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[jack80]

I thought my role was discussion facilitator, the handbook said nothing about actually answering them.

*Cheeks the by-laws* Damn it all, he's right!

 

[ChainedUp]

I would answer by saying I try to be more open with my intentions of what I seek. I'm not always good at it but I think it's best to be up as up front as possible so both parties understand the dynamics at work. And then listening and responding. Nothing should ever be assumed.....

 

[ChainedUp]

*Cheeks the by-laws* Damn it all, he's right!

I gave in this one time Jack.......

 

[ChainedUp]

And what pray tell, is the OP's answer to this morning's query?

And in the spirit of Sunday prayer, your turn Thandi

 

[Thandi]

Good morning Litiquette-izans ,

There's an old saying, "once bitten, twice shy" which I think everyone who's ever had an emotional attachment to someone here fully understands. How does your previous experiences with Lit love shape you now?

I have had a couple of experiences here. They've made me more cautious and more open if that makes sense.

I stay in touch with them, as friends, and one has become a great friend.

I'm not looking for another relationship here.

 

[hatlover123]

I let out my inner vagina on here.

I can't do it in person....coworkers not ready for a hermaphodite at work.

 

[sereneone4u]

Good morning Litiquette-izans ,

There's an old saying, "once bitten, twice shy" which I think everyone who's ever had an emotional attachment to someone here fully understands. How does your previous experiences with Lit love shape you now?

I fell in love fairy recently for the first time ever in my almost eight years on here.
Totally unexpected, really tore through my shield wall and left a big gaping hole to say the least. It was a magical time and I would not trade the experience of that time for the world. I still hurt over it though. We are good friends still and he calls me several times a week. He never ends a phone call without telling me that he loves me and every night his last PM before he goes to bed finishes with Anam Cara. In another life time it would have been a love written in history books.

Instead of hardening me though, I allowed myself to remain open and in doing so opportunity came by and I was ready. I now have a very satisfying relationship with my Sir.

All is well that ends well.

 

[hatlover123]

I am currently happy with my situation.
Things are moving along nicely.
Shit just got real!

 

[hatlover123]

I fell in love fairy recently for the first time ever in my almost eight years on here.
Totally unexpected, really tore through my shield wall and left a big gaping hole to say the least. It was a magical time and I would not trade the experience of that time for the world. I still hurt over it though. We are good friends still and he calls me several times a week. He never ends a phone call without telling me that he loves me and every night his last PM before he goes to bed finishes with Anam Cara. In another life time it would have been a love written in history books.

Instead of hardening me though, I allowed myself to remain open and in doing so opportunity came by and I was ready. I now have a very satisfying relationship with my Sir.

All is well that ends well.

I can sum it up with one line:

My sword is sharper.

 

[jack80]

I fell in love fairy recently for the first time ever in my almost eight years on here.
Totally unexpected, really tore through my shield wall and left a big gaping hole to say the least. It was a magical time and I would not trade the experience of that time for the world. I still hurt over it though. We are good friends still and he calls me several times a week. He never ends a phone call without telling me that he loves me and every night his last PM before he goes to bed finishes with Anam Cara. In another life time it would have been a love written in history books.

Instead of hardening me though, I allowed myself to remain open and in doing so opportunity came by and I was ready. I now have a very satisfying relationship with my Sir.

All is well that ends well.

There is a happy story for the ages I hope Photo is having fun right now with her guy right now (I am actually drawing a blank here....)

 

[WhipLuvr]

Good morning Litiquette-izans ,

There's an old saying, "once bitten, twice shy" which I think everyone who's ever had an emotional attachment to someone here fully understands. How does your previous experiences with Lit love shape you now?

I think with the things I've seen and been a part of here, I'm more likely to consider anything that happens on Lit to be a fling. It may last for a few days or a few weeks, but eventually it will come to an end so I might as well enjoy the ride and not let my feelings get hurt when the person stops responding. Its never gone to the next level, and right now that is NOT what I want anyways.

 

[sereneone4u]

I can sum it up with one line:

My sword is sharper.

Oh no. The Brit is a mighty, mighty warlord. Have me stripped and on my knees with the sparest of words. No force, just the merest request. Disarming with just a look. We will still be meeting too when I go to England the beginning of next year. Going for tea and scones with a proper English gentleman, get to hear his posh accent in person.

 

[sereneone4u]

There is a happy story for the ages I hope Photo is having fun right now with her guy right now (I am actually drawing a blank here....)

Thanks.

I am hoping she is well and happy.

His handle here is luvthedesserts.

 

[Thandi]

Oh no. The Brit is a mighty, mighty warlord. Have me stripped and on my knees with the sparest of words. No force, just the merest request. Disarming with just a look. We will still be meeting too when I go to England the beginning of next year. Going for tea and scones with a proper English gentleman, get to hear his posh accent in person.

Oh my...that's wonderful Serene!

 

[ChainedUp]

So how do you know when Lit like turns to Lit lust turns to Lit love?

 

[Paul_Chance]

"Love is a burning thing and it makes a fiery ring..."

I like most people as the default position. Lust, for me, is always present. Love is a far harder thing. In the times I have fallen in love, I have enjoyed a persons company immensely and then...there is an event...something unique to each individual, and I fall in love. As IRL, As Online.

 

[sereneone4u]

"Love is a burning thing and it makes a fiery ring..."

I like most people as the default position. Lust, for me, is always present. Love is a far harder thing. In the times I have fallen in love, I have enjoyed a persons company immensely and then...there is an event...something unique to each individual, and I fall in love. As IRL, As Online.

This.

 

[sereneone4u]

Oh my...that's wonderful Serene!

Thanks, Thandi.

We are "just friends" now. (I hate that expression, true friendship is a wondrous thing)
But it will be good to see each other in person. Who knows, he might make it to the states first.

I don't know where to take him though! We don't have anything like proper English tea.

 

[NotHisLady]

Thanks, Thandi.

We are "just friends" now. (I hate that expression, true friendship is a wondrous thing)
But it will be good to see each other in person. Who knows, he might make it to the states first.

I don't know where to take him though! We don't have anything like proper English tea.

There isn't anything "just" about a friend. A person you can call your friend is in your heart and always will be.
For myself the way I love my friends is as real as the way I love my lovers, maybe even more so because is seems to be able to weather more.
Every person I love teaches me something about myself. If I've been sorry for the pain of losing someone I love I've never once been sorry for having loved.

 

[Paul_Chance]

There isn't anything "just" about a friend. A person you can call your friend is in your heart and always will be.
For myself the way I love my friends is as real as the way I love my lovers, maybe even more so because is seems to be able to weather more.
Every person I love teaches me something about myself. If I've been sorry for the pain of losing someone I love I've never once been sorry for having loved.

Well said.

 

[Paul_Chance]

This.

Thank you

 

[ForeverDreaming]

So how do you know when Lit like turns to Lit lust turns to Lit love?

I myself have always had a hard time deciphering between those three. I can figure out the like vs love. But not the lust vs love other then some of the feelings, But I'm not sure I could describe them. I know that I love too easily.

 

[SweetSam42]

So how do you know when Lit like turns to Lit lust turns to Lit love?

Like v. lust is an easy one for me - it's when I go from flirting to having actual fantasies about a specific person.

Lit love is trickier - 'love' isn't a word I use lightly, in real life or here. I find it a very powerful word, and in a medium of communication that is based primarily on text, as most of my relationships here are, I think words are incredibly important and should be chosen wisely.

Where does a Lit crush fit in here? Before or after lust? I wouldn't describe some of the relationships I've had here as love, but I certainly have felt crushy, gushy, giddy, etc. And longing and pining, and all sorts of other unhealthy feelings.

 

[ForeverDreaming]

Like v. lust is an easy one for me - it's when I go from flirting to having actual fantasies about a specific person.

Lit love is trickier - 'love' isn't a word I use lightly, in real life or here. I find it a very powerful word, and in a medium of communication that is based primarily on text, as most of my relationships here are, I think words are incredibly important and should be chosen wisely.

Where does a Lit crush fit in here? Before or after lust? I wouldn't describe some of the relationships I've had here as love, but I certainly have felt crushy, gushy, giddy, etc. And longing and pining, and all sorts of other unhealthy feelings.

I like this.

 

[ChainedUp]

Like vs love is like day/night, even without exact words to describe them the difference is clear.

Lust is gray, it's those moment when playful banter starts to mean more than just playful banter and then somehow , someway sex is brought up more overtly.

Crushes, I think they exist in all three stages but at varing levels.

I think it takes the crush at all three to make each one more real, more desirable.