Oral Servitude

[shy slave]

I've always felt oral to be an act of mastery. Recieving oral, I am boss. I do not do oral. Apparently, the ancient romans felt the same, which does not surprise me.

from wiki:

In pre-Christian ancient Rome sexual acts were generally seen through the prism of submission and control. This is apparent in the two Latin words for the act: irrumare (to penetrate orally), and fellare (to be penetrated orally). Under this system, it was considered to be abhorrent for a male to be in any way penetrated (be controlled) by another person of lower social standing during sex.

This same logic also allowed a man to receive fellatio from a woman or another man of lower social status (such as a slave or debtor), because the man would be directing the actions of the person of lower rank. The Romans regarded oral sex as being far more shameful than, for example, anal sex — known practitioners were supposed to have foul breath and were often unwelcome as guests at a dinner table. The women of Lesbos were believed to have introduced the practice of fellatio, and it is said that they used to whiten their lips as though with semen.

So, whereas in Greece, where there was a tendency to see the person "performing" oral sex as active and the "receiving" party as passive, in Roman times fellatio and cunnilingus were perceived to be a passive and therefore shameful act for any man to perform, and oral sex between members of low social standing groups was considered superfluous and was often viewed as taboo. Therefore performing any type of oral sex was considered to be a passive (as in submissive) act while receiving oral sex was viewed as an active (as in controlling) act. [2] The practice was taboo for public health reasons, as well. In Rome, the genitals were considered to be unclean. Oral sex was thought to make the mouth dirty, and (ultimately) to present a public health risk.

Thanks for the history lesson

Several vanilla women I know still think oral is unclean

 

[rosco rathbone]

Several vanilla women I know still think oral is unclean

It is unclean. That's where the humiliation aspect of oral enters in.

 

[shy slave]

It is unclean. That's where the humiliation aspect of oral enters in.

Its not unclean to me, unless he hasn't washed, even then its not that bad.

Ok, I admit smegma is that bad, but as I have never been near that stuff, it hasn't affected me!

 

[rosco rathbone]

Its not unclean to me, unless he hasn't washed, even then its not that bad.

Ok, I admit smegma is that bad, but as I have never been near that stuff, it hasn't affected me!

I'm not talking about unwashed members. The very nature of seed is slimey and vile. That's why bukkake has the impact it does.

 

[shy slave]

I'm not talking about unwashed members. The very nature of seed is slimey and vile. That's why bukkake has the impact it does.

Its slimy, but I don't see it as vile.

I can understand how some people would have this view though

 

[alice_underneath]

My personal opinion is that the giver is in a far more controlling position than the receiver.

But that probably says more about my range of personal experience than anything else.

It sounds like your experiences are spot on Alice.

Although most men are so willing to put their cock in any mouth they rarely realise what a risk they are taking.

Perhaps oral should be the ultimate definition of 'toppoing from the bottom'

Hi, Shy.

When I referenced my "personal experience", I was referring to the fact that I have never been intimate with a Top. I have only been with guys who just relax and enjoy it, if you know what I mean.... .... and I assume that the experience varies significantly if he is overtly trying to control, direct, or otherwise dominate the situation.

As for the idea of oral as the ultimate "topping from the bottom", I think I know what you mean. The equipment is extraordinarily responsive and easy to manipulate!

I don't actually see myself as "dominating" in this situation, though. I just feel intensely loving & affectionate at some times, or playfully controlling at others. (Playful, as in: I wonder what will happen if I do this..... oh! I love the noise he makes when I do that..... etc. )

As for the "risk" men take.... LOL. How true!

Alice

 

[graceanne]

Thanks for the history lesson

Several vanilla women I know still think oral is unclean

I know some vanilla women who won't give, or recieve, oral cause they say it's 'kinky'.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Its slimy, but I don't see it as vile.

I can understand how some people would have this view though

I enjoy making a hypothetical partner swallow a vile substance. If she's enjoying it, she better keep that to herself.

 

[Marquis]

I enjoy making a hypothetical partner swallow a vile substance. If she's enjoying it, she better keep that to herself.

Yeah, I have a little trick for girls who want to play that game. Believe it or not it may be too heinous an activity to put on lit.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Yeah, I have a little trick for girls who want to play that game. Believe it or not it may be too heinous an activity to put on lit.

*listens*

 

[Blushing Bottom]

And there's something wrong with kinky how?

I know some vanilla women who won't give, or recieve, oral cause they say it's 'kinky'.

 

[Marquis]

*listens*

It's not sexy.

 

[graceanne]

And there's something wrong with kinky how?

No idea. But evidently kinky is not ok to them. Cause theyr'e having nothing to do with it.

 

[Netzach]

It's not sexy.

Does it involve piss?

Then that's debatable.

Personally I don't think it's (it = spooge) disgusting at all. At least that's the report I get from the boys I make lick it off my back.

The few times I indulged myself I rather thought it was like swallowing the contents of a used tissue, but I put on my game face and at least it was the used tissue of someone I cherished. But I also figured, what the hell, fair's fair, I can't always be a bed of roses down there, it's all even in the end.

 

[Netzach]

Who knew that the tomboy/pixi could be so hot on an old lady

Me!!!!!

 

[Marquis]

Does it involve piss?

Yes.

Then that's debatable.

Hey, doesn't bother me.

 

[Kajira Callista]

It's not sexy.

maybe...maybe not. i'm still listening though.

 

[Marquis]

maybe...maybe not. i'm still listening though.

My theory on cocksucking is fairly simple. It requires every ounce of your attention and effort. If you're diverting energy into looking/feeling sexy while doing it, that's cheating me out of part of the experience.

Over indulgence on part of the sucker warrants an unexpected squirt of piss, I say, as a disciplinary measure and to tilt the tables back in my favor.

 

[Kajira Callista]

My theory on cocksucking is fairly simple. It requires every ounce of your attention and effort. If you're diverting energy into looking/feeling sexy while doing it, that's cheating me out of part of the experience.

Over indulgence on part of the sucker warrants an unexpected squirt of piss, I say, as a disciplinary measure and to tilt the tables back in my favor.

and why is that not sexy?

 

[Marquis]

and why is that not sexy?

I'm shy.

 

[Andante]

and why is that not sexy?

To me, it is a sexy fantasy, but completely impossible in reality! I don't know about other men, but personally I am absolutely incapable of pissing when erect. But then maybe Marquis is so patient and indulgent that he postpones his squirt until his excitement has completeley faded?
Or maybe I am that different from other men?

 

[Kajira Callista]

To me, it is a sexy fantasy, but completely impossible in reality! I don't know about other men, but personally I am absolutely incapable of pissing when erect. But then maybe Marquis is so patient and indulgent that he postpones his squirt until his excitement has completeley faded?
Or maybe I am that different from other men?

I have met a few that when agitated or annoyed the erection goes away for a few.

 

[Kajira Callista]

I'm shy.

awwww shy is nice, but reinforcing your Dominance, in whatever way you feel like, is really sexy.

 

[Marquis]

To me, it is a sexy fantasy, but completely impossible in reality! I don't know about other men, but personally I am absolutely incapable of pissing when erect. But then maybe Marquis is so patient and indulgent that he postpones his squirt until his excitement has completeley faded?
Or maybe I am that different from other men?

It isn't easy, but with great effort i can force out a few drops of piss.

One of the side benefits of doing prostate exercises.

 

[shy slave]

My theory on cocksucking is fairly simple. It requires every ounce of your attention and effort. If you're diverting energy into looking/feeling sexy while doing it, that's cheating me out of part of the experience.

Over indulgence on part of the sucker warrants an unexpected squirt of piss, I say, as a disciplinary measure and to tilt the tables back in my favor.

What part of the experience are you being cheated out of?

She is on her knees, her whole focus is on you and she can't speak as her mouth is full of your cock/balls

looking at some of the pics on here, thats sexy, erotic, hot etc.