What Are You Nosey About Today?? 🦝

[Esslemont]

Yeah I feel the same about men who don't glaze donuts with their cum. Such a waste.

Is there a question somewhere?

 

[Fingerfuxs]

Yeah I feel the same about men who don't glaze donuts with their cum. Such a waste.

Food fetish’s that’s another lit thread , there’s one about fetish shaming and one about what’s your fetish.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I'm curious if anyone has ever had an assumed feeling thrust upon them. Like someone saying "oh I know you don't like me because I'm friends with X" or "you seem friendly with Y so you're probably ____". Or if anyone assumes a "popularity status based on the way you post?

I'm mostly curious if this happens to other people and how you handle it?

 

[Fingerfuxs]

I'm curious if anyone has ever had an assumed feeling thrust upon them. Like someone saying "oh I know you don't like me because I'm friends with X" or "you seem friendly with Y so you're probably ____". Or if anyone assumes a "popularity status based on the way you post?

I'm mostly curious if this happens to other people and how you handle it?

No , that seems childish to me , so it’s a non-issue.

 

[ydahecnot]

I'm curious if anyone has ever had an assumed feeling thrust upon them. Like someone saying "oh I know you don't like me because I'm friends with X" or "you seem friendly with Y so you're probably ____". Or if anyone assumes a "popularity status based on the way you post?

I'm mostly curious if this happens to other people and how you handle it?

Nothing wrong with being friendly with Y!

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Oh we’ve talked about this one but I can own this here also.

I have had this happen to me. I’m sometimes perceived to run with a crowd I don’t actually run with, or be inundated with PMs and men coming at me from everywhere. Those are the two general things. . Neither are true.

You and me both, my friend.
I think people assume I'm sliding into DMs for eSessions and that's so not the case. I'm be bold enough to say I consider you a friend and love running into you in these places.


So many people project their own stuff onto others. I personally don't care. I take care of me and my own shit and leave others to do the same.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I can understand why people may not like me because of some preconceived notion or idea. That's silly but fine. But when people assume I don't like them because of something idea they've created, it bothers me more. Idk.

 

[Esslemont]

Anyone else glad that windbag Fara isn’t around?

I’m pretty nosey about that.
Actually...nm...I could give a fuck. I’m just glad that ball of malice and spite is gone.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I can understand why people may not like me because of some preconceived notion or idea. That's silly but fine. But when people assume I don't like them because of something idea they've created, it bothers me more. Idk.

*Dons therapy hat*

What comes up for you when you feel like someone doesn't like you?

 

[cheekygirl75]

I'm curious if anyone has ever had an assumed feeling thrust upon them. Like someone saying "oh I know you don't like me because I'm friends with X" or "you seem friendly with Y so you're probably ____". Or if anyone assumes a "popularity status based on the way you post?

I'm mostly curious if this happens to other people and how you handle it?

If this has happened to me here, I don't know about it.

I've had the assumed feeling happen in real life and it sucks. It's usually people who think they're closer to me than they are or who have been close to me in the past, and that somehow makes it worse.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

*Dons therapy hat*

What comes up for you when you feel like someone doesn't like you?

*settles on couch*

It depends on why they don't like. If it's for a true and honest reason, ok I can accept that. Not everyone has to like everyone else. But if it's because of an assumption or rumor, that bothers me. I guess, like most people, I want to be really and truly known.

 

[Xerxes82]

I'm curious if anyone has ever had an assumed feeling thrust upon them. Like someone saying "oh I know you don't like me because I'm friends with X" or "you seem friendly with Y so you're probably ____". Or if anyone assumes a "popularity status based on the way you post?

I'm mostly curious if this happens to other people and how you handle it?

Well, I was once sent a spiteful PM by someone I thought I was friends with for posting with some of you in this thread. Apparently that made me a sell out for talking to the popular girls. Does that count?

I'm probably guilty of thinking those thoughts about others, but I try not to judge anyone by them. This place is less public than it seems, and nobody here is precisely what they appear. I never assume posts are about me or anyone else on Lit. I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt.

And, frankly, even if you are someone I don't like that much or who has shown a pattern of behavior I think reflects badly on you, that doesn't mean I can't or won't be civil and respond to your posts conversationally if they are on a good or interesting topic. I probably won't be PMing you or following up on you, but I have to talk to plenty of people I don't like in a day, it isn't that difficult. And maybe you learn something about someone that changes your opinions.

 

[AveryElle]

Peanut butter preferences

Jif. Everything else is garbage.

 

[Wand3rlust]

I'm curious if anyone has ever had an assumed feeling thrust upon them. Like someone saying "oh I know you don't like me because I'm friends with X" or "you seem friendly with Y so you're probably ____". Or if anyone assumes a "popularity status based on the way you post?

I'm mostly curious if this happens to other people and how you handle it?

I don't think this has happened to me - if it has, then I certainly haven't been made aware of it.


I certainly don't assume it of myself.

I think sometimes there is a level of familiarity among Litsters that can sometimes seem intimidating or hard to break into - I know it has been mentioned about us in the audio thread before, and I know it feels that way sometimes on different threads, when the posts are flying.
It can be hard to keep up, you can miss someone's post, unintentionally, and not realise that to that person it feels like you are being ignored. When I know from the audio thread that it couldn't be further from the truth.

I may start to over think this now, so I'll stop...

 

[AveryElle]

I am nosey about your Lit firsts. For example, my first proper PM conversation was with 4nk8, the first Litster I had on Skype was Fara, the first Litster who made me really laugh was y, the first Litster who made me cry with their story was Sassy.

What are your firsts. I know this is going to be easier for the newcomers like myself but for the long termers, you can always put the first ones you remember.

I can’t remember that far back. I met one lit person - purely as friends - on a work trip during my first lit life 20 years ago. The second person I met became my husband. When I was on lit before, we didn’t have Skype - it was AOL IM or the stupid lit chat area.

The only litster who has made me cry is Alpine. I will never let anyone make me cry that way again.

 

[BadAmy]

*settles on couch*

It depends on why they don't like. If it's for a true and honest reason, ok I can accept that. Not everyone has to like everyone else. But if it's because of an assumption or rumor, that bothers me. I guess, like most people, I want to be really and truly known.

My bolding up there.

This. So much of this.
When people assume.....we all know what happens.
What do I do about it?
I try to reach out and find the reason someone hates on me.(speaking from experience)
Those that replied revealed that they didn't. And that was an "ass on me" 100%.
There are those that obviously have me on ignore, and have no interest in engaging in a conversation with me about it.
But I say, don't give up, but rather, reach out to resolve the misconception, assumption, or false sense of tension.
It's not about "hey everybody! Like me!" But active dislike from another....especially one based on false assumptions can be toxic to me and can shit on my own lit experience.
There are always two sides to every story, exchange, or even argument.
Both have a right to be heard in order to find an understanding. Even if it's to accept that someone hates you, for no other reason that they just feel like it.
But, what a wonderful opportunity is presented when you can face someone, and learn that perhaps you may have done something to slight the other, unknowingly, and you can finally atone, apologize and even make amends.

 

[ydahecnot]

I'm curious if anyone has ever had an assumed feeling thrust upon them. Like someone saying "oh I know you don't like me because I'm friends with X" or "you seem friendly with Y so you're probably ____". Or if anyone assumes a "popularity status based on the way you post?

I'm mostly curious if this happens to other people and how you handle it?

I can’t really say if anyone has held perceived associations against me, though at least a couple won’t PM or post with me out of grudge/hatred. I try my best to be Switzerland-like, so hopefully not (though I guess trying to be neutral can be held against you by someone who wants you to take a stand of some sort). I think not posting with people is mainly a function of not being into the same topics, like some people refusing to ever post in ABC threads and me refusing to ever post in Fuck or Pass. That is probably why I never really communicated with PLP for years, for example. When I messaged her about the July PM thing, we conversed and I found her to be a groovy person.

And again, nothing wrong with being friendly with Y (Last time I will try to make it work, promise)

Re peanut butter: creamy, any brand

 

[AveryElle]

I can’t really say if anyone has held perceived associations against me, though at least a couple won’t PM or post with me out of grudge/hatred. I try my best to be Switzerland-like, so hopefully not (though I guess trying to be neutral can be held against you by someone who wants you to take a stand of some sort). I think not posting with people is mainly a function of not being into the same topics, like some people refusing to ever post in ABC threads and me refusing to ever post in Fuck or Pass. That is probably why I never really communicated with PLP for years, for example. When I messaged her about the July PM thing, we conversed and I found her to be a groovy person.

And again, nothing wrong with being friendly with Y (Last time I will try to make it work, promise)

Re peanut butter: creamy, any brand

You could also just not care or worry about what people you’ve never met think about you…..

 

[AveryElle]

I’m nosey about what makes a weekend a great weekend for you?

Time outside? Socializing? Getting shit done? Sleeping? Cooking? What makes for an excellent weekend?

 

[ydahecnot]

You could also just not care or worry about what people you’ve never met think about you…..

Not sure how that ties precisely to anything I said, but OK

 

[Whiskeyjack]

I'm curious if anyone has ever had an assumed feeling thrust upon them. Like someone saying "oh I know you don't like me because I'm friends with X" or "you seem friendly with Y so you're probably ____". Or if anyone assumes a "popularity status based on the way you post?

I'm mostly curious if this happens to other people and how you handle it?

I'd honestly be flabbergasted if anyone were paying that much attention to me.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I can’t really say if anyone has held perceived associations against me, though at least a couple won’t PM or post with me out of grudge/hatred. I try my best to be Switzerland-like, so hopefully not (though I guess trying to be neutral can be held against you by someone who wants you to take a stand of some sort). I think not posting with people is mainly a function of not being into the same topics, like some people refusing to ever post in ABC threads and me refusing to ever post in Fuck or Pass. That is probably why I never really communicated with PLP for years, for example. When I messaged her about the July PM thing, we conversed and I found her to be a groovy person.

And again, nothing wrong with being friendly with Y (Last time I will try to make it work, promise)

Re peanut butter: creamy, any brand

Groovy is an all time excellent compliment. You're a good one and can take a joke, which I appreciate.

People aren't islands to themselves but it's interesting to watch people pretend like they are, i guess.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I'd honestly be flabbergasted if anyone were paying that much attention to me.

Oh I'm watching

 

[Jake069258]

I’m nosey about what makes a weekend a great weekend for you?

Time outside? Socializing? Getting shit done? Sleeping? Cooking? What makes for an excellent weekend?

When my co-workers and i go for lunch and possibly a beer or two on friday afternoon haha. I feel as though the weekend starts friday afternoon. Then a baseball or hockey game that night. Then saturday will be family time with a wonderful meal to cap it off. Sunday is for chores. Get the stuff done before the work week on monday!!

 

[n8Romantic]

Am I the only one here that Lit drops out on about every 3rd or 4th post?