What Are You Nosey About Today?? 🦝

[Mei5ter]

I’m nosey if anyone has been catfished or thinks someone here is a catfish?

Two have tried. One was actually fairly unpleasant about getting a polite "no thanks."

I don't think either is still active here - at least, not with the names I knew.

Hearing a voice doesn’t even mean you “know” who you are pm’ng

But what does someone gain by “cat fishing”’ others? Power?

In a rather pathetic way, I guess.

Oh. And occasionally they try for money too.

 

[Mei5ter]

Yes. It does. Because we are human and we react to faces?
I mean. Come on.
People want connection.

Fair enough. It interests me that the face thing is such a deal-breaker for you (and some others). I guess I have a different set of red flags. For me, this is a site based on the written word, and it's what people have to say for themselves, publicly and privately, which matters more to me. You get my trust by being a decent human being over a reasonable time period.

Not saying either of us is right or wrong, and it's good to see and understand a different point of view.

But I were planning to meet someone in person, that would be a different matter. Faces then, please.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Agreed. My reasons to see faces have more to do with trust.

I think trust is a huge factor here. I've shares my ugly mug a few times but my face doesn't easily lead you to my identity. Some peoples may. Someone's voice might easily out them or their name. In the same way someone doesn't post their company name or their home address, they may decide not to share their face. Once shared, the cat is out of the bag. And I think we've all trusted someone we shouldn't have at least once. You can't unfuck that situation when it goes south.

I do understand the hesitancy to go deep with someone having not seen this face but I do think trust is earned over a long period of time. And some people are worth the work.

I'm just as happy to keep things surfacey nowadays though.

 

[Texastuffbbc]

Agreed. My reasons to see faces have more to do with trust.

And that is key to e-boning in my opinion, especially if repeat sessions are desired. No need to see face if just spending time in the playground. Hope the smile encourages someone today.

 

[Azuldrgon]

I’m nosey about what defines this e-boning thang.

Coz…
Ya know apparently it’s not entirely what I bought it was. So is there a complete and agreed version of what constitutes an e-bone?

I am curious about this as well.
Is it just modern vernacular for what we used to call it years ago?

 

[Lastingimpressions]

I think maybe it's the first, second, third, fourth base system maybe? Let me see if I can spitball on the subject...

First is flirty banter, talking about likes and dislikes and all that. Second is fap inspiration by way of conversation. Third is pics, sound clips, maybe vids. Fourth would maybe be a couple going live on Skype and going at it.

Feel free to chime in and modify as needed. Lol

I’m nosey about what defines this e-boning thang.

Coz…
Ya know apparently it’s not entirely what I bought it was. So is there a complete and agreed version of what constitutes an e-bone?

I personally think we should adopt NRJ's base system of e-boning above. It's pretty flawless.

 

[Dribble]

I’m not sure where that comes from in the context of the discussion at hand? I do agree entirely though. Also what one person sees as attractive is not what another sees as attractive.

Noone has been suggesting looks form the reason to continue the discussion or whatever? I’m not sure of the context of the point you’re making.

When I read Chef's post...I didn't take it to mean what those criticizing it have. I have no backstory. But when a clique views something as an attack....they view it as they are right and everyone else is wrong.

I will go on record. I think there are many here...males...women...that use sex in a very unattractive way. This is not a judgment on them. They have that right. And I do not respect them. That is my right. That is what I took from Chef's comment.

My comment was ambiguous because I am not trying to be judgmental. But I have been on lit for near 20 years. Trust me...I ain't here to ebone someone. I find the thought...boring. But to each their own

 

[Lastingimpressions]

So … okay all of the above are parts of the e-bone process?

If I get to first base with you, per NRJs system, we’ve e-boned?

This doesn’t seem right…

Perhaps base 1 & 2 are e-foreplay while 3 & 4 fall into e-boning.

 

[Punkrockchick]

Why can a guy fuck or flirt with whomever they want but a girl is a slut if she does? That is a flaming pile of bullshit

 

[Sweet_Lara]

This is fun stuff.
To me, e-boning is masturbating together to orgasm, aurally or visually.

When i was on skype, my partners knew what i looked like cuz of my AV. I mostly did audio (sound turns me on) and didnt always see the faces of my partners and that was OK. The lasting relationships i did develop, ive seen their faces. There is one dear friend I haven’t seen and that’s OK.

My nosey question: The women here have posted publicly they discuss guys behind the scenes. I’m not part of any group so I haven’t and I don’t want to. (At one point i learned my taste in men based on what i publicly posted had been discussed) What kind of info do you relay to each other? Who you’re boning? Highlights? Lowlights?

 

[neakman]

Why can a guy fuck or flirt with whomever they want but a girl is a slut if she does? That is a flaming pile of bullshit

100% agree....... feel free to take out your frustrations on me PRC..

 

[StacyLeigh]

Why can a guy fuck or flirt with whomever they want but a girl is a slut if she does? That is a flaming pile of bullshit

I think it really comes down to feelings and ego. I don't truly believe there are many men on this site that think any girl who flirts (or whatever) with the masses is a slut.

But if the assumption is made that he is the only one you are flirting (or whatever) with and then finds out he's not - the "slut" label comes out. I'm not defending this at all - but I do think it's often used to project more personal hurt rather than a broad view of women. I also don't think women are immune to projecting this hurt as well.

 

[2021Noobie]

Just to be clear, does e-boning have to go to aural or visual to count?
Can’t we just use our fingers (texting) to e-bone, or is that like dry humping with clothes on?? Or is that just sexting?

In the new age, what “base” is it when you share vibe remotes??

 

[2021Noobie]

Actually this “shit” can be fun, but it’s depressing at times

I am definitely too old for the “bar scene” which has been “tinderized”

Is ghosting harder to pull off in the real world ?

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

I think if you're sharing vibe remotes, it's e-boning. Sexting is foreplay to me.

Sexting with me is like if an 8 year old got ahold of a phone and had an anatomy comic book as a reference.

 

[2021Noobie]

Oh

I have been just foreplaying for so many years

 

[SassySheDevil]

That makes sense since it's so important to you. I'm not necessarily in the market, so it makes it much easier to stand my ground. If that changes I'm confident enough in who I am and my ability to communicate that I could overcome any concerns someone might have (no matter how shallow).

It's funny to me some of the same people that blasted the chef (rightfully so) for his comments early in this thread are the people now stereotyping and judging.

I feel like you assumed that the ladies asking for pictures, were then using that to judge whether the man was then "hot enough" to talk to. Which is not at all, why the women have said they want a picture.
I don't think anyone said they needed a picture before they even talked to them. They said they needed a picture if the relationship became intimate or they met. It is purely about trust and sharing.

Honestly, I don't care about pictures from someone I'm not connected with. I mean, I'm always curious which is why I like the Show your face thread. But yes, if I am going to share something more than what I do here, publicly. I like their face. I can read a book/story if I want to let my mind wander to fantasy land with a faceless person.
If I am meeting them. FUCK yes!! As Rainshine said. There is still HUGE safety issues. Especially for women. It would literally be stupid to not exchange pictures and stuff prior.
Sassy Shows up in New York to meet Fara. Wanders around said Airport yelling "Fara!! Are you here? I don't know what you look like, and you don't know what I look like.. oooooohhh Fara!! Hello???"
Nope. Wouldn't work. Especially for someone like Fara and Curvy who I literally flew to another state to meet.

We all have a type. That is preference. Not judgement. But here on Lit. I've learned that personality can go so much farther than looks. I've talked to some amazing people that wouldn't fall into my typical "type" but I am so grateful for that.

But yes. You are right. Everyone Lits differently. We all came here for different reasons.
It's kind of like the mask debate. You can chose not to wear a mask, but stores still have the right to say you can't come in without one.

You can chose not to show your picture to anyone (and that is fine) but you also have to accept that most women will not move forward with any "extras" in your relationship, without showing your face.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I’m nosey about what defines this e-boning thang.

Coz…
Ya know apparently it’s not entirely what I bought it was. So is there a complete and agreed version of what constitutes an e-bone?

I personally think we should adopt NRJ's base system of e-boning above. It's pretty flawless.

If we go by this.. I've been e-boning almost everyone on the site for years. I post pictures in AMpics(so trading pictures with anyone else who posts there)
and posting Audios.

I've always taken E-boning to be full on Cybering. Trading sexual innuendo. Not just flirting. I flirt with a lot of people.
If you've seen parts of me that I don't post. Then yes. That is e-boning. (though I think I've shown a couple my tattoos without the E boning. So..)

 

[Lastingimpressions]

Hear me out….

Could it be that defining e-boning could be as simple as x got off with y “live” in some way.

I mean…. No? Yeah??

Yes, simple and precise. If either party orgasms due to activity between x and y, said party has e-boned.

 

[Punkrockchick]

Sexting with me is like if an 8 year old got ahold of a phone and had an anatomy comic book as a reference.

Dude, anatomy comic books were super helpful

 

[SassySheDevil]

This is fun stuff.
To me, e-boning is masturbating together to orgasm, aurally or visually.

When i was on skype, my partners knew what i looked like cuz of my AV. I mostly did audio (sound turns me on) and didnt always see the faces of my partners and that was OK. The lasting relationships i did develop, ive seen their faces. There is one dear friend I haven’t seen and that’s OK.

My nosey question: The women here have posted publicly they discuss guys behind the scenes. I’m not part of any group so I haven’t and I don’t want to. (At one point i learned my taste in men based on what i publicly posted had been discussed) What kind of info do you relay to each other? Who you’re boning? Highlights? Lowlights?

First. Yes. This is my definition also.

The second part of your question could be a thread, all on it's own.

There was a time that I was part of the Skype/KIK groups. And yes. A LOT of behind the scenes discussions took place. Lets just say. It was dangerous. We quickly learned how many guys we were sharing, and how big of an Orgy Lit really is. We also learned that a lot of the time (not always) if a guy said "Don't tell anyone that we are dong this" It usually meant "Don't tell others, because then my others will find out"

I am not a part of those now. Haven't been for years. Now I only talk to my friends, but there are really only 2 that I am close with now.

 

[Jd192235]

Seconded!

Motion passed.


Let the e-boning commence!

I think after all this debate rain can officially oversee all the e-boning activities as queen of festivities

 

[SassySheDevil]

Hear me out….

Could it be that defining e-boning could be as simple as x got off with y “live” in some way.

I mean…. No? Yeah??

Yes. This.

 

[Jd192235]

E-bone thrusts into Fara’s e-orifices is e-boning. It can be text, audio, what have you.
Fara’s e-orifices must be penetrated for e-boning to be valid.

This is very Hetero, because I am. E-scissoring is a thing, too, I’m thinking.

Now I’m thinking did I make it into faras e-orifice

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

We submit them to PLP for the spreadsheet.

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