Pmann’s Reasons Why Women Won’t Talk To Me (You) Thread

[aussiegeekygal]

This is it. Too needy. I’m just too damned needy. Clingy AF. I respond to messages IMMEDIATELY. Constantly crushing.

I, on the other hand, take eight months to reply

 

[BongoGal]

I'm just a snob.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

If you pm me, I’ll respond.
Now, it might not be the response you want. I’m not that cheeky.

 

[Lord Pmann]

For real?

1. I AM depressing as fuck. Most women (most PEOPLE) are not going to try to wade through that to actually get to know me
2. Lack of sex appeal. I don't post pics of some shirtless dude with an 8-pack and rarely reveal my sensual side.
3. I think many of them worry that I will crush too hard and take it too serious. That if they are nice to me, I will fall in love.

Yes. I was asking for real.

I’d say number two doesn’t matter nearly as much as you think.

Thanks for sharing. This is actually quite insightful.

 

[Bbl87]

Biggest one for me. Too needy. The types of guys that follow every woman around and complimenting everything she says and does.

Wait... you mean telling you you're the most beautiful woman ever in every thread and no other women can compete, and how I want to marry you isn't a good strategy?

Damn...

Back to the drawing board...

 

[JerseyJade]

If a dude doesn't have a dick the size of a baseball bat, I want nothing to do with him.

 

[Lord Pmann]

If you pm me, I’ll respond.
Now, it might not be the response you want. I’m not that cheeky.

Do you send back a vagina? Because guys don’t mind that, ya know?

 

[Nevyn_Black]

Oof. That one hits hard because I was socialized to be nice and manage guys feelings who interpreted my actions with romantic love. At some point it does get easier just to maintain a difference.

Guys don't handle rejection well and I personally don't want to deal with that mess...

I would say it's not so much a you thing, nev. You're (for better or worse) getting lumped in with every other guy and their bullshit that we've had to deal with.

Oh, I know. I think it has to do with ego. If you tell me you dont find me attractive, as long as you do it in a not mean way, I just kinda shrug and walk away. Not saying it doesnt make me sad. But never would I rage and call you a cunt and a lesbian and want to smack you around.
In my experience, the guys who do that truly think that they are special and have been led to believe that they can have ANY WOMAN EVER.

Rejection teaches one and we should all have to experience it.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I, on the other hand, take eight months to reply

You play hard to get. That’s clever.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I am basing my opinion off of reading profiles.

haha I didn't know people still read them. I think most are in the wrong place if they don't want to talk to married people.

This is it. Too needy. I’m just too damned needy. Clingy AF. I respond to messages IMMEDIATELY. Constantly crushing.

Well then. You're welcome. That'll be $100. please!

 

[SassySheDevil]

Wait... you mean telling you you're the most beautiful woman ever in every thread and no other women can compete, and how I want to marry you isn't a good strategy?

Damn...

Back to the drawing board...

Well. If you are smart enough to tell ONLY ME that. I might let it slide. But if you go to every thread that a woman posts in (especially in AMpics) and tell her the same thing. Well then. I might not believe you.

 

[Bbl87]

Well. If you are smart enough to tell ONLY ME that. I might let it slide. But if you go to every thread that a woman posts in (especially in AMpics) and tell her the same thing. Well then. I might not believe you.

*Taking notes...*

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Do you send back a vagina? Because guys don’t mind that, ya know?

Like a vag pic?!
Nope, I haven’t went that route before.
But, perhaps … there’s this one pics what was well received.
Get a second opinion?

 

[pandaburr]

This is it. Too needy. I’m just too damned needy. Clingy AF. I respond to messages IMMEDIATELY. Constantly crushing.

I’ve heard these rumors about you.

 

[AmberLGreen]

Whenever there is a conversation about men and women talking, it always goes down the route of sexual conversation. I like to talk to anybody and I often do. I don’t want sexual conversation with everybody.

The reason I don’t talk to many men outside of the threads is that they assume the person that they see posting on the threads is what I am actually like. Slutty, wanting dick pics, looking for a fun night. Sometimes they will message and I will respond. If they start to go down that sexual path, I do stop them straight away and let them know that isn’t where I want our conversation to go. Some respect that and will continue a normal conversation. Some respect it for that particular moment but will try again in another conversation. Some never message again. A very few, respect it and never bring the subject up again.

I prefer to talk to people on the threads. I like the audience (attention whore)!

 

[Lord Pmann]

Like a vag pic?!
Nope, I haven’t went that route before.
But, perhaps … there’s this one pics what was well received.
Get a second opinion?

I’d say, next time some random dude messages you, try that. Just see.

 

[barefootgirl69]

One of my reasons is I don't want to be the side chick of a side chick of a side chick. You know?

The other is people like MichaelCat in the personals who just want to Skype without ever chatting in PMs to see if there's an interest in someone as a person. I'm not good Tinder material.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I’ve heard these rumors about you.

Is that what you girls talk about at your sleepovers? I can only assume that I am a topic of discussion, right before the pillow fight and the human centipede game time.

 

[barefootgirl69]

@AmberLGreen

This is gold...or BOLD, actully:

Whenever there is a conversation about men and women talking, it always goes down the route of sexual conversation. I like to talk to anybody and I often do. I don’t want sexual conversation with everybody.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

You play hard to get. That’s clever.

Is that what it is?
#challengeaccepted

I think it's been at least six months. I probably owe you a message.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Whenever there is a conversation about men and women talking, it always goes down the route of sexual conversation. I like to talk to anybody and I often do. I don’t want sexual conversation with everybody.

The reason I don’t talk to many men outside of the threads is that they assume the person that they see posting on the threads is what I am actually like. Slutty, wanting dick pics, looking for a fun night. Sometimes they will message and I will respond. If they start to go down that sexual path, I do stop them straight away and let them know that isn’t where I want our conversation to go. Some respect that and will continue a normal conversation. Some respect it for that particular moment but will try again in another conversation. Some never message again. A very few, respect it and never bring the subject up again.

I prefer to talk to people on the threads. I like the audience (attention whore)!

This is why I don't PM as much anymore either. I feel like most men will be more well behaved in public. They will keep the creepy talk to a min.

Back when I was posting pictures more. I kept my PMs off because a lot of the comments that came via PM were more vulgar in nature. I figured if they couldn't say it publicly. I probably didn't want to hear it.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Is that what you girls talk about at your sleepovers? I can only assume that I am a topic of discussion, right before the pillow fight and the human centipede game time.

We massage each other's boobs and talk about lobster pants. It's a riot.

 

[Bbl87]

If a dude doesn't have a dick the size of a baseball bat, I want nothing to do with him.

What about a baseball bat the size of a dick?

 

[Bbl87]

This is why I don't PM as much anymore either. I feel like most men will be more well behaved in public. They will keep the creepy talk to a min.

Back when I was posting pictures more. I kept my PMs off because a lot of the comments that came via PM were more vulgar in nature. I figured if they couldn't say it publicly. I probably didn't want to hear it.

On a slightly more serious note, that's why I don't PM often. I figure ladies here get enough of that and will assume ulterior motives even if I'm nice and friendly. Sometimes I just think people are interesting though.

 

[Mgwb11]

One of my reasons is I don't want to be the side chick of a side chick of a side chick. You know?

The other is people like MichaelCat in the personals who just want to Skype without ever chatting in PMs to see if there's an interest in someone as a person. I'm not good Tinder material.

That first one is big, but I think with the right person that should be a simple matter of communication, about what is and isn't acceptable, about your expectations for exclusivity. None of my current ones are like that, or want that, but if they did want it then that it's a topic I'd hope they feel comfortable bringing up. Granted, communication can be fucking hard sometimes. So yeah...it makes sense that a person might just not want to dive head first into that rabbit hole in the first place, not knowing where they're going to end up in that pecking order or amendable the person is to that kind of exclusivity.

As for MichaelCat...I hope he finds whatever the hell he's looking for. I tried to offer him advice, I think it was sound and genuine. Time will tell.