Litiquette

[wyshes]

^^^^that about sums it up for a lot of us i believe.

 

[Thandi]

Hmm... I'm finding it difficult to define this.

As well as the obvious points (poster is thoughtful, witty, wonderfully expressive etc.), there's an 'X' factor where I see a poster express something in an unusual way that resonates with me, and I find myself curious about how like-minded in other ways they might be. That often prompts me to browse their profile and past postings to see whether those validate my impression; if so, then I tend to pay special attention to their future postings.

It's not necessarily a profound statement that hooks me, though. Sometimes a silly comment does the trick when it makes me laugh unexpectedly and I realise that I'm on the same wavelength as the poster. It's a bit like real life in that respect.
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Very nicely put.

 

[Paul_Chance]

I have to say, I usually enjoy your ^^ posts, Paul.

Can't say that I chase anyone's posts around here, but I do enjoy people who can articulate things in a way that makes me rethink my stance on something. And punctuation and humor always go a long way with me.

(Oh, and Paul, So I Married An Ax Murderer?)

Yes...!

 

[ChainedUp]

I hope my tardiness this morning isn't held against me

This morning's topic: how could you improve your presence at Lit? That is, how the rest of us view you. There'll be a group hug later

 

[Dreamscape12]

I hope my tardiness this morning isn't held against me

This morning's topic: how could you improve your presence at Lit? That is, how the rest of us view you. There'll be a group hug later

For some of the guys on the PG...

The above/below me threads are all about banter. Don't be that guy who quotes the last woman who has posted, missing out all the guys in between.

 

[KalIsBack]

Alright. Litiquette question:

Lit is like a huge social experiment, really. Throw people together from all around the world in a virtual house and watch the shit hit the fan. Because it will happen, eventually. You'll make some not-friends. And I think a large part of a successful Lit experience is knowing when to care about others and when not to. So...

Say you see a not-friend posting on a thread that you'd like to post on. Do you post on the thread anyway, knowing you're priming something for drama? Or do you just walk on by? Any rules regarding that? Or does it very from person-to-person, depending on whether you're in a good mood or bad mood?

 

[KalIsBack]

I hope my tardiness this morning isn't held against me

This morning's topic: how could you improve your presence at Lit? That is, how the rest of us view you. There'll be a group hug later

I think it only takes three things, universal principles:

Be kind[er].

Be [more] thoughtful.

Be slow[er] to anger and quick[er] to forgive.

Edit to explain: Lots of times I bite my tongue to stop myself from saying something offensive. Lots of times I don't say things where I think things should be said. Lots of times certain Litsters present ongoing problems for me that I shouldn't care about, but that I do. Lots of times, I say too much. So I really just need to keep those things in mind.

 

[NotHisLady]

I hope my tardiness this morning isn't held against me

This morning's topic: how could you improve your presence at Lit? That is, how the rest of us view you. There'll be a group hug later

I wish I dared share more of my real life self, I think that would really impact how people see me. It isn't something I feel good about doing though. A few of you do it and I admire you for it. For me the courage just isn't there.

I think I'd be better off if I didn't spend so much time editing posts. These aren't really supposed to be small articles, more off the cuff remarks. Somehow I can't seem to get the hang of doing that.
I've actually gone back and edited a post for a misspelled word unless someone has quoted it. Then I just suffer quietly.

 

[ChainedUp]

Topic stealer, this one is on my list , well done!

Anymore, I walk on past. There was a time I would poke the bear but I've come to realize that there'll be other opportunities, no post is that critical, if it was care enough to send the very best, a PM.

Alright. Litiquette question:

Lit is like a huge social experiment, really. Throw people together from all around the world in a virtual house and watch the shit hit the fan. Because it will happen, eventually. You'll make some not-friends. And I think a large part of a successful Lit experience is knowing when to care about others and when not to. So...

Say you see a not-friend posting on a thread that you'd like to post on. Do you post on the thread anyway, knowing you're priming something for drama? Or do you just walk on by? Any rules regarding that? Or does it very from person-to-person, depending on whether you're in a good mood or bad mood?

 

[may_I_please]

I hope my tardiness this morning isn't held against me

This morning's topic: how could you improve your presence at Lit? That is, how the rest of us view you. There'll be a group hug later

Now I feel self-conscious, I tend to just play or blurt cos I haven't thought too much about how people see me. Although I suppose I haven't gone to my sarcastic side much here yet.

I've actually gone back and edited a post for a misspelled word unless someone has quoted it. Then I just suffer quietly.

I do the grammar thing too though

 

[KalIsBack]

Topic stealer, this one is on my list , well done!

Anymore, I walk on past. There was a time I would poke the bear but I've come to realize that there'll be other opportunities, no post is that critical, if it was care enough to send the very best, a PM.

*chuckle* Well, perhaps I didn't mean the same thing as you. Take this thread for example. Say one of the posters on here is my mortal enemy or some such (I'm not pointing fingers at anyone, before anyone gets to thinking that I am. Just a hypothetical instance). But I like the thread, the thread's premise, the way the conversation has evolved, and I have 2 cents of my own to put in. Do I post and risk upsetting folk? Or just walk on by?

 

[ChainedUp]

*chuckle* Well, perhaps I didn't mean the same thing as you. Take this thread for example. Say one of the posters on here is my mortal enemy or some such (I'm not pointing fingers at anyone, before anyone gets to thinking that I am. Just a hypothetical instance). But I like the thread, the thread's premise, the way the conversation has evolved, and I have 2 cents of my own to put in. Do I post and risk upsetting folk? Or just walk on by?

I say as long as the intent of the post is not to agitate you're mortal enemy but to share your thoughts, share away. All thoughts are welcome here, and if an honest opinion is upsetting, then I'm sure discourse and debate will follow. Just don't be mean.

 

[stickygirl]

I hope my tardiness this morning isn't held against me

This morning's topic: how could you improve your presence at Lit? That is, how the rest of us view you. There'll be a group hug later

It would depend which part of the Lit audience I'd want to appeal to. I used to get a lot of attention when I first arrived because of my gender status and I used to play along with that - some of it was fun. If I wanted to improve my presence with them I'd only need to start flirting on those threads. I have no intention of doing that because I've changed so much in the last two years and Lit has played a part in that.

I wish I could join in the girl-chat more but I feel a complete dunce so I lurk instead and pick up tips ( keep talking girls - I'm listening )

I follow a few posters for the knowledge they bring and I've let them know how grateful I am for broadening my horizons.

Now I feel self-conscious, I tend to just play or blurt cos I haven't thought too much about how people see me. Although I suppose I haven't gone to my sarcastic side much here yet.

I do the grammar thing too though

I had a fluff quoted recently and contrived to post lots after to get my error buried on the previous page

 

[stickygirl]

*chuckle* Well, perhaps I didn't mean the same thing as you. Take this thread for example. Say one of the posters on here is my mortal enemy or some such (I'm not pointing fingers at anyone, before anyone gets to thinking that I am. Just a hypothetical instance). But I like the thread, the thread's premise, the way the conversation has evolved, and I have 2 cents of my own to put in. Do I post and risk upsetting folk? Or just walk on by?

I've walked by plenty of times - Life is too short to get embroiled in someone else's hate. I've seen some horrible, bigoted, transphobic posts but I know half the reason for the post was to be provocative. Nothing is more frustrating to a troll than a lack of oxygen.
I've also dropped posting on a thread if the 'wrong person' turns up ( I'm still here though... sorry )

 

[NotHisLady]

I wish I could join in the girl-chat more but I feel a complete dunce so I lurk instead and pick up tips ( keep talking girls - I'm listening )

I follow a few posters for the knowledge they bring and I've let them know how grateful I am for broadening my horizons.

I'd like to believe that smart women don't talk all that differently than smart men but maybe I'm being naive.
Why not join in. Every person is different regardless of gender since it comes down to experience more than sex anyway. My guess is that you have a lot to offer even if you do feel like you have a lot to learn as well.
If someone makes you feel uncomfortable for being different it's their loss!

 

[sereneone4u]

I'd like to believe that smart women don't talk all that differently than smart men but maybe I'm being naive.
Why not join in. Every person is different regardless of gender since it comes down to experience more than sex anyway. My guess is that you have a lot to offer even if you do feel like you have a lot to learn as well.
If someone makes you feel uncomfortable for being different it's their loss!

Yes.

You are precious, sticky.

You are one of the few people that makes Lit a better place.

 

[Lustful_Intentions]

I've walked by plenty of times - Life is too short to get embroiled in someone else's hate. I've seen some horrible, bigoted, transphobic posts but I know half the reason for the post was to be provocative. Nothing is more frustrating to a troll than a lack of oxygen.
I've also dropped posting on a thread if the 'wrong person' turns up ( I'm still here though... sorry )

There's a lot of truth here-especially the life is too short portion. It's very easy for someone to spew hatred in an anonymous forum, with little repercussions. Walking away from those types of encounters can only help one's mental health.

 

[stickygirl]

I'd like to believe that smart women don't talk all that differently than smart men but maybe I'm being naive.

OMG of course - I didn't mean anything else In fact I hadn't even thought of their gender

 

[NotHisLady]

OMG of course - I didn't mean anything else In fact I hadn't even thought of their gender

well I did say 'smart'

We're lucky on this thread to have mostly that sort (well, and me!)

 

[sereneone4u]

There's a lot of truth here-especially the life is too short portion. It's very easy for someone to spew hatred in an anonymous forum, with little repercussions. Walking away from those types of encounters can only help one's mental health.

Yes there is.

Good to see you, Lust.

 

[Lustful_Intentions]

Yes there is.

Good to see you, Lust.

Great minds, and all that.

Good to see you as well, Serene-I hope you've been well. Been a while

 

[sereneone4u]

Great minds, and all that.

Good to see you as well, Serene-I hope you've been well. Been a while

I had wondered where you had gone to.

I always hope when people disappear from here it is for good reasons.

 

[stickygirl]

Great minds, and all that.

Good to see you as well, Serene-I hope you've been well. Been a while

"used to post before the message boards existed"
you mean... there was life before the boards?

 

[Mindfondler]

This morning's topic: how could you improve your presence at Lit? That is, how the rest of us view you. There'll be a group hug later

I'd like a button on my profile that dispenses a chocolate chip cookie to anyone who takes the time to read it.

Seriously, though, I probably sound a bit too serious in most of my postings (no irony intended ). I'm not as anal as I might seem. Perhaps I should add that statement to my profile.

I think I'd be better off if I didn't spend so much time editing posts. These aren't really supposed to be small articles, more off the cuff remarks. Somehow I can't seem to get the hang of doing that.
I've actually gone back and edited a post for a misspelled word unless someone has quoted it. Then I just suffer quietly.

I can relate to this!

I often spend so much time working on and honing a reply to a posting that, by the time that I press "submit", there have been many other replies that render my own one redundant. Then I face the "walk of shame" of trying quickly to edit my post to make it look as if I was making a more timely comment instead.

Say you see a not-friend posting on a thread that you'd like to post on. Do you post on the thread anyway, knowing you're priming something for drama? Or do you just walk on by? Any rules regarding that? Or does it very from person-to-person, depending on whether you're in a good mood or bad mood?

This hasn't happened to me on the Lit forum yet, but I have faced this dilemma on other forums. Most of the time, I try to walk on by and avoid the potential for a conflict that will probably turn out to be pointless. I hate disharmony.

If need be, though, then I'm able to look after myself. If the thread topic stirs me particularly, or if someone that I care about is getting attacked, then I'll wade in with all the tricks: dramatic irony, metaphor, bathos, puns, parody, litotes, satire and sarcasm.
.

 

[NotHisLady]

Alright. Litiquette question:

Lit is like a huge social experiment, really. Throw people together from all around the world in a virtual house and watch the shit hit the fan. Because it will happen, eventually. You'll make some not-friends. And I think a large part of a successful Lit experience is knowing when to care about others and when not to. So...

Say you see a not-friend posting on a thread that you'd like to post on. Do you post on the thread anyway, knowing you're priming something for drama? Or do you just walk on by? Any rules regarding that? Or does it very from person-to-person, depending on whether you're in a good mood or bad mood?

THIS is why I'm here and not on some forum where things are political or religious. Here drama tends to be small and not have a very long shelf life (speaking of the PG I don't go near the GB.) There can even be playful banter that can be done with humor and not get out of hand.

I can have a very nasty side if I'm sufficiently provoked and in places where conflict is the conversational currency I fall into that mode. It isn't a part of my personality I like very much and one I don't enjoy exercising so even though I have pretty well defined opinions I keep them to myself except with friends I know are capable talking about those things without pulling a metaphorical gun.
There hasn't been a time I've avoided posting something that I truly wanted to say but I might not play (or continue to play) on one of the game threads if someone there is being unnecessarily snarky. I chalk it up to somebody having a bad day and write it off.
Who needs to waste the energy on pettiness? If I engage it will escalate if I don't it will wither on the vine.