What Are You Nosey About Today?? 🦝

[cheekygirl75]

I'm nosey about therapy. Have you ever been? If yes, why? Did it work for you? If no, would you ever go? Why or why not? Do you think one kind is better than others? Or do you think it's really all the same?

 

[Jake069258]

I'm nosey about therapy. Have you ever been? If yes, why? Did it work for you? If no, would you ever go? Why or why not? Do you think one kind is better than others? Or do you think it's really all the same?

No, i have never been. Its not that i am against it at all. I think i would actually enjoy going. I think i would get something out of it but... I feel the questioning i would get at home... "Why do you need to go do that?!" Prevents me.

 

[Shenanigans90]

I'm nosey about therapy. Have you ever been? If yes, why? Did it work for you? If no, would you ever go? Why or why not? Do you think one kind is better than others? Or do you think it's really all the same?

I went to a therapist once but before I was through telling him all of my issues he was the one on the couch.

 

[Shenanigans90]

I went for a few years after my daughter died. I credit it with keeping me alive at first, and then with keeping me married.

I should probably go back now but you can’t get one here these days with lockdown fucking everyone’s mental health up.

Wow, I am so sorry for making a joke about this. I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[JerseyJade]

I went for a few years after my daughter died. I credit it with keeping me alive at first, and then with keeping me married.

I should probably go back now but you can’t get one here these days with lockdown fucking everyone’s mental health up.

Sorry for your loss, Rainshine.

 

[Xerxes82]

I'm nosey about therapy. Have you ever been? If yes, why? Did it work for you? If no, would you ever go? Why or why not? Do you think one kind is better than others? Or do you think it's really all the same?

I have. I kind of had to. About a decade ago I found myself in a place I wasn't at all happy with and it was a result of purely my own bad choices. Something had to change.

It was quite difficult at first. Opening up, really opening up, is hard. But I feel like I got a lot out of the experience in the end. Only stopped because the budget wasn't there at the time. Perhaps once I get things more settled it would be good to get back at it.

 

[cheekygirl75]

I'm nosey about therapy. Have you ever been? If yes, why? Did it work for you? If no, would you ever go? Why or why not? Do you think one kind is better than others? Or do you think it's really all the same?

I feel like I should answer too:

I have been in therapy off and on for a couple of years - I've struggled with depression for most of my life and got to a point I couldn't deal with it on my own. I think it's extremely helpful - even though I'm doing much better now, I'll go as long as my insurance pays for it as I think it's great to have an objective person to talk to about anything I need.

I think there are different kinds but that the connection with the therapist is really what matters most.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

I'm nosey about therapy. Have you ever been? If yes, why? Did it work for you? If no, would you ever go? Why or why not? Do you think one kind is better than others? Or do you think it's really all the same?

I was lucky to have a really good therapist who helped me tremendously to get through some stuff. I have no idea what the different kinds of therapy are - I found a therapist I clicked with right off the bat and his strategies worked for me. There were a few issues I needed some extra medicinal help with, but I haven't needed those in years.

 

[Plane_Guy]

Why do people stop a full car length behind the car in front of them at stop lights?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Why do people stop a full car length behind the car in front of them at stop lights?

Physics.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I'm nosey about therapy. Have you ever been? If yes, why? Did it work for you? If no, would you ever go? Why or why not? Do you think one kind is better than others? Or do you think it's really all the same?

I've been off and on for years. It took me a long time to find a therapist I totally loved and trusted. Now that I've found her. Covid. Everything has reverted to online, and I just can't do that. It is all group, and that's not what I want.




*hugs Rainshine*

 

[Dribble]

I'm nosey about therapy. Have you ever been? If yes, why? Did it work for you? If no, would you ever go? Why or why not? Do you think one kind is better than others? Or do you think it's really all the same?

Of course. I will try anything if the desire is great enough. Why? Because I didn't have the tools I needed to cope. Has it helped? Well it hasn't hurt me.

I am an only child. I raised in the Black Swamp...long way from other kids. So my friends were my horses and dogs. In many ways, even today I trust their reactions more than I ever trust any human. But the problem it leaves is I have shitty communication skills. I do think the counseling helped here...it gave me a place to get what was in my head out of my head where it fostered. It did not ever fix a problem I was going through.

 

[Jake069258]

I'm nosey about therapy. Have you ever been? If yes, why? Did it work for you? If no, would you ever go? Why or why not? Do you think one kind is better than others? Or do you think it's really all the same?

For those that have answered "yes" to having been to a therapist... I would like to ask...

Was the value in having someone there to "unload the stuff in your mind" off to? Or was it more having strategies etc. on how to deal with stuff?

 

[Dribble]

For those that have answered "yes" to having been to a therapist... I would like to ask...

Was the value in having someone there to "unload the stuff in your mind" off to? Or was it more having strategies etc. on how to deal with stuff?

I can only speak for myself...for me the value was verbalizing the stuff in my head. It forced me to look at it realistically instead of the gloss. It was less about strategy...even though suggestions were made because deep down...I already knew those answers. I just needed to be reminded I knew them.

 

[Anastasia1999]

For me it was both at different times.

In the early days it was purely about her giving me a survival toolkit….and ensuring that I used it.

In the passing months (and years) and it was unpacking my trauma and grief and other emotions and trying to understand how to manage all of them in my new normal.

You poor girl. So sorry you lost your daughter.

 

[Jake069258]

For me it was both at different times.

In the early days it was purely about her giving me a survival toolkit….and ensuring that I used it.

In the passing months (and years) and it was unpacking my trauma and grief and other emotions and trying to understand how to manage all of them in my new normal.

I hope i did the multi quote right...

Thank you both for your replies. I know i asked a personal question. I appreciate the feedback.

 

[Jake069258]

I can only speak for myself...for me the value was verbalizing the stuff in my head. It forced me to look at it realistically instead of the gloss. It was less about strategy...even though suggestions were made because deep down...I already knew those answers. I just needed to be reminded I knew them.

Nope i didnt figure it out...

Anyways, thanks to you too. I appreciate the reply.

 

[Mei5ter]

I'm nosey about therapy. Have you ever been? If yes, why? Did it work for you? If no, would you ever go? Why or why not? Do you think one kind is better than others? Or do you think it's really all the same?

I haven't.

My views on therapy were tainted for a long time, probably unfairly, by the experiences of someone I cared for who struggled with mental health issues. She was hospitalised for a few weeks, put back together physically to some extent, and then referred to what was euphemistically termed 'professional help.' She wasn't ready for it, rejected it both consciously and subconsciously, and ended up back in hospital with a deep-seated conviction that anything which could be regarded as 'therapy' wouldn't work for her. It didn't end well, not least because she was excruciatingly smart and always at least three steps ahead of anyone trying to help her.

While I know I'm extrapolating from a single case, it left me believing - very possibly wrongly - that therapy won't help you unless you're already in a place where you're open to accepting it. So when I found myself in a situation a few years ago where therapy or counselling of some kind might well have beneficial, I didn't take it when offered because I knew I wasn't ready. And by the time I *was* ready, I was far enough out of the tunnel that I no longer needed it.

But I suspect this just reflects my very limited understanding of therapy, how it works, and what it can do. And having learned a little more about it recently, I'd be far more open to the idea in the future.

 

[AveryElle]

I'm nosey about therapy. Have you ever been? If yes, why? Did it work for you? If no, would you ever go? Why or why not? Do you think one kind is better than others? Or do you think it's really all the same?

I have been. As a kid because I was ‘difficult’, but I never spoke to her at all. Once for eating disorder issues in grad school. I spoke with a therapist about my post Partum anxiety but it was too late to do much about it so I still have some issues and triggers there, and I spoke to a therapist about my difficulties with ‘ethical non-monogamy’. Eating disorder therapy helped for the time being and gave me some frameworks for dealing with a mother who projects her eating and food issues on me. I regressed a few times since then, but she as a uniquely skilled professional whom I really appreciated having in my life.

I think therapy can work, but I don’t know that it ever REALLY helped me. When I was struggling with being someone who was poly while I’m not, they told me things I already knew and it was ultimately up to the other person to understand the issues. A good therapist, in my experience, will give you the tools to handle situations you find difficult. For the post partum stuff, I learned to tell my husband to as was triggering my anxiety and it really helped that aspect of my life.

I often think about trying it again based on a few horrible things I’ve experienced in the last few years. But it’s expensive and insurance for mental health care is bullshit. I respect that many people find it valuable. I just can’t justify the cost at this point.

 

[Dribble]

Nope i didnt figure it out...

Anyways, thanks to you too. I appreciate the reply.

There are 3 icons in the lower right of each post. Click on the center icon for the first however many posts you want to quote. Then click on the actual "quote" icon for the final quote.

Understand...if you click on the center icon, those quotes will remain until you click the quote icon. So if you change your mind before posting and decide to post in another thread....those icons you clicked originally will remain and you will need to delete them manually or go back and click on the center icon again to remove them from que. Probably as clear as mud huh?

Weird thing about honesty. It changes. I was 100% honest last night. Then I read both Avery's and Rain's responses and my gut tells me their responses were probably closer to reality than mine. I think I was given different tools early on. Some worked...those personally directed toward me...and some didn't...those that required help from another person. Marriage counseling did not work either time.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

I'm nosey about therapy. Have you ever been? If yes, why? Did it work for you? If no, would you ever go? Why or why not? Do you think one kind is better than others? Or do you think it's really all the same?

That’s a interesting question , my experience with it was in my first marriage. My first wife had intimacy issues , it was to me like we were just going through the motions of living happily ever after. Perfect life , two kids , financially doing great both of us had careers. Pretty much perfection at face value. But our sex life wasn’t what it should have been.

Long story short , talking it out just speed up the divorce , she chose career over the kids and I am living happily ever after with my BFF and true soul mate Mrs. FF . We raised a mine and hers combined family of three kids and are empty nesters now.

Without intimacy marriage doesn’t work in my mind. Had we not gone to the marriage consultation therapy and the follow up as long as our insurance plan covered it. I probably would have wasted a lot more years trying to fix something that wasn’t fixable. That’s what I got outta it. She , my babies mama is still a part of my life. We get alone fine , so does Mrs. FF and her.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Avery helped remind me about the first set of Therapy I was in. I also was in therapy for depression/eating disorder. But because I was under age. They wanted my Mom in the sessions with me. So I didn't talk.
That version of Therapy did nothing for me.

 

[cheekygirl75]

I went for a few years after my daughter died. I credit it with keeping me alive at first, and then with keeping me married.

I should probably go back now but you can’t get one here these days with lockdown fucking everyone’s mental health up.

I'm so sorry for your loss

For those that have answered "yes" to having been to a therapist... I would like to ask...

Was the value in having someone there to "unload the stuff in your mind" off to? Or was it more having strategies etc. on how to deal with stuff?

I think it was Rainshine who said it's been both at different times. Now when I see my therapist, it's more unloading stuff in my mind, but she's very good so if I need it, she's able to also give me strategies as well. I think any good therapist is able to do both and see what their client needs

 

[cheekygirl75]

Avery helped remind me about the first set of Therapy I was in. I also was in therapy for depression/eating disorder. But because I was under age. They wanted my Mom in the sessions with me. So I didn't talk.
That version of Therapy did nothing for me.

Oh my god... I have at times wished I had been in therapy when I was younger, but I can't imagine trying to do it with my mother there!! I can see why you didn't talk and didn't get anything out of it

 

[cole4258]

To lighten things up, I have never been in therapy but I do know there are some that say I should be

Come on smile a bit.

I wish there was a way just to erase the pain