What Are You Nosey About Today?? 🦝

[Whiskeyjack]

I’m feeling nosey about the things that scare you or push your boundaries. What really stretches you, maybe here at Lit or in your real life? I’m not talking about spiders or snakes. I’m talking about the bigger things like, maybe being vulnerable, or not good enough, or trusting someone not to rip out your insides, or jealousy or letting them into your personal mess of who you really are? When was the last time you felt like something scared you… do you think doing/facing the scary things makes your relationships better or worse? If you don’t do the scary things have you regretted it down the track?

The biggest super-scary thing I've overcome is just my general anxiety and fear of people. Public speaking especially used to scare the bejeezus out of me and when I first started doing it I used to have to puke before and after. I've gotten a lot better over the years though.

I still hate confrontation. And I hate disappointing people. And I'll spend literal weeks second-guessing myself if my decisions cause anyone to be uncomfortable (even if they should be made uncomfortable). I haven't figured out the trick to overcoming that stuff yet.

To the last part of the question, there have absolutely been times when I've regretted not doing the scary thing - when I should have been more forceful and less accommodating. I've been in plenty of situations where I could have saved myself so many headaches if I'd been a little more confrontational up front. So all that's still a work in progress.

 

[AmberLGreen]

I'm nosey about people on Lit who get cyber-laid. What's your formula for success? Do you have a regular partner that you do your e-boning with? Is it blind chance? Or maybe a conversation that goes in that direction? What makes you decide on someone to get cyber-laid with?

I will be totally honest here I never saw that cybersex (A.k.a. E boning) would ever be part of my life but there is one guy who I talk to you regularly who drives me sexually insane across the screen. He is very very good at being very bad and knows the right buttons to press. It is very very fun thing and gives me a desire that I never thought I would have but I can work on in real life life

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I will be totally honest here I never saw that cybersex (A.k.a. E boning) would ever be part of my life but there is one guy who I talk to you regularly who drives me sexually insane across the screen and I think that’s what you’re asking if not that’s the answer I’m giving

Drunk Amber is so much fun! (So is sober Amber btw )

 

[Shenanigans90]

I'm nosey about people on Lit who get cyber-laid. What's your formula for success? Do you have a regular partner that you do your e-boning with? Is it blind chance? Or maybe a conversation that goes in that direction? What makes you decide on someone to get cyber-laid with?

Some people here want an orgasm no matter whom else their partner at the time is e-boning. Some people need friendship or at least some type of feeling of connection. There is nothing wrong with either as long as both parties agree. Find what you want or need and don’t accept anything less.

 

[JerseyJade]

Psst! Don't tell Amber, but this is what I'm getting her for Christmas.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

I will be totally honest here I never saw that cybersex (A.k.a. E boning) would ever be part of my life but there is one guy who I talk to you regularly who drives me sexually insane across the screen. He is very very good at being very bad and knows the right buttons to press. It is very very fun thing and gives me a desire that I never thought I would have but I can work on in real life life

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kXt5NWY5Ay0

 

[Fingerfuxs]

Then your buy her a shot and a pint

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Establish a strong litmus test for the people who you will allow into your life and your e-bed, whether it’s for one night or a thousand nights. And stick to it.

This is why I always line my underwear with cabbage leaves #science

 

[Fingerfuxs]

I will be totally honest here I never saw that cybersex (A.k.a. E boning) would ever be part of my life but there is one guy who I talk to you regularly who drives me sexually insane across the screen. He is very very good at being very bad and knows the right buttons to press. It is very very fun thing and gives me a desire that I never thought I would have but I can work on in real life life

Just a wee bit of pub fun , be good and enjoy yourself. and congratulations on finding that e-fella that makes you happy. Hydrate today and eat pasta ,

Cheers

FF

 

[Whiskeyjack]

This is why I always line my underwear with cabbage leaves #science

Goddammit! I just snorted hot coffee through my nose.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I can relate pretty well to your experience Sassy. Feel for ya

People can abandon you but as long as you don’t abandon yourself you’ll be alright.
You’re a brave and beautiful soul that deserves to keep blooming.

I just wanted to thank you guys. I forgot to earlier.




I'm curious about how many of you let Lit into your real life. Like your family or friends know about lit friends?

Funny story about an old Litster friend and I. We were really good friends. One day she added me to her Facebook, and we had a mutual friend. My Cousin.
My Cousin asked how we knew one another. I can't even remember what kind of forum she told my Cousin we met on. But it was kind of funny.

 

[HotBrand]

Just a wee bit of pub fun

I wanted to say that I love the current signature.

Remember when someone actually sold a soul on eBay?

I think it was just a piece of paper that had someone's name on it.

Those were the days.

https://66.media.tumblr.com/8942f4599d7f4d16b316fce329add83a/tumblr_mu2cmx86xH1r7powqo4_250.gif

 

[Fingerfuxs]

@HotBrand

Thxs , I’m a method Lister when I commit to a Persona I’m committed and all in.

Until it bores me then I talk with central casting and the writers , then I put on a new face and carry on from there.

Yes I do remember that , I don’t remember if it was before or after some girl selling her virginity on eBay .

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I just wanted to thank you guys. I forgot to earlier.




I'm curious about how many of you let Lit into your real life. Like your family or friends know about lit friends?

Funny story about an old Litster friend and I. We were really good friends. One day she added me to her Facebook, and we had a mutual friend. My Cousin.
My Cousin asked how we knew one another. I can't even remember what kind of forum she told my Cousin we met on. But it was kind of funny.

I do in terms of sharing things about my real life. I’m not one of these people who keeps their 2 worlds separate.

I sometimes mention my online friends to my family, but they don’t necessarily know I met them on Lit. For example, my family knows I have a good friend in Australia that I met online, but nothing more detailed than that.

 

[beachbaby179]

Ive had several Lit friends to my home, went to see them when I was vacationing where they live. What they told people about who I was, I don't know. But whenever I mention them to my family, if the question comes up, I say i met them online, in a support forum for people in troubled marriages or divorced. Not too far astray from the truth, if you ask me. They think it's a little weird that I'm friends with people I never met, but they don't question it anymore.

 

[cheekygirl75]

I just wanted to thank you guys. I forgot to earlier.




I'm curious about how many of you let Lit into your real life. Like your family or friends know about lit friends?

Funny story about an old Litster friend and I. We were really good friends. One day she added me to her Facebook, and we had a mutual friend. My Cousin.
My Cousin asked how we knew one another. I can't even remember what kind of forum she told my Cousin we met on. But it was kind of funny.

I have a couple of friends that I'll probably tell about Lit next time I see them in person... family, god no. But I would mention friends from here if it got to the point of being a friend that I would visit/have visit.

I already talk about friends from Instagram, so it's not unusual for me. I work alone & for myself, so all my colleagues that I depend on for the usual social aspect of work are from Instagram. And I used to do Couchsurfing when I traveled a lot, so meeting up with people that I'd met initially online is also not new.

 

[Azuldrgon]

I'm curious about how many of you let Lit into your real life. Like your family or friends know about lit friends?

Funny story about an old Litster friend and I. We were really good friends. One day she added me to her Facebook, and we had a mutual friend. My Cousin.
My Cousin asked how we knew one another. I can't even remember what kind of forum she told my Cousin we met on. But it was kind of funny.

I have some of my Lit friends on Facebook. I have met some and hugged them in real life which is always a treat. My wife knows some I have met on Lit from me telling her about them even though she's never met them in person. I'm really careful about not letting Lit stuff cross into FB stuff though.

 

[Dribble]

Funny thing about most people...they don't really want to know. They ask questions to fill time. So when they ask "Where did you meet so and so"...they want a short, sweet and concise answer...not necessarily the whole story. I met them online is enough.

It is the same with "How are you?". If you start really telling them, you can see their eyes glaze over as they reach to check their phone. People have a 30 second attention span and this is getting shorter each year.

 

[ydahecnot]

Funny thing about most people...they don't really want to know. They ask questions to fill time. So when they ask "Where did you meet so and so"...they want a short, sweet and concise answer...not necessarily the whole story. I met them online is enough.

It is the same with "How are you?". If you start really telling them, you can see their eyes glaze over as they reach to check their phone. People have a 30 second attention span and this is getting shorter each year.

I stopped reading at “online is enough.”

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I’m nosy about the people who are on Lit who say they are “happily married”. Are you really?

 

[cheekygirl75]

I’m nosy about the people who are on Lit who say they are “happily married”. Are you really?

I think it would depend on if they have an open marriage or not… if they’re monogamous, I’m more doubtful

But what do I know? I’ve never been married

 

[Dribble]

I stopped reading at “online is enough.”

Well...to read further would have exceeded your 30 second attention span

 

[Dribble]

I’m nosy about the people who are on Lit who say they are “happily married”. Are you really?

There are always the exceptions. As a whole? No.

Or let me rephrase that "no" to they don't have what I want. That is not a criticism of their life. I want what I want....not what you have or what you think I should want.

 

[StacyLeigh]

I’m nosy about the people who are on Lit who say they are “happily married”. Are you really?

I would tend to believe them. What would be the benefit to saying you’re happily married (here in particular) if you aren’t? I agree with Dribble though - their version of happy might vary greatly from someone else’s.

 

[CleverCowardice]

I’m nosy about the people who are on Lit who say they are “happily married”. Are you really?

I always assumed those people were lying, either to themselves or, more likely, to the board as a whole, mostly in an effort to make them seem "safe" to chat with ("Why, I'm not going to send you an unsolicited dick pic or ask to put my tongue in your ass, because I'm happily married!") or, particularly where the women are concerned, to dissuade people from trying to insta-hump them/ask for pics. I still believe that's the case for the majority of those people, but I've become a little more open to the possibility that not everyone on here is looking to get their e-fuck on. Some people legitimately just want to talk, to share their thoughts and feelings in what should be (in theory) a safe, judgment free space with likeminded individuals, and maybe they just want, like so many people in the world, to feel connected to others.