What Are You Nosey About Today?? 🦝

[BadAmy]

I’m nosey about… will you e-bone someone whose face you haven’t seen?

I most certainly have.
kinda...hot I think. the mystery!

(ps... y'all silly too!)

 

[SassySheDevil]

Lot of assumptions are made about the men here. Some are probably valid, I would not know because my inbox is usually more dry than wet. I have had some amazing non-eboning chats all from saying hi, but I usually add something I read in their profile or from threads they posted in.

I am grateful to many of these wonderful ladies because a few kept me alert to those who I should not say hi too..

Excellent question, my friend. Only my perspective, I'd think really it's just a combination of being yourself, being real and true and, since this is an erotica-based web community, a little bit of decent language competency. If I'm reaching out to someone I just want them to know they're appreciated, and I don't necessarily expect anything in return.

I do be,I eve there are those who stand out with their attempt to communicate with thought provoking words instead of sound bites. Sometime neither works,,but I think the former is far better than the latter. I think I read earlier that one of the ladies said it was about respect. When someone actually make an effort responding takes little time, but that is just me.

I agree. Actual substance. If you want to talk,, give me something to respond to.

This is the difference. Someone willing to try. Someone willing to offer something to respond to. Humor, kindness.
It doesn't have to be a book. But usually more then "hey" is appreciated.
I have to have something to reply to.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I personally prefer a statement/compliment that's not too obvious. Something simple and sweet. Nothing verbose, just a simple "Your reply to so-and-so made me laugh" or "you have a lovely voice". Those get the best responses from me because they're not being lazy and they're not trying too hard.

Yes, I agree with this. Don’t be lazy and don’t try too hard and for goodness sakes don’t send me the same message you sent to every other woman on Lit.

 

[MrZeno]

I often wonder why people suddenly leave with or without letting anyone know.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

So you’re saying I should stop offering pics of my 10 inch pianist to every woman I PM?

When it looks as good as yours, you can send it to whoever you want.
Maybe just say “how are you first”. Lol

 

[Mei5ter]

i'm curious if ear candling and colon cleansing are worth it.



ooops wrong thread. lol. Still, y'all nosey fucks.

still, still....
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Colonic? Yes. I had a reiki massage with mine.

Ear candling? Complete waste of time.

Dr Meister can also advise on acupuncture, and if you'd just like to take your clothes off and lay back on the bed...

 

[Chillygirl]

… and it doesn’t have to be sexual. It can be, but it doesn’t have to be. I met the best people here talking about music, books and food. Working out. Booze. Fandom.

Some of my favorite friendships started over talks of workouts and supplements.

 

[MrZeno]

They don’t have to? That’s the nature of the internet, not just lit.
Some people get caught here. Others have just had enough and prefer not to make a grand announcement.

It seems odd when they post or message a lot and then are gone. Something I’m nosey about.

 

[Xerxes82]

It seems odd when they post or message a lot and then are gone. Something I’m nosey about.

Maybe they had a bad experience and decided they were done. Maybe a jealous spouse caught them on Lit and fireworks kicked off. Maybe they have an alt they would rather hide behind.

Who knows? Plenty of reasons for people to come and go. It's all transitory.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Colonic? Yes. I had a reiki massage with mine.

Ear candling? Complete waste of time.

Dr Meister can also advise on acupuncture, and if you'd just like to take your clothes off and lay back on the bed...

I started Acupuncture this year.

You are so right! Sometimes I get their reply back to something and I have to sit there and think... I'm interested, but what the crap should I say now? They left me no opening. lol

And sadly. That is often how the conversation just fades.

 

[Mei5ter]

It seems odd when they post or message a lot and then are gone. Something I’m nosey about.

I think a flare of visible activity on Lit can sometimes mean that someone is trying to make connections and attract attention. And that can sometimes be because they don't currently have those connections and aren't getting that attention.

If that burst of visibility doesn't get the results that person was hoping for, that can then cause them to give up and leave here. So you suddenly notice them, and then they're gone.

 

[Texastuffbbc]

I think a flare of visible activity on Lit can sometimes mean that someone is trying to make connections and attract attention. And that can sometimes be because they don't currently have those connections and aren't getting that attention.

If that burst of visibility doesn't get the results that person was hoping for, that can then cause them to give up and leave here. So you suddenly notice them, and then they're gone.

^^^^^^^
This but not in a thirsty way..

 

[AmberLGreen]

Hmmm… maybe maybe not. I think that’s a fairly big leap though. Not everyone is here for the e-bone. Sometimes it’s just a nice (or mediocre) add-on.

For me, I’m more active on Lit when I have less to do in my actual life, when it’s less like a pit of vipers going at each other here, and when I feel just good being here. I tend to disappear if one or all three of those things are out of whack. No good= no go.

I think we should both leave if we don’t get commission for boosting NRJ’s inbox bulge

 

[Mei5ter]

I have the same rule.

I’m such a show your face whore though so it never really dawned on me that there could be real reasons why people might have a real issue with showing me theirs. But they do, and sometimes that’s the ending you didn’t see coming or the line in the sand you never thought you could move.

Still, I want to see all your faces you beautiful freaks.

I do respect that viewpoint completely. It interests me, because having previously been on another site which was somewhat similar to Lit, the prevailing view was completely the opposite. The only faces you saw were the alts and fakes. It was accepted that faces were off-limits.

Personally speaking, though, precisely two Litsters have ever seen my face, and that's the way it's staying.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I have the same rule.

I’m such a show your face whore though so it never really dawned on me that there could be real reasons why people might have a real issue with showing me theirs. But they do, and sometimes that’s the ending you didn’t see coming or the line in the sand you never thought you could move.

Still, I want to see all your faces you beautiful freaks.

I am the same way though. I have never had to hide from anything though. I feel that my face is one of my best features. So it's easy for me to show my face. But I definitely understand why many people don't want to post it publicly. However if we are friends, and we've talked for quite some time, and you still don't want to show me your face. That is usually an end for me also.

 

[Xerxes82]

I have the same rule.

I’m such a show your face whore though so it never really dawned on me that there could be real reasons why people might have a real issue with showing me theirs. But they do, and sometimes that’s the ending you didn’t see coming or the line in the sand you never thought you could move.

Still, I want to see all your faces you beautiful freaks.

Showing my face has shut down waaay more attempts at e-boning than I will publicly admit to. LOL

 

[FranklyFrank]

It seems odd when they post or message a lot and then are gone. Something I’m nosey about.

IMHO, I came into Lit without fanfare and I will leave in the same manner. What's suitable for one is just that....suitable for that one individual.

I think too that so many exits can be long drawn out and drama-filled. So much so they remind me of Steve Martin in the movie The Jerk....okay, I'm leaving....and all I need is this toaster.....so yeah, I'm leaving and all I need is this toaster and this pen, and this......got it... leave already!

 

[Wand3rlust]

I think a flare of visible activity on Lit can sometimes mean that someone is trying to make connections and attract attention. And that can sometimes be because they don't currently have those connections and aren't getting that attention.

If that burst of visibility doesn't get the results that person was hoping for, that can then cause them to give up and leave here. So you suddenly notice them, and then they're gone.

Also that burst of visibility may find them exactly the connection they were looking for and so they disappear off having got what they came for.

 

[Mei5ter]

Which is fine, I get that’s how you want to Lit and I know lots of people do and that’s cool. Truly, I see the merit. However, for me, it’s just not okay when there is going to be a deeper connection/friendship formed. I have no inherit need to see the faces of “strangers” (even though I love to) but if you were to have an expectation that I would trust in you and open my life up to you in a way deeper than surface level banter, in an ongoing capacity, I would want trust returned in this way.

I hope that’s making some sort of sense…

I do understand, and you've expressed it very clearly and fairly.

What is it about seeing a face that expresses that degree of trust in a way that nothing else can, if I can be nosey? It really hS to be that or nothing?

 

[Mr_bogey]

Yeah… see… this is why we can’t e-bone.

That and I’m never fucking up that gorgeous mane of yours with my wild e-bone style.

Can I hear more about this "wild e-bone style"?

 

[Punkrockchick]

Can I hear more about this "wild e-bone style"?

I'm intrigued as well

 

[AmberLGreen]

I do understand, and you've expressed it very clearly and fairly.

What is it about seeing a face that expresses that degree of trust in a way that nothing else can, if I can be nosey? It really hS to be that or nothing?

I am with Rainshine on this one. If we are just chatting and flirting then I wouldn’t necessarily need to have a vision of the person. If it goes further than that and I am giving myself intimately to a person then I would do so with a full commitment to it. There has to be trust for that level of connection. If a person cannot trust me enough to show themselves to me physically I don’t think I could open myself up intimately.

 

[Mr_bogey]

I do respect that viewpoint completely. It interests me, because having previously been on another site which was somewhat similar to Lit, the prevailing view was completely the opposite. The only faces you saw were the alts and fakes. It was accepted that faces were off-limits.

Personally speaking, though, precisely two Litsters have ever seen my face, and that's the way it's staying.

That's two more than me. Yes, it's cost me in the e-boning department and in the friendship department. I'd meet someone in person before I'd post my pic. I appreciate and respect those that do. I hope I can get the same respect in return. Someday, I'll find my unicorn.

 

[SassySheDevil]

There is zero chance I would ever agree to meet someone from here in person without having seen them first online.

Zero. Zilch. None.

This would totally give me serial killer vibes.

Yes. I had someone that asked me to go meet her in another state, but wouldn't video chat/talk on the phone first. Nope. Not in a million years!!

 

[SassySheDevil]

Agreed.

Everyone I’ve ever met from Lit in person I’ve known pretty well first. They’ve all been delightful.

Yes. Almost everyone I've met, I've really enjoyed. But yes. I don't typically meet anyone without knowing them for a while and seeing lots of in person stuff. Pictures/video/phone chats etc.