What Are You Nosey About Today?? 🦝

[Jake069258]

Why don’t you ask her?
Kids leave. Then what?

Ask her... If she's happy? We tell each other all the time we're happy. We're probably both lying. We are both "good" people imho. Neither of us wants to hurt the other.

Kid leaves, nothing much changes would be my guess. We are still a long ways away from that.

 

[Jd192235]

Gotcha.

What aren’t you nosey about?

 

[Jake069258]

Lots of things. I was married when I got here, so I like to see how others think.

Did SO know that you were on here when you were married?

 

[aussiegeekygal]

But isnt it possible to be a content liar?
Like what’re we talkin, here? Is 95% honest good enough?

*Pounce*

Plants s sloppy kiss on your check and bounces back out

 

[saustin5432]

Ask her... If she's happy? We tell each other all the time we're happy. We're probably both lying. We are both "good" people imho. Neither of us wants to hurt the other.

Kid leaves, nothing much changes would be my guess. We are still a long ways away from that.

I'm way over my skis on this...so feel free to tell me to fuck off, but imho, when you're lying to each other about being unhappy because you don't want to hurt the other person, the person you're hurting is yourself. And if you're hurt, you going to bleed that onto the other person. How someone does that seems to be pretty unique IME, but just sticking it out because it's the right thing to do when no one is truly happy is a recipe for sadness. You only get to live YOUR life once (and she hers). These aren't unfixable problems...it's not like you're talking about people who are at each other's throats with knives, but do you or she want to live your twilight years with the "what ifs"?

Gosh, I should shut up this morning. Sorry again, I say what's on my mind.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I'm way over my skis on this...so feel free to tell me to fuck off, but imho, when you're lying to each other about being unhappy because you don't want to hurt the other person, the person you're hurting is yourself. And if you're hurt, you going to bleed that onto the other person. How someone does that seems to be pretty unique IME, but just sticking it out because it's the right thing to do when no one is truly happy is a recipe for sadness. You only get to live YOUR life once (and she hers). These aren't unfixable problems...it's not like you're talking about people who are at each other's throats with knives, but do you or she want to live your twilight years with the "what ifs"?

Gosh, I should shut up this morning. Sorry again, I say what's on my mind.

This resonates with me. The question I keep asking myself is do I want to come to the end of my life never ever having been truly and dearly loved?

 

[Pad_Foot]

Why is the rum always gone ?

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=_xR0h6FGCBY

 

[Jake069258]

I'm way over my skis on this...so feel free to tell me to fuck off, but imho, when you're lying to each other about being unhappy because you don't want to hurt the other person, the person you're hurting is yourself. And if you're hurt, you going to bleed that onto the other person. How someone does that seems to be pretty unique IME, but just sticking it out because it's the right thing to do when no one is truly happy is a recipe for sadness. You only get to live YOUR life once (and she hers). These aren't unfixable problems...it's not like you're talking about people who are at each other's throats with knives, but do you or she want to live your twilight years with the "what ifs"?

Gosh, I should shut up this morning. Sorry again, I say what's on my mind.

All good no worries. No "fuck off" coming from me haha. I was the one who said it for all the world to see.

I am sure you are right, in everything you say. But, i dont mean to speak for anyone else but i dont think i am the only one in this situation, the right thing to do isnt necessarily the easy thing to do. Should we tell each other exactly how we feel? Absolutely!!! Would that be better for all in the long run? For sure it would!!! Is is going to happen??? Doubtful, because it would be hard...

 

[AmberLGreen]

I just wanted to thank you guys. I forgot to earlier.




I'm curious about how many of you let Lit into your real life. Like your family or friends know about lit friends?

Funny story about an old Litster friend and I. We were really good friends. One day she added me to her Facebook, and we had a mutual friend. My Cousin.
My Cousin asked how we knew one another. I can't even remember what kind of forum she told my Cousin we met on. But it was kind of funny.

A few of my friends and some of my family know that I chat on here. These are people that I tend to hide very little from. There is only one of my friends that has any concern about it and thinks that this could pull me away from real life friends. She would have the same concern if this was a knitting forum.

 

[AmberLGreen]

This brings up a related question I am nosey about for those in RL relationships (married or no): Is e-boning cheating? Is it just a release, a version of reading an erotic story, looking at pics or visiting PornHub? Or is it in a gray area? It was the latter for me, and I worked it out (rationalized) by counting out RL meetings, not video chatting, stuff like that). Not sure I ever got the needle moving in either direction toward an absolute on the issue.

Depends on the person and what they consider cheating to be. I have a friend who divorced her husband for kissing another woman! In RL I see sex as an act and don’t see having sex with somebody else as cheating. For me cheating is when you have feelings for another person outside of your marriage and by that I mean that you feel “in love” with them. If that is happening then you are not giving yourself emotionally and that is what is important to me. Therefore, I don’t see e-boning as cheating.

 

[AlpineFresco]

I feel like, with e-boning (what a term...), the question on 'is this cheating?' can very much be viewed as relative, with not just 'do I think it is?' but also 'does my in-person partner/s think it is?' being important factors.

 

[AmberLGreen]

Psst! Don't tell Amber, but this is what I'm getting her for Christmas.

Haha just saw this. Can you see if you can get me a farmer one too. He just needs to be good at ploughing and have plenty of seed.

 

[JerseyJade]

Haha just saw this. Can you see if you can get me a farmer one too. He just needs to be good at ploughing and have plenty of seed.

Lol

That's pretty clever. I would have never thought to say that.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Haha just saw this. Can you see if you can get me a farmer one too. He just needs to be good at ploughing and have plenty of seed.

The huge hose isn't enough? Greedy woman!!

 

[AmberLGreen]

The huge hose isn't enough? Greedy woman!!

The fireman can be dealing with the fire below while the farmer plants his seed in the top field

 

[SassySheDevil]

The fireman can be dealing with the fire below while the farmer plants his seed in the top field

LOL Oh my lord.

 

[JerseyJade]

LOL Oh my lord.

And then she wonders why she's on Santa's naughty list.

 

[Azuldrgon]

*peeks in*

 

[SassySheDevil]

And then she wonders why she's on Santa's naughty list.

I think that was the list she was aiming for

 

[AmberLGreen]

I think that was the list she was aiming for

All the best toys are sent to the ones on the naughty list

 

[JerseyJade]

I think that was the list she was aiming for

Lol

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I’m nosy about your level of sexiness…
Do you think you’re sexy?
Do others tell you you are sexy?
On a scale of 1-100 how sexy are you (or how sexy is the poster above you)?
What characteristics do you think make someone sexy?

 

[AmberLGreen]

I’m nosy about your level of sexiness…
Do you think you’re sexy?
Do others tell you you are sexy?
On a scale of 1-100 how sexy are you (or how sexy is the poster above you)?
What characteristics do you think make someone sexy?

No. I think I am clumsy and annoying
Yes. Sometimes they do.
About a 5. I base this on most of my conversations being 5 sentences long and then I never hear from them again.
IRL how they carry themselves, confidence, openness, how they look at you, how they smile, how they smell, how they touch and how they kiss.
On here - how they treat others, confidence, wit, good vocabulary skills, how they can surprise you, openness

 

[Azuldrgon]

I’m nosy about your level of sexiness…
Do you think you’re sexy?
Do others tell you you are sexy?
On a scale of 1-100 how sexy are you (or how sexy is the poster above you)?
What characteristics do you think make someone sexy?

I don't think I am sexy at all.
I have been told by others that I am handsome and stuff, but I am very body conscious.
It's one reason I don't show much on here.
I think sexy depends on confidence and attractiveness.
There are many Litsters I find sexy.
I just don't see myself that way.

 

[Azuldrgon]

-I do, but not in a “sex pot” type of way. I know who I am and what I want.

-Yes. They do.

-If 100 is Salma Hayek, I’m a 42.

- Confidence. Humor. Intelligence. Openness.

I rank you higher than 42 in my opinion.