first time with him slowly and gently opening me up with his tongue and fingers and the slow, slow intimate process made the skin along my spine come alive...every nerve fibre firing off, every hair on the back of my neck rise as my body rose to meet his slow, long and increasingly deep thrusts...the trust and eroticism added to the whole experience and the feeling, for me is like no other, sexually...it feels like my whole body is being fucked...and it feels that way every time we have subsequently done it...I have to be in the mood for it, but if I am...fuck me, it feels good...

...and you can't have DP without a little anal...but I don't trust anyone else but my beloved to take my arse in that situation...

Giving is an incredibly involving and erotic experience also...I've fucked both men and women anally and have been someone's first, which has been an incredible privilege...

I think 99% of the time it's not accidental but when there's a lot of lubrication involved, either natural or otherwise, and activity is sufficiently vigorous, it can definitely happen. I know that firsthand. A long time ago exactly that happened to me and I realized it after about ten seconds. Of course she knew immediately but didn't say anything. I found out why a few seconds later. So I said "Oh my God, I'm sorry!" She just looked over her shoulder, smiled, and said "It's okay. Stay inside. Go harder." So that was fun (and the second time I've been with a girl who wanted anal and convinced me to do it) but honestly, it was not on purpose. She was so slippery and we were going at it so vigorously that I fell out more than once. Most of the time, yeah, I think it's bullshit but once in a while it does happen. So anyway, might be something to consider.